"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yo (2 Viewers)

[Bob Sacamano]

A couple of thoughts/questions:

1) You say that you need to get in shape. How would you rate yourself and her when you first got together and how would you rate yourself now? Were you equals to begin with, but now she is higher up the scale?

2) What has changed in the last year? It looks like you both got jobs. Were you both looking for work prior to that and you had an "us against the world" approach? Were you helping her through tough times? Women like to lean on guys until they no longer have a need for them. Once she found a job, met new people (and new guys), you pretty much weren't needed.

As mentioned, women don't break things off until they know they have some prospects. She may not be banging another guy, but she has at least one fella that she knows she already has on the hook. If she comes back to you, it's b/c that guy didn't want her. Do you really want to be her backup plan?

1) I'd say were both pretty much similar when we met and now. I dont have as much muscle, put on about 5-10 pounds but she went fr being 103 to her present weight of 113. She's beautiful but I'm a confident guy so I wouldn't say I outkickrd my coverage if that's what you're asking.2) We both are registered nurses so I guess we went through applying to nursing school, getting through nursing school, passing the boards, and then looking and finally finding jobs the past 6 years. So i guess that's what helped bond us together.

You gotta stop calling her this.

Have you stopped yet?

 

[Zow]

A couple of thoughts/questions:

1) You say that you need to get in shape. How would you rate yourself and her when you first got together and how would you rate yourself now? Were you equals to begin with, but now she is higher up the scale?

2) What has changed in the last year? It looks like you both got jobs. Were you both looking for work prior to that and you had an "us against the world" approach? Were you helping her through tough times? Women like to lean on guys until they no longer have a need for them. Once she found a job, met new people (and new guys), you pretty much weren't needed.

As mentioned, women don't break things off until they know they have some prospects. She may not be banging another guy, but she has at least one fella that she knows she already has on the hook. If she comes back to you, it's b/c that guy didn't want her. Do you really want to be her backup plan?

1) I'd say were both pretty much similar when we met and now. I dont have as much muscle, put on about 5-10 pounds but she went fr being 103 to her present weight of 113. She's beautiful but I'm a confident guy so I wouldn't say I outkickrd my coverage if that's what you're asking.2) We both are registered nurses so I guess we went through applying to nursing school, getting through nursing school, passing the boards, and then looking and finally finding jobs the past 6 years. So i guess that's what helped bond us together.

You gotta stop calling her this.

Have you stopped yet?

You talking about the ever-beautiful the ex??? If so, yes.

 

[Dexter]

Feeeeeeelings I've got so many feeeeeeeelings

 

[St. Louis Bob]

Really appreciate all the help guys.Not much to update now. I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.FFA never fails.

I know I've been goofing around a lot in the thread, but I really hope you stay that way. I know how much it sucks, man.Now seriously, after the weekend, throw her out. You have to. It's the only way you're ever going to move on. It took me moving 2,000 miles away from the "one that got away" before I had any chance of forgetting about her. Being 20 steps away is emotional suicide.

You know they're going to hook up at the wedding, right?

Damn it. I would like to second EG's post.

 

[ArcticEdge]

Really appreciate all the help guys.Not much to update now. I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.FFA never fails.

I know I've been goofing around a lot in the thread, but I really hope you stay that way. I know how much it sucks, man.Now seriously, after the weekend, throw her out. You have to. It's the only way you're ever going to move on. It took me moving 2,000 miles away from the "one that got away" before I had any chance of forgetting about her. Being 20 steps away is emotional suicide.

You know they're going to hook up at the wedding, right?

No they're not. The cardiologist who is banging her is gonna pick her up from the reception.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO! She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

I must have missed it, but I have not seen the poor kid acknowledge that she is seeing another..

He'll know for sure soon enough...

Were just trying to make sure it isnt via walking in on Dr. Dreamboat plowing her on his sofa. Because as bad as it is NOW, the image of Doc giving him the old' shooter Mcgavin double pistols gesture (butt naked and balls deep) would be MUCH, MUCH worse.

