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[Snotbubbles]

Today the person in front of me reclined their seat on the airplane.

Is murder justified for this?

Just keep hitting the back of their chair with your legs. Repeatedly apologize that there isn't any room on these planes. Eventually, they will put the seat up.

 

[Zow]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

 

[ChiefD]

Tough one @Zow .

I would say the next time take your clubs off like she asked.. Carry the push cart (with a little mud on it of course) and make sure to drizzle a few splotches of dirt/mud throughout the house. Accidentally of course.....

Eventually you'll get your mudroom back.

 

[ChiefD]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

Jesus christ grow a ****in sack

You're not married are you.

 

[arrow1]

Tough one @Zow .

I would say the next time take your clubs off like she asked.. Carry the push cart (with a little mud on it of course) and make sure to drizzle a few splotches of dirt/mud throughout the house. Accidentally of course.....

Eventually you'll get your mudroom back.

Get a driving cart and park in her spot in the garage.

 

[jobarules]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

Jesus christ grow a ****in sack

You're not married are you.

Been married 19 years. There's things I give in to and things I man up about. It's a ****in mud room. There's zero reason to give in to this one.

 

[Chemical X]

the amount of people that dine out and spend their entire time staring at their phone baffles me. nothing better than going out to dinner with my sig other and spending 4x what i could at home to ignore you and stare at my phone.

 

[AAABatteries]

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way

Needs more explanation - stuff gets in peoples way all the time - I don't agree with going nuclear like shady but this would be a negotiation for sure and not just this is how things are.

 

[Manster]

Two words......teenage daughter

 

[Zow]

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way

Needs more explanation - stuff gets in peoples way all the time - I don't agree with going nuclear like shady but this would be a negotiation for sure and not just this is how things are.

Good point. Left out probably a couple of pertinent details:

1. We had a lot of snow this year so the pushcart was in the garage for probably 4 months without complaint from me because I only used the cart when I'd travel to warmer areas to play.
2. While my course has been open for about a month, the first couple of weeks I was out of town for work or other various reasons so the pushcart has only been back in the mud room for a couple of weeks now in its usual capacity.
3. She rearranged the mud room the day she declared it no longer suitable for the mud room. Due to the rearrangement, it probably does kind of get in the way.

So, she probably got accustomed to the cart being in the garage and adjusted to the space.

 

[Zow]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

Jesus christ grow a ****in sack

You're not married are you.

Been married 19 years. There's things I give in to and things I man up about. It's a ****in mud room. There's zero reason to give in to this one.

Oh, but there is.

We've been married over ten years now and in the time I don't believe I've done a single load of laundry. Additionally, we have 4 kids under 9 years old. With that in mind, and with keeping in mind that I work 60+ hours per week on average, she's still pretty cool with me playing a lot of golf. Like 45 holes per week at least and multiple tournaments per month.

So, yeah, while I want to "man up" here, I still am uncertain whether this is the hill to die on. I push too hard and all of a sudden that is my room where I get to do all my laundry instead of playing so much golf in my free time.

 

[Manster]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

Jesus christ grow a ****in sack

You're not married are you.

Been married 19 years. There's things I give in to and things I man up about. It's a ****in mud room. There's zero reason to give in to this one.

Oh, but there is.

We've been married over ten years now and in the time I don't believe I've done a single load of wash. Additionally, we have 4 kids under 9 years old. With that in mind, and with keeping in mind that I work 60+ hours per week on average, she's still pretty cool with me playing a lot of golf. Like 45 holes per week at least and multiple tournaments per month.

So, yeah, while I want to "man up" here, I still am uncertain whether this is the hill to die on. I push too hard and all of a sudden that is my room where I get to do all my laundry instead of playing so much golf in my free time.

Dang! Do you ever see your family?

 

[Poke_4_Life]

@Zow can you build (or have built for you) a man-shed in the backyard? It would give you a place to keep the cart. I would also suggest power in it, so you can add a small fridge for beers. It would be your space.

 

[Snotbubbles]

the amount of people that dine out and spend their entire time staring at their phone baffles me. nothing better than going out to dinner with my sig other and spending 4x what i could at home to ignore you and stare at my phone.

Yeah, I always make it a point to put my phone away when I go out to dinner.

 

[Snotbubbles]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

Jesus christ grow a ****in sack

You're not married are you.

Been married 19 years. There's things I give in to and things I man up about. It's a ****in mud room. There's zero reason to give in to this one.

Oh, but there is.

