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FBG loses its Tremendous Upside: RIP friend (2 Viewers)

As I mentioned before, Sean went to the hospital Thursday where they sedated him, and he never woke up. That said, he was not in a coma as I understand it, and while he was hooked up to too many machines, the Docs said that it's possible he was at least minimally aware of the surroundings.

I wouldn't make much of this, except for the fact that he lay there Thursday-Sun - we (his friends) only found out Sunday and literally within 90 minutes we were there... from Long Island, New Jersey and Westchester (which says something in and of itself. I was hosting a super bowl party and called it off literally minutes before people started to arrive, and everyone else had their SB plans too. But when we heard, we ran to Sean).

From a selfish perspective, I am so appreciative to have had the chance to say goodbye, even though that was not the point. The point was to let Sean know he was loved and his friends were there for him. We were allowed only 2 to the room at a time, but took turns.

I just wonder if he was, somehow, holding on. To hear not just the scared voices of his family, but those he chose to be with as friends, which brings me to that earlier post - because friends are those you CHOOSE to love.

Anyway, it reminded me in a way of my first brush with death. The dog I grew up with was ill and it was down to final days, or hours... my mother grabbed me while I was at my little league baseball game and said that if I wanted to say goodbye, I may need to go immediately.

And it was almost as if the dog that my parents bought 6 months prior to my birth, my friend and protector, waited for me. Within minutes of me returning home to comfort him as a scared 12 year old (he was a great Pyrenees, so 12-13 years on this planet is a good run) he passed. Peacefully. Maybe it's just self comfort, but we all felt, and still do, that Daphenes waited until I returned home for one last goodbye before letting go.

The doctors were surprised Sean survived as long as he did. They doubted he'd make it through one night, but here he made it from Thurs-Sun, when his friends found out and showed up. Gave him the love and support he had given us, so many times.

To know that barely 12 hours later he left us makes you wonder if he wanted or needed that final goodbye. I don't know. I'm about to lose it (again) on a ###### airplane just thinking about it, but it makes so much sense. It was time, for whatever reason, too early as it may have been, for him to go.

Thank god we at least all had a chance to see him, comfort him, be there for him. In a way, he wanted to be there for us, too. One last time.
That was beautful and very moving.
:goodposting: Like a baby over here. I'm so sorry for those of you that knew and loved him the most.
 
Pictures, as promised. It's amazing how few pictures there are of the people closest to us. Hope this gives a bit of justice.

Sean's Crew - Sean is on the far right. These are his best friends from college (BU). Long before Koya was in the picture, this was (and still is) his crew.

My Avatar - The guy would NOT let a party remain stale. Never looked for attention, but always made those around him in that much better a mood. For some reason, this pic just reminds me of his energy. Infectious.

Sean, The Jew - While technically a Gentile, I think he knew more about Judaism than I do (I'm a ****, fwiw). Again, just knowledgeable, and loved culture. He was at the last two Seders my wife and I did - which were also our first. He was just always there for us.

His presence - Sean's the big guy right behind me (the groom). He was one of my Chuppah carriers and just had a subtle but powerful presence about himself.

Life of the Party - While other friends of ours cause trouble and vie for attention, Sean just makes everyone happier. My wife said that her greatest memory of our party (other than our dance, because we ####### ROCKED it) was their dance. He was an effortless friend, if that makes sense.

He just made you smile. One of our favorite pastimes was an annual bar crawl. That may have been where my wife (pictured) first met him. Why a picture of someone else? Because I can't think of an expression that better represents the sheer unburdened happiness Sean brought to us all. He never asked for anything back, but just made everyone that much more sure of themselves and happy to be a part of this world.
Thank you for sharing. These are just tremendous... And I never met the dude and I wish I did. These hit me like a gut shot

 
How about a memorial race at belmont in his name from the fbg's? I can get the info if there is interest. Would also attend.

 
TU and I were both huge Pearl Jam fans, and he was an active participant in the Pearl Jam thread. In 2007, Pearl Jam was scheduled to play Lollapolloza in Chicago on a Saturday night. He had already made arrangements to go to the show, I wasn't planning on it. A week before that the band announced a fan club only show for 1300 fans at the cozy Vic Theatre in Chicago the Thursday before. For a band that does a lot for it's fans, this was the first time they've done anything of the sort. A fan club only show in a small setting, was the holy grail for pearl jam fans. The show was announced on a Tuesday, and tickets were going to go on sale that Thursday.

Pearl Jam's online ticket system is a running joke, but TU always said that if he had one skill in life it was getting lucky with tickets online. We made a pact via PM (had never met at the time) that if I got tickets, he could come with me and vice versa.

