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The one thing that keeps popping in my head.....

BB, with the help of Bobby Sac, has given us the gift of music plenty of times with the parody songs.

Anyway that could be spun into a parody/tribute song for Chance?

 
The one thing that keeps popping in my head.....

BB, with the help of Bobby Sac, has given us the gift of music plenty of times with the parody songs.

Anyway that could be spun into a parody/tribute song for Chance?
That's a good idea, but with Biggie putting the voice and music it might be difficult if there isn't another equally gifted musician in their FFA.

 
I know people just want to show their support, and that's fantastic. It really is one of the best aspects of this place. The desire to help is both natural and admirable. And while grand gestures sound like a great idea, I tend to think the best thing we can do is continue to support BB and let him know that there are a lot of people here who care about him and his family, and that if they NEED something, we're here to help.

Just my $.02.

 
I know people just want to show their support, and that's fantastic. It really is one of the best aspects of this place. The desire to help is both natural and admirable. And while grand gestures sound like a great idea, I tend to think the best thing we can do is continue to support BB and let him know that there are a lot of people here who care about him and his family, and that if they NEED something, we're here to help.

Just my $.02.
:goodposting:

I think this is dead on.

 
I know people just want to show their support, and that's fantastic. It really is one of the best aspects of this place. The desire to help is both natural and admirable. And while grand gestures sound like a great idea, I tend to think the best thing we can do is continue to support BB and let him know that there are a lot of people here who care about him and his family, and that if they NEED something, we're here to help.

Just my $.02.
:goodposting:

I think this is dead on.
:goodposting:

 
Not really thinking of anything enormous. How about finding out some things around where they live and gather some gift cards to fund a night out for BB, wife and son whenever they feel like they are ready?

 
Serious question: if you're asked to speak at someone's funeral, you pretty much have no choice but to say yes, right?
I'd say pretty much yes, unless there's simply no way for you to get there, e.g. the funeral's too far away to travel to.

If this is for your former co-worker, just keep it simple, pick out one or two quick anecdotes that illustrate him as a person, say you'll miss him, offer condolences to his family, and sit down. It's also ok to cry. Nobody's expecting a "polished" or "professional" presentation in that setting.

 
Serious question: if you're asked to speak at someone's funeral, you pretty much have no choice but to say yes, right?
I'd say pretty much yes, unless there's simply no way for you to get there, e.g. the funeral's too far away to travel to.

If this is for your former co-worker, just keep it simple, pick out one or two quick anecdotes that illustrate him as a person, say you'll miss him, offer condolences to his family, and sit down. It's also ok to cry. Nobody's expecting a "polished" or "professional" presentation in that setting.
I had already said we were going to come to Memphis for the service, so no getting around it. Thanks for the advice--that's actually helpful.

 
Serious question: if you're asked to speak at someone's funeral, you pretty much have no choice but to say yes, right?
I'd say pretty much yes, unless there's simply no way for you to get there, e.g. the funeral's too far away to travel to.

If this is for your former co-worker, just keep it simple, pick out one or two quick anecdotes that illustrate him as a person, say you'll miss him, offer condolences to his family, and sit down. It's also ok to cry. Nobody's expecting a "polished" or "professional" presentation in that setting.
I had already said we were going to come to Memphis for the service, so no getting around it. Thanks for the advice--that's actually helpful.
:lmao:

You sound surprised.

"Wow, I can't believe red of all people had something helpful to say."

 
Serious question: if you're asked to speak at someone's funeral, you pretty much have no choice but to say yes, right?
Ok, quick tangent. About 2 weeks ago, a young women (35-ish) at work passed away after dealing with some chronic illness for a little while. But it was still kind of sudden. I knew her tangenally, been in a meeting or two with her, and said hi in the hallway, but didn't know her too well.

She had worked for my government agency for a long time, and used to work for a congressman before that. Our office had a huge funeral for her; many of her family members flew in; her old congressman came and spoke for her, the Assistant Secretary spoke, her close family and freinds, and, although the Secretary couldn't be there, she wrote up a very nice few words that were read at the service.

I showed up just barely on time, and when I did, a woman from the congressional affairs office grabbed me and said "there's a seat for you up here," and led me to the front row, next to the other speakers. One by one, each one was getting up to talk about his or her rememberance of this lovely woman. I'm four or five deep, but I can see it coming to me, and I'm kinda like, WTF? Then this woman comes and says "Ok, do you want to say something?" And I'm like, holy crap, this woman thinks I'm somebody else. Somebody who is close enough to the deceased to say a few words. For a BRIEF second, I thought about going up and winging it (that's kind-of how I've survived professionally these past 15 years), talking about her smile or her spirit, or whatever, and how she brought everyone around her happiness. But my quick calculation of "things that could go wrong" really rang off the charts. Instead, I lowered my eyes and said, "no, I'm sorry, I don't think I'm ready."

