GM's thread about nothing (23 Viewers)

[Officer Pete Malloy]

I hear you, man. Went through a lot of the same stuff when my dad passed. Stay strong and always remember him at his best.

 

[Binky The Doormat]

Sorry for you loss UH. Losing parents is hard. Real hard.

 

[Frostillicus]

Thanks, all.

My father had dementia and didn't know anyone except my mother for at least a year. I'm not even sure he knew who she was except that that she was always there trying to draw him out (& that she's pretty). He had recently gotten to the point where he wasn't mobile.

Yesterday morning, my mother called me while I was riding with a coworker to a meeting and said he had contracted pneumonia; that the visiting Hospice nurse had said he was in permanent decline. His lungs weren't strong enough to get out the crap that was in them, much less the mass waiting to get in. So, they started giving him morphine drops every two hours to relax his lungs so he wouldn't be trying to expel the #### in them - him trying to do so yesterday was the most awful thing I've ever seen. After a few morphine treatments, he stopped hacking so much and, when we left, he'd go the entire two hours without that awful retching.

No calls during the night. My mom decided to go earlier than usual this morning just in case the Hospice nurse came early. Mata & I had stayed at my mother's and were lagging leaving. Right when we were walking out of the door, my mother called & said he was gone.

She had been there less than 10 minutes. His breathing was labored but wasn't rattling like it had been the day before. All of a sudden, he sat up and took a big inhale and never let it out. She laid him back and called.

I know my mother and think she would've had big-time guilt if she wasn't there when he died. She was wondering about that when we got there. Mata - bless her, because I was a little shaken - told her he was just waiting for her to get there. It's a cliche thing to say - and none of us are religeous - but I think it helped ease Mom's potential guilt at maybe being too late (or at least gave her an out from thinking about it).

Anyway, Hospice showed.....caregivers from the nursing home who were on their ####### day off and came in to see my mom and see my father away, too (I swear to Christ, this made me cry more than anything else)....all of a sudden my brother & I are helping the guy from the cremation placer load my father's body into the van.

I wanted to say some other stuff but will leave off here for now.

Sorry for your loss. I never know what to say. Probably on account of the aspergers. /Tre

 

[Josie Maran]

Thanks, all.

My father had dementia and didn't know anyone except my mother for at least a year. I'm not even sure he knew who she was except that that she was always there trying to draw him out (& that she's pretty). He had recently gotten to the point where he wasn't mobile.

Yesterday morning, my mother called me while I was riding with a coworker to a meeting and said he had contracted pneumonia; that the visiting Hospice nurse had said he was in permanent decline. His lungs weren't strong enough to get out the crap that was in them, much less the mass waiting to get in. So, they started giving him morphine drops every two hours to relax his lungs so he wouldn't be trying to expel the #### in them - him trying to do so yesterday was the most awful thing I've ever seen. After a few morphine treatments, he stopped hacking so much and, when we left, he'd go the entire two hours without that awful retching.

No calls during the night. My mom decided to go earlier than usual this morning just in case the Hospice nurse came early. Mata & I had stayed at my mother's and were lagging leaving. Right when we were walking out of the door, my mother called & said he was gone.

She had been there less than 10 minutes. His breathing was labored but wasn't rattling like it had been the day before. All of a sudden, he sat up and took a big inhale and never let it out. She laid him back and called.

I know my mother and think she would've had big-time guilt if she wasn't there when he died. She was wondering about that when we got there. Mata - bless her, because I was a little shaken - told her he was just waiting for her to get there. It's a cliche thing to say - and none of us are religeous - but I think it helped ease Mom's potential guilt at maybe being too late (or at least gave her an out from thinking about it).

Anyway, Hospice showed.....caregivers from the nursing home who were on their ####### day off and came in to see my mom and see my father away, too (I swear to Christ, this made me cry more than anything else)....all of a sudden my brother & I are helping the guy from the cremation placer load my father's body into the van.

I wanted to say some other stuff but will leave off here for now.

:awkwardmanhug:

 

[Tecumseh]

Sorry, but I have to ask a question that won't help the mood in here; my best friend from high school passed in her sleep the other night. We lost touch soon after high school, so I don't know her family. Would it be more appropriate to send flowers to the service at the church, or to look up her address and send them to her home? A third option would be to make a donation in her honor to the Lupus Society, but how does the family know that you did that?

