About two weeks after we broke up she asked if she could take the dog and leave it at her parents house in SoCal
Fast forward to last night. I'm on break at work and I get a text as I am surfing Facebook.
Paraphrase first part since I got angry and deleted messages.
Ex: Can I see [dog] for my birthday? I'll leave you something. Promise I'll bring her back.
The ex then gets pissed. She now starts say mean things about me and my family for keeping the dog and not telling her about the pregnancy and birth. That's very rude of you.
Ex: "I probably understand you more than anyone. And same goes for you about me.
I was pretty proud of myself today for deciding on transferring a pt based on my assessment and based on a previous pt who had similar symptoms. I was quite proud of myself
EX: "I don't miss you as my boyfriend b please don't hesitate to contact me if you ever feel alone. Take care No. 16. Bye."
I tried to only put in the above the quotes that you should care about (should have included the "I don't hate you" comment) - the ones where she tries either through guilting you, patronizing you, or inferring of your wrong-doing to make herself feel some moral superiority over you. It's completely selfish on her part and you need to remember that. And frankly, some of those comments by her were just downright cruel. Nonetheless the days of her being nice to you or even respecting you are over. You've lost "hand" and you won't be getting it back. But you know what? That's ok. The best "revenge" at this point is to go out and live a great life. It doesn't matter if she knows or not. Even if she does, and even if you become the President or make the news for saving the lives of a thousand orphans and nuns, she is going to think she is still better than you. So the point here is you gotta embrace the idea of her not being a factor in ANY equation.
As for last statement of my last paragraph, I totally understand how hard that may seem. I don't blame you at all for the nice/emotional/pathetic responses and, despite what some here say, I think they are inevitable. Heck, if you want to see a similar example go read my Woz threads of like 6 years ago or whatever it was where I became a pathetic wreck. I had responses similar to yours and were, frankly, probably much more sappy and pathetic. It happens though so don't beat yourself up too much, just do what you can to avoid contact with her and find other things that make you feel good. And when I say that, find things outside of the equation of "man, this would have to make me look good in her eyes," which is probbaly constantly running through your head (and probably why you told her about your nursing success - and drew her similar retort). Despite whatever you say you are
nowhere close to "closure" or being over her yet but you can make this crappy times less bearable. Do good things and know that one day you will be even better than you were before. Don't seek out closure but live as best and careful as you can.
If I use myself as the example it took me a least a year to not be completely pathetic (that is, go out with another girl without feeling ill, not lie awake at night thinking of her, etc.) and probably another 6 months after that to be "normal" (and I only got there that fast I think by moving 1500 miles away and getting into a new environment). Eventually things became great, I got to casually date some cool chicks, do some dirty stuff to some dirty girls, feel free to do whatever I wanted for several years, and am soon getting engaged to an absolutely awesome chick with no thought (good or bad, the feeling is indifferent) of the girl who prior had so much effect. You're likely going to go through this progression too, despite how unlikely that may sound.
However, I cannot stress enough the best thing to do in the short-term is make sure things set up the best for the future. You'e already a step behind this with the DUI and possible aclohol problem, so again get in the gym, go to work, and develop a social network. When it happened to me, I didn't completely ruin my life but I let it get to me enough that I had a bad semester at law school and cost myself about 45k in scholarships (which, mind you, I'm now paying for) and possibly more work opportunities right out of school, blew several opportunities for good sechs, and missed out on fun moments I could have had with friends I don't get to see anymore. You're currently in a similar position it sounds like, and while some of it may be inevitable, best I can say is try not to let it get bad enough future "normal" No. 16 has to pay for the mistakes.