How do you be a more positive person? (1 Viewer)

[matuski]

Put @matuski, @Bruce Dickinson, @DedfinAnd @Reg Lllama of Brixton on ignore. 

@Higgs err General Tso - Ignoring people that call you out for what you are is usually a good way to keep getting called out.

You did it to yourself, skippy.

 

[CurlyNight]

You have 2 choices really. Be positive or be negative. Between the 2, why would you choose negative? Are you wanting additional stress, depression, etc that thinking negatively contributes to? How you think may not effect the outcome, but it will help you handle the outcome in case it doesn't go your way.

I struggle with this at times. I'm in the process of getting tested for other medical issues probably created by chemo and/or rads. Scary chit. Going in to the results with a positive/hopeful outlook presets my mind to handle any potential bad news better emotionally and helps me to think more clearly the next steps. If you're negative, you go in already in that mode- and should it be bad news, you'll be in worse shape and won't be able to deal with it as well.

The only place I allow myself to "go there" is in my blog because you do have to voice and vent your fears if only for your own self. Otherwise once I click out of that board, I got it out and work my way up to being positive. Blogging also helps me when I go back and see what I was fretting over didn't happen. For issues that are ongoing, blogging is great. What I've found over my adult life is most of what I've fretted over, thought I'm doomed, never did happen. So why waste my energy on something bad that hasn't happened? I gave myself a pass after my doc appt and am not going to schedule any appts until Mon. Small (healthy) things that you can control to make yourself handle it better, do it.

 

[Ilov80s]

More than anything, my job. I'm a teacher and the kids are just so great,so important to me that I can't be in a bad mood around them. 

Also to be clear, I dont have kids myself. 

 

[wilked]

What helps you stay positive through difficult times? Just looking for some honest advice. 

Step 1 - don't be a victim

The best answer is to actively try and connect with people.  Learn about them, engage them, try and see the world from their perspective.  You do these things and like a boomerang it comes back to you in goodwill and inclusiveness, and it is hard not to be positive in that environment

 

[Judge Smails]

Choose to be around positive people.  I see people who's worlds get smaller and smaller because of their negativity.  I have no time for the conspiracy theory, woe is me, victim types. Who wants to be around them?  They just suck the life out of you and drag you down the drain with them.  That talk is just not productive.  Spend your time with positive people.  Grateful for what they have while taking some accountability their lives, value real relationships and experiences, etc.  Give and you will get back.

 

[GilbertGrape]

alcohol is a depressant

Not when you're bi-polar. You don't want to be that depressed. Nobody does. 

 

[bananafish]

Accept the situation as a good thing 

It's a learning experience, it's a chance to grow, it's time for a change. It's time to move on to greener pastures. It's going to give me time to hone my skills and land a better job, or wife, or understanding of how money works.

you can turn any setback into a positive if you choose to frame it as an opportunity 

 I like "whatever doesn't kill me makes me stronger" and "pain is weakness leaving the body".

Like you said, I try to find the positive in the bumps and travails of life and even be grateful for them. It flips things on their head. It has been found that the feeling of gratitude has positive effects not only on your mood (obviously), but also your health, your sleep, your job, your marriage, pretty much everything. And it makes the simple act of being alive enjoyable.

So stay on the sunny side of life and your life will be sunnier.