GM's thread about nothing (32 Viewers)

[Sarnoff]

Plus I think my profile and pictures need some real work.

There's some good advice on profile construction in the iDating thread. OKCupid's blog has some terrific data on how to select the best pictures. Stuff like "women prefer photographs with a narrow depth-of-field and in which the man is looking off to the side, rather than right into the camera."Plus, they have a free service where you submit a bunch of photos and they run them past women and send you back the data on exactly what pictures work best on which women, and which one is best on specifically the type of woman you're trying to attract. Stuff like "This photo was rated best by indie chicks aged 20-30. This photo was rated best by conservative women aged 30-40. This photo was rated best by women that meet your selected preferences", etc. I took that report, some advice from the iDating thread, and some other tidbits I'd dug up and ended up picking 5 pictures that ended up working better than any previous online dating attempt. Considering what a un-handsome fellow I am, it was worth taking some time and figuring out what works.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

 

[Bogart]

Plus I think my profile and pictures need some real work.

There's some good advice on profile construction in the iDating thread. OKCupid's blog has some terrific data on how to select the best pictures. Stuff like "women prefer photographs with a narrow depth-of-field and in which the man is looking off to the side, rather than right into the camera."Plus, they have a free service where you submit a bunch of photos and they run them past women and send you back the data on exactly what pictures work best on which women, and which one is best on specifically the type of woman you're trying to attract. Stuff like "This photo was rated best by indie chicks aged 20-30. This photo was rated best by conservative women aged 30-40. This photo was rated best by women that meet your selected preferences", etc. I took that report, some advice from the iDating thread, and some other tidbits I'd dug up and ended up picking 5 pictures that ended up working better than any previous online dating attempt. Considering what a un-handsome fellow I am, it was worth taking some time and figuring out what works.

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

Both of these are tremendous pieces of advice. Thanks GBs.

 

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can't believe this was still available.

 

[Bogart]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

Drunk chicks with low self esteem ftw.

Do those girls wear a nametag or special hat or something? It would make picking them out easier.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

Drunk chicks with low self esteem ftw.

Do those girls wear a nametag or special hat or something? It would make picking them out easier.

Just start with all drunk girls and pare down from there.

 

[-fish-]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

Drunk chicks with low self esteem ftw.

Do those girls wear a nametag or special hat or something? It would make picking them out easier.

Just start with all drunk girls and pare down from there.

doesn't get much better than this advice.

 

[-fish-]

Plus I think my profile and pictures need some real work.

There's some good advice on profile construction in the iDating thread. OKCupid's blog has some terrific data on how to select the best pictures. Stuff like "women prefer photographs with a narrow depth-of-field and in which the man is looking off to the side, rather than right into the camera."Plus, they have a free service where you submit a bunch of photos and they run them past women and send you back the data on exactly what pictures work best on which women, and which one is best on specifically the type of woman you're trying to attract. Stuff like "This photo was rated best by indie chicks aged 20-30. This photo was rated best by conservative women aged 30-40. This photo was rated best by women that meet your selected preferences", etc. I took that report, some advice from the iDating thread, and some other tidbits I'd dug up and ended up picking 5 pictures that ended up working better than any previous online dating attempt. Considering what a un-handsome fellow I am, it was worth taking some time and figuring out what works.

This runs against some of the advice I read, but when I added one or two pics of me with the twentysomethings I got a lot more responses and a lot more women contacting me.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Can you post a shot video as your avatar? That would rule.

 

[General Malaise]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

Drunk chicks with low self esteem ftw.

Do those girls wear a nametag or special hat or something? It would make picking them out easier.

Yup. They call them "Cigarettes", though you might need to start looking for them outside with all the smoking bans.

 

[Corky]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

Drunk chicks with low self esteem ftw.

Do those girls wear a nametag or special hat or something? It would make picking them out easier.

Yup. They call them "Cigarettes", though you might need to start looking for them outside with all the smoking bans.

And tramp stamps too. Quite the lethal combination...

 

[Bogart]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

Drunk chicks with low self esteem ftw.