We've been married over ten years now and in the time I don't believe I've done a single load of wash. Additionally, we have 4 kids under 9 years old. With that in mind, and with keeping in mind that I work 60+ hours per week on average, she's still pretty cool with me playing a lot of golf. Like 45 holes per week at least and multiple tournaments per month.

So, yeah, while I want to "man up" here, I still am uncertain whether this is the hill to die on. I push too hard and all of a sudden that is my room where I get to do all my laundry instead of playing so much golf in my free time.

Dang! Do you ever see your family?

It's the key to a perfect marriage. Never be around each other.

 

[Chemical X]

so, been in italy for a bit and the weather has been nice many days, nice enough to want to dine outside (all’aperto); however, it is impossible since italy allows outside diners to smoke. of course, 123% of italians smoke, so you can’t sit and eat outside. you are forced inside and they don’t do climate control well.

 

[Zow]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

Jesus christ grow a ****in sack

You're not married are you.

Been married 19 years. There's things I give in to and things I man up about. It's a ****in mud room. There's zero reason to give in to this one.

Oh, but there is.

We've been married over ten years now and in the time I don't believe I've done a single load of wash. Additionally, we have 4 kids under 9 years old. With that in mind, and with keeping in mind that I work 60+ hours per week on average, she's still pretty cool with me playing a lot of golf. Like 45 holes per week at least and multiple tournaments per month.

So, yeah, while I want to "man up" here, I still am uncertain whether this is the hill to die on. I push too hard and all of a sudden that is my room where I get to do all my laundry instead of playing so much golf in my free time.

Dang! Do you ever see your family?

Haha yes, of course. My son is getting into golf and my wife actually plays with me on occasion as well.

But, I do very much recognize that the percentage of my free time I get to spend on my personal activities probably far exceeds the average married man with young kids. So, I gotta choose my battles wisely hence the rant in this thread.

 

[Zow]

@Zow can you build (or have built for you) a man-shed in the backyard? It would give you a place to keep the cart. I would also suggest power in it, so you can add a small fridge for beers. It would be your space.

Good idea, but can't due to the HOA rules.

 

[ChiefD]

@Zow can you build (or have built for you) a man-shed in the backyard? It would give you a place to keep the cart. I would also suggest power in it, so you can add a small fridge for beers. It would be your space.

Good idea, but can't due to the HOA rules.

Do you have a side door or anything for the garage where you can walk around the side of the house from the backyard and take your clubs in that way. And while you are in there open a cold beer from your garage fridge, flip on the TV hanging in there and watch a game?

 

[Zow]

@Zow can you build (or have built for you) a man-shed in the backyard? It would give you a place to keep the cart. I would also suggest power in it, so you can add a small fridge for beers. It would be your space.

Good idea, but can't due to the HOA rules.

Do you have a side door or anything for the garage where you can walk around the side of the house from the backyard and take your clubs in that way. And while you are in there open a cold beer from your garage fridge, flip on the TV hanging in there and watch a game?

No. We have the dog run set up there. Plus the other logistical problem is that the golf clubs, if I want them to stay in the house (which I do), need to go to the mud room anyway so either way I'm carrying something through the house each time.

 

[belljr]

Just fold it up and leave in mud room


Wala

 

[belljr]

@Zow can you build (or have built for you) a man-shed in the backyard? It would give you a place to keep the cart. I would also suggest power in it, so you can add a small fridge for beers. It would be your space.

Good idea, but can't due to the HOA rules.

Do you have a side door or anything for the garage where you can walk around the side of the house from the backyard and take your clubs in that way. And while you are in there open a cold beer from your garage fridge, flip on the TV hanging in there and watch a game?

He did until he screwed up where the fence should go

 

[Manster]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

Jesus christ grow a ****in sack

You're not married are you.

Been married 19 years. There's things I give in to and things I man up about. It's a ****in mud room. There's zero reason to give in to this one.

Oh, but there is.

We've been married over ten years now and in the time I don't believe I've done a single load of wash. Additionally, we have 4 kids under 9 years old. With that in mind, and with keeping in mind that I work 60+ hours per week on average, she's still pretty cool with me playing a lot of golf. Like 45 holes per week at least and multiple tournaments per month.

So, yeah, while I want to "man up" here, I still am uncertain whether this is the hill to die on. I push too hard and all of a sudden that is my room where I get to do all my laundry instead of playing so much golf in my free time.

Dang! Do you ever see your family?

Haha yes, of course. My son is getting into golf and my wife actually plays with me on occasion as well.

But, I do very much recognize that the percentage of my free time I get to spend on my personal activities probably far exceeds the average married man with young kids. So, I gotta choose my battles wisely hence the rant in this thread.

