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How many kids do you have? (1 Viewer)

How many kids do you have?

  • 0

    Votes: 53 19.3%

  • 1

    Votes: 45 16.4%

  • 2

    Votes: 105 38.2%

  • 3

    Votes: 52 18.9%

  • 4

    Votes: 11 4.0%

  • 5

    Votes: 6 2.2%

  • 6 or more I'm stupid

    Votes: 3 1.1%
  • Total voters
    275
Zero, but looking to adopt in the future. My wife used to never talk about kids, but they are starting to come up in conversation every so often, which makes me ecstatic.

 
2 boys 20 and 17

They were a lot of work a decade ago but once they hit their teens, much easier than the drama that my friends with girls go through.

Going to be strange next year when the younger one goes off to college.

 
4.

girls  age 14, 12, and 7 

boy age 10.

from what I can gather, girls are great until age 14 then they become lunatics.  Boys are great until age 16 when they start wrecking cars and girls.

 
Baloney Sandwich said:
The common theory on whether you have a boy or a girl often comes down to whether your wife has an orgasm.  An orgasm during conception results in a boy and no orgasm results in a girl. 
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Slow and Shallow= girl

fast and deep= boy 

 
3 healthy happy girls ages 7,4,2 and then closed shop   Figured it was best to stop while you are ahead 

 
Bob Loblaw said:
Congrats O!

We have 3, girl - boy - girl, 11, 8, 5.
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Same, plus 5 yrs for each.

And will echo the ease of boys vs girls, mostly because girls are horrible to each other. Not mine to each other, but girls within their peer groups. 

 
None. Almost certainly never will. Wife had a brain injury almost 12 years ago. She's doing moderately well, but has a number of disabilites. 

I accepted this 12 years ago, but my wife was in a coma then, and still has terrible short term memory.  She's now 36. The woman clock is ticking in without much care for the reality of the situation, so she still hasn't quite come around to accepting it. She has to be reminded why (which kills me), and of course, I'm the ####### against it every time the discussion comes up (which is very often). Sure, in theory, it's possible, but working 60 hours a week plus being a lifelong caregiver is enough for me. Maybe adoption one day, but I assume the previous sentence eliminates that option. 

I'm perfectly fine with it now, but I'm sure I'll think differently 40 years from now when there's nobody to wipe my ### and take care of my affairs. So, I just work my ### off, so I can pay somebody to do that. 

 
pollardsvision said:
None. Almost certainly never will. Wife had a brain injury almost 12 years ago. She's doing moderately well, but has a number of disabilites. 

I accepted this 12 years ago, but my wife was in a coma then, and still has terrible short term memory.  She's now 36. The woman clock is ticking in without much care for the reality of the situation, so she still hasn't quite come around to accepting it. She has to be reminded why (which kills me), and of course, I'm the ####### against it every time the discussion comes up (which is very often). Sure, in theory, it's possible, but working 60 hours a week plus being a lifelong caregiver is enough for me. Maybe adoption one day, but I assume the previous sentence eliminates that option. 

I'm perfectly fine with it now, but I'm sure I'll think differently 40 years from now when there's nobody to wipe my ### and take care of my affairs. So, I just work my ### off, so I can pay somebody to do that. 
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Damn.

 
Kraft... said:
Very close to mine :hifive:   16(G), 13(G), 11(B), 8(G)

We calculated that we were changing diapers for 10 straight years :mellow:  
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Mine goes B, G, B, G.  I wish the middle two were flipped so the boys and girls were closer in age.  Minor complaint as all are healthy and well-adjusted but would have been nice

I've told people the same.  10 years of diapers and I was done.  I could still change them one-handed, half-asleep in the dark but I pretty much refuse any joking offer from my SIL.  I've already told the wife that Grandma will change all the diapers - Gramps is retired.

 
Have a two year old boy and a baby girl due any day now.  Didn't know how to vote at this point.

Edited to add. . . Congrats man!  

