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Yep.I haven't been following this thing very closely. I like Girls and think that Dunham is a talented writer. She also appears to be very self-absorbed and probably pretty annoying if you have to spend much time around her in real life. (I could easily be wrong about that; it's just the vibe I get. But I've never spent any time around her in real life to confirm it.)That's a non-apology. She's "sorry about all he [barry] has experienced" but explicitly absolves herself of any fault and lays the blame with everybody else.Here's Dunham's statement/apology.
Guessing there will be some sort of settlement as well. Hopefully everyone can now move on. Maybe people will show 10% of the concern for actual rape victims that they showed for a guy they thought was maybe wrongly accused of rape but wasn't really.
I barely know who Lena Dunham is. I know she exists and she has a television show that is apparently widely-watched and controversial. That's literally it. Everything else I know about her I've learned from this little episode, and I only know about her book and her false rape allegation because it happened to get linked up with the UVA story. What I do know, though, is that if you're a celebrity and you accuse somebody of raping you, you can't really come back in good faith and criticize journalists for trying to track down the guy who you accused of a serious felony. That's just stupid and shows a profound ignorance about the world works.
I think you've correctly identified what she should have apologized for but did not. She should have taken extra precautions to make sure that nobody would mistake her pseudonym for a real name. She should have made it clearer that she was changing the details to make the identity of her attacker indiscernible. Her failure to do so was negligent, and she should have directly apologized to the real Barry for her mistake.
On the other hand, I think a lot of the criticism she's gotten for this has been off base. She made a mistake, but it appears to have been an innocent one -- caused by naivety and a lack of foresight, not caused by malice. (I guess it's possible that she had it out for the real Barry, but it seems rather unlikely if they'd never met.)
I'm not Barry, and he may have a different perspective, but from where I sit, Dunham's mistake seems pretty easy to forgive. It would even be easy to sympathize with, IMO, if only she seemed more genuinely sorry about it.
If i'm "Barry" a personal phone call and apology would frankly go quite a long ways.
My first thought too. He is either lying, gay, a complete #####.... Or maybe he saw the crazy in her and didn't want to get involved.What kind of crazy do you have to be to make up an imaginary suitor, complete with stolen fb pics of a guy in hs who barely knew you and fake text conversations? All in an attempt to apparently get the attention of a friend who wasn't interested in you.