Would be the best thing that could happen to him. *smack*, his hand strikes her hard on the ###."Come on! You're always so damn lazy when you're on top. MOVE IT! Quit making him work so hard and move your ### a little bit, would you? You know, doc, when she's on the verge, she really likes it when you shove two fingers five-hole. The faster, dryer, and more painful, the more she enjoys it. She'll object a little at first. Just trust me and fight through the bull####.Now, if you'll excuse me, there's a bowl of Fruit Loops in that kitchen that's not going to eat itself."Why the hell should he care who she's doing or where she's doing it? He doesn't. End of story.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

A couple of thoughts/questions:

1) You say that you need to get in shape. How would you rate yourself and her when you first got together and how would you rate yourself now? Were you equals to begin with, but now she is higher up the scale?

2) What has changed in the last year? It looks like you both got jobs. Were you both looking for work prior to that and you had an "us against the world" approach? Were you helping her through tough times? Women like to lean on guys until they no longer have a need for them. Once she found a job, met new people (and new guys), you pretty much weren't needed.

As mentioned, women don't break things off until they know they have some prospects. She may not be banging another guy, but she has at least one fella that she knows she already has on the hook. If she comes back to you, it's b/c that guy didn't want her. Do you really want to be her backup plan?

1) I'd say were both pretty much similar when we met and now. I dont have as much muscle, put on about 5-10 pounds but she went fr being 103 to her present weight of 113. She's beautiful but I'm a confident guy so I wouldn't say I outkickrd my coverage if that's what you're asking.2) We both are registered nurses so I guess we went through applying to nursing school, getting through nursing school, passing the boards, and then looking and finally finding jobs the past 6 years. So i guess that's what helped bond us together.

You gotta stop calling her this.

Have you stopped yet?

You talking about the ever-beautiful the ex??? If so, yes.

Good for you!

Hey, wait!

 

[ArcticEdge]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO! She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

I must have missed it, but I have not seen the poor kid acknowledge that she is seeing another..

He'll know for sure soon enough...

Were just trying to make sure it isnt via walking in on Dr. Dreamboat plowing her on his sofa. Because as bad as it is NOW, the image of Doc giving him the old' shooter Mcgavin double pistols gesture (butt naked and balls deep) would be MUCH, MUCH worse.

Would be the best thing that could happen to him. *smack*, his hand strikes her hard on the ###."Come on! You're always so damn lazy when you're on top. MOVE IT! Quit making him work so hard and move your ### a little bit, would you? You know, doc, when she's on the verge, she really likes it when you shove two fingers five-hole. The faster, dryer, and more painful, the more she enjoys it. She'll object a little at first. Just trust me and fight through the bull####.Now, if you'll excuse me, there's a bowl of Fruit Loops in that kitchen that's not going to eat itself."Why the hell should he care who she's doing or where she's doing it? He doesn't. End of story.

He's a dumb kid "in love", of course he cares. That's why Im trying to spare him this crap by admitting she iis banging another.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Really appreciate all the help guys.

Not much to update now.

I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.

It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.

FFA never fails.

I know I've been goofing around a lot in the thread, but I really hope you stay that way. I know how much it sucks, man.Now seriously, after the weekend, throw her out. You have to. It's the only way you're ever going to move on. It took me moving 2,000 miles away from the "one that got away" before I had any chance of forgetting about her. Being 20 steps away is emotional suicide.

You know they're going to hook up at the wedding, right?

No they're not. The cardiologist who is banging her is gonna pick her up from the reception.

Which word in the bold was confusing? Why should he care what she does after she's cleaned off with holy water?

 

[Bob Sacamano]

16, I hate to be a real downer, but I agree with some on here that she is seeing somebody else. I'd bet a lot of money on it. I wouldnt confront her, as there is no point, but SHE'S GOTTA GO!

She can go stay with a friend. She should of thought of her living situation before she dropped this on you.

I must have missed it, but I have not seen the poor kid acknowledge that she is seeing another..

He'll know for sure soon enough...

Were just trying to make sure it isnt via walking in on Dr. Dreamboat plowing her on his sofa. Because as bad as it is NOW, the image of Doc giving him the old' shooter Mcgavin double pistols gesture (butt naked and balls deep) would be MUCH, MUCH worse.

Would be the best thing that could happen to him. *smack*, his hand strikes her hard on the ###.

