Getting weird texts from ex-employer.. (1 Viewer)

[The Z Machine]

That sucks Jayrod. I hope this slimeball gets nailed somehow.

 

[McJose]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Yeah, I figured I'd get that.....Its not something I want to do, but had trouble stopping once it was a habit. I needed a little help and got it.

Back up.

 

[JbizzleMan]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Yeah, I figured I'd get that.....Its not something I want to do, but had trouble stopping once it was a habit. I needed a little help and got it.

Quitter.

 

[shadyridr]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

 

[Osaurus]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Yeah, I figured I'd get that.....Its not something I want to do, but had trouble stopping once it was a habit. I needed a little help and got it.

Quitter.

Ian Ziering?

 

[shadyridr]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Yeah, I figured I'd get that.....Its not something I want to do, but had trouble stopping once it was a habit. I needed a little help and got it.

Its called being a man. Oh well Ill move on.

 

[The Z Machine]

Tell us about struggling with photography. Was it the f-stops?

 

[James Daulton]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Here's what I've always been curious about, how much was so much that you figured it was time to get help? Couple times a day? Or was it mainly a religious thing where even once was not tolerable?

 

[JaxBill]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Here's what I've always been curious about, how much was so much that you figured it was time to get help? Couple times a day? Or was it mainly a religious thing where even once was not tolerable?

Anonymous notes on the front door of your house?

 

[Flying Spaghetti Monster]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Yeah, I figured I'd get that.....Its not something I want to do, but had trouble stopping once it was a habit. I needed a little help and got it.

Its called being a man. Oh well Ill move on.

Don't let them get you down Jayrod.If you have a porn addiction and got some help then good for you.

**Why do I get the feeling that I look at more porn in one weekend then Jayrod has in his entire episode, but I do not believe I have a problem?

 

[Jayrod]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Here's what I've always been curious about, how much was so much that you figured it was time to get help? Couple times a day? Or was it mainly a religious thing where even once was not tolerable?

A little of both. There were times when it was fairly regular (never really "daily"), but for me it is primarily religious and any time isn't tolerable. It got to be where I just couldn't stop myself at times and I was really frustrated. When you are on a computer you know isn't monitored, I always equate it to being in a house where there are a ton of hot naked women playing in the backyard and all you have to do is open the blinds to look. That window being so close and so easy to get to is too much for almost any man to withstand. I just basically needed someone else "in the room" so the temptation to look is easier to overcome.

 

[Jayrod]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Yeah, I figured I'd get that.....Its not something I want to do, but had trouble stopping once it was a habit. I needed a little help and got it.

Its called being a man. Oh well Ill move on.

Don't let them get you down Jayrod.If you have a porn addiction and got some help then good for you.

**Why do I get the feeling that I look at more porn in one weekend then Jayrod has in his entire episode, but I do not believe I have a problem?

Thanks.And I'm pretty sure I've looked at more than 72 hours worth of porn, for whatever that means.

 

[xulf]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Here's what I've always been curious about, how much was so much that you figured it was time to get help? Couple times a day? Or was it mainly a religious thing where even once was not tolerable?

A little of both. There were times when it was fairly regular (never really "daily"), but for me it is primarily religious and any time isn't tolerable. It got to be where I just couldn't stop myself at times and I was really frustrated. When you are on a computer you know isn't monitored, I always equate it to being in a house where there are a ton of hot naked women playing in the backyard and all you have to do is open the blinds to look. That window being so close and so easy to get to is too much for almost any man to withstand. I just basically needed someone else "in the room" so the temptation to look is easier to overcome.

If I were in the room --- i'd be pulling the blinds for you

 

[Jayrod]

OK, enough about me and porn and back to the lecture at hand...

Found out today that Tim's business has been evicted from their office/warehouse and there is a lawsuit filed from the bank that held the note on that building (somehow he had some kind of wraparound note with the original builder). Rumor is the building was sold on the courthouse steps.

A lot of this recent freakout is probably a response to that whole situation. Big blow to his fragile psyche to be kicked out of a building and sued (again).

 

[JbizzleMan]

Should we tell Jayrod that porn sites have mobile versions now?