Thanks for any help.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

If there's an Antichrist, it's a ginger cat.

Say it to his face, pal.

 

[Binky The Doormat]

Sorry, but I have to ask a question that won't help the mood in here; my best friend from high school passed in her sleep the other night. We lost touch soon after high school, so I don't know her family. Would it be more appropriate to send flowers to the service at the church, or to look up her address and send them to her home? A third option would be to make a donation in her honor to the Lupus Society, but how does the family know that you did that?

Thanks for any help.

Donation. The Lupus Society sends a card to their house.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

I. Was standing in the rain wAiting...

Best round of mini golf I evah played was in the pouring monsoon rain in Houston while absolutely smashed. Those afternoon rain showers are a trip!!

And my peach tree is producing the most delicious peaches!! It's amazing, damn thing isn't even 6 feet tall and I'm going to get 30 or so racket ball sized peaches off it.

Patiently waiting for Chapter II...

I'm watching my neighbor's(from Tyler Texas) stupid ###, old as dirt, cancer ridden, Pomeranian. ####### dog is crazy and annoying as hell. They're in cabo.

Vons is apparently going to stop carrying the delicious $9 Pinot noir that I swill down on a regular basis, not happy about that

This is the first year in the last 4, that I am not planting my garden. I turned the soil and have attempted to grow grass( not that kind, I grew that in pots and it was glorious) and the ####### grass seed won't take for some reason. But I have parsley growing in all sorts of random spots in the grass.

Ooh! You're the person to ask!I'm putting together a garden - everything is killing it right now except the parsley. Any tricks? I just can't get the parsley seeds to sprout.

Also, if you know how to plant roses from seeds and tell me, I may kiss you.

What's the dirt like? Raised beds? Pots? The parsley looks like a useless weed when it first appears, because it practically is one. Make sure you don't pull it up. I would suggest starting in pots, keep the soil moist and warm. If you're going to go into the ground make sure you get a decent amount of potting soil around seed, a couple inches on all sides. Good luck!Never grown roses from seed, can't stand them in my garden. There was a big bed of them in the garden when I bought the house.

Dirt is basically silt from the banks of the Mississippi, which makes up my backyard. Everything is sprouting except the Italian Parsley. Tomatoes growing like a weed, basil, etc. Just wondering if it needs something special.

Is it dense? Clay like?

 

[UniAlias]

Sorry for your loss Uruk.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

If so, add sand and or gypsum to the dirt to loosen it up. And as SLB mentioned compost is always always great for anything.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

I laughed at this for at least 2 minutes.

 

[YSR]

She had been there less than 10 minutes.

I know my mother and think she would've had big-time guilt if she wasn't there when he died. She was wondering about that when we got there. Mata - bless her, because I was a little shaken - told her he was just waiting for her to get there. It's a cliche thing to say - and none of us are religeous - but I think it helped ease Mom's potential guilt at maybe being too late (or at least gave her an out from thinking about it).

It may be cliche but I think there's something to it. When my grandmother was nearing death, there were people at her house 24/7 (family and Hospice nurses). The night before she passed, one of my aunts and I actually spent the night there. I left the next morning to get ready for work, and apparently my aunt left about 20 minutes after me just to go home and shower before heading back over. About 5 minutes after my aunt left, my grandmother passed. It was the first time in probably a couple of weeks that it was just my grandfather and her, alone.

Maybe it is always coincidental when that happens, but that's not how I prefer to think of it.

Anyway, hope you're holding up okay GB. TPWs making a beeline to MD today.

 

[Henry Ford]

I. Was standing in the rain wAiting...

Best round of mini golf I evah played was in the pouring monsoon rain in Houston while absolutely smashed. Those afternoon rain showers are a trip!!

And my peach tree is producing the most delicious peaches!! It's amazing, damn thing isn't even 6 feet tall and I'm going to get 30 or so racket ball sized peaches off it.

Patiently waiting for Chapter II...

I'm watching my neighbor's(from Tyler Texas) stupid ###, old as dirt, cancer ridden, Pomeranian. ####### dog is crazy and annoying as hell. They're in cabo.