"Come on! You're always so damn lazy when you're on top. MOVE IT! Quit making him work so hard and move your ### a little bit, would you? You know, doc, when she's on the verge, she really likes it when you shove two fingers five-hole. The faster, dryer, and more painful, the more she enjoys it. She'll object a little at first. Just trust me and fight through the bull####.

Now, if you'll excuse me, there's a bowl of Fruit Loops in that kitchen that's not going to eat itself."

Why the hell should he care who she's doing or where she's doing it? He doesn't. End of story.

He's a dumb kid "in love", of course he cares. That's why Im trying to spare him this crap by admitting she iis banging another.

Of course she is. And he doesn't care.

 

[cstu]

Really appreciate all the help guys.

Not much to update now.

I just have this weekend to get through. We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.

It's crazy right now how at peace I feel. Don't have any resentment towards her and wish her the best. Though let's see how that changes. Hanging out with my friends last night and all the advice in hear have really helped.

FFA never fails.

Your friend or her friend? Because it won't be both for long.

 

[flranger]

It's Friday so I'm skeptical, however I hope this thread is legit as it's been forever since we had a good one.

My advice: Start an idating thread, and keep us up to date and let us help you with your misery.

 

[No. 16]

Can't ditch wedding since I'm part of wedding party.

Don't really care if she's banging someone else. It is what it is. She probably is but it's not my problem anymore.

I'm generally an optimistic, happy guy. Takes much more energy to be negative, than it does to be happy or work my way to happiness. So I wish her the best, she deserves it and she showed me I deserve better as well.

I guess I started this thread because I didn't want to believe it was over or there was someone else, but the FFA has knocked some sense into me. Ready to move on and share my stories with everyone.

 

[Joe Summer]

Can't ditch wedding since I'm part of wedding party.

Then don't go with her. Show up alone -- better yet, show up with a smokin' hot date.

 

[Zow]

Can't ditch wedding since I'm part of wedding party.

Ah, no you can't. In that case I wouldn't go together and I wouldn't lie to anyone about it. Kudos to you btw, you seem to be handling everything very well.

 

[Kumerica]

Ready to move on and share my stories pictures with everyone.

Fixed.Good luck, GB.

 

[Apple Jack]

Can't ditch wedding since I'm part of wedding party.

Then don't go with her. Show up alone -- better yet, show up with a smokin' hot date.

Or better yet, find out if there are going to be any attractive single women there. Women hook up at weddings, whether it's out of fun or loneliness. It's a fact. This is an opportunity.

 

[The Hank]

Can't ditch wedding since I'm part of wedding party.

Then don't go with her. Show up alone -- better yet, show up with a smokin' hot date.

Or better yet, find out if there are going to be any attractive single women there. Women hook up at weddings, whether it's out of fun or loneliness. It's a fact. This is an opportunity.

Apple Jack knows things

 

[Fennis]

bang her best friend

update?

 

[pittstownkiller]

Can't ditch wedding since I'm part of wedding party.Don't really care if she's banging someone else. It is what it is. She probably is but it's not my problem anymore. I'm generally an optimistic, happy guy. Takes much more energy to be negative, than it does to be happy or work my way to happiness. So I wish her the best, she deserves it and she showed me I deserve better as well.I guess I started this thread because I didn't want to believe it was over or there was someone else, but the FFA has knocked some sense into me. Ready to move on and share my stories with everyone.

Is she part of the wedding too; if not tell her to stay home.

 

[flapgreen]

Getting boned

 

[flapgreen]

Has she been frequenting the laundry mat lately? Check her text messages.

 

[GreatLakesMike]

We're going to a mutual friends wedding together on Saturday. We don't want to pull attention away from the wedding since a lot of our friends will be there and have no idea, plus don't want to deal with all those questions.

Stop with the "we" stuff. I've read through everything and you're in the wedding, so I think you should go, but she no longer gets a say. "We" are not doing anything. "We" are not deciding anything. You make your own decisions without anyone having a say.... embrace the freedom and good luck.

 

[jamny]

Are they a couple in the wedding party or is it just him?

