Daughter got married! (1 Viewer)

[playin4beer]

So my oldest daughter (of four) is getting married next Saturday 8/31. My avatar is my youngest daughter who's starting her Freshman year in College... Time flies..

Anyways, I know a bunch of you have probably already had kids get married. Any advice on something you wish you had done differently? Anything you are glad you did? General advice??

Roast away, obviously... I'd be disappointed if nobody did.

 

[IvanKaramazov]

Congratulations!

 

[Grahamburn]

Are you paying for the wedding?

 

[playin4beer]

Are you paying for the wedding?

"Helping".. not "paying in full"...

 

[arrow1]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

 

[playin4beer]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

Already have it written out, rehearsed it and speaking slowly, I'm at 3-4 minutes.. One page

 

[Psychopav]

Are you paying for the wedding?

"Helping".. not "paying in full"...

Advice: don't ask your wife too many questions. And DO NOT ask her after the fact what the total cost of the wedding was. You do NOT want to know.

 

[STEADYMOBBIN 22]

Congrats!!!!


Only cuz you asked….

Don’t pay for a big wedding, pay for a better honeymoon.

 

[Keerock]

Congrats!

Following as my oldest son getting married 9/21. My wife is a wreck with planning, etc. Future DIL is not as organized as my wife and it drives her crazy.

 

[massraider]

It's your daughters day. Not yours, not your wife's, not her siblings, not her aunties and uncles and grandparents.

 

[SWC]

congrats beer man i wish you and yours a happy day and a great life for your daughter please tell her i said this take that to the bank brochacho

 

[Truebluey]

Congratulations!

My daughter had her wedding last September. One of the happiest days of my life. All I can say is - try not to stress. A lot of folks do get stressed about certain stuff (the ceremony, the band, the reception, etc.) but looking back, none of that made a difference. All I remember now is the look of joy on my daughter's face, and the great interactions I had with all her friends. It was a partly outdoor reception, but it rained, so we had to move indoors, and it made not an ounce of difference. Just stay flexible and calm.

And try to enjoy it yourself. You do have some responsibilities, but make some time to do what you enjoy (dance, chat with guests, or spend time with your own family).

All the best!

 

[jvdesigns2002]

Only advice that I have is to be yourself, be authentic and have fun. I feel like weddings take on the attitude of the families of the bride and groom. If you are chill, calm and having fun—that energy will be spread to the whole wedding. Congrats!!

 

[Joe Bryant]

Congratulations! Have a great time!

 

[Scoresman]

Are you Sicilian? Remember, no Sicilian can refuse a request on the day of his daughter's wedding.

Congratulations!

 

[Zow]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

Already have it written out, rehearsed it and speaking slowly, I'm at 3-4 minutes.. One page

Say something nice about the groom. Obviously your care and focus will be gushing about the daughter, but it’s classy to say something kind about the groom (it’s also kind of weird if you don’t - I’ve seen it happen a couple of times and always felt bad for the groom when he was ignored).

 

[WVU Alum]

I was ignored on my wedding day, as I should have been. My wife’s day. I was along for the ride.

 

[Zow]

I was ignored on my wedding day, as I should have been. My wife’s day. I was along for the ride.

I find the bold a strange take. I agree in theory it's certainly more of a day for the bride, but I really enjoyed my wedding day as the groom and it would have hurt my feelings if I were ignored entirely.

 

[belljr]

Hit on the bridesmaids??

I kid

Congratulations

 

[BroncoFreak_2K3]

Congrats!

 

[UncleZen]

Don't get drunk and stupid so that you embarrass her.

 

[Judge Smails]

So my oldest daughter (of four) is getting married next Saturday 8/31. My avatar is my youngest daughter who's starting her Freshman year in College... Time flies..

Anyways, I know a bunch of you have probably already had kids get married. Any advice on something you wish you had done differently? Anything you are glad you did? General advice??

Roast away, obviously... I'd be disappointed if nobody did.

Congrats. I’ve had 3 kids get married including 2 daughters. Best advice is just soak it all in. Have a good speech ready that’s heartfelt. Enjoy the father/daughter dance. Enjoy the first look as well - special moment for you and your daughter.