 

[UOFI_316]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Here's what I've always been curious about, how much was so much that you figured it was time to get help? Couple times a day? Or was it mainly a religious thing where even once was not tolerable?

Anonymous notes on the front door of your house?

 

[Jayrod]

Should we tell Jayrod that porn sites have mobile versions now?

There is a mobile version of X3 watch....already covered there, man.

 

[Jayrod]

OK, enough about me and porn and back to the lecture at hand...Found out today that Tim's business has been evicted from their office/warehouse and there is a lawsuit filed from the bank that held the note on that building (somehow he had some kind of wraparound note with the original builder). Rumor is the building was sold on the courthouse steps.A lot of this recent freakout is probably a response to that whole situation. Big blow to his fragile psyche to be kicked out of a building and sued (again).

 

[James Daulton]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Here's what I've always been curious about, how much was so much that you figured it was time to get help? Couple times a day? Or was it mainly a religious thing where even once was not tolerable?

A little of both. There were times when it was fairly regular (never really "daily"), but for me it is primarily religious and any time isn't tolerable. It got to be where I just couldn't stop myself at times and I was really frustrated. When you are on a computer you know isn't monitored, I always equate it to being in a house where there are a ton of hot naked women playing in the backyard and all you have to do is open the blinds to look. That window being so close and so easy to get to is too much for almost any man to withstand. I just basically needed someone else "in the room" so the temptation to look is easier to overcome.

Thanks for the response homeboy.

 

[Rayderr]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Don't question Jayrod on this He's a master. (sorry, back to the pyscho boss that seriously needs to be sued.)

 

[Joe Summer]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Of the master variety?

 

[Jayrod]

<_<

 

[Grace Under Pressure]

You should be in touch with an attorney. He's threatening your professional livelihood. How many more steps is he away from posting all of this stuff publicly on the Internet, with your name, easily retrievable through a search? In retrospect, do you feel like he had this addiction thing held over your head, and now that it's out you can move forward with actively pursuing something? Because it seems like up until now you've been a bit reluctant to act. I'd have sued the crap out of this guy by now if my career/livelihood was at stake.

Hang in there and listen to professional legal advice. No one should have to go through this.

 

[flapgreen]

 

[Tick]

The next wave (all from today) are primarily about some emails he found in my company email. I had sent an email to my church about wanting to speak with a counselor about my struggles with pornography....then I had an internet monitor that sent emails of any offensive material to myself and a friend to keep me accountable. He is now trying to bate me by mocking this and calling me sick, a porn addict and a sex offender. This is about a 12 text continuous rant over the last 30 minutes.

Seems like this finally crossed the invisible line, and that you can start claiming harrassment.

 

[flapgreen]

Are you on the sex offender list? I don't see you in my neighborhood listing. thank goodness

 

[Jayrod]

Are you on the sex offender list? I don't see you in my neighborhood listing. thank goodness

I'm pretty sure if there was a list of offenders for what I've done, there wouldn't be a database large enough to list all the names.

 

[Jayrod]

You should be in touch with an attorney. He's threatening your professional livelihood. How many more steps is he away from posting all of this stuff publicly on the Internet, with your name, easily retrievable through a search? In retrospect, do you feel like he had this addiction thing held over your head, and now that it's out you can move forward with actively pursuing something? Because it seems like up until now you've been a bit reluctant to act. I'd have sued the crap out of this guy by now if my career/livelihood was at stake. Hang in there and listen to professional legal advice. No one should have to go through this.

I've never been afraid of the porn issue becoming public. My wife knows about it already and the only proof he has is that I sought out some help from my church about 4 years ago. Not exactly anything incriminating.I haven't pursued anything against the guy, because I just want him to go away. Starting a lawsuit (since all I have to this point have been civil complaints), seemed to run counter to that. I tried the restraining order thing and didn't get it granted because he wasn't threatening me "physically". In Missouri the law requires a physical threat before any order can be granted. So here I am, getting annoyed to death through text and email, by a guy who has nothing for me to legally threaten him with. He already has more judgements issued against him than his total net worth and a new suit filed by another entity every couple of months. I'd just be wasting my own time and money to go that route.Mostly, this thread is just for my own therapy and your entertainment. I hope you guys are enjoying it!