Low and behold, he got tickets and I nervously made plans to book flights/hotels to go to a concert with a guy I met on the internet. Just to type of thing that you want to explain to your friends and family.

Long story short, the show was the best concert I've ever been to and the first of a bunch of PJ shows that I went with to Sean over the years.
I can tell you this, I think he mentioned you and the concerts you guys went to every time I met with him. Sounds like you guys and JZilla really had some good memories. I'm not a music guy so listening to him, Zilla, and Jet talk about all this obscure stuff was always entertaining. He was a music :nerd: for sure.

But he loved sports like I do, which is more than almost anyone else I know(TRE fits this category also). Plus he liked to drink and have fun.

 
TU and I were both huge Pearl Jam fans, and he was an active participant in the Pearl Jam thread. In 2007, Pearl Jam was scheduled to play Lollapolloza in Chicago on a Saturday night. He had already made arrangements to go to the show, I wasn't planning on it. A week before that the band announced a fan club only show for 1300 fans at the cozy Vic Theatre in Chicago the Thursday before. For a band that does a lot for it's fans, this was the first time they've done anything of the sort. A fan club only show in a small setting, was the holy grail for pearl jam fans. The show was announced on a Tuesday, and tickets were going to go on sale that Thursday.

Pearl Jam's online ticket system is a running joke, but TU always said that if he had one skill in life it was getting lucky with tickets online. We made a pact via PM (had never met at the time) that if I got tickets, he could come with me and vice versa.

Low and behold, he got tickets and I nervously made plans to book flights/hotels to go to a concert with a guy I met on the internet. Just to type of thing that you want to explain to your friends and family.

Long story short, the show was the best concert I've ever been to and the first of a bunch of PJ shows that I went with to Sean over the years.
I can tell you this, I think he mentioned you and the concerts you guys went to every time I met with him. Sounds like you guys and JZilla really had some good memories. I'm not a music guy so listening to him, Zilla, and Jet talk about all this obscure stuff was always entertaining. He was a music :nerd: for sure.

But he loved sports like I do, which is more than almost anyone else I know(TRE fits this category also). Plus he liked to drink and have fun.
Thanks GB. This means alot.

Yeah, re: sports...I'm sure there's wasn't a kid raised in NYC, went to school in Boston that new more about College FB than he did. When I got to Chicago in 2011 for PJ 20 (different show), I show up at the hotel (on a Friday night) and he had a 12 pack of beer waiting for us. We were meeting Rude out that night, but stayed in the hotel to watch the end of the Baylor/TCU 50-48 game (RG3 coming out party).

Then we met Rude out, got drunk and closed down a Chipotle :football:

 
What is Sean's last name so we could maybe donate something in his honor?
Not to speak for Koya or anything, but why don't we give it a few days and see if he can relay something from the family...perhaps something "official" from the family will surface. If not, we can take matters into our own hands.

 
Wish I knew him for real, but feel like I already did. Thoughts and prayers to friends and family. Rest peacefully, TU.

 
Koya, my mom was in the hospital dying on a saturday and we were all there except my brother who was working. She was in the hospital for a week and my brother was there every day until that saturday. She was incoherent and basically unresponsive all week cuz of the meds. Then that saturday she started breathing heavily and you could tell something was different. She was dying. This went on for a few hours. My brother got to the hospital at 5pm that day and both my aunts arrived shortly after and she passed just a little while after.

Why am i mentioning this? Cuz i firmly believe she held on until we were all together and it sounds like Sean did the same thing for you and friends. I firmly believe he let you say your goodbyes.

 
So young and so sad. I'm sorry for everyone's loss. I'm glad he touched many and generated so many good memories in his short time here.

 
This is just terrible news. I wish I could have had the chance to interact with him more but he was always a top 10 poster in my book.

My condolences to his friends and family. Thank you for sharing your memories.

RIPTU :banned:

 
Koya, my mom was in the hospital dying on a saturday and we were all there except my brother who was working. She was in the hospital for a week and my brother was there every day until that saturday. She was incoherent and basically unresponsive all week cuz of the meds. Then that saturday she started breathing heavily and you could tell something was different. She was dying. This went on for a few hours. My brother got to the hospital at 5pm that day and both my aunts arrived shortly after and she passed just a little while after.