 
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Between hers, mine and ours we have 5.  22,21,20,14 and 9.  It was a handful when they were younger, but with 3 of them out of the house now it is good.  I enjoy being at the phase where our youngest can fend for himself and is fine staying home by himself for short period of time (less than a couple hours).

 
3:

21, about to be 20, and 14

x-wife had a daughter I mostly raised who's 26 now, and my current wife has a son I raised from 13 now about to be 20...I guess I could claim the 5 or more option :ph34r:

 
James Daulton said:
@Otis  how much of a reprieve from work does one get for having a kid in a big NYC law firm?

I'm guessing a full 24 hours? 
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Some of our associate lawyers and staff take several weeks.  Otis is a workaholic and an idiot, so I usually don't take much time, but I'll take a week, maybe a week and a half.  Could take more if I wanted to, but I doubt I will.  

 
Otis said:
Some of our associate lawyers and staff take several weeks.  Otis is a workaholic and an idiot, so I usually don't take much time, but I'll take a week, maybe a week and a half.  Could take more if I wanted to, but I doubt I will.  
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Take more. You deserve it and cherish this time

 
Otis said:
Some of our associate lawyers and staff take several weeks.  Otis is a workaholic and an idiot, so I usually don't take much time, but I'll take a week, maybe a week and a half.  Could take more if I wanted to, but I doubt I will.  
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But you're probably still checking email periodically, aren't you?

Anyway, glad to hear mother and baby are doing fine and congrats.

 
JaxBill said:
But you're probably still checking email periodically, aren't you?

Anyway, glad to hear mother and baby are doing fine and congrats.
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Periodically??  I was checking email from the delivery room and responding within 10 minutes, max. 

 
ShaqAttaq said:
0.

i prefer the terminology "childfree" rather than childless.  my wife and i are also the wacky dog people who treat the critters like people.
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Well, as long as you aren't those type of people that claim that it's basically the same thing as having kids. 

 
James Daulton said:
@Otis  how much of a reprieve from work does one get for having a kid in a big NYC law firm?

I'm guessing a full 24 hours? 
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Otis said:
Some of our associate lawyers and staff take several weeks.  Otis is a workaholic and an idiot, so I usually don't take much time, but I'll take a week, maybe a week and a half.  Could take more if I wanted to, but I doubt I will.  
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shadyridr said:
Take more. You deserve it and cherish this time
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Tell the wife you are going back to work, tell work you are staying home with the baby and then just go test drive a different Raptor everyday.

 
Deepster said:
Just curious what factors came into play for that to be your choice.  And how old you are.
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No worries. I'll be happy to answer.  I'm 37 years old. 

In regards to the factors--there are far too many for me to list--but I'll hit on some of the main ones.   Generally speaking--I'm a dude that goes hard at everything that I do.  I'm a workaholic and when I do finally have some downtime--I like to either party hard--or lounge hard.  I've also worked in an environment for the past 22 years where I'm constantly surrounded by people. My job requires constant socializing and human interaction--so when I do finally have a free moment--I generally try to maintain a bit of alone time to decompress.   I also have lots of friends that I value--and I already feel like I don't see them as much as I can or should.  Essentially what I'm saying is that I'm a pretty selfish person when it comes to my time.   I like having the freedom of knowing that I'm in charge of my free time.     The one bummer about this for me is that I've had (and am currently with a great one) fantastic girlfriends where we've had to break up for this reason--even though I'd informed them all about my desire to not have children from the very beginning of each relationship.   I also do have nieces and nephews--so I feel like I have kids around me that are family that I can enjoy without any of the negatives that come with parenting.   Even though I think i'm a pretty good person--I don't think I would make a great dad.    Knowing that--it makes me not want to be one---nor would it be fair to any kids that I would be the parent of. 

 
jvdesigns2002 said:
No worries. I'll be happy to answer.  I'm 37 years old. 

