Knowing people that have committed suicide...I...just can't crap on someone that does it. I mean, that person , with a family and/or kid is in so much pain, real or not, that it is the only escape.
I know we, as a society, say its selfish. But, we aren't in that persons head. Yes, GET HELP, talk to someone if you are thinking about this. But I find it pompous and bull#### to say someone is only thinking of themselves when this kind of thing happens.
You aren't them. You aren't in their head.
To add. It is always sad and always gut wrenching and I never want it to happen...ever. But I hate people acting superior/better/holier in these cases.
This. It's easy to say that their actions are selfish, if you think of it on a surface level. But, the bottom line is that these people have family, kids, friends, pets, etc. that they care about very much (and vice versa). And, yet, at the end of the day, they choose to do something that you would think somebody with "that" would never choose to do. They have no choice. Or, at least, they feel that they don't. And, it's not like it's something that just pops up one day, and gets the best of them. It's something that, in most cases, they've been fending off their entire lives. They win, and win, and win, and win that battle. And then, one day, it's just too much, and IT wins instead. Unfortunately, it's not a best of seven series, when it comes to serious depression. You win "only" 99 out of 100, and you're gone.
Those who don't go through it don't understand it. It's impossible. In many ways, it's similar to the thought process of an addict. It's easy to say "Why can't Joe stop drinking... He's got three wonderful kids and a wife who love him." If you're truly an addict, you literally can't stop without getting help. Sure, it's still a choice, but it's a choice you can't successfully make on your own. Or, at least you can only do so for so long. The same thing is true with depression. You can choose to fight the good fight for so long. But, sooner or later, you need to get help, or run the risk of going down a very dark path that doesn't allow U-turns.