Do those girls wear a nametag or special hat or something? It would make picking them out easier.

Yup. They call them "Cigarettes", though you might need to start looking for them outside with all the smoking bans.

We have had this conversation. I really need to write things down.

 

[General Malaise]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

Drunk chicks with low self esteem ftw.

Do those girls wear a nametag or special hat or something? It would make picking them out easier.

Yup. They call them "Cigarettes", though you might need to start looking for them outside with all the smoking bans.

We have had this conversation. I really need to write things down.

You're going about it the right way. Bars are notoriously the WORST place in the world to look for chicks, though the advice does have merit if you are simply looking for a warm place to put it. Hit the dating websites hard and don't be afraid to take chances. Most guys (hell, most people) have a fear of rejection, but the online dating sites help remove the sting somewhat. Better to hear nothing back than a stern "NO". Just go out there and be open to anything. An afternoon coffee is an easy sell for most busy grown-ups, especially those with kids. Much easier to get away from the office for 20-40 minutes than it is to arrange child care coverage for a date.Set your expectation bar really low and don't rule anybody out based on what you see in pictures. Be enthusiastic without seeming desperate. If you aren't a good listener (and you certainly seem like one to me) develop that skill and learn how to ask open ended questions. Find common ground and common interests and drill down on those - they are your best bet for advancing the first encounter to a second and beyond.

And if I had to do it all over again as a single guy (going back to when I was in my early 20s), I'd spend MUCH LESS time hitting the bars looking for girls and would spend far more time on co-ed sports teams, enrolling in Body Pumps at the gym and joining some sort of group, whether that be a group that hikes, bikes, runs, sails, canoes...they're all over the place and I think they are the best way to get to know somebody better. Especially the walking groups. Plenty of time to make small talk without seeming predatory.

 

[General Malaise]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

Drunk chicks with low self esteem ftw.

Do those girls wear a nametag or special hat or something? It would make picking them out easier.

Yup. They call them "Cigarettes", though you might need to start looking for them outside with all the smoking bans.

We have had this conversation. I really need to write things down.

You're going about it the right way. Bars are notoriously the WORST place in the world to look for chicks, though the advice does have merit if you are simply looking for a warm place to put it. Hit the dating websites hard and don't be afraid to take chances. Most guys (hell, most people) have a fear of rejection, but the online dating sites help remove the sting somewhat. Better to hear nothing back than a stern "NO". Just go out there and be open to anything. An afternoon coffee is an easy sell for most busy grown-ups, especially those with kids. Much easier to get away from the office for 20-40 minutes than it is to arrange child care coverage for a date.Set your expectation bar really low and don't rule anybody out based on what you see in pictures. Be enthusiastic without seeming desperate. If you aren't a good listener (and you certainly seem like one to me) develop that skill and learn how to ask open ended questions. Find common ground and common interests and drill down on those - they are your best bet for advancing the first encounter to a second and beyond.

And if I had to do it all over again as a single guy (going back to when I was in my early 20s), I'd spend MUCH LESS time hitting the bars looking for girls and would spend far more time on co-ed sports teams, enrolling in Body Pumps at the gym and joining some sort of group, whether that be a group that hikes, bikes, runs, sails, canoes...they're all over the place and I think they are the best way to get to know somebody better. Especially the walking groups. Plenty of time to make small talk without seeming predatory.

Oh, and BE FUNNY! Funny sells. You seem like a very clever and funny guy online, so work on that and don't be afraid to crack jokes - even if you fear their irreverence. You might offend along the way, but you'll eventually find somebody who appreciates your humor and ability to push the envelope with jokes.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Great, GM is trying to get him married again already.

 

[Corky]

Why on god's green earth would you want to get married AGAIN?

There are throngs of lonely women out there looking for companionship for a night/weekend/month...

no need to look for just one to make you miserable.

(sorry, GM. I know this has worked for you. YMMV)

 

[General Malaise]

Great, GM is trying to get him married again already.

