I mentioned how about 14 years ago I guess it has been now, one of my neighbors, a fire fighter, had a congenital heart problem and died at the age of 24. (I've had a streak going for a long time) Of course it was terribly sad since they had only been married a couple of years had a 1.5 yo son and she was pregnant with their second. After a year or so of deep depression she banged around for awhile before meeting a nice guy (I hear) remarrying and had another kid with him. Well yesterday on FB she posted a pic of her oldest son, now 15-16, with a big smile on his face wearing a shirt that reads "I didn't choose to be gay. I got lucky". I've always been in the camp that the VAST majority of gay people were born that way and even if you choose it, WTF do I care. I can't help but wonder though if him losing his Dad shaped his sexuality this way. Plus even flaunting sexuality at that age seems odd to me.