I tried to make a B-line out of there, but I was stopped by this sweet lady who tried to give me the deceased's pictures and some other effects that they had laid out for display. I was still feeling pretty bad about the episode, so I told her that I'd take care of it, and had to spend the next twenty minutes tracking down my doppleganger and giving him this stuff.

It was really a weird experience.

 
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Serious question: if you're asked to speak at someone's funeral, you pretty much have no choice but to say yes, right?
I'd say pretty much yes, unless there's simply no way for you to get there, e.g. the funeral's too far away to travel to.

If this is for your former co-worker, just keep it simple, pick out one or two quick anecdotes that illustrate him as a person, say you'll miss him, offer condolences to his family, and sit down. It's also ok to cry. Nobody's expecting a "polished" or "professional" presentation in that setting.
I had already said we were going to come to Memphis for the service, so no getting around it. Thanks for the advice--that's actually helpful.
:lmao:

You sound surprised.

"Wow, I can't believe red of all people had something helpful to say."
Sometimes I can't believe what I type either.

Eat a ####, Krista.

 
Serious question: if you're asked to speak at someone's funeral, you pretty much have no choice but to say yes, right?
Ok, quick tangent. About 2 weeks ago, a young women (35-ish) at work passed away after dealing with some chronic illness for a little while. But it was still kind of sudden. I knew her tangenally, been in a meeting or two with her, and said hi in the hallway, but didn't know her too well.

She had worked for my government agency for a long time, and used to work for a congressman before that. Our office had a huge funeral for her; many of her family members flew in; her old congressman came and spoke for her, the Assistant Secretary spoke, her close family and freinds, and, although the Secretary couldn't be there, she wrote up a very nice few words that were read at the service.

I showed up just barely on time, and when I did, a woman from the congressional affairs office grabbed me and said "there's a seat for you up here," and led me to the front row, next to the other speakers. One by one, each one was getting up to talk about his or her rememberance of this lovely woman. I'm four or five deep, but I can see it coming to me, and I'm kinda like, WTF? Then this woman comes and says "Ok, do you want to say something?" And I'm like, holy crap, this woman thinks I'm somebody else. Somebody who is close enough to the deceased to say a few words. For a BRIEF second, I thought about going up and winging it (that's kind-of how I've survived professionally these past 15 years), talking about her smile or her spirit, or whatever, and how she brought everyone around her happiness. But my quick calculation of "things that could go wrong" really rang off the charts. Instead, I lowered my eyes and said, "no, I'm sorry, I don't think I'm ready."

I tried to make a B-line out of there, but I was stopped by this sweet lady who tried to give me the deceased's pictures and some other effects that they had laid out for display. I was still feeling pretty bad about the episode, so I told her that I'd take care of it, and had to spend the next twenty minutes tracking down my doppleganger and giving him this stuff.

It was really a weird experience.
Maybe he'd be willing to move in with your wife?

 
Serious question: if you're asked to speak at someone's funeral, you pretty much have no choice but to say yes, right?
Ok, quick tangent. About 2 weeks ago, a young women (35-ish) at work passed away after dealing with some chronic illness for a little while. But it was still kind of sudden. I knew her tangenally, been in a meeting or two with her, and said hi in the hallway, but didn't know her too well.

She had worked for my government agency for a long time, and used to work for a congressman before that. Our office had a huge funeral for her; many of her family members flew in; her old congressman came and spoke for her, the Assistant Secretary spoke, her close family and freinds, and, although the Secretary couldn't be there, she wrote up a very nice few words that were read at the service.

I showed up just barely on time, and when I did, a woman from the congressional affairs office grabbed me and said "there's a seat for you up here," and led me to the front row, next to the other speakers. One by one, each one was getting up to talk about his or her rememberance of this lovely woman. I'm four or five deep, but I can see it coming to me, and I'm kinda like, WTF? Then this woman comes and says "Ok, do you want to say something?" And I'm like, holy crap, this woman thinks I'm somebody else. Somebody who is close enough to the deceased to say a few words. For a BRIEF second, I thought about going up and winging it (that's kind-of how I've survived professionally these past 15 years), talking about her smile or her spirit, or whatever, and how she brought everyone around her happiness. But my quick calculation of "things that could go wrong" really rang off the charts. Instead, I lowered my eyes and said, "no, I'm sorry, I don't think I'm ready."

I tried to make a B-line out of there, but I was stopped by this sweet lady who tried to give me the deceased's pictures and some other effects that they had laid out for display. I was still feeling pretty bad about the episode, so I told her that I'd take care of it, and had to spend the next twenty minutes tracking down my doppleganger and giving him this stuff.

It was really a weird experience.
Maybe he'd be willing to move in with your wife?
"J, you're acting so strangely lately. And you never seem to show up where and when you should anymore..."

