"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yo (1 Viewer)

[SeveredHorseHeads]

lol @ "You can be there."

Permission to be at your own house - That's very nice of her.

 

[No. 16]

Yah gonna stay away from her at all costs right now. Don't

think I could hold up if I see her crying and begging.

As someone mentioned her timing is ridiculous. Though she does know about FBGs so it's possible that she's been reading.

This could get crazy if she really wants to get back with me. Early in our relationship when we were long distance, one time I tried breaking up with her bc she was being controlling/jealous and she drove from LA to the Bay Area (6 hr drive) to beg and sex me not to break up with her. Looks like this thread may stay entertaining.

 

[IvanKaramazov]

Yah gonna stay away from her at all costs right now. Don't

think I could hold up if I see her crying and begging.

As someone mentioned her timing is ridiculous. Though she does know about FBGs so it's possible that she's been reading.

THIS WOULD BE AWESOME

 

[No. 16]

So I'm in ACLS class and on my break I see these text messages on my phone:

"I feel like I've made the biggest mistake of my life and it's all coming back to kick me in the ###. It's so ironic that the one I left and broke his heart is the only one I feel like I can turn to when I feel like my life is falling apart. You don't need to respond to this I just needed to vent to someone. I'm sorry for bothering you."

Followed by 1 hour later:

"I'm in the area. Can I see belle? You can be there."

Oh how the mighty have fallen. Feels good. My heart can be healed, but she can never regain my trust.

Don't be wuss and hit it.

This.

Really bad advice in this instance, just horrible.

BigJim is as right as right can ever be. Listen to him. Stop telling No. 16 to sleep with the ex. While it's more likely the sex will be...different and things will feel rather hollow, there's a chance it could rekindle things that clearly should fade away. You got out of the bear trap with limbs intact. Don't wander back and press your luck.

16, that begs the question... did Suzy Suk teach you anything you could show the ex?

Not really. The sex was usually always good, but just decreased in frequency. She was pretty much down for most anything except anal stuff...which is fine by me bc not a fan myself (we tried, neither of us got anything from it). Maybe she'll be down with giving me threesomes now?!?

 

[EYLive]

Yah gonna stay away from her at all costs right now. Don't

think I could hold up if I see her crying and begging.

As someone mentioned her timing is ridiculous. Though she does know about FBGs so it's possible that she's been reading.

This could get crazy if she really wants to get back with me. Early in our relationship when we were long distance, one time I tried breaking up with her bc she was being controlling/jealous and she drove from LA to the Bay Area (6 hr drive) to beg and sex me not to break up with her. Looks like this thread may stay entertaining.

Excellent. I knew it.

 

[jamny]

The timing of the ex's texts and his most recent exploits with the $200 whoore is amazing. Coincidental I'm sure, but nonetheless amazing.I think it's inevitable he goes back - or takes her back. Like most others here have said, he should avoid her like the plague, but I just don't see it turning out that way. He may never be able to trust her as he says over and over, but he will be with her again. Inevitable.

They both had one or two last flings before settling down.He'll hit it by Sunday.

 

[IvanKaramazov]

Not really. The sex was usually always good, but just decreased in frequency. She was pretty much down for most anything except anal stuff...which is fine by me bc not a fan myself (we tried, neither of us got anything from it). Maybe she'll be down with giving me threesomes now?!?

Probably, but I'm not sure if you really want to get that close to the personal trainer.

 

[Dragons]

Not really. The sex was usually always good, but just decreased in frequency. She was pretty much down for most anything except anal stuff...which is fine by me bc not a fan myself (we tried, neither of us got anything from it). Maybe she'll be down with giving me threesomes now?!?

Probably, but I'm not sure if you really want to get that close to the personal trainer.

Just lay out some ground rules if you do. No crossing streams.

 

[johnnycakes]

Not really. The sex was usually always good, but just decreased in frequency. She was pretty much down for most anything except anal stuff...which is fine by me bc not a fan myself (we tried, neither of us got anything from it). Maybe she'll be down with giving me threesomes now?!?

Probably, but I'm not sure if you really want to get that close to the personal trainer.

 

[Ash]

So I'm in ACLS class and on my break I see these text messages on my phone:"I feel like I've made the biggest mistake of my life and it's all coming back to kick me in the ###. It's so ironic that the one I left and broke his heart is the only one I feel like I can turn to when I feel like my life is falling apart. You don't need to respond to this I just needed to vent to someone. I'm sorry for bothering you."Followed by 1 hour later:"I'm in the area. Can I see belle? You can be there."Oh how the mighty have fallen. Feels good. My heart can be healed, but she can never regain my trust.

Keep in mind she doesn't say anywhere in that message she wants you back. Most likely she had a problem with the PT and wants to know you're still on the hook and can give her an ego boost. How far did she have to come to be "in the area?", i.e. parked around the corner.

 

[boots11234]

Don't get back with her. If need be think of load shot to the dome posted earlier in this thread to remind you of what she did to you

 

[rail]

Just when this thread had made a turn for AWESOME with 16 bangin' whoo-wers and on the path to a glorious re-birth, his ex-slut (women have an uncanny ability to sense these things) is trying to get back with him.