Vons is apparently going to stop carrying the delicious $9 Pinot noir that I swill down on a regular basis, not happy about that

This is the first year in the last 4, that I am not planting my garden. I turned the soil and have attempted to grow grass( not that kind, I grew that in pots and it was glorious) and the ####### grass seed won't take for some reason. But I have parsley growing in all sorts of random spots in the grass.

Ooh! You're the person to ask!I'm putting together a garden - everything is killing it right now except the parsley. Any tricks? I just can't get the parsley seeds to sprout.

Also, if you know how to plant roses from seeds and tell me, I may kiss you.

What's the dirt like? Raised beds? Pots? The parsley looks like a useless weed when it first appears, because it practically is one. Make sure you don't pull it up. I would suggest starting in pots, keep the soil moist and warm. If you're going to go into the ground make sure you get a decent amount of potting soil around seed, a couple inches on all sides. Good luck!Never grown roses from seed, can't stand them in my garden. There was a big bed of them in the garden when I bought the house.

Dirt is basically silt from the banks of the Mississippi, which makes up my backyard. Everything is sprouting except the Italian Parsley. Tomatoes growing like a weed, basil, etc. Just wondering if it needs something special.

Is it dense? Clay like?

Loamy.

 

[Uruk-Hai]

She had been there less than 10 minutes.

I know my mother and think she would've had big-time guilt if she wasn't there when he died. She was wondering about that when we got there. Mata - bless her, because I was a little shaken - told her he was just waiting for her to get there. It's a cliche thing to say - and none of us are religeous - but I think it helped ease Mom's potential guilt at maybe being too late (or at least gave her an out from thinking about it).

It may be cliche but I think there's something to it. When my grandmother was nearing death, there were people at her house 24/7 (family and Hospice nurses). The night before she passed, one of my aunts and I actually spent the night there. I left the next morning to get ready for work, and apparently my aunt left about 20 minutes after me just to go home and shower before heading back over. About 5 minutes after my aunt left, my grandmother passed. It was the first time in probably a couple of weeks that it was just my grandfather and her, alone.

Maybe it is always coincidental when that happens, but that's not how I prefer to think of it.

Anyway, hope you're holding up okay GB. TPWs making a beeline to MD today.

I'm ok, thanks CCO - and to all of you. Even though he hasn't really been my dad for a long time since this ####### illness got him and I always knew there's no coming back, this is still final as hell.

I've got to keep an eye on my mother. She's laser-focused and I think the fact that she won't be dealing with my dad's illness every day could leave her a little adrift. Her sisters - neither of whom have been my father's biggest fans - have come through like champs through all of this. My brother and I, of course, are her kids (50 & 52, respectively) and know nothing since we'll always be 7 & 9 to her. Mom also has a really good network of friends, so she doesn't have to take advice - even though it may be the same - from her middle-aged, prepubescent kids

 

[cosjobs]

Bentley can't make it and COlin never replied, so we're going to change the coshole to Mon or Tue evening and hope Shuke and Bentley can make that.

We'll still be at Twin Peaks tonight, Kevin if you want to meet us for the fights

 

[Guster]

Love you GB

 

[Guster]

I laughed at this for at least 2 minutes.

save a seat in hell for me at the cool kids' table

 

[Ignoramus]

If there's an Antichrist, it's a ginger cat.

Say it to his face, pal.

I wouldn't mind saying it to her face.

 

[Guster]

Booked flights to Seattle for my daughter and I.

Monday, August 4 - Saturday, August 9

Gotta read back through this thread at the suggestions and figure out the itinerary to squeeze in some time in Canada too

 

[Guster]

There's an outside chance that I might be driving to Wisconsin two weekends in a row.

Girl is planning on going to visit some friends in Madison next weekend and is playing around with the idea of bringing me along.

 

[YSR]

There's an outside chance that I might be driving to Wisconsin two weekends in a row.

Girl is planning on going to visit some friends in Madison next weekend and is playing around with the idea of bringing me along.

Aw, that should be a fun road trip.

Until she decides to fly or Amtrak it up there.

 

[Guster]

There's an outside chance that I might be driving to Wisconsin two weekends in a row.