 

[Jayrod]

Still waiting for a call back from the lawyer I tried to call yesterday. He was in court yesterday and wasn't in yet this morning when I called.

 

[stbugs]

You should be in touch with an attorney. He's threatening your professional livelihood. How many more steps is he away from posting all of this stuff publicly on the Internet, with your name, easily retrievable through a search? In retrospect, do you feel like he had this addiction thing held over your head, and now that it's out you can move forward with actively pursuing something? Because it seems like up until now you've been a bit reluctant to act. I'd have sued the crap out of this guy by now if my career/livelihood was at stake.

Hang in there and listen to professional legal advice. No one should have to go through this.

I've never been afraid of the porn issue becoming public. My wife knows about it already and the only proof he has is that I sought out some help from my church about 4 years ago. Not exactly anything incriminating.I haven't pursued anything against the guy, because I just want him to go away. Starting a lawsuit (since all I have to this point have been civil complaints), seemed to run counter to that. I tried the restraining order thing and didn't get it granted because he wasn't threatening me "physically". In Missouri the law requires a physical threat before any order can be granted. So here I am, getting annoyed to death through text and email, by a guy who has nothing for me to legally threaten him with. He already has more judgements issued against him than his total net worth and a new suit filed by another entity every couple of months. I'd just be wasting my own time and money to go that route.

Mostly, this thread is just for my own therapy and your entertainment. I hope you guys are enjoying it!

I agree with the bolded. From your posts above, you would not be able to retrieve anything in compensation, even the money already owed. The only worry is the smearing your name, not for the current job as it seems everyone there knows what he is doing, but for future work. I would absolutely keep track of every bit of information and if it continues, keep contacting the police/attorney about what you could do. Even if they can't do anything to stop him, at least there is a more "public" account of it.Needless to say, I hope this works out. I don't think people who haven't gone through something like this realize how draining this can be in addition to the normal work and family time. It will always be on your mind until it goes away. I remember my wife's mom passing away last year and that was incredibly tough and draining on the entire family with everything my wife did before and after for her mom. This has been going on for a long time for you and sure doesn't seem like it will be over anytime soon.

 

[Black Box]

This may be extreme, but can you change your email/cell phone number? It might get to a point where it would be worth it.

 

[jomar]

When you are on a computer you know isn't monitored, I always equate it to being in a house where there are a ton of hot naked women playing in the backyard and all you have to do is open the blinds to look. That window being so close and so easy to get to is too much for almost any man to withstand. I just basically needed someone else "in the room" so the temptation to look is easier to overcome.

what's funny is that someone has convinced you it's wrong to open the blinds....

 

[Jayrod]

This may be extreme, but can you change your email/cell phone number? It might get to a point where it would be worth it.

Contemplated it, but 1) it would be a HUGE pain in the ### & 2) it would feel like he had "won" a little. I'm already using all restraint I can just to keep from replying to him. On this I can't give in. I'm not changing anything. My cell phone number and email address have been in place for about a decade.

 

[Jayrod]

When you are on a computer you know isn't monitored, I always equate it to being in a house where there are a ton of hot naked women playing in the backyard and all you have to do is open the blinds to look. That window being so close and so easy to get to is too much for almost any man to withstand. I just basically needed someone else "in the room" so the temptation to look is easier to overcome.

what's funny is that someone has convinced you it's wrong to open the blinds....

Not what we are doing here.

 

[Rayderr]

You might've covered this earlier in the thread, but how does he keep finding out where you are working?

 

[Jayrod]

You might've covered this earlier in the thread, but how does he keep finding out where you are working?

Job last year.....I'm guessing internet search which led to the company website. If you googled my name, it came up on the first page.This job.....I'm fairly certain he has some program which can track emails. He sent an email to my boss, who forwarded it to me in our company email system (firstinitiallastname@cpafirmname.biz). Within the hour, someone called the office asking for me and hung up before I took the call. Then my boss gets an email an hour later saying he had learned I worked here. My current boss was the CPA for the company for about a year. We knew it would create a crapstorm of hate once he found out I worked here, but didn't know he'd find out so soon.