 

[Long Ball Larry]

My wife’s dad read a poem that he wrote (not really about her or marriage or anything) and gave her a framed copy. She didn’t really care for its. So…don’t do that…

 

[AAABatteries]

Congrats. I’d echo what others have said and don’t be stressed and really try to enjoy yourself. In theory, this should be a singular event in your daughter’s life and you should enjoy all of it.

 

[Zegras11]

congrats... before you take pics with her ask her to straighten your tie

 

[snellman]

Congrats. As others have said, soak it all in. She will always be your daughter, but this is the last day she is your "daughter", from now on you will be the 2nd most important man in her life. Take some time alone with her before all of the craziness starts. See her in her dress before anyone else does, it is an image you will never forget.

I don't know if you drink, but if you do, don't get drunk. You want to be able to remember every single moment of this day.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

Congrats!!!!


Only cuz you asked….

Don’t pay for a big wedding, pay for a better honeymoon.

or skip them (especially the wedding) and help them buy a house.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

and congrats!

 

[MAC_32]

If you have any plans the week before, cancel them. Stuff is going to come up, but if your schedule is already clear then you'll be able to address it without anyone noticing.

 

[snellman]

Not everything will go "perfect". Things will happen, there will be bumps in the road. Your wife and/or daughter may get a little snappy because things are going the way they pictured. Remind them that the guests won't know the difference and say nothing more. Let them chew you out and don't fight back.

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

I was ignored on my wedding day, as I should have been. My wife’s day. I was along for the ride.

I find the bold a strange take. I agree in theory it's certainly more of a day for the bride, but I really enjoyed my wedding day as the groom and it would have hurt my feelings if I were ignored entirely.

I find it odd, too. I was the bride. If Mr R had been ignored or not considered, I would have been mortified. I actually like my husband.

For the record, he had a great time. So did the guests from his home town. They wanted us to do it over again the next year because it was fun.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

Not everything will go "perfect". Things will happen, there will be bumps in the road. Your wife and/or daughter may get a little snappy because things are going the way they pictured. Remind them that the guests won't know the difference and say nothing more. Let them chew you out and don't fight back.

This. In my line of work, I’ve done countless weddings. One thing I tell every one of the important figures in the wedding is that nothing happens on time. Just relax and roll with it. I told my good friend last month, as his kid was getting married at West Point, that nothing would happen on time. My buddy told me this is West Point! Swiss watch time! Japanese bullet train time! West Point time! The single greatest military institution in the world! CLOCK WORK BABY!

Bride was a solid 30 minutes late walking down the aisle. And it was around 110 degrees in the West Point chapel. The groom, priest, and his attendants, in full dress, were literally drenched in sweat. As were all of us in the audience. Good times. And yes, I went full told ya so!

 

[NutterButter]

Congratulations. Very exciting time. I'm looking forward it to someday myself. Dropping my daughter off at college tomorrow for the 1st time. Like a wedding, just another day that I'm just going to sit back and enjoy and soak up as many memories as I can.

 

[Mr.Pack]

My daughter just got married in May. Make sure you take it all in. Take time to talk to people and look around, soak in the memories. Don't fear the speech too much, I totally blew mine. I don't talk well in front of people, I even had it written down and still blew it but I did ghet a lot of laughs and it was heartfelt. Thank God the Maid of Honor went after me because she freaking slayed it.
One thing I wished I had done differently? Had a couple three drinks in me before my speech!

Enjoy the day GB and congrats!

 

[SWC]

also if your daughters grandma will be at the ceremony make sure you have her tell her grandma that she is a brohan take that to the bank

 

[Pipes]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

Already have it written out, rehearsed it and speaking slowly, I'm at 3-4 minutes.. One page

My only daughter was just married on Aug 3th so just experienced this. Perfect length speech, you'll kill it. No advice other then just understand your daughter will be super stressed but 99% of the time anything "bad" that happens will be so minor. I few hiccups with happen but most likely it will be an amazing day. Congrats to you and your family!

 

[Pipes]

My daughter just got married in May. Make sure you take it all in. Take time to talk to people and look around, soak in the memories. Don't fear the speech too much, I totally blew mine. I don't talk well in front of people, I even had it written down and still blew it but I did ghet a lot of laughs and it was heartfelt. Thank God the Maid of Honor went after me because she freaking slayed it.
One thing I wished I had done differently? Had a couple three drinks in me before my speech!

