Didn't want to start a separate thread since he knows I post here. Tell me how mad I should be about all this.
I have a 14 year old nephew who lived with us for every summer for the past 5 years. Back in November he needed somewhere to live since his mother couldn't take care of him. She is most likely bi-polar (no one really knows here official diagnosis) and is a convicted felon for breaking into houses and stealing people's identities to take out credit cards in their names. His mother didn't get him enrolled into high school for at least two months after school started. By the time he got in he was so behind that he was failing all his classes and didn't finish the last three weeks of the first semester once he got here.
His dad lives here but has zero interest in raising his son so we told him in (we live in the same town as his dad). He also has a grandmother and aunt who live here as well. He lived with us from November to this past June. I spent hours every night making sure he did his homework (which was like pulling teeth) and helped with all of the emotional issues he was going through. On top of him being behind in school he also has social anxiety so I had to counsel him on that as well, not easy believe me. I took him to a psychologist but then his dad didn't think he needed it (or rather didn't want to pay).
By the end of the semester he had a B average in all his classes except Algebra and Spanish, which he was going to make up in summer school. I talked to his counselor and figured how to get him those classes so he could be a sophomore in the fall. He was also in the best state of mind I've ever seen him - upbeat about doing well in school, starting to make friends at school and a little better with his anxiety.
However, right after his year was over his mother wanted him to come visit her in Alabama (we're in CA). Everyone knew what was going to happen but we couldn't stop him from going back and his dad didn't care since it meant less work for him (he was coming to our house every morning to pick him up from school and would drop him off every afternoon).
Once he was back there we never heard from him again. After he didn't make the flight he was supposed to take back his dad (claiming to be upset) said there was nothing he could do since she technically had custody. Apparently he agreed to stay there, miss summer school, and start over as a freshman.
Now here's the part that drives me crazy. I was really close to this kid and spend a lot of time with him and doing everything I could for him. However, he hasn't called and won't even reply to the message I sent on Facebook (I believe he's actually blocked me now since I can't see the last time he was on FB). I texted his mom when the whole thing was happening with him staying there and she said would contact me 'when he's ready'.
I'm torn because I know he's going through a lot and even though he made the decision to stay his mother has a strong (daresay creepy) influence over him. However, I can't get past how disrespectful it is to leave the way he did after living in our house for nearly a year (from May of last year to this June he lives with us 10 out of 12 months).
You guys know all - advice on how to deal with this?