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"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yo (2 Viewers)
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No. 16
Footballguy
Shows if she's serious or not about ending things with him and working things out with me. She has to get her stuff, stuff that can't be shipped/she's afraid of losing if she ends things before hand. Fine. Let's do it and be done with him. Otherwise, it's all talk and she wants to keep both options open.
Balco
Footballguy
Or she can have a friend pick them up.
Quint
Footballguy
oh no!
if you drive down there on Friday, you'll probably have to get a room before heading back up on Saturday with all her stuff.
what happens if she doesn't "give in to your demands" and requests a room with two double beds?
will you leave her down there??
will you bring all her #### back up here and then dump her???
will you help her move it all back into the PT's place before driving her back up here????
will Rusty be able to rally for the Vegas trip in September?????
if you drive down there on Friday, you'll probably have to get a room before heading back up on Saturday with all her stuff.
what happens if she doesn't "give in to your demands" and requests a room with two double beds?
will you leave her down there??
will you bring all her #### back up here and then dump her???
will you help her move it all back into the PT's place before driving her back up here????
will Rusty be able to rally for the Vegas trip in September?????
No. 16
Footballguy
And that's that. She's at the airport.
She finally replied to my text....
"Don't expect #### from me after you've ignored me all ####in day. And calling me a slut. #### you. I'm done. I don't want to deal with all this stupid ####. I don't want either of you guys. I'm done with all this bull####."
I feel like ####, but at least there's no "What if?" anymore. We're done. I tried. She didn't. It hurts like hell, but I finally gotta let this one go. Really let it go this time. She's not the one.
It ####in hurts.
Can't stay in my room anymore. Gotta hang out with my brother or else I'll go bat ####.
She finally replied to my text....
"Don't expect #### from me after you've ignored me all ####in day. And calling me a slut. #### you. I'm done. I don't want to deal with all this stupid ####. I don't want either of you guys. I'm done with all this bull####."
I feel like ####, but at least there's no "What if?" anymore. We're done. I tried. She didn't. It hurts like hell, but I finally gotta let this one go. Really let it go this time. She's not the one.
It ####in hurts.
Can't stay in my room anymore. Gotta hang out with my brother or else I'll go bat ####.
Balco
Footballguy
Feel bad for you, seriously. I know most said at the outset of the thread, but time will help. But make no mistake, she will contact you again. Will you have learned from this? You need to block her number, no stupid app that lets you see her texts. Block the number. Don't talk about her to her friends, or your friends. Let it go, and let time pass. It's hard, but it will pass. And as others have said, take some time off from boozing. Clear your head.
[Dr. Evil] Riiiiigggghhhhhttttt...... [/Dr. Evil]
Mister Martie
Footballguy
Way to let her own you one last time.
JFT Ben
Footballguy
Dude, you seriously need to get your head around the Roosh, etc. manosphere stuff and out of the clouds. There is no "the one", only chicks who you can make a life with and those who you can't. Coralyssa is bat-#### crazy, don't look back no matter how hot she is. As Silent Bob said in Clerks "..there's a million fine looking women in this world, dude. But they don't all bring you lasagna at work. Most of them just cheat on you."Truer words have not been said. Seriously, read up on what "alpha" means. I'm rooting for you but you are the definition of beta, no wonder you're more like her brother than a boyfriend, or gay friend you hold hands with. Get some 'tude and stop being such a nice guy. We really are all rooting for you. Now, come back to the x-fit thread and get WOD-drunk instead of real drunk.
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Tabasco Red
Footballguy
And now you can move on. Tell your brother all the #### that's been going on. Unload, get it all out. When you wake up tomorrow, move on.
Rick James
Footballguy
jomar
Footballguy
The text right before this one was 'I don't want to lose you'. This after she said 'I ####### hate you', which came after 'I want to work things out with you'. Now I know all women are crazy, but if you can't see the bat #### crazy coming out of this one, you deserve what you get.She WILL come back with another lovey dovey text. When that happens, remember the text that is going to follow. If you want to spend your life this way, good luck to you. I know I couldn't do it but for every bat #### crazy chick, there's a stupid dude who takes her ####.
Quit giving him ideas. Let him make up his own story. He's been going strong for nearly 90 pages now, he knows what he's doing.
McGarnicle
Footballguy
I have to disagree with everyone saying don't call the PT. That could be the best opportunity for this dude to learn just what a duplicitous bizznatch this woman really is. After some initial awkwardness, once they compare notes and see all the inconsistencies (and come on, there will be dozens), I predict they will talk for 2 hours and end up consoling each other and agreeing this woman is a cancer. I say that with the assumption #16 has a shred of a spine left which admittedly is a leap, but dude, for your own good, I challenge you to make that call.