 

[wadegarrett]

Why don't you make up a fake "AUTO REPLY: Delivery to the following recipient failed permanently: XXX-XXX-XXXX. Technical details of permanent failure: The cell phone account that you tried to reach does not exist." message and reply that to every text he sends? Mr. Crazy might actually buy it.

 

[Zegras11]

You should be in touch with an attorney. He's threatening your professional livelihood. How many more steps is he away from posting all of this stuff publicly on the Internet, with your name, easily retrievable through a search? In retrospect, do you feel like he had this addiction thing held over your head, and now that it's out you can move forward with actively pursuing something? Because it seems like up until now you've been a bit reluctant to act. I'd have sued the crap out of this guy by now if my career/livelihood was at stake.

Hang in there and listen to professional legal advice. No one should have to go through this.

I've never been afraid of the porn issue becoming public. My wife knows about it already and the only proof he has is that I sought out some help from my church about 4 years ago. Not exactly anything incriminating.I haven't pursued anything against the guy, because I just want him to go away. Starting a lawsuit (since all I have to this point have been civil complaints), seemed to run counter to that. I tried the restraining order thing and didn't get it granted because he wasn't threatening me "physically". In Missouri the law requires a physical threat before any order can be granted. So here I am, getting annoyed to death through text and email, by a guy who has nothing for me to legally threaten him with. He already has more judgements issued against him than his total net worth and a new suit filed by another entity every couple of months. I'd just be wasting my own time and money to go that route.

Mostly, this thread is just for my own therapy and your entertainment. I hope you guys are enjoying it!

I hear changing your phone number and e-mail address can possibly end those forms of communicating.

 

[McJose]

This title seems appropriate

 

[xulf]

Send him some flowers with a note wishing him the best of luck.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Found out today that Tim's business has been evicted from their office/warehouse and there is a lawsuit filed from the bank that held the note on that building (somehow he had some kind of wraparound note with the original builder). Rumor is the building was sold on the courthouse steps.A lot of this recent freakout is probably a response to that whole situation. Big blow to his fragile psyche to be kicked out of a building and sued (again).

Craigslist ad...For sale: Office building located at <Tim's former business address>Owners are in financial distress, and this property will likely sell at substantial discount.Call: <Insert Tim's Phone Number> to inquire. Please reference the property's address specifically.

 

[Black Box]

This may be extreme, but can you change your email/cell phone number? It might get to a point where it would be worth it.

Contemplated it, but 1) it would be a HUGE pain in the ### & 2) it would feel like he had "won" a little. I'm already using all restraint I can just to keep from replying to him. On this I can't give in. I'm not changing anything. My cell phone number and email address have been in place for about a decade.

Changing an email address is actually pretty nice. You'll have a fresh start, no spam, and you can send out the new address only to the people you want contacting you.Keep the old address open to save all his crazy emails should you need them. Sounds like a winning move to me!As for the cell phone, can you contact your carrier to have his number blocked?

 

[Jayrod]

Send him some flowers with a note wishing him the best of luck.

Now that is the kind of thing I would like to do.

 

[Jayrod]

This may be extreme, but can you change your email/cell phone number? It might get to a point where it would be worth it.

Contemplated it, but 1) it would be a HUGE pain in the ### & 2) it would feel like he had "won" a little. I'm already using all restraint I can just to keep from replying to him. On this I can't give in. I'm not changing anything. My cell phone number and email address have been in place for about a decade.

Changing an email address is actually pretty nice. You'll have a fresh start, no spam, and you can send out the new address only to the people you want contacting you.Keep the old address open to save all his crazy emails should you need them. Sounds like a winning move to me!As for the cell phone, can you contact your carrier to have his number blocked?

Can't block spoofed calls. They show up as "private" or another number entirely. The only way I know his real number is from his slew of recent texts (didn't bother to spoof those).ETA: also, I don't want to change my new company e-mail...which is what he is using.

 

[Black Box]

This may be extreme, but can you change your email/cell phone number? It might get to a point where it would be worth it.

Contemplated it, but 1) it would be a HUGE pain in the ### & 2) it would feel like he had "won" a little. I'm already using all restraint I can just to keep from replying to him. On this I can't give in. I'm not changing anything. My cell phone number and email address have been in place for about a decade.