 
Serious question: if you're asked to speak at someone's funeral, you pretty much have no choice but to say yes, right?
I'd say pretty much yes, unless there's simply no way for you to get there, e.g. the funeral's too far away to travel to.

If this is for your former co-worker, just keep it simple, pick out one or two quick anecdotes that illustrate him as a person, say you'll miss him, offer condolences to his family, and sit down. It's also ok to cry. Nobody's expecting a "polished" or "professional" presentation in that setting.
I had already said we were going to come to Memphis for the service, so no getting around it. Thanks for the advice--that's actually helpful.
:lmao:

You sound surprised.

"Wow, I can't believe red of all people had something helpful to say."
Sometimes I can't believe what I type either.

Eat a ####, Krista.
:lmao:

 
In keeping with the ongoing theme around here, I just wanted to share that it's been one year since my father passed. Hard to believe.

 
Smart people:

A customer of ours who has a high opinion of me came in with a guy he met on a ride a few weeks ago. The guy and I had a good conversation - he seemed more interested in me than most people who come in (who seem absolutely not interested in anything but the reason they came in, which is perfectly normal.) In conversation, he mentioned that he was new to the area, just moved from the UK. I asked him if it was for work, then where he worked, and then what he did. Turns out he's just taken the position of president at a pretty large sporting goods company.

He asked if I'd been to their facility, to which I said no, and then he told me if I'd like he'd love to give me a tour. I thanked him, told him I'd very much like that, and he said to get back in touch with him after the first week in October, because he was traveling internationally until then.

Well, it's the first week of October. I would like to work for him in some capacity. Big, strong company, about two miles from my house, would be a great place to work. I feel like he's heard good things about me and is interested, but there hasn't been any resume talk. How should I approach this? I've got his email and his cell phone number. I'm not sure what the right approach is.

TIA

 
Where has Idiot Boxer been? cosjobs, too?
cosjob dangerously close to smooing me out of my winnings.
****
Congratulations on your fantasy baseball dominance. It was a really incredible year you had. I acknowledge your winning wager on the ped suspension bet, but times are not good at all right now and I'd appreciate some no shame time to remit your winnings.
As stated in my email, send me your ####### current address and I will send $$ tomorrow.

eta - hope you enjoy being a ####### #####, I regret treating you as a ####### human and hope you rot in hell.

See y'all in another life

I'm ####### oot
I like this "as stated.." business as if I posted that after you approached me kindly in an email.

Listen guy, you need a month or something, take all the time you want.
I'm happy to see the use of "smooing" still carries weight around here.

 
Smart people:

A customer of ours who has a high opinion of me came in with a guy he met on a ride a few weeks ago. The guy and I had a good conversation - he seemed more interested in me than most people who come in (who seem absolutely not interested in anything but the reason they came in, which is perfectly normal.) In conversation, he mentioned that he was new to the area, just moved from the UK. I asked him if it was for work, then where he worked, and then what he did. Turns out he's just taken the position of president at a pretty large sporting goods company.

He asked if I'd been to their facility, to which I said no, and then he told me if I'd like he'd love to give me a tour. I thanked him, told him I'd very much like that, and he said to get back in touch with him after the first week in October, because he was traveling internationally until then.

Well, it's the first week of October. I would like to work for him in some capacity. Big, strong company, about two miles from my house, would be a great place to work. I feel like he's heard good things about me and is interested, but there hasn't been any resume talk. How should I approach this? I've got his email and his cell phone number. I'm not sure what the right approach is.

TIA
Obvious follow up is the tour of the facility. No offense, but that offer is probably pretty low on his list of priorities, so he'd likely appreciate an interested reminder.

During the tour (or maybe a day or two later, depending on how you read things on the spot), if you like what you see of him and the company, ask him about job opportunities there. This is the most "organic" and comfortable way of getting there.

 
Smart people:

A customer of ours who has a high opinion of me came in with a guy he met on a ride a few weeks ago. The guy and I had a good conversation - he seemed more interested in me than most people who come in (who seem absolutely not interested in anything but the reason they came in, which is perfectly normal.) In conversation, he mentioned that he was new to the area, just moved from the UK. I asked him if it was for work, then where he worked, and then what he did. Turns out he's just taken the position of president at a pretty large sporting goods company.

He asked if I'd been to their facility, to which I said no, and then he told me if I'd like he'd love to give me a tour. I thanked him, told him I'd very much like that, and he said to get back in touch with him after the first week in October, because he was traveling internationally until then.

Well, it's the first week of October. I would like to work for him in some capacity. Big, strong company, about two miles from my house, would be a great place to work. I feel like he's heard good things about me and is interested, but there hasn't been any resume talk. How should I approach this? I've got his email and his cell phone number. I'm not sure what the right approach is.

TIA
Obvious follow up is the tour of the facility. No offense, but that offer is probably pretty low on his list of priorities, so he'd likely appreciate an interested reminder.