Given the fork in the road where you find yourself, I fail to see the argument against any such measure to find some truth/clarity. I would certainly hope that if she's leaving things open-ended with PT while telling you she's ending it, you'll come to your senses. Though from reading your posts here I give that no more than 50/50. I'm glad you're not a close friend of mine, I may have strangled you by now.
Given the fork in the road where you find yourself, I fail to see the argument against any such measure to find some truth/clarity. I would certainly hope that if she's leaving things open-ended with PT while telling you she's ending it, you'll come to your senses. Though from reading your posts here I give that no more than 50/50. I'm glad you're not a close friend of mine, I may have strangled you by now.
BigJim®
Footballguy
Set the slutting, manipulation and deception aside for a minute. If anyone ever texted me like this, I'd assume she was a mental midget with the maturity of an 13 year old. Why you would give someone like this opportunity after opportunity to meet any demands whatsoever to become your partner in life is simply mindboggling. You've shown other texts like that over the last 6 months and I just don't get how you brush this stuff aside and move past it. You got stockholm syndrome or something?
Zegras11
Footballguy
And you will do this over and over and over again the rest of your life unless you change.
Das Boot
Footballguy
Yep... in fact it's starting to look more like Asian Carp just leaping into the boat now.
No. 16
Footballguy
She's not like this in person. When we're together everything is great, we have no issues at all. That's why it's so hard for me let go but I need to do it now. I need to stop wasting time.
Das Boot
Footballguy
No. 16
Footballguy
Let him deal with her ####. She's not happy with him or else she wouldn't have started talking to me again. It's only a matter of time before she does to him what she did to me.
Zegras11
Footballguy
Odds are she already has.How much do you want for the movie rights?
Just my opinion, but I'd be willing to bet he was never very serious with her. Probably threw her to the curb once he got tired of the sex (and an awesome trip to Hawaii), which is why she came back to you. Once you gave her the ultimatum of you or him she got upset, because she still wants to be with him. After he ####s her and rejects her again she'll come back to you. Until the next guy...You need to move on and forget about her.
No. 16
Footballguy
Reading all that PUA/alpha/beta talk is partly what drove me to give her a 2nd chance. Between reading that viewpoint of women, experiencing the cheating first hand, and reading all these divorce threads it seems like most women will just cheat anyways no matter what. So I figured, why bother with someone new? Why not try and fix what I know and what was generally a good thing before the cheating?Obviously, that's a ####ed up way of thinking but I'm just explaining everything going on in my mind. Also, I think the uncertainty of my career with the DUI and my license (still haven't heard from the BRN) also got to me. I wanted to try and lock it down with Alyssa (stable job) instead of having to possibly go back out there as a 27 year old with no career.
In this time where my future seems so uncertain and far from stable (my doing of course), I am desperately trying to hold onto what certainty I did have going into this year.
This is life though. Nothing is ever easy and it isn't always good times. Gotta stay strong and keep on going.
It's just so crazy to think that at this time last year Alyssa and I were talking about buying a home, getting married, and traveling the world. Everything seemed so awesome and settled.
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tommyGunZ
Footballguy
So you're not going to get a chance to vacuum the PT's carpet in SoCal this weekend? Devastating.
DA RAIDERS
Footballguy
ah the memories......time to go hogging my boy!! nothing will make that pain go away faster than a lovely little pork chop doting on your scrawny asian ###.and post a pic of your skanky ex girlfriend already.Nothing will make the hurt go away. It's done. Over. You 2 were too young. She needs/wants to get piped out by a bunch of dudes. You should do the same(but with girls)What you need is a slump buster. Sux0rs, but it's just life.
jamny
Footballguy
Boo-hoo, life sucks, Whaaaaaaaaaaaaa.Get over yourself. This is the same #### you posted 8 months ago. At the time it was a bit understandable because of the tough breakup but c'mon man, grow up. You're 27, the prime of your life, yet you're like a little kid. You broke up with a "girlfriend", you didn't get divorced from your wife, who you made a lifelong committment to, with a few kids involved. What are you going to do when life really gets real? Like when you're 40 or 50 and getting a divorce, or losing your job or house and your parents are sick and dying. For some reason I thought you were 22 or 23, but at 27 you really need to get your #### together. Focus on yourself, be the best you can be at your career and let things come to you. Ten years goes by in a snap. Next thing you know, you'll be 37 and the same sad sack you are now. Life is way too short to waste another second on this psycho #####. I know I'm just wasting my time here. You'll be back with her again.
identikit
Footballguy
Didn't make it through his edit.