Enjoy it now, cuz with four kids ur golfing/free time is be cut down significantly as ur kids get older.

 

[Manster]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

Jesus christ grow a ****in sack

You're not married are you.

Been married 19 years. There's things I give in to and things I man up about. It's a ****in mud room. There's zero reason to give in to this one.

Oh, but there is.

We've been married over ten years now and in the time I don't believe I've done a single load of wash. Additionally, we have 4 kids under 9 years old. With that in mind, and with keeping in mind that I work 60+ hours per week on average, she's still pretty cool with me playing a lot of golf. Like 45 holes per week at least and multiple tournaments per month.

So, yeah, while I want to "man up" here, I still am uncertain whether this is the hill to die on. I push too hard and all of a sudden that is my room where I get to do all my laundry instead of playing so much golf in my free time.

Dang! Do you ever see your family?

It's the key to a perfect marriage. Never be around each other.

Except he's out golfing while she's at home with 4 kids under 9 years old........I'd say better make sure ur wife gets her time as well.

 

[Dinsy Ejotuz]

Is it possible to build a small drywall closet near the mud room entrance for your golf stuff?

 

[Zow]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

Jesus christ grow a ****in sack

You're not married are you.

Been married 19 years. There's things I give in to and things I man up about. It's a ****in mud room. There's zero reason to give in to this one.

Oh, but there is.

We've been married over ten years now and in the time I don't believe I've done a single load of wash. Additionally, we have 4 kids under 9 years old. With that in mind, and with keeping in mind that I work 60+ hours per week on average, she's still pretty cool with me playing a lot of golf. Like 45 holes per week at least and multiple tournaments per month.

So, yeah, while I want to "man up" here, I still am uncertain whether this is the hill to die on. I push too hard and all of a sudden that is my room where I get to do all my laundry instead of playing so much golf in my free time.

Dang! Do you ever see your family?

It's the key to a perfect marriage. Never be around each other.

Except he's out golfing while she's at home with 4 kids under 9 years old........I'd say better make sure ur wife gets her time as well.

Which I do.

Which, again, is why I'm just ranting in this thread and not "manning up" on the pushcart issue at home.

At this stage in my life I'm no dummy.

 

[Zow]

Just fold it up and leave in mud room


Wala

Proffered that. That was rejected.

 

[Zow]

@Zow can you build (or have built for you) a man-shed in the backyard? It would give you a place to keep the cart. I would also suggest power in it, so you can add a small fridge for beers. It would be your space.

Good idea, but can't due to the HOA rules.

Do you have a side door or anything for the garage where you can walk around the side of the house from the backyard and take your clubs in that way. And while you are in there open a cold beer from your garage fridge, flip on the TV hanging in there and watch a game?

He did until he screwed up where the fence should go

Oh you think I had a say in where that fence went?

 

[ThaPenguin]

Why does the cart need to go through the house to the garage? Take cart to garage, take clubs to mud room?

 

[IvanKaramazov]

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set

Tell her that you've thought it over, and she's right. As the woman of the house, the laundry room is her space and you'll keep out of it in the future.

Report back on how this goes.

 

[Zow]

Why does the cart need to go through the house to the garage? Take cart to garage, take clubs to mud room?

Basically the garage is on the other side of the house and there's a logistical barrier to walking the pushcart and clubs around to the garage. Though, this may be the route to go because it's probably then easier carrying the clubs back through the house to the mud room.

 

[Zow]

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set

Tell her that you've thought it over, and she's right. As the woman of the house, the laundry room is her space and you'll keep out of it in the future.

Report back on how this goes.

See, that's the thing though - throughout our entire marriage I've literally stayed out of the laundry room! Here, I thought/assumed that second (or more accurately describe "real") laundry room would establish that the mud room is still communal. I thought and assumed wrong. But, I'm not dumb enough to jeopardize the expectation and understanding that I stay out of laundry rooms.

 

[jobarules]

Why does the cart need to go through the house to the garage? Take cart to garage, take clubs to mud room?

Basically the garage is on the other side of the house and there's a logistical barrier to walking the pushcart and clubs around to the garage. Though, this may be the route to go because it's probably then easier carrying the clubs back through the house to the mud room.

This is absolutely ridiculous

 

[Mr.Pack]

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way

Needs more explanation - stuff gets in peoples way all the time - I don't agree with going nuclear like shady but this would be a negotiation for sure and not just this is how things are.