During the tour (or maybe a day or two later, depending on how you read things on the spot), if you like what you see of him and the company, ask him about job opportunities there. This is the most "organic" and comfortable way of getting there.
Absolutely. Fully expecting to have to do the follow up for 100% of this. He came up through sales, he'll appreciate someone who is proactive.

My main question here, which I probably should have clarified, is when to give the resume and have the "hey I'd like to work for you" talk. Thanks for your feedback.

Also, how do I dress for this? I don't want to show up in jeans and a t-shirt - if it were an interview I'd wear a suit and tie, but that could be awkward.

 
Call him and leave a message on his voicemail 50 times in a row asking for a job.

Or, you know, just don't be pushy and wait for things to work themselves out. Go on the tour. If you like it, ask about job opportunities. If he's amenable, follow up with resume, etc. Seems like you're pushing it too much up front here.

Wear something that looks professional but not overdressed--not a suit but not jeans.

 
Smart people:

A customer of ours who has a high opinion of me came in with a guy he met on a ride a few weeks ago. The guy and I had a good conversation - he seemed more interested in me than most people who come in (who seem absolutely not interested in anything but the reason they came in, which is perfectly normal.) In conversation, he mentioned that he was new to the area, just moved from the UK. I asked him if it was for work, then where he worked, and then what he did. Turns out he's just taken the position of president at a pretty large sporting goods company.

He asked if I'd been to their facility, to which I said no, and then he told me if I'd like he'd love to give me a tour. I thanked him, told him I'd very much like that, and he said to get back in touch with him after the first week in October, because he was traveling internationally until then.

Well, it's the first week of October. I would like to work for him in some capacity. Big, strong company, about two miles from my house, would be a great place to work. I feel like he's heard good things about me and is interested, but there hasn't been any resume talk. How should I approach this? I've got his email and his cell phone number. I'm not sure what the right approach is.

TIA
Obvious follow up is the tour of the facility. No offense, but that offer is probably pretty low on his list of priorities, so he'd likely appreciate an interested reminder.

During the tour (or maybe a day or two later, depending on how you read things on the spot), if you like what you see of him and the company, ask him about job opportunities there. This is the most "organic" and comfortable way of getting there.
Absolutely. Fully expecting to have to do the follow up for 100% of this. He came up through sales, he'll appreciate someone who is proactive.

My main question here, which I probably should have clarified, is when to give the resume and have the "hey I'd like to work for you" talk. Thanks for your feedback.

Also, how do I dress for this? I don't want to show up in jeans and a t-shirt - if it were an interview I'd wear a suit and tie, but that could be awkward.
What position are you aiming for in his company? Also, what were you wearing when you met him?

Dress, as the saying goes, for the position you want, though a suit and tie for a warehouse tour might be too much.

 
Smart people:

A customer of ours who has a high opinion of me came in with a guy he met on a ride a few weeks ago. The guy and I had a good conversation - he seemed more interested in me than most people who come in (who seem absolutely not interested in anything but the reason they came in, which is perfectly normal.) In conversation, he mentioned that he was new to the area, just moved from the UK. I asked him if it was for work, then where he worked, and then what he did. Turns out he's just taken the position of president at a pretty large sporting goods company.

He asked if I'd been to their facility, to which I said no, and then he told me if I'd like he'd love to give me a tour. I thanked him, told him I'd very much like that, and he said to get back in touch with him after the first week in October, because he was traveling internationally until then.

Well, it's the first week of October. I would like to work for him in some capacity. Big, strong company, about two miles from my house, would be a great place to work. I feel like he's heard good things about me and is interested, but there hasn't been any resume talk. How should I approach this? I've got his email and his cell phone number. I'm not sure what the right approach is.

TIA
Obvious follow up is the tour of the facility. No offense, but that offer is probably pretty low on his list of priorities, so he'd likely appreciate an interested reminder.

During the tour (or maybe a day or two later, depending on how you read things on the spot), if you like what you see of him and the company, ask him about job opportunities there. This is the most "organic" and comfortable way of getting there.
Absolutely. Fully expecting to have to do the follow up for 100% of this. He came up through sales, he'll appreciate someone who is proactive.

My main question here, which I probably should have clarified, is when to give the resume and have the "hey I'd like to work for you" talk. Thanks for your feedback.

Also, how do I dress for this? I don't want to show up in jeans and a t-shirt - if it were an interview I'd wear a suit and tie, but that could be awkward.
What position are you aiming for in his company? Also, what were you wearing when you met him?

Dress, as the saying goes, for the position you want, though a suit and tie for a warehouse tour might be too much.
There aren't any current job openings that I fit, which is a problem. Which is probably one more reason to take it slow and keep tabs on them.