Ned
Footballguy
Godsbrother
Footballguy
I think she made the right decision...
No. 16
Footballguy
I didn't disclose this before because when I started the thread I pretended like I didn't know there was another party, even though I really did.A few days after she first broke up with me but when she was still staying at my place there was a time she wanted to "work things out." So I made her give me his number since she listed him under her cousin's name, delete him from her contacts/Facebook, and call him right in front of me to end things with him. She also agreed to give me acess to her phone, Facebook, and email. She did all that, but she still moved out. Should have been a red flag.A few days later after we had eaten dinner I asked her if I could see her phone. Call log had been wiped until just before dinner. Nothing on texts. I was in the process of typing in PT's phone number when a text message comes through whispering sweet nothings...it was from PT but under the name of her cousin. So I called the number back. Spoke calmly to PT and asked him why he has been continuing to text Alyssa after she ended things with him. He said he didn't know. Then I asked if who had been initiating texts, him or Alyssa. He said he didn't know. Then I told him he should just tell me the truth because it will make things a whole lot easier for him beacause I wouldn't fight for her and that he could have her if she was lying to me like this. After that he gave up the goods and told me she told him I made her do it and that they had continued to contact each other. I laughed and then I told him good luck with the her and to be careful because she did the same thing on her last boyfriend with me.Luckily we were close to my home so I tossed her phone into her car and without saying a word to her I just walked home after. I thought this latest attempt to work things out was more serious, but nope it stinks too much. All talk and no action on her part..again. Like they say actions speak louder than words.
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IvanKaramazov
Footballguy
That was pretty important information to leave out earlier.
Fixed. Geezus, does ANYONE still really believe any of this is for real? Seriously???
comfortably numb
Footballguy
As I said before, you will leave her when she is ready for you to leave her.
You will keep chasing her, despite how much she pushes you away.
I hope you have finally learned, but like you tell her, "all talk and no action".
Once your actions start talking more like you are done being her #####, then we will believe you (not that you need us to believe you are done with her this time)
But anyway, good luck, and one day you will see(hopefully) that if you need to have her back with all those demands you have to appease your trust, she isn't really worth it.
You will keep chasing her, despite how much she pushes you away.
I hope you have finally learned, but like you tell her, "all talk and no action".
Once your actions start talking more like you are done being her #####, then we will believe you (not that you need us to believe you are done with her this time)
But anyway, good luck, and one day you will see(hopefully) that if you need to have her back with all those demands you have to appease your trust, she isn't really worth it.
IvanKaramazov
Footballguy
That last story swung me closer to the "fishing" camp.
identikit
Footballguy
What interesting information to leave out.
FigJam
Footballguy
I disagree... Answer the door nekkid with handcuffs
No. 16
Footballguy
The night before... "we exchanged a few profanity laced messages."I didn't use the term slut. I called her a whore BTW.
identikit
Footballguy
LOLMakes all the difference.
bshell27
Footballguy
Yes. She is also saying that both you and the P/T know what a conniving skank she is so she needs a fresh start with new suckers who will lap it up.
Dr. Awesome
Footballguy
I don't believe 16 is fishing but holy hell did he leave out a really, really big piece of information.Your ultimatum was childish and laughably awful. That said, I love her response. Going on the offensive is her only play left if she's going to continue dancing between you both. It's a hail mary but it's worth a shot from her viewpoint.Does your ex have Borderline Personality Disorder?
No. 16
Footballguy
Like I fessed up before (prior to this story, I don't know how) many pages back I started the thread pretending I didn't know about PT. I guess honestly I knew if I gave up that info early the advice would be unanimous in leaving her alone and that's not what I wanted to hear at that time (...and 88 pages later). Like I said in the OP, I'm an optimistic person and I wanted to hear if there were any stories of people getting back together...particularly those with a happy ending. Didn't get much of those.
xulf
Footballguy
I think Otis Nixon has some insight into this.
No. 16
Footballguy
I agree with your general message but to say I just "broke up with a GF" is BS. We were together for 7 years. How many marriages last that long? That's practically 1/4th of my life on Earth and pretty much my entire adult life. Sure we didn't have kids and we weren't married, but it doesn't make it any less devesating. I can't imagine the emotional pain of a divorce being much different aside from the emotions attached with the kids. I was in love with her and was planning to marry her. My mind was already commited to forever.Also, I could lose my job as a result of the DUI so that's something on the back of my mind as well. So right now I am experiencing a divorce and I'm working knowing that it could all be taken away very soon. There are tons of people worse off then me, so I am thankful. However, I think this is still a difficult time in my life and much more than just "breaking up with a GF."
