Nathan R. Jessep
Footballguy
Welp, here we go again. I decided that if I am going to start putting details out about the new possible woo, I'd prefer to not mesh woo tales and will just start anew here in a separate thread.
This one will likely not be as interesting, as the dynamic will be more traditional, but what the hell. If nothing else, it will be a way for me to get thoughts off my wandering mind.
The potential woo target: Pretty and very sweet dental hygienist. She's a couple years older than me, yet looks younger than me and she has 2 daughters, who are the same ages as my 2 kids, respectively.
The backstory: She and I do have a little bit of history. I met her several years ago at a school function. We became FB friends at some point. She was divorced, I THINK, at the time we met, but can't remember for sure. I found out the story later on. Her first husband was cheating on her with one of his best friend's wife. This is critical to the story because the best friend would become her next husband for a brief period of time. I'm sure it probably went something like: already being friends, they both consoled each other when the cheating spouses were outed, kind of fell for each other and things progressed from there. So at some point, and this was about 2 years ago, best I can recall. (I'm not sure where I fell in the timeline of all that, but I know her and husband 2, henceforth known herein as "H2," had at least been dating some.) We started texting and I asked her to lunch one day. We went, it went well (but no hug, that I recall.. should've been a sign!!), but she said she had been seeing someone off and on, and she wasn't really at a place in life where she wanted to date someone. This stung a little bit because she was really the first woman I had attempted to get close to since I had gotten divorced. Looking back now, I know that she was "off" with H2 at that time, but she was still hung up on him. She was at least mildly interested in me, and also probably enjoyed the attention I was giving her. Several months later, she was tagged on FB in an engagement picture, got married shortly thereafter, changed her name on FB, etc. Well, I had written her off at that point, and we hadn't talked much, other than a friendly hello around school, since that lunch date. Fast forward to about a month ago, I get a random "like" on one of my FB pics that was several months old. It's her. And I notice her name has changed back to her old name. I went and looked at her FB profile, and there was no longer any mention of H2. No tagged pics, no engagement/wedding photos. Nothing. So I wonder what happened, but I had other stuff going on, so didn't give it a lot of thought at the time.
Recent Events: So if you followed along in the neighbor thread, you know that after things ended there, I got a random text from this chick one day saying she had seen me at my son's basketball game, and that she'd like to catch up one day. I hadn't forgot the sting of the last encounter, but I was still intrigued, and, quite honestly, needed the pick-me-up, so we exchanged texts for a few days then finally set up a lunch date the week before Christmas. She greeted me with a hug (
) and we ended up chatting for about 2 hours that day, catching up on events past. I came out and asked her what exactly happened with H2. She said he came home one day, about 4 months into their marriage and "wanted a break" and that he had been hiding text messages from his ex wife (not sure if it was the original ex wife, or if he had multiple exes). He, and his kids, moved out. Then about 2 months later he wanted back in, and she told him no, and proceeded with getting annulled/divorced. After some more general chit-chat, we both had to go, so she hugged me again, and we departed.
In conversation she had mentioned wanting to go to one of the local college hoops games, which my kids and I always attend (season ticket holder
). The week after Christmas, I scored some extra tickets to the upcoming game, and left them for her and her girls at Will Call. They were going to sit with us, but she ended up having about 20 of her family members come along, so they ended up sitting elsewhere, but she did text me to see where I was at once they got there, then proceeded to come give me a big hug ( ) and talk to me for a few minutes. She thanked me for the tickets and said she would be in touch. We've texted daily since then.
Most Recent Event: We were going to have lunch again this week, which was her suggestion after I told her (playfully) I'd like to see her face again. But her work schedule was not agreeable this week, so she countered yesterday to see if I could do dinner Friday or Saturday night, pending announcement of an upcoming weekend basketball tournament schedule (her oldest will be playing in it).
So, bearing in mind the previous encounter, I'm hopefully optimistic about this situation, because she is showing interest and is taking some initiative here. I do plan on asking her about her intentions (just friends, possible relationship, etc.), as I want to be clear with her that I am looking for a relationship at this point. Not that it has to be immediate, of course, but it is an end goal for me, and I want to be up front about that so as not to waste my time or hers if that's not what she's looking for.
I'm trying to think of a celeb comparison. I'll post one when I think of it. She's got straight, shoulder length, light-brown hair, brown eyes and a perfect smile (of course). Definitely one of the prettiest moms at the school.
