If you knew a buddy was cheating on his wife and bragging about it (1 Viewer)

[El Floppo]

I dunno why guys feel the need to let their buddies know they are cheating - it puts everyone in an awkward position. I've told my buddies in numerous joke conversations that even if I was ever cheating I'd never tell them.

I have a couple buddies who have strayed, some more than others, and I would honestly rather not know especially since all of our wives are friends for the most part.

That's why his bragging about it is a factor. Dude is clearly a doosh and wants people to know it.

That's the thing. If I somehow run into a guy who's going into a hotel room with someone other than his wife, do I tell her? No, I don't. If this ###hole is bragging to friends and strangers about what a great roll in the hay he's having with Juggy ChestBags, he's clearly intending to (or at least doesn't care at all about the fact that he's going to) publicly humiliate his wife. She does deserve to at least not be the last one to know out of everyone they know. I'd probably tell her if I knew her at all.

Juggy Chestbags is a pretty unique and compelling name. I think I'd like her.

 

[Henry Ford]

I dunno why guys feel the need to let their buddies know they are cheating - it puts everyone in an awkward position. I've told my buddies in numerous joke conversations that even if I was ever cheating I'd never tell them.

I have a couple buddies who have strayed, some more than others, and I would honestly rather not know especially since all of our wives are friends for the most part.

That's why his bragging about it is a factor. Dude is clearly a doosh and wants people to know it.

That's the thing. If I somehow run into a guy who's going into a hotel room with someone other than his wife, do I tell her? No, I don't. If this ###hole is bragging to friends and strangers about what a great roll in the hay he's having with Juggy ChestBags, he's clearly intending to (or at least doesn't care at all about the fact that he's going to) publicly humiliate his wife. She does deserve to at least not be the last one to know out of everyone they know. I'd probably tell her if I knew her at all.

Juggy Chestbags is a pretty unique and compelling name. I think I'd like her.

Ironically, a 32A.

 

[AAABatteries]

Side question - if your wife were bragging to her friends and/or on the internet about some side piece, would you want one of them to tell you?

Anyone being "victimized" is going to want to know, but that's a radically different position to be in than the bystander-friend that the original question posed.

Forget want to know, I think anyone who is being cheated on deserves to know. I know if my wife cheated on me and her friends knew that I would feel betrayed by her and to a lesser extent them. I don't care if someone thinks I'm a snitch - I go to my friend and say "you tell them or I will".

 

[Baloney Sandwich]

I couldn't imagine a situation where I would consider telling a friend's wife my friend is cheating on them. Heck, if I found out a good friend's wife is cheating on my friend I don't think I would say anything to my friend.

 

[flapgreen]

How is this even a question? Hell no.

Yeah, this.

You should definitely talk with him, but not her.

Talk with him about what? I'm not bringing it up at all.

 

[flapgreen]

I couldn't imagine a situation where I would consider telling a friend's wife my friend is cheating on them. Heck, if I found out a good friend's wife is cheating on my friend I don't think I would say anything to my friend.

wtf

 

[flapgreen]

I dunno why guys feel the need to let their buddies know they are cheating - it puts everyone in an awkward position. I've told my buddies in numerous joke conversations that even if I was ever cheating I'd never tell them.

I have a couple buddies who have strayed, some more than others, and I would honestly rather not know especially since all of our wives are friends for the most part.

That's why his bragging about it is a factor. Dude is clearly a doosh and wants people to know it.

That's the thing. If I somehow run into a guy who's going into a hotel room with someone other than his wife, do I tell her? No, I don't. If this ###hole is bragging to friends and strangers about what a great roll in the hay he's having with Juggy ChestBags, he's clearly intending to (or at least doesn't care at all about the fact that he's going to) publicly humiliate his wife. She does deserve to at least not be the last one to know out of everyone they know. I'd probably tell her if I knew her at all.

Juggy Chestbags is a pretty unique and compelling name. I think I'd like her.