Changing an email address is actually pretty nice. You'll have a fresh start, no spam, and you can send out the new address only to the people you want contacting you.Keep the old address open to save all his crazy emails should you need them. Sounds like a winning move to me!As for the cell phone, can you contact your carrier to have his number blocked?

Can't block spoofed calls. They show up as "private" or another number entirely. The only way I know his real number is from his slew of recent texts (didn't bother to spoof those).ETA: also, I don't want to change my new company e-mail...which is what he is using.

Yeah, you're screwed. Send him the flowers and a nice note.

 

[LarryAllen'sJockstrap]

This may be extreme, but can you change your email/cell phone number? It might get to a point where it would be worth it.

Contemplated it, but 1) it would be a HUGE pain in the ### & 2) it would feel like he had "won" a little. I'm already using all restraint I can just to keep from replying to him. On this I can't give in. I'm not changing anything. My cell phone number and email address have been in place for about a decade.

Changing an email address is actually pretty nice. You'll have a fresh start, no spam, and you can send out the new address only to the people you want contacting you.Keep the old address open to save all his crazy emails should you need them. Sounds like a winning move to me!As for the cell phone, can you contact your carrier to have his number blocked?

Can't block spoofed calls. They show up as "private" or another number entirely. The only way I know his real number is from his slew of recent texts (didn't bother to spoof those).ETA: also, I don't want to change my new company e-mail...which is what he is using.

From all the stories you tell, unless this is a reaaaaaly long fishing trip, this guy is straight up stalking you. Being a man with a wife and kid, I wouldn't stand for it myself. What's the end game here? You think he is going to get tired of it and go away? I'm not sure what I would do off the top of my head, but it wouldn't be to sit around and wait for this guy to snap or ruin my life. What do you plan on doing about it?

 

[Jayrod]

This may be extreme, but can you change your email/cell phone number? It might get to a point where it would be worth it.

Contemplated it, but 1) it would be a HUGE pain in the ### & 2) it would feel like he had "won" a little. I'm already using all restraint I can just to keep from replying to him. On this I can't give in. I'm not changing anything. My cell phone number and email address have been in place for about a decade.

Changing an email address is actually pretty nice. You'll have a fresh start, no spam, and you can send out the new address only to the people you want contacting you.Keep the old address open to save all his crazy emails should you need them. Sounds like a winning move to me!As for the cell phone, can you contact your carrier to have his number blocked?

Can't block spoofed calls. They show up as "private" or another number entirely. The only way I know his real number is from his slew of recent texts (didn't bother to spoof those).ETA: also, I don't want to change my new company e-mail...which is what he is using.

Yeah, you're screwed. Send him the flowers and a nice note.

The best part about all of this is that I keep realizing that he can do nothing to me but this silly juvenile crap. If he could have, he would have by now. Every single threat has gone unfulfilled. Flowers and a nice note would be a great way to just mock him and show how feeble his attempts have been.

 

[Giant Wooden Badger]

Make it a sympathy card.

 

[UOFI_316]

Have your new boss send Tim an email that thanks to all the info he forwarded to him you no longer work there. Or set up an auto respond on your email that bounces back to him that the email is no longer valid or something.

 

[Jayrod]

From all the stories you tell, unless this is a reaaaaaly long fishing trip, this guy is straight up stalking you. Being a man with a wife and kid, I wouldn't stand for it myself. What's the end game here? You think he is going to get tired of it and go away? I'm not sure what I would do off the top of my head, but it wouldn't be to sit around and wait for this guy to snap or ruin my life. What do you plan on doing about it?

I'm consulting a lawyer on just that (if he'll ever call me). I'm doing something, trust me. This last barrage of activity has crossed lines he hadn't crossed before (i.e. texting again, more activity than before and getting personal).I want to send a strong message, but want to be as smart and efficient as possible with it. I'm 90% sure I will be having my lawyer send him a stern letter with some threats and demands to cease contact. The question is do I sue for libel and if so, how much will it cost me? I think he is actually running out of cash and lawyers who will work form him. Hard to juggle 3-5 cases at a time financially with a failing business.