Stay tuned for updates as they trickle in. I'm sure they will be slow to come, if you know what I mean...
This one will likely not be as interesting, as the dynamic will be more traditional, but what the hell. If nothing else, it will be a way for me to get thoughts off my wandering mind.
The potential woo target: Pretty and very sweet dental hygienist. She's a couple years older than me, yet looks younger than me and she has 2 daughters, who are the same ages as my 2 kids, respectively.
The backstory: She and I do have a little bit of history. I met her several years ago at a school function. We became FB friends at some point. She was divorced, I THINK, at the time we met, but can't remember for sure. I found out the story later on. Her first husband was cheating on her with one of his best friend's wife. This is critical to the story because the best friend would become her next husband for a brief period of time. I'm sure it probably went something like: already being friends, they both consoled each other when the cheating spouses were outed, kind of fell for each other and things progressed from there. So at some point, and this was about 2 years ago, best I can recall. (I'm not sure where I fell in the timeline of all that, but I know her and husband 2, henceforth known herein as "H2," had at least been dating some.) We started texting and I asked her to lunch one day. We went, it went well (but no hug, that I recall.. should've been a sign!!), but she said she had been seeing someone off and on, and she wasn't really at a place in life where she wanted to date someone. This stung a little bit because she was really the first woman I had attempted to get close to since I had gotten divorced. Looking back now, I know that she was "off" with H2 at that time, but she was still hung up on him. She was at least mildly interested in me, and also probably enjoyed the attention I was giving her. Several months later, she was tagged on FB in an engagement picture, got married shortly thereafter, changed her name on FB, etc. Well, I had written her off at that point, and we hadn't talked much, other than a friendly hello around school, since that lunch date. Fast forward to about a month ago, I get a random "like" on one of my FB pics that was several months old. It's her. And I notice her name has changed back to her old name. I went and looked at her FB profile, and there was no longer any mention of H2. No tagged pics, no engagement/wedding photos. Nothing. So I wonder what happened, but I had other stuff going on, so didn't give it a lot of thought at the time.
Recent Events: So if you followed along in the neighbor thread, you know that after things ended there, I got a random text from this chick one day saying she had seen me at my son's basketball game, and that she'd like to catch up one day. I hadn't forgot the sting of the last encounter, but I was still intrigued, and, quite honestly, needed the pick-me-up, so we exchanged texts for a few days then finally set up a lunch date the week before Christmas. She greeted me with a hug (
) and we ended up chatting for about 2 hours that day, catching up on events past. I came out and asked her what exactly happened with H2. She said he came home one day, about 4 months into their marriage and "wanted a break" and that he had been hiding text messages from his ex wife (not sure if it was the original ex wife, or if he had multiple exes). He, and his kids, moved out. Then about 2 months later he wanted back in, and she told him no, and proceeded with getting annulled/divorced. After some more general chit-chat, we both had to go, so she hugged me again, and we departed. In conversation she had mentioned wanting to go to one of the local college hoops games, which my kids and I always attend (season ticket holder
). The week after Christmas, I scored some extra tickets to the upcoming game, and left them for her and her girls at Will Call. They were going to sit with us, but she ended up having about 20 of her family members come along, so they ended up sitting elsewhere, but she did text me to see where I was at once they got there, then proceeded to come give me a big hug ( ) and talk to me for a few minutes. She thanked me for the tickets and said she would be in touch. We've texted daily since then. Most Recent Event: We were going to have lunch again this week, which was her suggestion after I told her (playfully) I'd like to see her face again. But her work schedule was not agreeable this week, so she countered yesterday to see if I could do dinner Friday or Saturday night, pending announcement of an upcoming weekend basketball tournament schedule (her oldest will be playing in it).
So, bearing in mind the previous encounter, I'm hopefully optimistic about this situation, because she is showing interest and is taking some initiative here. I do plan on asking her about her intentions (just friends, possible relationship, etc.), as I want to be clear with her that I am looking for a relationship at this point. Not that it has to be immediate, of course, but it is an end goal for me, and I want to be up front about that so as not to waste my time or hers if that's not what she's looking for.
I'm trying to think of a celeb comparison. I'll post one when I think of it. She's got straight, shoulder length, light-brown hair, brown eyes and a perfect smile (of course). Definitely one of the prettiest moms at the school.
Stay tuned for updates as they trickle in. I'm sure they will be slow to come, if you know what I mean...
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Changed to bold to avoid further confusion. I know links are Serious Business here. My apologies. 