Enjoy the day GB and congrats!

This. Helps take the edge off if you aren't used to speaking in front of a large audience.

 

[coopersdad]

son got married in late May. DIL and her father got in a "disagreement" that is totally on him in February that led to me paying for basically everything except the wedding dress (which her grandma paid for).

Guy showed up for the wedding not in the best mood and "ill". He made it through the ceremony and a "few" pictures, but left before the reception. I got to do the Daddy/Daughter dance.

Don't do that!!!!!!!

 

[hockeymedic]

Not everything will go "perfect". Things will happen, there will be bumps in the road. Your wife and/or daughter may get a little snappy because things are going the way they pictured. Remind them that the guests won't know the difference and say nothing more. Let them chew you out and don't fight back.

This x 10. I sent my oldest daughter and wife to a musical the week of the wedding hoping that they would "forget" about the stresses and just relax....didn't work. One thing I did (with approval) for 2nd daughters wedding was have 6 sheet pizzas delivered to the reception at 11:00. THAT was a big hit. At both weddings I put out a humidor with cigars, also a big hit. Most of all have fun, it's the most expensive party you'll throw. CONGRATS !!!!

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

Already have it written out, rehearsed it and speaking slowly, I'm at 3-4 minutes.. One page

My only daughter was just married on Aug 3th so just experienced this. Perfect length speech, you'll kill it. No advice other then just understand your daughter will be super stressed but 99% of the time anything "bad" that happens will be so minor. I few hiccups with happen but most likely it will be an amazing day. Congrats to you and your family!

When were dads supposed to make a speech? My dad didn't. Just skip it if you don't want to do it. A couple of people made toasts. No crappy speeches. Maybe that's why people liked our wedding.

We were so not stressed. The church person had to shush the bridal party because people in the narthex of the church could hear us laughing (this included my dad). Turned out, the minister with the groom's party did the same thing. Mr R swears he heard the word "heretic" float by.

 

[Phil Elliott]

Congrats - You have a lot of experience in life that you will want to impart on your daughter as they face major/minor decisions. Resist until you are asked.
Enjoy!

 

[Judge Smails]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

Already have it written out, rehearsed it and speaking slowly, I'm at 3-4 minutes.. One page

My only daughter was just married on Aug 3th so just experienced this. Perfect length speech, you'll kill it. No advice other then just understand your daughter will be super stressed but 99% of the time anything "bad" that happens will be so minor. I few hiccups with happen but most likely it will be an amazing day. Congrats to you and your family!

When were dads supposed to make a speech? My dad didn't. Just skip it if you don't want to do it. A couple of people made toasts. No crappy speeches. Maybe that's why people liked our wedding.

We were so not stressed. The church person had to shush the bridal party because people in the narthex of the church could hear us laughing (this included my dad). Turned out, the minister with the groom's party did the same thing. Mr R swears he heard the word "heretic" float by.

Hmmm. Pretty common for the father of the bride to make a speech/toast. Doesn’t have to be a filibuster. Not mandatory. But glad I did it for ours

 

[belljr]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

Already have it written out, rehearsed it and speaking slowly, I'm at 3-4 minutes.. One page

My only daughter was just married on Aug 3th so just experienced this. Perfect length speech, you'll kill it. No advice other then just understand your daughter will be super stressed but 99% of the time anything "bad" that happens will be so minor. I few hiccups with happen but most likely it will be an amazing day. Congrats to you and your family!

When were dads supposed to make a speech? My dad didn't. Just skip it if you don't want to do it. A couple of people made toasts. No crappy speeches. Maybe that's why people liked our wedding.

We were so not stressed. The church person had to shush the bridal party because people in the narthex of the church could hear us laughing (this included my dad). Turned out, the minister with the groom's party did the same thing. Mr R swears he heard the word "heretic" float by.

Um historically father of brides give the first speech of the night. Like back to Ancient Greece

 

[Clown Car]

Ask your wife to caution the bridesmaids to not drink too much. To not get sloppy drunk. They probably won’t listen but at least she told them.

Congratulations! You’ll have a great time and it goes too fast.

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

Um historically father of brides give the first speech of the night. Like back to Ancient Greece

Maybe so. But the words "first speech" send a shiver down my spine.