Why am i mentioning this? Cuz i firmly believe she held on until we were all together and it sounds like Sean did the same thing for you and friends. I firmly believe he let you say your goodbyes.
In 2006 I was living in Europe. My dad was suffering from cancer and not doing well. My mom called and said you need to come home to the Bay Area. I said I would. Hospice caregiver said there was no way I'd get there on time. Took something like 36 hours to get home. Brother picked me and my then gf up at the airport. We drive an hour to home. I see my dad in bed. Family gives me privacy, I say a few things. I go out to the patio to get some air where the rest of my family was. Hospice caregiver comes over literally one to two minues later and says your father just passed away.

The mind and the spirit are extremely powerful. TU waited. I'm sure of it.

 
Koya, my mom was in the hospital dying on a saturday and we were all there except my brother who was working. She was in the hospital for a week and my brother was there every day until that saturday. She was incoherent and basically unresponsive all week cuz of the meds. Then that saturday she started breathing heavily and you could tell something was different. She was dying. This went on for a few hours. My brother got to the hospital at 5pm that day and both my aunts arrived shortly after and she passed just a little while after.

Why am i mentioning this? Cuz i firmly believe she held on until we were all together and it sounds like Sean did the same thing for you and friends. I firmly believe he let you say your goodbyes.
Thanks Shady. Means a lot.

 
Koya said:
Guys I have bad news. I'm so sorry to have to tell you all this.

We lost Sean today. He went into cardiac arrest about 45 min ago and could not be revived.

Let's hope he is at peace. God I hope there's another side where I can see him again.
Holy ####. Terrible news. What an awesome Ranger fan.

RIP TU

 
TU and I were both huge Pearl Jam fans, and he was an active participant in the Pearl Jam thread. In 2007, Pearl Jam was scheduled to play Lollapolloza in Chicago on a Saturday night. He had already made arrangements to go to the show, I wasn't planning on it. A week before that the band announced a fan club only show for 1300 fans at the cozy Vic Theatre in Chicago the Thursday before. For a band that does a lot for it's fans, this was the first time they've done anything of the sort. A fan club only show in a small setting, was the holy grail for pearl jam fans. The show was announced on a Tuesday, and tickets were going to go on sale that Thursday.

Pearl Jam's online ticket system is a running joke, but TU always said that if he had one skill in life it was getting lucky with tickets online. We made a pact via PM (had never met at the time) that if I got tickets, he could come with me and vice versa.

Low and behold, he got tickets and I nervously made plans to book flights/hotels to go to a concert with a guy I met on the internet. Just to type of thing that you want to explain to your friends and family.

Long story short, the show was the best concert I've ever been to and the first of a bunch of PJ shows that I went with to Sean over the years.
I scored a pair of 10C tix for the Barclay Center in October '13. My son and I have done a bunch of concerts together, but as the date approached It turned out that he had a conflicting event on his calendar that he had blown. He was really torn as to which to do. I let TU know the deal- his luck for nabbing tickets having deserted him this time- and that I would keep him posted regarding my son's decision.

He told me:

Man. that would be awesome! Let me know...I'd be in for sure...
It turned out that my son chose PJ over a college homecoming event- smart boy- and I had to let TU know the deal. His response?

No worries...Thanks for thinking of me...Glad he decided that, you guys will have a great night together
Now, I love my son- and we did have a blast. But there's a part of me that wishes he had chosen to visit his alma mater that night...

RIP, Sean. :banned:

 
Koya, my mom was in the hospital dying on a saturday and we were all there except my brother who was working. She was in the hospital for a week and my brother was there every day until that saturday. She was incoherent and basically unresponsive all week cuz of the meds. Then that saturday she started breathing heavily and you could tell something was different. She was dying. This went on for a few hours. My brother got to the hospital at 5pm that day and both my aunts arrived shortly after and she passed just a little while after.

Why am i mentioning this? Cuz i firmly believe she held on until we were all together and it sounds like Sean did the same thing for you and friends. I firmly believe he let you say your goodbyes.
Sorry to hear about your mom, Shady.

 
My condolences go out to Sean's family and friends. I was lucky enough to meet Sean on one of his many Pearl Jam cornholes. It was great getting to meet and hangout with Sean and Judd, sharing beers and getting to know new friends. Sean was someone who if you talked to him for five minutes, he would make you feel like you have been friends forever. I wish I did a better job of keeping up with some of the great people I have met through this board. It really is a great place, but not as great without Sean. RIP.

 
Sean was the first person I ever met from here. He PMed me his phone number so I could text him when I made it to the pre PJ show place they were meeting up at. I am very bad in social situations, especially around people I have never met. He tells me, look for the big guy with the beard

I finally get the nerve to approach him and he treats me like a friend he hasnt seen in a few years. Nothing awkward or stand offish. I stay and chat it up with him for a few minutes and leave. Went back to finish dinner with my wife and she jokingly asked how my man date went.

