I agree with this pretty much entirely.
Remember when we used to argue about this stuff all the time, like 15-20 years ago? One of our non-believing friends (I don't remember which one, but I think it might have been one of several posters with a Spock avatar -- just trying to give credit) used to post a challenge to folks like us to describe exactly what happened during Easter week in a clear, continuous timeline. The idea was that the gospels contain lots of little details about the events of the passion, and some of those can't be easily reconciled with one another.
That sort of thing never bothered me, and still doesn't, for exactly the reasons that you describe. It's very easy for me to imagine people getting little details wrong when they're retelling this story, and it's easy to image that different people will remember things differently. That's fine. But there is no telephone game where you go from "Jesus was a an interesting and quirky guy who was kind of cool to hang out with" to "Jesus was the incarnate son of God who died and was resurrected." And the big picture stuff is what's important.
Of course, the price for holding that position is that you have to more or less abandon biblical inerrancy, at least in the sense that most people would understand that idea. I know there are other people out there who view the Bible more or less the way I do, but I don't think this viewpoint is typical for the average person sitting in a pew.
Yep, I remember those conversations and that challenge. And I think this will be a good way for me to respond to
@Joe Bryant 's question above about what do I see as the typical argument, why were they unsatisfactory, and why do I find a different way more meaningful. I wasn't sure how to respond, but the topic of the passion provides a good example.
There are various differences between the Gospels. For example, Matthew and Mark have Jesus being offered wine twice (before he's on the cross and then again when he's near death) and Luke and John only once (when he's on the cross near death). In the first offering, Matthew says it's wine with gall. Mark says it's wine with myrrh. And Mark uses a different word for wine in the first offering. All the other uses are more a vinegar but Mark's first offering to Jesus is the real stuff. So, which is it and why do they report it differently?
I'd say the "typical argument by American Christians" is to come up with an answer on why both can be historically accurate. In other words, if we had a video camera at the scene, we get to see that Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John were all right in their reporting. Luke and John excluding the first one would simply be that they didn't include it. It happened and only Matthew and Mark decided to include it. But, Matthew and Mark describe the first "wine" differently. Some typical theories would be that they are either describing different events or that the wine included both gall and myrrh. None of that explains why Mark would use a different work for that first offering. He uses the vinegar word for the second offering, so he knows that word and could have used it the same way Matthew did if he wanted to. Regardless, this typical approach is to basically say, "Both Matthew and Mark have to have accurately described what happened because if they didn't then this can no longer be the inspired word of God. We'll come up with theories on how both could have happened as described because that's the best way to resolve these differences."
Another approach is like what Ivan is saying here. It's basically a "Who cares? One or both may have got that detail wrong, but they are both right that Jesus was crucified and that he rose from the dead. That's the important detail and it's unlikely they messed that up in their retelling of the story. We can be confident that Jesus resurrected because that's much more memorable than what he was offered to drink before going on the cross." I definitely like this better than the above approach because it doesn't deny the difference or explain it away as if it's not really a difference at all. However, I believe it doesn't give the authors enough credit. I think another approach is to accept that there are differences that can't be reconciled if we just had a camera at the event and to assume the author intentionally told it differently for a purpose. I'm ok if some of the details of Biblical stories are historically inaccurate because of memory errors, but I favor explanations that assume the author said exactly what he wanted to say.
An interesting thing I learned about the crucifixion is that some scholars think there are aspects that mirror a Roman Caesar Triumph/Coronation. Mark, likely being written to a Roman audience, connects more of the dots than the other Gospels. The Praetorium guards gather around Caesar, they put a robe and crown on Caesar, and lead him on a procession along with a sacrifice. They go to a place in Rome that basically translated as Head Hill and Caesar is offered wine and he refuses it and pours it out. As they preform the sacrifice, Caesar if flanked by two officials on his right and left. Caesar is declared as lord and god and they wait for a sign to confirm that truth.
Jesus' crucifixion is very similar. He was taken by the Praetorium guards, they put a robe and crown on him, and led him towards Golgotha (the place of the skull/head). And, he's offered wine with myrrh which he refuses. He's sacrificed on the cross and we're told there are others to his right and left. The tearing of the temple curtain could be the sign and Mark has a centurion being the one to proclaim that this Jesus was the son of God.
While all the Gospels include several of these, I think scholars argue that Mark seems to put an extra focus on this comparison and includes details that drive the point home to his Roman audience. Mark's point isn't that all these things happened as he described. His point is that Jesus is King and Lord and God, not Caesar. His point is that this is what a real triumph looks like. It's not about conquering other nations. It's about sacrifice for others. Mark starts with "The beginning of the Gospel of Jesus Christ, the son of God." Everything in that sentence is subversive towards Rome and Caesar. It was Caesar who was the son of god and it was Caesar who proclaimed a gospel to his empire, but Mark tells the story of a different gospel of the true son of God.
So, was it vinegar with gall or wine with myrrh? I don't care. And, honestly, I'm not even sure I care whether he was even offered anything. I care more about what theological point the author is making rather than whether or not it happened. If we had that camera there and we saw he wasn't offered anything to drink, I'm ok with that. I'm ok if the authors inserted an un-factual event in order to tell me more about who they think Jesus was.
I've read some scholars who disagree with this comparison between the crucifixion and a Caesar coronation. And that's fine. Maybe it's wrong. Maybe that's not what Mark was doing. But, to me, it's a better theory because it is drenched in their culture and it gives meaning to the details.
I have no problem with contradictions. I don't have a need to explain them all away but I also don't want to just say they don't matter. I admit a bias that the details matter. I think the contradictions matter in a positive way. I think it's more likely that contradictions are intentional as a way to make a point. Each author said exactly what he wants to say. Interestingly, I've heard Bart Ehrman make that point. He's a former believer who is now a non-believer partly because of the contradictions and the difficulty to really know what happened. However, I heard him once talk about how instead of ignoring or explaining away the contradictions, we should be paying attention to them because they are part of the message the author is trying to deliver.
In addition to contradictions, I think we do this with the historicity, science, and prophecy. Critics are good at pointing out any time something doesn't line up and believers tend to try to prove that they do line up regardless of the evidence. I find just about all of those explanations unsatisfactory. I used to find them unsatisfactory because of the mental gymnastics to reach many of the answers. Now I find it unsatisfactory because I don't think we even need to defend against many of these critiques.