I can agree with some of this Tripper. But, we still don't know who released the information that Martin checked in to a mental hospital. If we are going to believe these texts, then it's obvious that Martin told Richie.
Martin may have wanted to walk away. He recognized that he was having mental problems, so he sought help. He didn't feel comfortable getting that help from the team or the NFL. Someone betrayed his trust by releasing this information. At that point, Martin had no choice but to explain his actions. He may have felt that the team released this info, or since Richie was the only one he told, that Richie released it.
Who knows, had Martin been able to get the help he needed without information leaking, things could have turned out differently.
I'm not wall to wall with this story, so I didn't know about this angle. I think I posted in this thread early on, and I haven't kept up on the matter.
If the issue about the mental hospital is the crux of things, and he somehow told Incognito and Incognito alone, knowing how teams, and workpalces work, that word is simply going to spread. Doesn't make it right, but it is how it is, and I don't if you are in the Oval Office, a Fortune 500 board room or a UPS loading dock, that kind of talk will simply spread.
I'm quite sympathetic to mental issues and anxiety and that sort of thing and I hope Martin truly gets any help he needs and I hope him and Incognito can both play in the league if they are talented enough and that's their wish. But just because you have a moment of potential psychosis doesn't absolve of you responsibility for your conduct. To take an extreme example, if a guy murders someone because he's schitzophrenic, he's liable for his actions. So to that end, if Martin is having some sort of mental issue that causes him to run out of the lunch room, drive away and go AWOL for a few days, I'm sorry, that is conduct that does warrant some measure of an explanation. There has to be a balance between a very fair right to privacy and simply explaining in some manner your absence to your fellow employees, particularly when it happens in the manner it happened. To just say "Jonathans gone and its a private manner" is OF COURSE going to lead to gossip and speculation. How to move past that, man you are talking about rewiring society.
I do feel like the stigma with mental illness is decreasing but at some point, Martin is in a public forum. He is being handsomely compensated for the burden of having his workplace issue play out before the nation.
As far as I can tell, he had advisors and counsel in the time between his departure and word of this reaching the public. We see matters all the time described as "a family matter", "a personal situation" and Jonathan Martin isn't Peyton Manning. If he takes some time off, outside of a few Miami beat guys, is anyone going to press that hard on where he went.
It seems to me Martin escalated this matter to another level that it didn't need to go to, when he was outside the heat of the moment when he went scorched earth on Incognito and the Fins. As for the leak, given the way gossip spreads, unless it was implicitly told that confidentiality is a must, I can't fault Incognito for the word getting out unless he directly leaked it to the press.
At the end of the day, the evidence doesn't seem to support the accusation at this point. Perhaps more will come but at this point, I'm done faulting Incognito. He used stunningly poor judgment using racial language, even in a place of presumed comfort or acceptance, and that's the real reason he's in limbo professionally, even though there is little evidence of malice in his so doing.
And just because you have a mental episode doesn't mean you abandon all responsibility for your conduct and choices.