So the ex contacted me yesterday via text.
Sorry nothing crazy.
Apparently she left her RN license certificate, college diploma, and various other documents in a drawer and wants them back.
I didn't reply to her 2 text messages and I didn't answer her two calls. She then had her roommate text me (my BF's GF) asking about the items. I didn't reply.
I'm gonna give them to my BF on Saturday when we hang out, but really don't feel like communicating with her or doing things on her timetable. So she'll get that #### on Saturday.
Since, we've broken up I know she has come to hate me. I guess she hung out with my brother's ex shortly after we broke up and that ##### told her 5 years ago that I made out with some random chick at a party (I received very nasty text/phone calls afterwards). I didn't tell the GF then because she was/is crazy and a very jealous person. Might have ended the relationship since we were long distance, but maybe not since she was bat #### crazy for me. To be fair, the chick came on to me. Her BF had just broken up with her so yah. I stopped the kiss and never even thought about contacting her after that night (never did).
I know she's probably using that incident 5 years ago to rationalize/justify what she did to me now. But damn in that 5 years (the 1st two years of 7 were long distance) we went through a lot together. She willingly left me thinking I was the "perfect" boyfriend.
Anyways, this brings us back to the RN License, diploma, etc.
Would it be wise to sneak a letter in there apologizing about what happened 5 years ago? Or even just to remind her the whole reason she is an RN today was because I encouraged and believed in her (BACKSTORY: She had given up on nursing after failing O-chem, which pretty much ended her chances of getting into SDSU nursing program. So she switched her major to become a physical therapist. However, when I met her that was the time I was switching majors into Nursing and I encouraged her to retake o-chem and apply for nursing again at other schools since all her other grades were "A")? Also, the reason she works as an RN today is because my mom vouched for her and used her connections as a RN supervisor to get her a job.
I don't want her back, but I just don't want her to hate me either.
I guess it all falls back to this quote:
"When women love us, they forgive us everything, even our crimes; when they do not love us, they give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues" – Balzac.
Does it make sense to give my side or seek some type of closure on this subject? She may not care, but it bugs the hell out of me that she basically ignores all that my family and I did for her b/c 5 years ago I made out with some chick.
Don't slip her any note. Just give her stuff back to her.
Probably not a good idea though!Seriously I agree with the above post -- don't write a note. If she hates you there is nothing that you can write in a note that is going to change her mind. And who cares if she does? She was the lying %^&^$ that was screwing another guy while you two were still together.
leasedeargodmakethewhitecornergoaway:Mistake after mistake. Not to mention he completely ignores all advice from those who have been through this before. Maybe we're all just victims of the greatest fishing trip ever perpetrated in the FFA.