Girl is planning on going to visit some friends in Madison next weekend and is playing around with the idea of bringing me along.

Aw, that should be a fun road trip.

Until she decides to fly or Amtrak it up there.

 

[The_Man]

My thoughts are with you and your mother, UH

 

[Tecumseh]

Sorry, but I have to ask a question that won't help the mood in here; my best friend from high school passed in her sleep the other night. We lost touch soon after high school, so I don't know her family. Would it be more appropriate to send flowers to the service at the church, or to look up her address and send them to her home? A third option would be to make a donation in her honor to the Lupus Society, but how does the family know that you did that?

Thanks for any help.

Donation. The Lupus Society sends a card to their house.

Thanks, went with this.

 

[Frostillicus]

I once asked my friend's wife who has Lupus if it made her turn into a werewolf when there was a full moon. She's also a humor challenged person.

 

[Otis]

My wife today asked me "why are they called two-by-fours?"

 

[Abraham]

My wife today asked me "why are they called two-by-fours?"

You do realiE that isn't a stupid question, right?

 

[Otis]

My wife today asked me "why are they called two-by-fours?"

You do realiE that isn't a stupid question, right?

It is and it isn't.

 

[Henry Ford]

My wife today asked me "why are they called two-by-fours?"

Because 1 1/2 x 3 1/2 sounds weird?

 

[proninja]

What'd you tell her, o?

 

[Otis]

What'd you tell her, o?

It's the size of the wood.

 

[Josie Maran]

What'd you tell her, o?

It's the size of the wood.

 

[GroveDiesel]

My MIL's insanity is driving me nuts. She'd better get qualified for disability soon and be able to get her own place.

Example 1: She refuses to drink my tap water even though I run it all through a Brita filter. Instead, she insists that we buy bottled water. Most of which I end up paying for "because she has no income". Not only that, but she leaves half full water bottles all over the house (and then usually tries to blame my 5 year old even though she's had like 1 bottle of water over the last 3 months).

Why won't she drink the Brita water? Because the filter I had in it was passed its time that it was "supposed" to be replaced by. Now, a Brita filter is just a bunch of charcoal inside of a piece of plastic basically. A few weeks or even a couple of months isn't going to make a difference. But she swore that it tasted bad and that she couldn't drink it.

So I decided to run a little experiment. I got a new filter and soaked it in some water like it says you should do. I made sure that she could see it. When she was gone, I threw it out and pretended that I had switched the filters.

She now is raving about how she can drink the Brita water now and how much better it tastes. On and on about how sensitive her taste buds are and how she can really tell. How she knows I can't tell the difference, but she definitely can.

Also, she insists on filling up the ice cube tray with water from the Brita pitcher. When she's not watching I fill it with tap water. Not a single complaint at all.

So tired of that kind of crap. She practically threw a fit at the grocery store when I insisted that I was buying the store brand instant oats instead of the more expensive name brand. It's freaking oatmeal! The constant stream of complaining, negativity and selfishness is slowly driving me insane. And now that it appears my wife and I both have mono, it's not like I can even get out of the house a lot to avoid her.

/blowsout

tldr version: I secretly tricked my insane MIL into thinking I switched the water filter and she can't stop raving about how much better it is.

You MUST tell her about the filter bit. Get video if possible

Not a chance. She already has sever trust issues straying into mentally ill levels. If I told her the truth, the future nightmare scenarios that would inevitably result would not be worth the satisfaction of proving a point.

 

[Frostillicus]

My MIL's insanity is driving me nuts. She'd better get qualified for disability soon and be able to get her own place.

Example 1: She refuses to drink my tap water even though I run it all through a Brita filter. Instead, she insists that we buy bottled water. Most of which I end up paying for "because she has no income". Not only that, but she leaves half full water bottles all over the house (and then usually tries to blame my 5 year old even though she's had like 1 bottle of water over the last 3 months).

Why won't she drink the Brita water? Because the filter I had in it was passed its time that it was "supposed" to be replaced by. Now, a Brita filter is just a bunch of charcoal inside of a piece of plastic basically. A few weeks or even a couple of months isn't going to make a difference. But she swore that it tasted bad and that she couldn't drink it.