 
Smart people:

A customer of ours who has a high opinion of me came in with a guy he met on a ride a few weeks ago. The guy and I had a good conversation - he seemed more interested in me than most people who come in (who seem absolutely not interested in anything but the reason they came in, which is perfectly normal.) In conversation, he mentioned that he was new to the area, just moved from the UK. I asked him if it was for work, then where he worked, and then what he did. Turns out he's just taken the position of president at a pretty large sporting goods company.

He asked if I'd been to their facility, to which I said no, and then he told me if I'd like he'd love to give me a tour. I thanked him, told him I'd very much like that, and he said to get back in touch with him after the first week in October, because he was traveling internationally until then.

Well, it's the first week of October. I would like to work for him in some capacity. Big, strong company, about two miles from my house, would be a great place to work. I feel like he's heard good things about me and is interested, but there hasn't been any resume talk. How should I approach this? I've got his email and his cell phone number. I'm not sure what the right approach is.

TIA
Obvious follow up is the tour of the facility. No offense, but that offer is probably pretty low on his list of priorities, so he'd likely appreciate an interested reminder.

During the tour (or maybe a day or two later, depending on how you read things on the spot), if you like what you see of him and the company, ask him about job opportunities there. This is the most "organic" and comfortable way of getting there.
Absolutely. Fully expecting to have to do the follow up for 100% of this. He came up through sales, he'll appreciate someone who is proactive.

My main question here, which I probably should have clarified, is when to give the resume and have the "hey I'd like to work for you" talk. Thanks for your feedback.

Also, how do I dress for this? I don't want to show up in jeans and a t-shirt - if it were an interview I'd wear a suit and tie, but that could be awkward.
What position are you aiming for in his company? Also, what were you wearing when you met him?

Dress, as the saying goes, for the position you want, though a suit and tie for a warehouse tour might be too much.
There aren't any current job openings that I fit, which is a problem. Which is probably one more reason to take it slow and keep tabs on them.
Maybe he will like you so much that he will come up with a new position to put you in.

 
A girl I know thru work, well, actually she works across the street at a competitor, has a 3 year old son who has Leukemia. He was diagnosed this past Spring. I had served on some committees for the Chamber of Commerce with this girl and we got along very well. They have a page set up on facebook about their son which her and husband and other family members update daily with news about doctor visits and pictures. The kid is adorable and it is so hard not to cry when you read updates on the "bad days". They also have a healthy daughter who is probably about 7 years old and it's been very hard on her because she doesn't really understand what's going on with her brother, all she really sees is that her family's world revolves around her little brother and there is little time or energy for them to focus on her. I don't think the son has been able to stay at home for entire week without being admitted to the hospital. The facebook page is therapeutic for the parents as they write about the struggles and stresses they all go thru each day and also share the few good moments they have. They obviously get a ton of support from everyone on FB. Much like BigBottom's situation, I could never even imagine what they go through on a daily basis. Plus their situation with the older daughter acting out and having to go through this made me think of BB's other son, although it seems he's a little older so he probably understands the situation a little better, but I don't know if that's good or bad. I admire BB very much, again I can't imagine going through all the grief he must endure and still be able to take care of your wife and another son and help them get through this.

I hadn't seen this girl since her son was diagnosed, she took an indefinite leave of absense from her job. But last month I bumped into her at the grocery store. I had no idea what to say to her, I gave her a hug and awkwardly asked how she was doing and if there was anything I could do. She just said they try to get through it one day at a time, the good days are GREAT and the bad days are truly horrible. As she was talking I could feel a couple tears roll down my face, she reached up and wiped them off and gave me a hug. I felt like such an ###, this poor girl is going thru hell and she's comforting me.

Between this girl's son and BB's situation, it makes me realize that I have nothing to complain about.

 
A girl I know thru work, well, actually she works across the street at a competitor, has a 3 year old son who has Leukemia. He was diagnosed this past Spring. I had served on some committees for the Chamber of Commerce with this girl and we got along very well. They have a page set up on facebook about their son which her and husband and other family members update daily with news about doctor visits and pictures. The kid is adorable and it is so hard not to cry when you read updates on the "bad days". They also have a healthy daughter who is probably about 7 years old and it's been very hard on her because she doesn't really understand what's going on with her brother, all she really sees is that her family's world revolves around her little brother and there is little time or energy for them to focus on her. I don't think the son has been able to stay at home for entire week without being admitted to the hospital. The facebook page is therapeutic for the parents as they write about the struggles and stresses they all go thru each day and also share the few good moments they have. They obviously get a ton of support from everyone on FB. Much like BigBottom's situation, I could never even imagine what they go through on a daily basis. Plus their situation with the older daughter acting out and having to go through this made me think of BB's other son, although it seems he's a little older so he probably understands the situation a little better, but I don't know if that's good or bad. I admire BB very much, again I can't imagine going through all the grief he must endure and still be able to take care of your wife and another son and help them get through this.