 

[Jojo the circus boy]

A good buddy of mine just went through this. Dated a chick for 5 years. Lived together. She had drunkenly alluded to things being rocky twice. July of last year she told him it was over in the 2nd inning of the guy's first Fenway visit. Devistated him. She was trying to be nice and kept telling him the same #### your girl is telling you. Behind his back, she was counting the days till he moved out. He tried to "Change". For a month he did all the things she said he didn't do. It didn't matter. She was done. She got increasingly more blunt with her "it's over" comments but he'd ignore those and then find some tiny sliver of hope (a smile, or a "Thanks for washing the hardwood floors and mowing the lawn while I was at the bar drinking with friends") and cling to it like it was a sign of her true desire to get back together. It was sad. I tried to talk to him but it was pointless. This girl could have punched him in the face, kicked him in the nuts, pushed him down, pissed on him and he'd be focusing on the "But she said "bye" in a really nice voice before she left" Finally 3 months of sucking around and being pathetic (Completely ruining any respect most of his freinds or other females in his life had for him) she finally just said "Look.. i've tried being nice about this. It's been over. Get out." Don't be that guy. Move on. And DON'T Move on with the "I'll move on for a bit and she'll come back... I know it" guy. Seriously. Stop it. Just go.

 

[Jojo the circus boy]

don't go to the wedding

 

[Jojo the circus boy]

Can't ditch wedding since I'm part of wedding party.Don't really care if she's banging someone else. It is what it is. She probably is but it's not my problem anymore. I'm generally an optimistic, happy guy. Takes much more energy to be negative, than it does to be happy or work my way to happiness. So I wish her the best, she deserves it and she showed me I deserve better as well.I guess I started this thread because I didn't want to believe it was over or there was someone else, but the FFA has knocked some sense into me. Ready to move on and share my stories with everyone.

Is she part of the wedding too; if not tell her to stay home.

Ok...this

 

[No. 16]

Last night we both got drunk after the wedding rehersal and screwed like crazy.

Not hoping to get back together, but hoping we repeat the performance tonight and then she moves out Sunday.

Bad thing is she's moving in with my best friends girlfriend.

 

[identikit]

Last night we both got drunk after the wedding rehersal and screwed like crazy.Not hoping to get back together, but hoping we repeat the performance tonight and then she moves out Sunday.Bad thing is she's moving in with my best friends girlfriend.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

Threesome at the wedding

 

[St. Louis Bob]

Last night we both got drunk after the wedding rehersal and screwed like crazy.Not hoping to get back together, but hoping we repeat the performance tonight and then she moves out Sunday.Bad thing is she's moving in with my best friends girlfriend.

Sac'o wins

 

[jamny]

Not hoping to get back together

really?

 

[No. 16]

Not hoping to get back together

really?

Really.

 

[Apple Jack]

Last night we both got drunk after the wedding rehersal and screwed like crazy.Not hoping to get back together, but hoping we repeat the performance tonight and then she moves out Sunday.Bad thing is she's moving in with my best friends girlfriend.

Oh dear.

 

[bushdocda]

Secks is fine but don't help her move. That'd be pathetic.

 

[Keerock]

Who initiated the secks? Did she go all dirty on you?

 

[cstu]

Secks is fine but don't help her move. That'd be pathetic.

You kidding me? Of course he's going to help her move.

 

[Mario Kart]

One last time to see her vinegar strokes. Then, your friend will be seeing them. Then, bang his girlfriend. Then, enjoy their wedding.

 

[humpback]

Last night we both got drunk after the wedding rehersal and screwed like crazy.

Not hoping to get back together, but hoping we repeat the performance tonight and then she moves out Sunday.

Bad thing is she's moving in with my best friends girlfriend.

The good news is now you know she probably isn't banging anyone who was at the rehersal, so you've narrowed it down a bit. If you go for round 2 tonight, you can eliminate anyone at the wedding.

 

[Cliff Clavin]

Not hoping to get back together

really?

Really.

To prove this you'll need to post som:e: picks. Until then, everyone is under the assumption that you're still hopelessly in love and crying yourself to sleep at night.

 

[Thorn]

Serious question: how come the FFA always concludes that the girl in these scenarios is banging someone else?

 

[Sea Duck]

Serious question: how come the FFA always concludes that the girl in these scenarios is banging someone else?

Because it's better for the guy's emotional state to think of her getting nailed on a regular basis by other dudes.Also, most of the time she is.

 

[No. 16]

Wow what a night.