We met up again at PJ20 where I met Tiger and Be the match. Again, he just made you feel like you were buds. He was a whole lot smarter than I am but he was never obnoxious about it like some can be. Made you want to keep talking to him just to hear more stories or stuff he knew.

I once asked him if he wanted to catch a Ranger game with me since my son had gotten sick that day. Unfortunately, he was not able to that night.

 
As I mentioned before, Sean went to the hospital Thursday where they sedated him, and he never woke up. That said, he was not in a coma as I understand it, and while he was hooked up to too many machines, the Docs said that it's possible he was at least minimally aware of the surroundings.

I wouldn't make much of this, except for the fact that he lay there Thursday-Sun - we (his friends) only found out Sunday and literally within 90 minutes we were there... from Long Island, New Jersey and Westchester (which says something in and of itself. I was hosting a super bowl party and called it off literally minutes before people started to arrive, and everyone else had their SB plans too. But when we heard, we ran to Sean).

From a selfish perspective, I am so appreciative to have had the chance to say goodbye, even though that was not the point. The point was to let Sean know he was loved and his friends were there for him. We were allowed only 2 to the room at a time, but took turns.

I just wonder if he was, somehow, holding on. To hear not just the scared voices of his family, but those he chose to be with as friends, which brings me to that earlier post - because friends are those you CHOOSE to love.

Anyway, it reminded me in a way of my first brush with death. The dog I grew up with was ill and it was down to final days, or hours... my mother grabbed me while I was at my little league baseball game and said that if I wanted to say goodbye, I may need to go immediately.

And it was almost as if the dog that my parents bought 6 months prior to my birth, my friend and protector, waited for me. Within minutes of me returning home to comfort him as a scared 12 year old (he was a great Pyrenees, so 12-13 years on this planet is a good run) he passed. Peacefully. Maybe it's just self comfort, but we all felt, and still do, that Daphenes waited until I returned home for one last goodbye before letting go.

The doctors were surprised Sean survived as long as he did. They doubted he'd make it through one night, but here he made it from Thurs-Sun, when his friends found out and showed up. Gave him the love and support he had given us, so many times.

To know that barely 12 hours later he left us makes you wonder if he wanted or needed that final goodbye. I don't know. I'm about to lose it (again) on a ###### airplane just thinking about it, but it makes so much sense. It was time, for whatever reason, too early as it may have been, for him to go.

Thank god we at least all had a chance to see him, comfort him, be there for him. In a way, he wanted to be there for us, too. One last time.
That was beautful and very moving.
:goodposting: :(

 
Koya, my mom was in the hospital dying on a saturday and we were all there except my brother who was working. She was in the hospital for a week and my brother was there every day until that saturday. She was incoherent and basically unresponsive all week cuz of the meds. Then that saturday she started breathing heavily and you could tell something was different. She was dying. This went on for a few hours. My brother got to the hospital at 5pm that day and both my aunts arrived shortly after and she passed just a little while after.

Why am i mentioning this? Cuz i firmly believe she held on until we were all together and it sounds like Sean did the same thing for you and friends. I firmly believe he let you say your goodbyes.
In 2006 I was living in Europe. My dad was suffering from cancer and not doing well. My mom called and said you need to come home to the Bay Area. I said I would. Hospice caregiver said there was no way I'd get there on time. Took something like 36 hours to get home. Brother picked me and my then gf up at the airport. We drive an hour to home. I see my dad in bed. Family gives me privacy, I say a few things. I go out to the patio to get some air where the rest of my family was. Hospice caregiver comes over literally one to two minues later and says your father just passed away.The mind and the spirit are extremely powerful. TU waited. I'm sure of it.
:goodposting:

My grandmother, on her death bed, probably went about 3 days being only able to communicate through motions and even that was minimal.

Knowing her time was coming, my mother took me to see her one last time. I was 9 and ridiculously close to the woman. My mother was widowed when I was only a few months old and my grandmother picked up the slack and basically raised me while my mom worked full time. Even after mom remarried, I lived with my grandmother Sunday night through Friday afternoon because my parents lived outside of the school district.

Before getting there I was told what kind of state she was in, not to be surprised if she was asleep or if awake, unresponsive

When I walked in the room, her eyes lit up, and she rolled over onto her side to do her best to face me. When she asked me how I was doing my mom lost it. I think we ended up having a 15 minutes conversation, which I painfully remember very little of.

She died a couple of hours after I left.

:(

Is it March yet? I need a drink

 
One morning we came to get them and down the hall we heard the faint mating call of what we thought might be a wild animal. As we got to their door the sound was so piercing, the pictures on wall were vibrating. Zilla came to the door with his headgear, eyes bloodshot, craziest hair I've ever seen.