In regards to the factors--there are far too many for me to list--but I'll hit on some of the main ones.   Generally speaking--I'm a dude that goes hard at everything that I do.  I'm a workaholic and when I do finally have some downtime--I like to either party hard--or lounge hard.  I've also worked in an environment for the past 22 years where I'm constantly surrounded by people. My job requires constant socializing and human interaction--so when I do finally have a free moment--I generally try to maintain a bit of alone time to decompress.   I also have lots of friends that I value--and I already feel like I don't see them as much as I can or should.  Essentially what I'm saying is that I'm a pretty selfish person when it comes to my time.   I like having the freedom of knowing that I'm in charge of my free time.     The one bummer about this for me is that I've had (and am currently with a great one) fantastic girlfriends where we've had to break up for this reason--even though I'd informed them all about my desire to not have children from the very beginning of each relationship.   I also do have nieces and nephews--so I feel like I have kids around me that are family that I can enjoy without any of the negatives that come with parenting.   Even though I think i'm a pretty good person--I don't think I would make a great dad.    Knowing that--it makes me not want to be one---nor would it be fair to any kids that I would be the parent of. 
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Thanks for the honest answer.  Do you ever worry about your later years?  Being alone in your 60's, with no kids or grand kids to share your life with when the parties and socializing are gone?  Or not passing along your bloodline/family/knowledge to future generations?  You're making the decision now that has a potentially long tail to it, right?

 
Deepster said:
Thanks for the honest answer.  Do you ever worry about your later years?  Being alone in your 60's, with no kids or grand kids to share your life with when the parties and socializing are gone?  Or not passing along your bloodline/family/knowledge to future generations?  You're making the decision now that has a potentially long tail to it, right?
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Anytime. It's cool to have nice discussions in these forums.  I used to think about my later years--and after much internalizing--I felt like that would be a very selfish thing for me to consider.   I can't imagine having kids for the primary reason of having built in companions as I age.   I do have plenty of family even without having kids--so I don't really worry about passing along knowledge or anything of that nature.   I feel like people should only have children if they can be 100% dedicated to being great parents.   I personally cannot say that I would be a great parent--and I certainly wouldn't want to expose any child to any of my admitted shortcomings.   I think that would be a far greater tragedy than me worrying about who I hang out with as I grow older.  Luckily--being a workaholic has resulted in a moderate amount of financial security--so that should help with any care that I need in my later days. Also--although I don't see it happening anytime soon--even though I don't want kids--I'm not opposed to marriage--so that certainly could be a factor in not worrying about being alone.  

 
Stepson will be 23 in March

Daughter turned 11 in September.  She is getting too big :cry:

We wanted 1 more but was not meant to be.   

 
jvdesigns2002 said:
Anytime. It's cool to have nice discussions in these forums.  I used to think about my later years--and after much internalizing--I felt like that would be a very selfish thing for me to consider.   I can't imagine having kids for the primary reason of having built in companions as I age.   I do have plenty of family even without having kids--so I don't really worry about passing along knowledge or anything of that nature.   I feel like people should only have children if they can be 100% dedicated to being great parents.   I personally cannot say that I would be a great parent--and I certainly wouldn't want to expose any child to any of my admitted shortcomings.   I think that would be a far greater tragedy than me worrying about who I hang out with as I grow older.  Luckily--being a workaholic has resulted in a moderate amount of financial security--so that should help with any care that I need in my later days. Also--although I don't see it happening anytime soon--even though I don't want kids--I'm not opposed to marriage--so that certainly could be a factor in not worrying about being alone.  
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Neither my sister nor my husbands brother have kids. Mine will take care of them if need be. Your nieces and nephews will be there for you. 

 
Yeah, having kids mainly so you can have someone to take care of you in the late years is actually pretty sad. 

 
eoMMan said:
Yeah, having kids mainly so you can have someone to take care of you in the late years is actually pretty sad. 
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My initial post never said so they could take care of you, it said " Being alone in your 60's, with no kids or grand kids to share your life with when the parties and socializing are gone".  I was talking more about holidays, graduations, births of grandkids or maybe great grandkids, big Sunday family dinners, etc.

 
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