Joe - I'll try to say it again in a way that's less angry: In short, I don't think it's productive to talk about "healing." It feels like one more trap to divide us. There has been a (most likely 200 year) history of one party or another losing and hurting about it. Maybe they muster themselves and flip the election next time. Maybe, like in the cases of desegregation, they eventually come along. I think my point is that talk about "reconciliation" may actually be exasperating things. We just want to see competent governance. That's what the "losing" side should want, as well.
I read a WHOLE lot of thinkpieces in 2016 saying "well, let's all hope Trump isn't as bad as we feared," and "let's give him a chance to govern." I'd love to see something like that written by a high-level Trump supporter (either in politics or media). But if they don't, that's ok too. Because it's not about MY feelings, either. It's about competence and moving forward. That's pretty much all I care about. And that's what I hope the Trump supporters care about too.
And if they DON'T care about that, well, it seems like they may not care about our country as much as they think they do.
Edit: I don't see to be able to respond in this thread without being a major downer. So, I'll try and keep my comments to a minimum here. I reacted to much from a "gut" level, I fear. I guess I'm angrier than I realized. I feel like Forest Gump ("I'm sorry I got in a fight at your Black Panther Party. . .").