TU was snoring away, ZILLA or Tre said it sounded like a blue whale call, and we expected the mighty beasts to crash through the windows at any moment.

I never laughed so hard, it was the theme of the whole weekend. Mrrrrrrrrrrrrrioooooooooooootrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrooooooiooooooooooooo /TU

:lmao:
His snoring was indeed legendary. I remember bunking down in the family room of that rented rowhouse with me on one air mattress, Kraft on another (after he woke up from his toilet-sleep), and Upside on the couch. First thing Judd did when I walked in the house was toss me a pair of earplugs -- "Guarantee you're gonna need these, man." Unfortunately, those earplugs were no match for Sean.

 
I once asked him if he wanted to catch a Ranger game with me since my son had gotten sick that day. Unfortunately, he was not able to that night.
I'm gonna bet the Rangers to win the Stanley Cup every year from now until they win it. I'd do the same for the Jets, but Sean would be calling me an idiot for doing that. lol

 
One morning we came to get them and down the hall we heard the faint mating call of what we thought might be a wild animal. As we got to their door the sound was so piercing, the pictures on wall were vibrating. Zilla came to the door with his headgear, eyes bloodshot, craziest hair I've ever seen.

TU was snoring away, ZILLA or Tre said it sounded like a blue whale call, and we expected the mighty beasts to crash through the windows at any moment.

I never laughed so hard, it was the theme of the whole weekend. Mrrrrrrrrrrrrrioooooooooooootrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrooooooiooooooooooooo /TU

:lmao:
His snoring was indeed legendary. I remember bunking down in the family room of that rented rowhouse with me on one air mattress, Kraft on another (after he woke up from his toilet-sleep), and Upside on the couch. First thing Judd did when I walked in the house was toss me a pair of earplugs -- "Guarantee you're gonna need these, man." Unfortunately, those earplugs were no match for Sean.
Oh yeah, I remember that. That was the first time I had met him and TRE, well really all of you besides Zilla.

Sean really made himself at home that weekend. Stuff of legends. :lmao:

 
not very familiar with TU other than remembering his avatar, but seems like he was very well liked here and very sad to lose a member of this community. sorry I didn't get a chance to know him. prayers for TU and his family and friends.

 
So sorry to hear this guys. 37 is so #### young. It's amazing to me how many of you met him personally, and additionally how all of you really loved being with him. May he rest in peace.

 
I seriously love Sean, he was a great human and one of the nicest people you could ever meet. I didn't stay in touch as much as I should have, only the occasional text, and me and my wife (who also loves him) talked about going to NYC and meeting up with him, but never did. I regret that very much.

Koya, the way you describe your wife hitting it off with him is just how I feel when me and my wife met him. Maybe we all felt that way about him. I remember getting some great big hugs from him. I only hung out with him for two or three weekends in my life but feel like we would always be friends.

: (

 
TU and I were both huge Pearl Jam fans, and he was an active participant in the Pearl Jam thread. In 2007, Pearl Jam was scheduled to play Lollapolloza in Chicago on a Saturday night. He had already made arrangements to go to the show, I wasn't planning on it. A week before that the band announced a fan club only show for 1300 fans at the cozy Vic Theatre in Chicago the Thursday before. For a band that does a lot for it's fans, this was the first time they've done anything of the sort. A fan club only show in a small setting, was the holy grail for pearl jam fans. The show was announced on a Tuesday, and tickets were going to go on sale that Thursday.

Pearl Jam's online ticket system is a running joke, but TU always said that if he had one skill in life it was getting lucky with tickets online. We made a pact via PM (had never met at the time) that if I got tickets, he could come with me and vice versa.

Low and behold, he got tickets and I nervously made plans to book flights/hotels to go to a concert with a guy I met on the internet. Just to type of thing that you want to explain to your friends and family.

Long story short, the show was the best concert I've ever been to and the first of a bunch of PJ shows that I went with to Sean over the years.
I can tell you this, I think he mentioned you and the concerts you guys went to every time I met with him. Sounds like you guys and JZilla really had some good memories. I'm not a music guy so listening to him, Zilla, and Jet talk about all this obscure stuff was always entertaining. He was a music :nerd: for sure.

But he loved sports like I do, which is more than almost anyone else I know(TRE fits this category also). Plus he liked to drink and have fun.
Music, sports, drinking, having fun...sounds about right for TU. Like many, only had a few encounters, but they were all memorable. Until we meet again...

ETA: be sure to post if/when an NYC gathering occurs...would love to make that

 
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