Tons of truth here. It's so good and accurate.
It's important enough it's worth making an exception on the language filter.
Nobody likes to be preached to. Nobody likes to feel like they're being talked down to.
Regardless of right or left, I think we have massive room for improvement there.
I was listening to Cowherd today and he had Emmanuel Acho on (Uncomfortable Conversations With A Black Man) and he talked about a quote by John Lewis that was something like, "It's not so much what you say. It's what is heard".
Meaning if you come off as snarky or condescending or other things like this, the words you might be saying could be true, but they will be ineffective.
I see this personally a ton with my Christian friends. They might be saying words they (and I) believe to be true. But they land in such a way with the recipient that the words aren't effective.
The classic response to that is usually, "
- I'm just speaking the truth". I ask those people: "What's the goal here? For you to feel better about yourself that you 'spoke the truth' or is the goal to get the other person to see your way of thinking and give it a chance?"
It's the responsibility of the speaker to be understood. That's why good speakers are valuable. It's difficult.