Good point. Left out probably a couple of pertinent details:

1. We had a lot of snow this year so the pushcart was in the garage for probably 4 months without complaint from me because I only used the cart when I'd travel to warmer areas to play.
2. While my course has been open for about a month, the first couple of weeks I was out of town for work or other various reasons so the pushcart has only been back in the mud room for a couple of weeks now in its usual capacity.
3. She rearranged the mud room the day she declared it no longer suitable for the mud room. Due to the rearrangement, it probably does kind of get in the way.

So, she probably got accustomed to the cart being in the garage and adjusted to the space.

Hang the cart on the wall. Problem solved

 

[Zow]

I appreciate all the troubleshooting, I really do. But, I thought this was just the ranting thread...

 

[Zow]

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way

Needs more explanation - stuff gets in peoples way all the time - I don't agree with going nuclear like shady but this would be a negotiation for sure and not just this is how things are.

Good point. Left out probably a couple of pertinent details:

1. We had a lot of snow this year so the pushcart was in the garage for probably 4 months without complaint from me because I only used the cart when I'd travel to warmer areas to play.
2. While my course has been open for about a month, the first couple of weeks I was out of town for work or other various reasons so the pushcart has only been back in the mud room for a couple of weeks now in its usual capacity.
3. She rearranged the mud room the day she declared it no longer suitable for the mud room. Due to the rearrangement, it probably does kind of get in the way.

So, she probably got accustomed to the cart being in the garage and adjusted to the space.

Hang the cart on the wall. Problem solved

Probably is still in her way.

 

[foxco]

Two words......teenage daughter

Hate to one up but: teenage daughters

 

[CletiusMaximus]

the amount of people that dine out and spend their entire time staring at their phone baffles me. nothing better than going out to dinner with my sig other and spending 4x what i could at home to ignore you and stare at my phone.

Yeah, I always make it a point to put my phone away when I go out to dinner.

I like the people who put the phone face down next to their plate. Because it would be rude to leave it there face up, but if you put it face down and just check in every few minutes that's almost exactly like putting it away.

 

[Dezbelief]

@Zow can you build (or have built for you) a man-shed in the backyard? It would give you a place to keep the cart. I would also suggest power in it, so you can add a small fridge for beers. It would be your space.

Good idea, but can't due to the HOA rules.

Can you get away with something like this?

https://www.lowes.com/pd/patiowell-5-ft-x-3-ft-Steel-Storage-Shed/5014059285?cm_mmc=shp-_-c-_-prd-_-sol-_-ggl-_-SS_SOL_000_Priority_Items-_-5014059285-_-online-_-0-_-0&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI09rM85iM_wIVrjrUAR2PDAWzEAQYECABEgIs0vD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

 

[bcat01]

Why does the cart need to go through the house to the garage? Take cart to garage, take clubs to mud room?

Basically the garage is on the other side of the house and there's a logistical barrier to walking the pushcart and clubs around to the garage. Though, this may be the route to go because it's probably then easier carrying the clubs back through the house to the mud room.

We are going to need to see the blueprints.

 

[belljr]

@Zow can you build (or have built for you) a man-shed in the backyard? It would give you a place to keep the cart. I would also suggest power in it, so you can add a small fridge for beers. It would be your space.

Good idea, but can't due to the HOA rules.

Can you get away with something like this?

https://www.lowes.com/pd/patiowell-5-ft-x-3-ft-Steel-Storage-Shed/5014059285?cm_mmc=shp-_-c-_-prd-_-sol-_-ggl-_-SS_SOL_000_Priority_Items-_-5014059285-_-online-_-0-_-0&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI09rM85iM_wIVrjrUAR2PDAWzEAQYECABEgIs0vD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

But put it in the mud room

 

[Pip's Invitation]

Why do you need a house with two laundry rooms if only one person does the laundry?

 

[bryhamm]

I appreciate all the troubleshooting, I really do. But, I thought this was just the ranting thread...

You must have missed the subtitle. It's in tiny font but it spells:

And advice from internet strangers that obviously know more about your marriage/life/etc than you do

 

[Zow]

I appreciate all the troubleshooting, I really do. But, I thought this was just the ranting thread...

You must have missed the subtitle. It's in tiny font but it spells:

And advice from internet strangers that obviously know more about your marriage/life/etc than you do

Well, yeah, and I assume this is in the posted message @Joe Bryant pins to the top of the page, too as this is an FFA norm.

My bad.

 

[Zow]

@Zow can you build (or have built for you) a man-shed in the backyard? It would give you a place to keep the cart. I would also suggest power in it, so you can add a small fridge for beers. It would be your space.

Good idea, but can't due to the HOA rules.

