A friend's gift that my wife doesn't want. (1 Viewer)

[johnnycakes]

I interrupt the housekeeper nonsense to report that I just talked to the surgeon and the pathology report on the lymph nodes is NEGATIVE!!  All went smoothly from her end.  Reconstructive team is starting their part of the procedure.  Recovery...5 weeks of radiation therapy...continued targeted chemo (just one drug specific to her type of cancer) through November.  We are well on our way to kicking this things ###!

 

[needanap]

Glad to hear the good report from surgery.  Maybe suggest to your friend that it is a very nice gesture, but not ready for it quite yet.   After radiation and some chemo your wife is going to be exhausted and maybe a bit more "used to the cancer thing", and might appreciate the house keeper.

From my wife's experience, the first few months of breast cancer are an overwhelming whirl wind, especially the surgery side of things and the telling/not telling people issue.    Post-chemo we had someone bring us food and it was very much appreciated.   My wife was a bit hesitant, but I asked her what she would do if her friend was the one with cancer -- she realized she would offer help.

Best of luck, sounds like you are well on your way to putting cancer in the rear view mirror.

 

[Foosball God]

Honest conversations down?

about 70 percent of the worlds problems can be solved by an honest conversation 

Exactly.  Just tell your buddy that this particular gift is making your wife uncomfortable, try to figure out something else your buddy can do instead.  Just redirect him, you don't have to let it just be a rejection.

 

[matuski]

My wife: DOES HE THINK OUR HOUSE IS A PIGSTY?  IS HE TRYING TO SAY I AM LAZY AROUND THE HOUSE?  DID HE CALL ME FAT?!?