We both went to the wedding and I was well on my way to crazy break up sex once we got home. We were dancing, drinking, and having lots of fun. Hell I even got polished off in the bathroom.

Then bam. The next thing I remember is her in my best friends car crying with my best friend's girlfriend and me yelling at her while my friends restrained/comforted me. So much for avoiding letting our friends know about nothing.

Then another blackout and I remember waking up in front of our place. She's in the car with her soon to be roommate crying and asking for her crap. I remember going inside getting some of her #### and throwing it out and giving her our dog. Then talking to my brother before I slept.

I am typing this at 6 in the morning because I am awakened by a text message on my phone from the ex that reads, "What happened last night? Why did we start fighting?" I replied "You're breaking up with me. No idea."

We then exchange a few texts trying to figure out what triggered the fight, but both of us have no idea. Just remember having a great time. She then has the balls to ask to move out Thursday instead of today, which is her next day off, but I told her she has to GTFO.

So yah, crazy because we were well on our way to having fabulous break up sex which was my goal of the evening. Instead we caused a huge scene in front of my friends. Haha what a night.

 

[Christo]

Perfect

We then exchange a few texts trying to figure out what triggered the fight, but both of us have no idea.

Uh, alcohol?

 

[pittstownkiller]

Wow what a night.We both went to the wedding and I was well on my way to crazy break up sex once we got home. We were dancing, drinking, and having lots of fun. Hell I even got polished off in the bathroom.Then bam. The next thing I remember is her in my best friends car crying with my best friend's girlfriend and me yelling at her while my friends restrained/comforted me. So much for avoiding letting our friends know about nothing.Then another blackout and I remember waking up in front of our place. She's in the car with her soon to be roommate crying and asking for her crap. I remember going inside getting some of her #### and throwing it out and giving her our dog. Then talking to my brother before I slept.I am typing this at 6 in the morning because I am awakened by a text message on my phone from the ex that reads, "What happened last night? Why did we start fighting?" I replied "You're breaking up with me. No idea."We then exchange a few texts trying to figure out what triggered the fight, but both of us have no idea. Just remember having a great time. She then has the balls to ask to move out Thursday instead of today, which is her next day off, but I told her she has to GTFO.So yah, crazy because we were well on our way to having fabulous break up sex which was my goal of the evening. Instead we caused a huge scene in front of my friends. Haha what a night.

If you continue to use booze, to look past all the problems you two have together so that you can have sechs, you're going to find yourself in worse predicaments that acting like an ### at your friends wedding.

 

[Joe Summer]

Then bam. The next thing I remember is her in my best friends car crying with my best friend's girlfriend and me yelling at her while my friends restrained/comforted me.

"Hey, you said you wanted spontaneous!"

 

[Quint]

Then bam. The next thing I remember is her in my best friends car crying with my best friend's girlfriend and me yelling at her while my friends restrained/comforted me.

"Hey, you said you wanted spontaneous!"

 

[Jojo the circus boy]

sounds like she enjoyed the angry break-up sechs

 

[IvanKaramazov]

Wow what a night.We both went to the wedding and I was well on my way to crazy break up sex once we got home. We were dancing, drinking, and having lots of fun. Hell I even got polished off in the bathroom.Then bam. The next thing I remember is her in my best friends car crying with my best friend's girlfriend and me yelling at her while my friends restrained/comforted me. So much for avoiding letting our friends know about nothing.Then another blackout and I remember waking up in front of our place. She's in the car with her soon to be roommate crying and asking for her crap. I remember going inside getting some of her #### and throwing it out and giving her our dog. Then talking to my brother before I slept.I am typing this at 6 in the morning because I am awakened by a text message on my phone from the ex that reads, "What happened last night? Why did we start fighting?" I replied "You're breaking up with me. No idea."We then exchange a few texts trying to figure out what triggered the fight, but both of us have no idea. Just remember having a great time. She then has the balls to ask to move out Thursday instead of today, which is her next day off, but I told her she has to GTFO.So yah, crazy because we were well on our way to having fabulous break up sex which was my goal of the evening. Instead we caused a huge scene in front of my friends. Haha what a night.

Who could have predicted that the wedding would turn out like this?Oh, right. Everybody did.

 

[xulf]