Edited to add: ####, I’m going full GGekko here, sorry for so much rambling.
The first thing I noted in the odd cultural mix is that “everyone is equal”. No...we're not. We all should be treated equally under the law, and it ends there.
I'm not going to get into the performance of groups based on inherited traits because its a rabbit hole that frankly I'm not educated enough on and don’t care to be...but more importantly I am positive that all races, genders, religions can achieve in the US. But we have for example this idea that men and women are equal. And it was borne out of the fight for women to be treated equally as men and seen as equals…which is of course the right fight.
But it has mutated into the genders are the same (and heading to there is no real gender). It has mutated into having a conversation in another thread here where the gist I hear from left leaning posters is “yah, a man in the house is ideal but I don’t really know why…because women can do it all”. And someone will have an example of being raised by a single mother and turning out well.
All things being equal I believe a woman can raise a child well, even fabulously depending on the woman. All things being equal besides gender I think a man and a woman can raise a child better (because two are much better than one and because yes, there are gender roles that have value). When you do this across millions of families…it has a tremendous impact on outcomes of children. This is acutely seen in the black community given the greatly exacerbated rate of single motherhood. THIS…IS…HUGE.
IMO, this was all exacerbated with legalized abortion and I’ve seen studies that specifically time the sharp downward slope in marriages with abortion rights. That was further exacerbated by the implementation of a host of government programs around the same time to support single mothers. Both policies have sound basis and I wouldn’t advocate for wholesale changing them. But our culture wasn’t able to process the changes that rapidly in a positive way.
These changes supported a culture of “the woman can decide to keep the baby or not…so it’s hers to raise if she keeps it”. “I’m no longer honor bound to marry her”. “Getting women pregnant is not as big of a deal anymore”. It supported a culture of “government got that”…so not my problem or even worse “the mother is financially better off if I’m not married to her”.
At the same time feminism is mixing equality with…you don’t need a man, you can do it all, you are a hero doing it all…we celebrate the women doing it all themselves.
And in our culture…our music in particular…men treat women like ####. There’s just no way to sugar coat it. Men always treated other men like ####…but now hell women are on equal footing so fair game (and frankly it almost seems the target of disdain). Well wait, that’s only music, has no impact on real life or how people really behave. Kids listen to it all and then when they take the headphones off go right to treating women like gentlemen and study for 3hrs so stop clutching yer pearl. You listened to Iron Maiden as a kid and didn’t worship satan right. OK, sure, you tell yourself that.
I have a daughter, she listens to a lot of rap/hip hop. Frankly, I listen to some of it too lol…because its good. The beat, a lot of the lyrics…I get it. But its also terrible. My daughter has two parents that work relentlessly to counter everything she absorbs to keep her on the right track. Other kids are not as fortunate, black kids are much less likely to have two parents fighting that fight. Frankly, IMO they are must less like to have a parent that believes it’s a fight to have.
We don’t talk about this. Why? Well, to say a man is needed is to say that women can’t do it all…or…gasp…not the same or equal to men. We can’t say men don’t have children out of wedlock because…well I don’t even know why we can’t. Because its racist? Because sex is inevitable, and we don’t want to repress sex?
We don’t shout from the rooftops and hold our families and our communities accountable. Every politician, community leader, social leader should be saying NON-STOP (added emphasis because someone will say “oh they say it you just don’t hear it”…then THEY ARE NOT SAYING IT ENOUGH):
“Men, you are vital to your child’s life. You cannot have a child out of wedlock. You are failing in your responsibility as a man if you do”
“Women, men are vital to raising your child well, chose the right man. You child is much more likely to be left behind if you raise a child by yourself”.
We should be celebrating the people that do this…not a narrative that is over-indexed on the single mother heroes because that supports the feminist cultural narrative.
Last note before anyone reading this gets to take a nap. Generalization, I have no data: More white parents are drilling this into their children than black parents. They know this is hugely critical to long term success. They know that a 18yr old having a baby is a not good for the 18yr old or the baby. Like as close to catastrophic not good as it gets. This mindset is literally the most basic cheat code to success.
This is not a knock on black parents and that’s its some “inherent” thing. It’s a systemic thing. It’s the real systemic issue in 2021. White parents, on average, have invested so much in their children (time and money) and have a different set of expectations. They’re more likely to have grown up with these expectations themselves. Its generational behavior.
The only thing I think we can do on this specific front in the short term is that every politician, community leader, social leader should be communicating this to the black community NON-STOP. These groups need to augment the black parents on this topic. They are not. They are failing for fear of being called racist or coons, or whatever. All of the oxygen is being taken up on CRT, unarmed police shootings, white women walking dogs without leashes, fascists, adding more letters to LBQT2S+ and white kids smiling at native americans.
Politicians ain’t talking about it. They have a hammer, and its government spending and government replacing the parents. The more they hit this problem with a hammer the more they are distorting the base materials...and the more it needs fixing. We all know the answer, gotta swing the hammer harder.
On the "completely destroys" crap. Annoying trait that Shapiro has as well. 
not sure why we wouldnt be allowed to talk about it. I think where it gets "touchy" is when people try to paint it specifically as black culture because that certainly isnt the case. 