I hadn't seen this girl since her son was diagnosed, she took an indefinite leave of absense from her job. But last month I bumped into her at the grocery store. I had no idea what to say to her, I gave her a hug and awkwardly asked how she was doing and if there was anything I could do. She just said they try to get through it one day at a time, the good days are GREAT and the bad days are truly horrible. As she was talking I could feel a couple tears roll down my face, she reached up and wiped them off and gave me a hug. I felt like such an ###, this poor girl is going thru hell and she's comforting me.

Between this girl's son and BB's situation, it makes me realize that I have nothing to complain about.
There's nothing wrong with grief being a community thing, and I'm sure she appreciated your tear more than you know.

As for the other sibling, I've thought about BB's wife and other kids. MANY marriages fail when a child dies, and it's easy for the parents to try to protect the other siblings by keeping them away from the emotions of the crisis when in fact what they're doing is making the siblings feel excluded. There's no "right way" to handle this, but finding the balance is obviously very difficult.

 
A girl I know thru work, well, actually she works across the street at a competitor, has a 3 year old son who has Leukemia. He was diagnosed this past Spring. I had served on some committees for the Chamber of Commerce with this girl and we got along very well. They have a page set up on facebook about their son which her and husband and other family members update daily with news about doctor visits and pictures. The kid is adorable and it is so hard not to cry when you read updates on the "bad days". They also have a healthy daughter who is probably about 7 years old and it's been very hard on her because she doesn't really understand what's going on with her brother, all she really sees is that her family's world revolves around her little brother and there is little time or energy for them to focus on her. I don't think the son has been able to stay at home for entire week without being admitted to the hospital. The facebook page is therapeutic for the parents as they write about the struggles and stresses they all go thru each day and also share the few good moments they have. They obviously get a ton of support from everyone on FB. Much like BigBottom's situation, I could never even imagine what they go through on a daily basis. Plus their situation with the older daughter acting out and having to go through this made me think of BB's other son, although it seems he's a little older so he probably understands the situation a little better, but I don't know if that's good or bad. I admire BB very much, again I can't imagine going through all the grief he must endure and still be able to take care of your wife and another son and help them get through this.

I hadn't seen this girl since her son was diagnosed, she took an indefinite leave of absense from her job. But last month I bumped into her at the grocery store. I had no idea what to say to her, I gave her a hug and awkwardly asked how she was doing and if there was anything I could do. She just said they try to get through it one day at a time, the good days are GREAT and the bad days are truly horrible. As she was talking I could feel a couple tears roll down my face, she reached up and wiped them off and gave me a hug. I felt like such an ###, this poor girl is going thru hell and she's comforting me.

Between this girl's son and BB's situation, it makes me realize that I have nothing to complain about.
My GB's wife's niece has a brain tumor. My wife used to teach this little girl violin. A year and a half ago, she was a happy, healthy little girl. Now, she's a quadriplegic, and the doctors have said there's nothing more they can do. Make her comfortable, and who knows how long it'll be.

The pastor's son at a church in Cambodia my MIL works with very closely has Leukimia. He still has hope, but not a ton. He's been at a hospital in Bangkok for the last few months straight, the church is falling apart, and the pastor and his wife's marriage is suffering a lot, because one of them stays home with the other two kids, and the other one is in Bangkok. They swap every couple of weeks. My MIL is staying with this kid right now for the next week so they can at least see each other.

Just wretched stuff. I can't even imagine.

 
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Smart people:

A customer of ours who has a high opinion of me came in with a guy he met on a ride a few weeks ago. The guy and I had a good conversation - he seemed more interested in me than most people who come in (who seem absolutely not interested in anything but the reason they came in, which is perfectly normal.) In conversation, he mentioned that he was new to the area, just moved from the UK. I asked him if it was for work, then where he worked, and then what he did. Turns out he's just taken the position of president at a pretty large sporting goods company.

He asked if I'd been to their facility, to which I said no, and then he told me if I'd like he'd love to give me a tour. I thanked him, told him I'd very much like that, and he said to get back in touch with him after the first week in October, because he was traveling internationally until then.

Well, it's the first week of October. I would like to work for him in some capacity. Big, strong company, about two miles from my house, would be a great place to work. I feel like he's heard good things about me and is interested, but there hasn't been any resume talk. How should I approach this? I've got his email and his cell phone number. I'm not sure what the right approach is.

TIA
Obvious follow up is the tour of the facility. No offense, but that offer is probably pretty low on his list of priorities, so he'd likely appreciate an interested reminder.

During the tour (or maybe a day or two later, depending on how you read things on the spot), if you like what you see of him and the company, ask him about job opportunities there. This is the most "organic" and comfortable way of getting there.
Absolutely. Fully expecting to have to do the follow up for 100% of this. He came up through sales, he'll appreciate someone who is proactive.

My main question here, which I probably should have clarified, is when to give the resume and have the "hey I'd like to work for you" talk. Thanks for your feedback.