I TOLD HIM TO FIND THE SMOKERS!!!!!111

 

[General Malaise]

Why on god's green earth would you want to get married AGAIN? There are throngs of lonely women out there looking for companionship for a night/weekend/month...no need to look for just one to make you miserable.(sorry, GM. I know this has worked for you. YMMV)

I lived in Dallas for half my life, so I feel pretty comfortable noting that many of them are VERY superficial and if seeking companionship, are looking for dudes who resemble Troy Aikman. The advice to waltz into a Dallas bar and plunk out drunk ladies for a night of sex will work when applied to Disco Stu, but it isn't going to work for all males.I also get the sense that Bogie is working on a limited budget. Going out to bars to seek companionship for a night is not a free endeavor and nobody is going to go home with a guy sucking down Diet Cokes. Plus, if you take the Rob Deer, shot-gun approach to this, there will be far more whiffs than 4-baggers. Those dry runs will eat into his budget in a hurry.All that said, if he's just looking for booty, then by all means, hammer the bars hard and look for the low-hanging fruit.

 

[Buck Bradcanon]

Booty.

 

[Corky]

Why on god's green earth would you want to get married AGAIN? There are throngs of lonely women out there looking for companionship for a night/weekend/month...no need to look for just one to make you miserable.(sorry, GM. I know this has worked for you. YMMV)

I lived in Dallas for half my life, so I feel pretty comfortable noting that many of them are VERY superficial and if seeking companionship, are looking for dudes who resemble Troy Aikman. The advice to waltz into a Dallas bar and plunk out drunk ladies for a night of sex will work when applied to Disco Stu, but it isn't going to work for all males.I also get the sense that Bogie is working on a limited budget. Going out to bars to seek companionship for a night is not a free endeavor and nobody is going to go home with a guy sucking down Diet Cokes. Plus, if you take the Rob Deer, shot-gun approach to this, there will be far more whiffs than 4-baggers. Those dry runs will eat into his budget in a hurry.All that said, if he's just looking for booty, then by all means, hammer the bars hard and look for the low-hanging fruit.

You ignored the fundamental question at the beginning of all of this.

 

[Corky]

THIS TIME I'M SURE SHE'S NOT CRAZY

 

[General Malaise]

Why on god's green earth would you want to get married AGAIN? There are throngs of lonely women out there looking for companionship for a night/weekend/month...no need to look for just one to make you miserable.(sorry, GM. I know this has worked for you. YMMV)

I lived in Dallas for half my life, so I feel pretty comfortable noting that many of them are VERY superficial and if seeking companionship, are looking for dudes who resemble Troy Aikman. The advice to waltz into a Dallas bar and plunk out drunk ladies for a night of sex will work when applied to Disco Stu, but it isn't going to work for all males.I also get the sense that Bogie is working on a limited budget. Going out to bars to seek companionship for a night is not a free endeavor and nobody is going to go home with a guy sucking down Diet Cokes. Plus, if you take the Rob Deer, shot-gun approach to this, there will be far more whiffs than 4-baggers. Those dry runs will eat into his budget in a hurry.All that said, if he's just looking for booty, then by all means, hammer the bars hard and look for the low-hanging fruit.

You ignored the fundamental question at the beginning of all of this.

Which was?

 

[Mr.Pack]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

craigslist ads IMO

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

If you talk to them, they will come. /pornversionoffieldofdreams

 

[-fish-]

THIS TIME I'M SURE SHE'S NOT CRAZY

 

[SofaKings]

10 weeks of teaching 6th graders in a catholic school is finally over. I was able to throw out some goodbyes(fellow teachers) and "God Bless"(to administrators) as I left the building this afternoon. Laughed maniacally all the way to my car. SINNNERSSSS!

Had a principal with great ideas but the interpersonal and communication skillz of LHUCKS. Every day was a chore, trapped by teachers in the 6th grade alcove who did nothing but ##### all day long about the principal and the kids. One actually yelled at me during a take cover drill and I walked over to her, stuck my finger in her face and said "don't ever yell at me in front of my students again, you are the most negative person I've ever met and you should be pounding the pavement looking for a job". Nice as punch to me the last two weeks of the year. And she's been there for 9+ years. #####.