Whatever Dad had to tell me, I already knew.

 

[Pipes]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

Already have it written out, rehearsed it and speaking slowly, I'm at 3-4 minutes.. One page

My only daughter was just married on Aug 3th so just experienced this. Perfect length speech, you'll kill it. No advice other then just understand your daughter will be super stressed but 99% of the time anything "bad" that happens will be so minor. I few hiccups with happen but most likely it will be an amazing day. Congrats to you and your family!

When were dads supposed to make a speech? My dad didn't. Just skip it if you don't want to do it. A couple of people made toasts. No crappy speeches. Maybe that's why people liked our wedding.

We were so not stressed. The church person had to shush the bridal party because people in the narthex of the church could hear us laughing (this included my dad). Turned out, the minister with the groom's party did the same thing. Mr R swears he heard the word "heretic" float by.

No idea but it’s really not that deep. Glorified toast really. It’s about thanking everyone for coming and sharing a quick antidote or two about the couple. Having or not has little to no impact on the overall day

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

Already have it written out, rehearsed it and speaking slowly, I'm at 3-4 minutes.. One page

My only daughter was just married on Aug 3th so just experienced this. Perfect length speech, you'll kill it. No advice other then just understand your daughter will be super stressed but 99% of the time anything "bad" that happens will be so minor. I few hiccups with happen but most likely it will be an amazing day. Congrats to you and your family!

When were dads supposed to make a speech? My dad didn't. Just skip it if you don't want to do it. A couple of people made toasts. No crappy speeches. Maybe that's why people liked our wedding.

We were so not stressed. The church person had to shush the bridal party because people in the narthex of the church could hear us laughing (this included my dad). Turned out, the minister with the groom's party did the same thing. Mr R swears he heard the word "heretic" float by.

No idea but it’s really not that deep. Glorified toast really. It’s about thanking everyone for coming and sharing a quick antidote or two about the couple. Having or not has little to no impact on the overall day

This sounds hellish. It's probably why we didn't do this.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

Already have it written out, rehearsed it and speaking slowly, I'm at 3-4 minutes.. One page

My only daughter was just married on Aug 3th so just experienced this. Perfect length speech, you'll kill it. No advice other then just understand your daughter will be super stressed but 99% of the time anything "bad" that happens will be so minor. I few hiccups with happen but most likely it will be an amazing day. Congrats to you and your family!

When were dads supposed to make a speech? My dad didn't. Just skip it if you don't want to do it. A couple of people made toasts. No crappy speeches. Maybe that's why people liked our wedding.

We were so not stressed. The church person had to shush the bridal party because people in the narthex of the church could hear us laughing (this included my dad). Turned out, the minister with the groom's party did the same thing. Mr R swears he heard the word "heretic" float by.

No idea but it’s really not that deep. Glorified toast really. It’s about thanking everyone for coming and sharing a quick antidote or two about the couple. Having or not has little to no impact on the overall day

What are they sick with?

 

[Pipes]

Keep your speech short. My daughter-in-law's dad had five pages of blabber and people were getting uncomfortable.

Already have it written out, rehearsed it and speaking slowly, I'm at 3-4 minutes.. One page

My only daughter was just married on Aug 3th so just experienced this. Perfect length speech, you'll kill it. No advice other then just understand your daughter will be super stressed but 99% of the time anything "bad" that happens will be so minor. I few hiccups with happen but most likely it will be an amazing day. Congrats to you and your family!

When were dads supposed to make a speech? My dad didn't. Just skip it if you don't want to do it. A couple of people made toasts. No crappy speeches. Maybe that's why people liked our wedding.

We were so not stressed. The church person had to shush the bridal party because people in the narthex of the church could hear us laughing (this included my dad). Turned out, the minister with the groom's party did the same thing. Mr R swears he heard the word "heretic" float by.

No idea but it’s really not that deep. Glorified toast really. It’s about thanking everyone for coming and sharing a quick antidote or two about the couple. Having or not has little to no impact on the overall day

What are they sick with?

whoops my bad

 

[Skipdog77]

Congrats! Just remember, this is your opportunity to show all in attendance why YOU should have represented Australia in Olympic Breakdancing, not RayGun. Take it.