Can you get away with something like this?

https://www.lowes.com/pd/patiowell-5-ft-x-3-ft-Steel-Storage-Shed/5014059285?cm_mmc=shp-_-c-_-prd-_-sol-_-ggl-_-SS_SOL_000_Priority_Items-_-5014059285-_-online-_-0-_-0&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI09rM85iM_wIVrjrUAR2PDAWzEAQYECABEgIs0vD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

But put it in the mud room

Which is my first thought, too, because I want my clubs in an air conditioned setting!

 

[Zow]

Why do you need a house with two laundry rooms if only one person does the laundry?

She's honestly that good of a house wife that she runs multiple loads at a time because there are a lot of us.

Wait, I mean, I meant to say... you know what I mean.

 

[Yankee23Fan]

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set

Tell her that you've thought it over, and she's right. As the woman of the house, the laundry room is her space and you'll keep out of it in the future.

Report back on how this goes.

See, that's the thing though - throughout our entire marriage I've literally stayed out of the laundry room! Here, I thought/assumed that second (or more accurately describe "real") laundry room would establish that the mud room is still communal. I thought and assumed wrong. But, I'm not dumb enough to jeopardize the expectation and understanding that I stay out of laundry rooms.

I get the rant. I had a similar one and have been married much longer than you. But yeah, this isn't the hill to die on.

All my current rants are lawyer ones and we have a thread for that.

 

[Zow]

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set

Tell her that you've thought it over, and she's right. As the woman of the house, the laundry room is her space and you'll keep out of it in the future.

Report back on how this goes.

See, that's the thing though - throughout our entire marriage I've literally stayed out of the laundry room! Here, I thought/assumed that second (or more accurately describe "real") laundry room would establish that the mud room is still communal. I thought and assumed wrong. But, I'm not dumb enough to jeopardize the expectation and understanding that I stay out of laundry rooms.

I get the rant. I had a similar one and have been married much longer than you. But yeah, this isn't the hill to die on.

All my current rants are lawyer ones and we have a thread for that.

Fair. I added a doozy in there recently.

 

[Long Ball Larry]

In the spirit of the OP, my wife decided just this past weekend, after we've lived in our home for nearly one year and I've been using the mud room for this reason, that our "mud room" is no longer the acceptable place for me to store my golf pushcart.

Now, I want to put this into context. After working my butt off for ~3 years churning out unsustainable work hours so we can save up to buy our "forever home" or "dream home" or whatever you want to call it, a home came on the market last summer that checked all the boxes and we bought it. It's on the first hole of my golf course and a huge reason why I agreed to pull the trigger on the home (even though it was probably a bit earlier than ideal to purchase a home for us) is because the location is perfect and I plan on walking to the first box from the back of my home for the next 40 years. When I saw the home for the first time, I commented that the mud room would be perfect for my clubs and my pushcart since it spills out to the backyard and to the hole. It's also, of course, perfect, because as the name implies it's just a concrete floor so a little mud from the pushcart wheels won't be a big deal yet it's an air controlled room so it's safe to store my clubs (which weren't cheap and are probably my favorite material possession).

Well, this past weekend, when apparently the cart got in my wife's way because the mud room also has a washer and dryer set (note: we do also have a second laundry room) it was declared that the mud room is no longer a suitable place for said pushcart (clubs are still okay) and, instead, I'm apparently supposed to take my clubs off at the back patio, schlep the cart through the main living area of the home without getting anything dirty, and put the cart in a specified spot on the far side of the garage. My pleas for this being a lot of extra work for me and increasing the likelihood that mud gets through the house went unanswered and, notably, this change was declared on my 40th birthday. This also pretty much seals the deal that I have absolutely no spot that is "mine" in this very large home that I worked very hard for us to be able to purchase. To be clear, my wife works/worked very hard as well to support our family and I take no qualms with the notion that she is in charge of like 98% of the home and my designated "football watching spot" was almost immediately engulfed in the vortex that is my children's play areas or that my "room" for all my clothes and stuff - which is a separate spare bedroom which we will combine with our current bedroom eventually to make a legit master bedroom - was almost immediately taken over by my 5 year and/or whichever kid is sick so they can sleep nearer to us.

Ranting here because this issue is wholly resolved at home and me re-raising the issue will not end well for me. But, dammit, I'm going to be pissed the first time I get yelled out for inadvertently getting mud in the house as I walk through carrying the damn cart even though there's an absolute perfect sport for it in a room that may have even been designed for this exact purpose.

This should be renamed the first world problems thread

 

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Carry your clubs? #nocart