I said "damn" in the course of a lecture in a direct quote. Entire class became quiet and girls had their hands over their mouths while the boys looked like cosjobs might look after getting a pkg in the mail from GM. So I just yelled DAMN DAMN DAMN DAMN DAMN for 15 seconds. They got over it.

Not a chance in hell those kids are learning more(well maybe in religion)than the same students in public school in my area.

Not sure what to do if they call me regarding next year at the end of this week.

It's great to be back.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Sofa

 

[Marvin]

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

 

[madhatter]

Plus I think my profile and pictures need some real work.

There's some good advice on profile construction in the iDating thread. OKCupid's blog has some terrific data on how to select the best pictures. Stuff like "women prefer photographs with a narrow depth-of-field and in which the man is looking off to the side, rather than right into the camera."Plus, they have a free service where you submit a bunch of photos and they run them past women and send you back the data on exactly what pictures work best on which women, and which one is best on specifically the type of woman you're trying to attract. Stuff like "This photo was rated best by indie chicks aged 20-30. This photo was rated best by conservative women aged 30-40. This photo was rated best by women that meet your selected preferences", etc. I took that report, some advice from the iDating thread, and some other tidbits I'd dug up and ended up picking 5 pictures that ended up working better than any previous online dating attempt. Considering what a un-handsome fellow I am, it was worth taking some time and figuring out what works.

Seems like a lot of work to meet a crazy person.

 

[General Malaise]

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

Womens Correctional Facility?

 

[Bogart]

Bogart> I'd just start looking for drunk chicks at bars.

craigslist ads IMO

I couldn't get through all the spam and pseudo-spam. Maybe if I posted my own ad.

 

[Corky]

Why on god's green earth would you want to get married AGAIN? There are throngs of lonely women out there looking for companionship for a night/weekend/month...no need to look for just one to make you miserable.(sorry, GM. I know this has worked for you. YMMV)

I lived in Dallas for half my life, so I feel pretty comfortable noting that many of them are VERY superficial and if seeking companionship, are looking for dudes who resemble Troy Aikman. The advice to waltz into a Dallas bar and plunk out drunk ladies for a night of sex will work when applied to Disco Stu, but it isn't going to work for all males.I also get the sense that Bogie is working on a limited budget. Going out to bars to seek companionship for a night is not a free endeavor and nobody is going to go home with a guy sucking down Diet Cokes. Plus, if you take the Rob Deer, shot-gun approach to this, there will be far more whiffs than 4-baggers. Those dry runs will eat into his budget in a hurry.All that said, if he's just looking for booty, then by all means, hammer the bars hard and look for the low-hanging fruit.

You ignored the fundamental question at the beginning of all of this.

Which was?

Why on god's green earth would you want to get married AGAIN?

 

[General Malaise]

Why on god's green earth would you want to get married AGAIN? There are throngs of lonely women out there looking for companionship for a night/weekend/month...no need to look for just one to make you miserable.(sorry, GM. I know this has worked for you. YMMV)

I lived in Dallas for half my life, so I feel pretty comfortable noting that many of them are VERY superficial and if seeking companionship, are looking for dudes who resemble Troy Aikman. The advice to waltz into a Dallas bar and plunk out drunk ladies for a night of sex will work when applied to Disco Stu, but it isn't going to work for all males.I also get the sense that Bogie is working on a limited budget. Going out to bars to seek companionship for a night is not a free endeavor and nobody is going to go home with a guy sucking down Diet Cokes. Plus, if you take the Rob Deer, shot-gun approach to this, there will be far more whiffs than 4-baggers. Those dry runs will eat into his budget in a hurry.All that said, if he's just looking for booty, then by all means, hammer the bars hard and look for the low-hanging fruit.

You ignored the fundamental question at the beginning of all of this.

Which was?

Why on god's green earth would you want to get married AGAIN?

I NEVER SAID HE NEEDED TO DROP DOWN ON A KNEE AND PROPOSE!!!111111It's just that some guys need to exhaust more options than bar hopping to slay some tail. He can serial date without getting married.

