sublimeone
Footballguy
I have seen families feuds start from extreme pettiness like this. The shtick in this thread is outstanding but it's always a good move to go with the flow in these types of situations. This Christmas is going to happen at the direction of the SIL, that ship has sailed. I guarantee you, you're not the only one who finds this a bit irksome... but it's too late, it's what's happening.
Sometimes you just have to let someone fall on their face. Don't be an a$$ and give her an out/excuse. Brine your wine, write a check, be cordial, etc... and then next year get out in front of it, invite everyone to your place and do it the way it's supposed to be done. No need to rub her face in it. Just be cool and this will be nothing more than a fond reminder of why nobody will let Auntie Control-Freak plan Christmas again.
Sometimes you just have to let someone fall on their face. Don't be an a$$ and give her an out/excuse. Brine your wine, write a check, be cordial, etc... and then next year get out in front of it, invite everyone to your place and do it the way it's supposed to be done. No need to rub her face in it. Just be cool and this will be nothing more than a fond reminder of why nobody will let Auntie Control-Freak plan Christmas again.