I've got a good buddy that lives in Portland with his girl friend. They moved in together about a year ago. They've dated about 2 years now...little more, in fact. He has a 4 year old son from another lady (never married) who stays with them a few days during the week and every other weekend. They love living the fast life, are very image conscious, snobby about what the eat and drink and selective about who they surround themselves with (though in my case, I get a pass from being his friend before she came into the picture....I'm fairly certain she hates me...probably because I took all her mushrooms she was saving in the freezer when she was out of town...or because I sloppily hit on her while going through my divorce but BEFORE they were ever dating...I digress).
She travels quite a bit and probably makes twice to three times the money he makes. The reason I mention this is because without her, my buddy would be living in a tiny apartment and his social calendar would largely center around married guys like me who enjoy low-brow fare and wearing slippers. She's his lifeline in many regards.
So with all that said, she recently went out of town. My buddy, home alone one night with nothing better to do, hopped on to their shared lap top and surfed around the innertubes for pron. As he bounced from site to site, pop-up ads from Adult Friend Finder tagged along and despite his heavy objections that he was NEVER really setting out to visit that site, the site address got lodged in his cache...or something. He thought nothing of it, did what so many men set out to do on the web when their real lovers are out of town (or out of the room, in some cases

) and upon conclusion, thought it wise to erase his activity for the night.
Upon her return, the GF heads to the laptop and realizes the history has been deleted. Suspicious, she decides to confront him about it. He admits to looking at pron and wanting to be decent enough to hide his activity out of respect to her since they shared the computer. Now normally, this would be the end of the argument, especially if one were married to a normal, rational woman. What happened next is, IMO, irrational and abnormal.
She refused to believe my buddy's accounts of what happened and decided that she would TAKE THE LAPTOP INTO HER WORK PLACE AND ASK HER IT DEAPARTMENT (MANY OF WHOM HAD MET HER BF) AND HAD THEM SEARCH THE FREAKING HARD DRIVE CSI STYLE!!!!
Well, it didn't take her crack staff long before they discovered the Adult Friend Finder content. She, being the pure little vessel of joy that she is, had never HEARD of this website before and upon learning on what it was, well....she freaked the freak out. I mean, she didn't come home for two nights. She was ready to end everything. She wasn't about to believe that those sites would just 'pop up' out of the blue. He begged and pleaded with her....HE SAID HE WOULD GO TO SEX THERAPY!!!!
He told me this story over a few beers. Anybody remember Eddie Murphy's bit on "
Amityville Horror" from the early 80s? All I could say to my buddy was "GET OUT!!"
Not that I'm the master of realizing when to exit a toxic relationship, but man....this isn't the right color flag she's pulling up the pole.