 

[Baloney Sandwich]

I couldn't imagine a situation where I would consider telling a friend's wife my friend is

cheating on them. Heck, if I found out a good friend's wife is cheating on my friend I don't think I would say anything to my friend.

wtf

You never know what the unintended consequences might be of letting that cat out of the bag. It wouldn't sit well with me but I just wouldn't be the one to tell a friend. I also wouldn't want a friend to tell me.

 

[Osaurus]

This isn't such a cut and dry issue for me. I don't approve of it nor bragging about it, but should it ultimately be your responsibility to propagate a somewhat predictable outcome on the family? What about children? What will really happen when it is revealed? As much as I would want to say something because I don't agree with the behavior, I still feel it isn't right for me to do so. Friend or not. To me this is more about self control in a very unpleasant situation with obvious serious and long term consequences.

 

[cstu]

I would blackmail him.

 

[flapgreen]

I couldn't imagine a situation where I would consider telling a friend's wife my friend is

cheating on them. Heck, if I found out a good friend's wife is cheating on my friend I don't think I would say anything to my friend.

wtf

You never know what the unintended consequences might be of letting that cat out of the bag. It wouldn't sit well with me but I just wouldn't be the one to tell a friend. I also wouldn't want a friend to tell me.

I'd be pretty selective but if it was one of my few very close friends, I'm telling them. I only have a couple really close friends and I would expect the same from them.

 

[Quez]

If the dude is bragging about it, then likely she knows or will find out shortly.

 

[tommyGunZ]

Not your place to tell, unless your loyalty lies with his wife (i.e. she is/was a good friend of yours before you met him).

 

[tommyGunZ]

Side question - if your wife were bragging to her friends and/or on the internet about some side piece, would you want one of them to tell you?

Anyone being "victimized" is going to want to know, but that's a radically different position to be in than the bystander-friend that the original question posed.

Forget want to know, I think anyone who is being cheated on deserves to know. I know if my wife cheated on me and her friends knew that I would feel betrayed by her and to a lesser extent them. I don't care if someone thinks I'm a snitch - I go to my friend and say "you tell them or I will".

Shtick?

 

[FUBAR]

This isn't such a cut and dry issue for me. I don't approve of it nor bragging about it, but should it ultimately be your responsibility to propagate a somewhat predictable outcome on the family? What about children? What will really happen when it is revealed? As much as I would want to say something because I don't agree with the behavior, I still feel it isn't right for me to do so. Friend or not. To me this is more about self control in a very unpleasant situation with obvious serious and long term consequences.

Of course it isn't your responsibility, your duty or anything like that. Still doesn't mean it would be wrong to inform her.

Honestly, I don't think either answer is "Wrong" and there's a lot to be said for keeping your nose out of it. That doesn't really answer the question of what you would actually do.

 

[tdoss]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

 

[AAABatteries]

Side question - if your wife were bragging to her friends and/or on the internet about some side piece, would you want one of them to tell you?

Anyone being "victimized" is going to want to know, but that's a radically different position to be in than the bystander-friend that the original question posed.

Forget want to know, I think anyone who is being cheated on deserves to know. I know if my wife cheated on me and her friends knew that I would feel betrayed by her and to a lesser extent them. I don't care if someone thinks I'm a snitch - I go to my friend and say "you tell them or I will".

Shtick?

No - the wife deserves to know. I would hope someone does the same for me.

 

[AAABatteries]

I think I read this wrong - if I don't know the wife I wouldn't tell her.

 

[Henry Ford]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

Screwing around on their wives? Probably.

 

[chauncey]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

Screwing around on their wives? Probably.

That is just biology.

 

[Henry Ford]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

Screwing around on their wives? Probably.

That is just biology.

That's a very sad viewpoint.

 

[mr roboto]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

Screwing around on their wives? Probably.

That is just biology.

No it's childishness and a sad viewpoint that's unfortunately growing. Sorry to hear that your mind is a slave to your ####.

 

[Sweet J]

Side question - if your wife were bragging to her friends and/or on the internet about some side piece, would you want one of them to tell you?