Also, how do I dress for this? I don't want to show up in jeans and a t-shirt - if it were an interview I'd wear a suit and tie, but that could be awkward.
What position are you aiming for in his company? Also, what were you wearing when you met him?

Dress, as the saying goes, for the position you want, though a suit and tie for a warehouse tour might be too much.
There aren't any current job openings that I fit, which is a problem. Which is probably one more reason to take it slow and keep tabs on them.
Maybe he will like you so much that he will come up with a new position to put you in.
That was my thought too. He sounds like he's got the level of importance in the company that would enable this, and it's typical for new muckety-mucks to hire their own people when they come in to put their signature on the company from the start (and to establish their own power base).

Go on the tour, show interest as appropriate in the company. Ask questions - definitely research the company and the man and have some things prepared to ask during the tour, and then follow up if you want a job there.

 
Serious question: if you're asked to speak at someone's funeral, you pretty much have no choice but to say yes, right?
Ok, quick tangent. About 2 weeks ago, a young women (35-ish) at work passed away after dealing with some chronic illness for a little while. But it was still kind of sudden. I knew her tangenally, been in a meeting or two with her, and said hi in the hallway, but didn't know her too well.

She had worked for my government agency for a long time, and used to work for a congressman before that. Our office had a huge funeral for her; many of her family members flew in; her old congressman came and spoke for her, the Assistant Secretary spoke, her close family and freinds, and, although the Secretary couldn't be there, she wrote up a very nice few words that were read at the service.

I showed up just barely on time, and when I did, a woman from the congressional affairs office grabbed me and said "there's a seat for you up here," and led me to the front row, next to the other speakers. One by one, each one was getting up to talk about his or her rememberance of this lovely woman. I'm four or five deep, but I can see it coming to me, and I'm kinda like, WTF? Then this woman comes and says "Ok, do you want to say something?" And I'm like, holy crap, this woman thinks I'm somebody else. Somebody who is close enough to the deceased to say a few words. For a BRIEF second, I thought about going up and winging it (that's kind-of how I've survived professionally these past 15 years), talking about her smile or her spirit, or whatever, and how she brought everyone around her happiness. But my quick calculation of "things that could go wrong" really rang off the charts. Instead, I lowered my eyes and said, "no, I'm sorry, I don't think I'm ready."

I tried to make a B-line out of there, but I was stopped by this sweet lady who tried to give me the deceased's pictures and some other effects that they had laid out for display. I was still feeling pretty bad about the episode, so I told her that I'd take care of it, and had to spend the next twenty minutes tracking down my doppleganger and giving him this stuff.

It was really a weird experience.
Maybe he'd be willing to move in with your wife?
"J, you're acting so strangely lately. And you never seem to show up where and when you should anymore..."
His own personal beta unit.

 
Smart people:

A customer of ours who has a high opinion of me came in with a guy he met on a ride a few weeks ago. The guy and I had a good conversation - he seemed more interested in me than most people who come in (who seem absolutely not interested in anything but the reason they came in, which is perfectly normal.) In conversation, he mentioned that he was new to the area, just moved from the UK. I asked him if it was for work, then where he worked, and then what he did. Turns out he's just taken the position of president at a pretty large sporting goods company.

He asked if I'd been to their facility, to which I said no, and then he told me if I'd like he'd love to give me a tour. I thanked him, told him I'd very much like that, and he said to get back in touch with him after the first week in October, because he was traveling internationally until then.

Well, it's the first week of October. I would like to work for him in some capacity. Big, strong company, about two miles from my house, would be a great place to work. I feel like he's heard good things about me and is interested, but there hasn't been any resume talk. How should I approach this? I've got his email and his cell phone number. I'm not sure what the right approach is.

TIA
Obvious follow up is the tour of the facility. No offense, but that offer is probably pretty low on his list of priorities, so he'd likely appreciate an interested reminder.

During the tour (or maybe a day or two later, depending on how you read things on the spot), if you like what you see of him and the company, ask him about job opportunities there. This is the most "organic" and comfortable way of getting there.
Absolutely. Fully expecting to have to do the follow up for 100% of this. He came up through sales, he'll appreciate someone who is proactive.

My main question here, which I probably should have clarified, is when to give the resume and have the "hey I'd like to work for you" talk. Thanks for your feedback.

Also, how do I dress for this? I don't want to show up in jeans and a t-shirt - if it were an interview I'd wear a suit and tie, but that could be awkward.
What position are you aiming for in his company? Also, what were you wearing when you met him?

Dress, as the saying goes, for the position you want, though a suit and tie for a warehouse tour might be too much.
There aren't any current job openings that I fit, which is a problem. Which is probably one more reason to take it slow and keep tabs on them.
What's this based on? What you're seeing on their website?