So I decided to run a little experiment. I got a new filter and soaked it in some water like it says you should do. I made sure that she could see it. When she was gone, I threw it out and pretended that I had switched the filters.

She now is raving about how she can drink the Brita water now and how much better it tastes. On and on about how sensitive her taste buds are and how she can really tell. How she knows I can't tell the difference, but she definitely can.

Also, she insists on filling up the ice cube tray with water from the Brita pitcher. When she's not watching I fill it with tap water. Not a single complaint at all.

So tired of that kind of crap. She practically threw a fit at the grocery store when I insisted that I was buying the store brand instant oats instead of the more expensive name brand. It's freaking oatmeal! The constant stream of complaining, negativity and selfishness is slowly driving me insane. And now that it appears my wife and I both have mono, it's not like I can even get out of the house a lot to avoid her.

/blowsout

tldr version: I secretly tricked my insane MIL into thinking I switched the water filter and she can't stop raving about how much better it is.

You MUST tell her about the filter bit. Get video if possible

Not a chance. She already has sever trust issues straying into mentally ill levels. If I told her the truth, the future nightmare scenarios that would inevitably result would not be worth the satisfaction of proving a point.

It would to me.

 

[Otis]

I'm in the middle of a battle with a raccoon. He's totally not scared of me. I fought him off with a candle and a tricycle. Now he's just waiting in the shadows for me to leave my yard. I decline.

 

[Otis]

I built a fort on top of the trash cans with a tricycle, a bag of baby poop, and some boxes.

 

[GroveDiesel]

I'm in the middle of a battle with a raccoon. He's totally not scared of me. I fought him off with a candle and a tricycle. Now he's just waiting in the shadows for me to leave my yard. I decline.

Raccoons hate onions. Stick half an onion in an old sock and carry that with you and he'll head in the other direction.

 

[Otis]

He's big. Dog sized. I did that thing from the movies where you are supposed to make yourself look as big as you can. I stood up really tall, puffed out my chest, with a cigar and scotch in one hand, and a big citronella candle in the other, and roared. He just sat on the garbage can and looked at me. Not a flinch.

 

[kevzilla]

He's big. Dog sized. I did that thing from the movies where you are supposed to make yourself look as big as you can. I stood up really tall, puffed out my chest, with a cigar and scotch in one hand, and a big citronella candle in the other, and roared. He just sat on the garbage can and looked at me. Not a flinch.

Air rifle time.

 

[Otis]

He's big. Dog sized. I did that thing from the movies where you are supposed to make yourself look as big as you can. I stood up really tall, puffed out my chest, with a cigar and scotch in one hand, and a big citronella candle in the other, and roared. He just sat on the garbage can and looked at me. Not a flinch.

Air rifle time.

Not a gun guy, imo. I have Dark Side of the Moon playing on my laptop. Maybe that is a factor here.

 

[Leeroy Jenkins]

I built a fort on top of the trash cans with a tricycle, a bag of baby poop, and some boxes.

You're going to have poop smeared all over your driveway.

 

[Otis]

My wife is being really helpful, by laughing at me and taking pics.

 

[bentley]

My wife is being really helpful, by laughing at me and taking pics.

This is exactly what your wife should do if you're incapable of dealing with a raccoon. Please keep posting about it. I'm entertained.

 

[bentley]

Just remember that rabies shots really suck. Trust me.

 

[Otis]

Just remember that rabies shots really suck. Trust me.

Do they stick them in my pen1s or something?

 

[Otis]

Honestly been at this nearly an hour now. I have a fort built on top of the garbage cans. He's relentless.

 

[Aaron Rudnicki]

Suburbs sound neat

 

[bostonfred]

Your hand is so big its blurry.

 

[Drifter]

Booked flights to Seattle for my daughter and I.

Monday, August 4 - Saturday, August 9

Gotta read back through this thread at the suggestions and figure out the itinerary to squeeze in some time in Canada too

August 9th is the big company picnic at Qwest Field - Pretty cool spectacle - rides, food, etc. If you want, you can take my badge and go...

 

[Ignoramus]

My wife is being really helpful, by laughing at me and taking pics.

Hey, for $30k I know a guy that can re-do that side yard.