Anyone being "victimized" is going to want to know, but that's a radically different position to be in than the bystander-friend that the original question posed.

Forget want to know, I think anyone who is being cheated on deserves to know. I know if my wife cheated on me and her friends knew that I would feel betrayed by her and to a lesser extent them. I don't care if someone thinks I'm a snitch - I go to my friend and say "you tell them or I will".

Shtick?

No - the wife deserves to know. I would hope someone does the same for me.

Those are big shoulders you must have, to carry the weight of the world on. Righting all those wrongs. Fixing all the broken things.

 

[chauncey]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

Screwing around on their wives? Probably.

That is just biology.

No it's childishness and a sad viewpoint that's unfortunately growing. Sorry to hear that your mind is a slave to your ####.

I never said I condone cheating. Just pointing out that it is a man's nature to spread his seed for reproductive purposes. The nurture of a single parent household is secondary at best.

Any updates with the preschool principal?

 

[Quez]

I picture the guy from Wedding Singer when I think of a dude bragging about cheating. Julia Goolias fiance.

 

[AAABatteries]

Side question - if your wife were bragging to her friends and/or on the internet about some side piece, would you want one of them to tell you?

Anyone being "victimized" is going to want to know, but that's a radically different position to be in than the bystander-friend that the original question posed.

Forget want to know, I think anyone who is being cheated on deserves to know. I know if my wife cheated on me and her friends knew that I would feel betrayed by her and to a lesser extent them. I don't care if someone thinks I'm a snitch - I go to my friend and say "you tell them or I will".

Shtick?

No - the wife deserves to know. I would hope someone does the same for me.

Those are big shoulders you must have, to carry the weight of the world on. Righting all those wrongs. Fixing all the broken things.

Wat?

 

[dparker713]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

 

[Hilts]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

Screwing around on their wives? Probably.

That is just biology.

No it's childishness and a sad viewpoint that's unfortunately growing. Sorry to hear that your mind is a slave to your ####.

I never said I condone cheating. Just pointing out that it is a man's nature to spread his seed for reproductive purposes. The nurture of a single parent household is secondary at best. Any updates with the preschool principal?

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/13/health/research/13testosterone.html?_r=0

 

[Christo]

I'm not going to rat him out. But I'm not covering for him either.

 

[VA703]

I would try to sleep with her to make it even

 

[Christo]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

A good father would teach you to mind your own business when you don't know all of the facts.

 

[dparker713]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

A good father would teach you to mind your own business when you don't know all of the facts.

Is this like when a Creationist attacks the Theory of Evolution because there are gaps in the fossil record?

 

[Christo]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

A good father would teach you to mind your own business when you don't know all of the facts.

Is this like when a Creationist attacks the Theory of Evolution because there are gaps in the fossil record?

No, it's just me pointing out you were talking out your ###.

 

[dparker713]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

A good father would teach you to mind your own business when you don't know all of the facts.

Is this like when a Creationist attacks the Theory of Evolution because there are gaps in the fossil record?

No, it's just me pointing out you were talking out your ###.

So, he can make a generalization about other people's parentage, but making an inference about his father based upon that generalization is somehow out of line? Interesting take there.

 

[Christo]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

A good father would teach you to mind your own business when you don't know all of the facts.

Is this like when a Creationist attacks the Theory of Evolution because there are gaps in the fossil record?

No, it's just me pointing out you were talking out your ###.

So, he can make a generalization about other people's parentage, but making an inference about his father based upon that generalization is somehow out of line? Interesting take there.

My post just concerns your assbaggery.

 

[dparker713]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

A good father would teach you to mind your own business when you don't know all of the facts.

Is this like when a Creationist attacks the Theory of Evolution because there are gaps in the fossil record?

No, it's just me pointing out you were talking out your ###.

So, he can make a generalization about other people's parentage, but making an inference about his father based upon that generalization is somehow out of line? Interesting take there.