I'm going to take a shot in the dark and say he doesn't just wander around offering tours to random people. He's interested. Be appropriately patient. Do whatever research you need to do on the company to be able to speak intelligently about it and ask questions about recent activities in the marketplace, etc. Take the tour in black pants and a polo or tieless dress shirt, listen to what he has to say, be inquisitive, and let him tell you why he invited you there. Don't be pushy. But at the same time, if there's a natural "in" to let him know you'd love to work for a company like his, then drop it. No need to take a resume. That'll come later, if at all. Though maybe leaving a copy in your car JUST IN CASE wouldn't be the worst thing in the world.

As far as job availability, he's going to know what he really has available a little better than you. Many of the jobs you'd want at many companies never see a website posting.

 
I don't know why, but I think that really kicks ###.
You will never meet a greater champion of pure cat-tricks than me but that isn't all that impressive. If you'll notice the cat had to find a BELL under that cup. It makes noise. The cat found the noise.

"When listening for something, a cat's ears will swivel in that direction;a cat's ear flaps can independently point backwards as well as forwards

and sideways to pinpoint the source of the sound. Cats can judge within three inches (7.5 cm)

the location of a sound being made one yard (approximately 91 cm) away—this can be useful for locating their prey."
 
Smart people:

A customer of ours who has a high opinion of me came in with a guy he met on a ride a few weeks ago. The guy and I had a good conversation - he seemed more interested in me than most people who come in (who seem absolutely not interested in anything but the reason they came in, which is perfectly normal.) In conversation, he mentioned that he was new to the area, just moved from the UK. I asked him if it was for work, then where he worked, and then what he did. Turns out he's just taken the position of president at a pretty large sporting goods company.

He asked if I'd been to their facility, to which I said no, and then he told me if I'd like he'd love to give me a tour. I thanked him, told him I'd very much like that, and he said to get back in touch with him after the first week in October, because he was traveling internationally until then.

Well, it's the first week of October. I would like to work for him in some capacity. Big, strong company, about two miles from my house, would be a great place to work. I feel like he's heard good things about me and is interested, but there hasn't been any resume talk. How should I approach this? I've got his email and his cell phone number. I'm not sure what the right approach is.

TIA
Obvious follow up is the tour of the facility. No offense, but that offer is probably pretty low on his list of priorities, so he'd likely appreciate an interested reminder.

During the tour (or maybe a day or two later, depending on how you read things on the spot), if you like what you see of him and the company, ask him about job opportunities there. This is the most "organic" and comfortable way of getting there.
Absolutely. Fully expecting to have to do the follow up for 100% of this. He came up through sales, he'll appreciate someone who is proactive.

My main question here, which I probably should have clarified, is when to give the resume and have the "hey I'd like to work for you" talk. Thanks for your feedback.

Also, how do I dress for this? I don't want to show up in jeans and a t-shirt - if it were an interview I'd wear a suit and tie, but that could be awkward.
What position are you aiming for in his company? Also, what were you wearing when you met him?

Dress, as the saying goes, for the position you want, though a suit and tie for a warehouse tour might be too much.
There aren't any current job openings that I fit, which is a problem. Which is probably one more reason to take it slow and keep tabs on them.
Maybe he will like you so much that he will come up with a new position to put you in.
That was my thought too. He sounds like he's got the level of importance in the company that would enable this, and it's typical for new muckety-mucks to hire their own people when they come in to put their signature on the company from the start (and to establish their own power base).

Go on the tour, show interest as appropriate in the company. Ask questions - definitely research the company and the man and have some things prepared to ask during the tour, and then follow up if you want a job there.
yeah I was mostly just going for the h0m0 joke.

 
Smart people:

A customer of ours who has a high opinion of me came in with a guy he met on a ride a few weeks ago. The guy and I had a good conversation - he seemed more interested in me than most people who come in (who seem absolutely not interested in anything but the reason they came in, which is perfectly normal.) In conversation, he mentioned that he was new to the area, just moved from the UK. I asked him if it was for work, then where he worked, and then what he did. Turns out he's just taken the position of president at a pretty large sporting goods company.

He asked if I'd been to their facility, to which I said no, and then he told me if I'd like he'd love to give me a tour. I thanked him, told him I'd very much like that, and he said to get back in touch with him after the first week in October, because he was traveling internationally until then.

Well, it's the first week of October. I would like to work for him in some capacity. Big, strong company, about two miles from my house, would be a great place to work. I feel like he's heard good things about me and is interested, but there hasn't been any resume talk. How should I approach this? I've got his email and his cell phone number. I'm not sure what the right approach is.

TIA
Email. "Hello FredDick, I hope you guys had a good September. If the offer of a tour is still open I'd certainly enjoy seeing your facility. There will be no sex for you though. Thanks, P"

 
You know who else can snack on a shopping cart full of pork-pistols? Dodger fans.

The next cake-eater that posts that stupid "Keep Calm...Puig is on deck" pic on Facebook should come down with a case of bionic crabs.

 

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