 

[Marvin]

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

Womens Correctional Facility?

I give you a hint. Everybody's been there.

 

[General Malaise]

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

Womens Correctional Facility?

I give you a hint. Everybody's been there.

the womb?

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

Womens Correctional Facility?

I give you a hint. Everybody's been there.

Disneyworld?

 

[-fish-]

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

Womens Correctional Facility?

I give you a hint. Everybody's been there.

Crenshaw Sunday Nights?

 

[Frostillicus]

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

Womens Correctional Facility?

I give you a hint. Everybody's been there.

Target?

 

[Corky]

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

Womens Correctional Facility?

I give you a hint. Everybody's been there.

Mrs. Dancing Bones?

 

[Marvin]

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

Womens Correctional Facility?

I give you a hint. Everybody's been there.

Crenshaw Sunday Nights?

No... Y'all way off.

 

[Marvin]

The church.

 

[Corky]

The church.

Some sacrifices are too big.

 

[Bogart]

The church.

My first long term relationship was met through a church. I have been invited to a "singles event" at a local church.I just don't see me going that way right now.

 

[Sarnoff]

Plus I think my profile and pictures need some real work.

There's some good advice on profile construction in the iDating thread. OKCupid's blog has some terrific data on how to select the best pictures. Stuff like "women prefer photographs with a narrow depth-of-field and in which the man is looking off to the side, rather than right into the camera."Plus, they have a free service where you submit a bunch of photos and they run them past women and send you back the data on exactly what pictures work best on which women, and which one is best on specifically the type of woman you're trying to attract. Stuff like "This photo was rated best by indie chicks aged 20-30. This photo was rated best by conservative women aged 30-40. This photo was rated best by women that meet your selected preferences", etc. I took that report, some advice from the iDating thread, and some other tidbits I'd dug up and ended up picking 5 pictures that ended up working better than any previous online dating attempt. Considering what a un-handsome fellow I am, it was worth taking some time and figuring out what works.

Seems like a lot of work to meet a crazy person.

I am unaware that the model is also available in sane.

 

[General Malaise]

Bought some Yak this weekend at the Farmers Market. Grilled it up after marinating it in red wine & olive oil (and some other spices) with some peppers/onions. I could get used to Yak. Eating the leftovers now. Very tasty.

 

[General Malaise]

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

Womens Correctional Facility?

I give you a hint. Everybody's been there.

Mrs. Dancing Bones?

 

[General Malaise]

The church.

BOOOOOOOOO YOU SUCK!

 

[Marvin]

The church.

BOOOOOOOOO YOU SUCK!

Fish gets it.

 

[St. Louis Bob]

I'm busy

lol

So the OCD thread is now the GMTAN annex?

That is a strange thread. The guy counting the number of thrusts during sex and blurting it out, has to be fishing, right? Right??

I started an "Idiosyncrasy" thread a long time ago that unearthed some very strange and unusual admissions by many FGBs....anybody remember some of the weirdness Mojo produced?

WELL?!!!

Hi Jim Tan charitable souls. My wife and I are walking in the Autism Speaks walk for Puget Sound in September. We're lucky in that our son is considered on the mild end of the spectrum, but in his pre-school classes, we see some cases that really tug at the heart strings. One of the keys in treating Autism is early detection and therapy but there's not nearly enough awareness in that area. If you are so inclined to help Autism Speaks address those critical factors and want to make a donation you can do so here.

You can also sign up for doing your own walk in your own city and support the charity that way. You can do that here.

Obviously something very near & dear to me, thanks for doing.

Why on god's green earth would you want to get married AGAIN?

GFP

 

[St. Louis Bob]

THIS TIME I'M SURE SHE'S NOT CRAZY

Sofa

;goodposting: You should never be afraid to hit a women, equal rights and all that stuff.

The church.

Some sacrifices are too big.

That's what she said.

I tell you where y'all need to go. Where they got more women than anywhere. Fine ones too.

Womens Correctional Facility?

I give you a hint. Everybody's been there.

Mrs. Dancing Bones?