My post just concerns your assbaggery.

Is that a technical term? I need to figure out how ihurt I should be.

 

[FUBAR]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

A good father would teach you to mind your own business when you don't know all of the facts.

Interesting. In your view, is this an absolute statement?

 

[Christo]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

A good father would teach you to mind your own business when you don't know all of the facts.

Is this like when a Creationist attacks the Theory of Evolution because there are gaps in the fossil record?

No, it's just me pointing out you were talking out your ###.

So, he can make a generalization about other people's parentage, but making an inference about his father based upon that generalization is somehow out of line? Interesting take there.

My post just concerns your assbaggery.

Is that a technical term? I need to figure out how ihurt I should be.

Your feelings are not my concern.

 

[Christo]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

A good father would teach you to mind your own business when you don't know all of the facts.

Interesting. In your view, is this an absolute statement?

I exercise discretion in every facet of my life. YMMV

 

[El Floppo]

This must be the result of men growing up without fathers.

How is this a question? Of course no.

Wow, your dad sounds like an #######.

A good father would teach you to mind your own business when you don't know all of the facts.

Interesting. In your view, is this an absolute statement?

I exercise discretion in every facet of my life. YMMV

pretty sure you don't exercise at all, fatty.

 

[dparker713]

Your feelings are not my concern.

Didn't realize tdoss was your lover. If I care to remember, I'll make sure to not give a crap.

 

[flapgreen]

I picture the guy from Wedding Singer when I think of a dude bragging about cheating. Julia Goolias fiance.

Love that guy!

 

[pollardsvision]

I generally stay out of the business of others, but I wouldn't go covering out of some guy code. I know a couple of DB's I'd consider ratting out. Not close GF's, but some couples I know where I just don't like the dude too much.

Ultimately, I wouldn't do it.

Not because it'd be wrong or I give a #### about some #######, but because I know she wouldn't believe me. Mix in pics or some other proof, along with a mildly dooshy dude and a wife thats a decent person, and sure, I'd tell.

 

[Quez]

I picture the guy from Wedding Singer when I think of a dude bragging about cheating. Julia Goolias fiance.

Love that guy!

I looked it up. His name is Glen Gulia.http://memecrunch.com/meme/1YUUA/glen-gulia

 

[FlapJacks]

If the guy is an acquaintance that I secretly don't like, his wife that's being cheated on is hot, and telling her could lead to some steamy revenge sex with me - then, yes, I may tell her.

That's kind of scummy

 

[msudaisy26]

I actually have some experience with this, but it was a wife cheating on her husband. Anyways without going into a tldr. I found out the details because the wife was very chatty and for some reason just told me. Her husband and my husband were friends before we met so I told my husband about it and we came up with the plan to help him catch her in the act. Basically my husband told him what was going on and not to believe us, but see it for his own eyes. He had him take a day off work without telling the wife and he caught her in the act.

 

[Bucky86]

I actually have some experience with this, but it was a wife cheating on her husband. Anyways without going into a tldr. I found out the details because the wife was very chatty and for some reason just told me. Her husband and my husband were friends before we met so I told my husband about it and we came up with the plan to help him catch her in the act. Basically my husband told him what was going on and not to believe us, but see it for his own eyes. He had him take a day off work without telling the wife and he caught her in the act.

What if he murdered someone? Could you have been liable for something?

 

[msudaisy26]

I actually have some experience with this, but it was a wife cheating on her husband. Anyways without going into a tldr. I found out the details because the wife was very chatty and for some reason just told me. Her husband and my husband were friends before we met so I told my husband about it and we came up with the plan to help him catch her in the act. Basically my husband told him what was going on and not to believe us, but see it for his own eyes. He had him take a day off work without telling the wife and he caught her in the act.

What if he murdered someone? Could you have been liable for something?

I don't think so, but we never thought of that. You could maybe have said living with that thought you destroyed someone else's life, but I didn't tell then to cheat, and I highly doubt the other guy thought she was single. It happened at her house.