Dude - you don't know me. I don't post very much here. But if you take this piece of #### back, I'll never read one of your threads again. (that's all the leverage I've got).

Take everyone's advice - NO #######' CONTACT WHATSOEVER. Go re-read gunz' (I think it was gunz) post and about all the nasty stuff the PT did to this chick. Picture it in your mind when you're feeling weak and tempted. Please.

I guarantee that one day you will look back at this time in your life and say, "WOW. I am so glad I did not take that chick back."

 

[Dvorak]

If you take her back now (or ever), she owns you. Don't let yourself be "Plan B".

She'll cheat on you until you find yourself in the garage with the door down & the engine running.

 

[Gr00vus]

Having any contact whatsoever with that sweat monkey's neighborhood mattress leavings would be dumber than drafting Amare Stoudamire in the 1st round of an NBA dynasty league draft and giving him a 3 year deal.

 

[No. 16]

So I'm in ACLS class and on my break I see these text messages on my phone:"I feel like I've made the biggest mistake of my life and it's all coming back to kick me in the ###. It's so ironic that the one I left and broke his heart is the only one I feel like I can turn to when I feel like my life is falling apart. You don't need to respond to this I just needed to vent to someone. I'm sorry for bothering you."Followed by 1 hour later:"I'm in the area. Can I see belle? You can be there."Oh how the mighty have fallen. Feels good. My heart can be healed, but she can never regain my trust.

Keep in mind she doesn't say anywhere in that message she wants you back. Most likely she had a problem with the PT and wants to know you're still on the hook and can give her an ego boost. How far did she have to come to be "in the area?", i.e. parked around the corner.

True and that's the probably the main reason behind this message and why I won't get back with her and why I can't contact her. I was already committed to being with her forever and didn't need to see what else was out there because I accepted who she was. She got tempted, lied to me, started a relationship behind my back, left me, went to HI with this ####er for our 7 year anniversary vacation, and since then generally did her best to make sure I knew she was doing much better with this ########. Even if she says she never wants me back, it's a huge change knowing that she's doubting things now and probably slowly realizing she ####ed up. Like many have mentioned I have the upper hand now and I'm never going to let that go. Who knows maybe we end up together after all is said and done, but I owe it myself to see what else is out there. I'm determined to be single and experience all there is to be a bachelor at my age and stage of my life. She can't come crawling back to me, say sorry, and pretend like nothing happened. It's not a matter of a broken heart anymore. I'm confident my heart will heal, but the trust that I gave her will take effort on both our parts to get it where it needs to be, but at that point the energy is better spent pursuing a new relationship without all this baggage.

 

[No. 16]

I disagree guys. No. 16 needs to take the ex back just so this thread can continue living. How else is he going to top sleeping with a hookaaah????

Sleeping with 2?

 

[jamny]

So I'm in ACLS class and on my break I see these text messages on my phone:

"I feel like I've made the biggest mistake of my life and it's all coming back to kick me in the ###. It's so ironic that the one I left and broke his heart is the only one I feel like I can turn to when I feel like my life is falling apart. You don't need to respond to this I just needed to vent to someone. I'm sorry for bothering you."

Followed by 1 hour later:

"I'm in the area. Can I see belle? You can be there."

Oh how the mighty have fallen. Feels good. My heart can be healed, but she can never regain my trust.

Keep in mind she doesn't say anywhere in that message she wants you back. Most likely she had a problem with the PT and wants to know you're still on the hook and can give her an ego boost. How far did she have to come to be "in the area?", i.e. parked around the corner.

True and that's the probably the main reason behind this message and why I won't get back with her and why I can't contact her. I was already committed to being with her forever and didn't need to see what else was out there because I accepted who she was. She got tempted, lied to me, started a relationship behind my back, left me, went to HI with this ####er for our 7 year anniversary vacation, and since then generally did her best to make sure I knew she was doing much better with this ########. Even if she says she never wants me back, it's a huge change knowing that she's doubting things now and probably slowly realizing she ####ed up. Like many have mentioned I have the upper hand now and I'm never going to let that go. Who knows maybe we end up together after all is said and done, but I owe it myself to see what else is out there. I'm determined to be single and experience all there is to be a bachelor at my age and stage of my life. She can't come crawling back to me, say sorry, and pretend like nothing happened.

It's not a matter of a broken heart anymore. I'm confident my heart will heal, but the trust that I gave her will take effort on both our parts to get it where it needs to be, but at that point the energy is better spent pursuing a new relationship without all this baggage.

This should not even cross your mind.

 

[No. 16]

Having any contact whatsoever with that sweat monkey's neighborhood mattress leavings would be dumber than drafting Amare Stoudamire in the 1st round of an NBA dynasty league draft and giving him a 3 year deal.

 

[johnnycakes]

True and that's the probably the main reason behind this message and why I won't get back with her and why I can't contact her. I was already committed to being with her forever and didn't need to see what else was out there because I accepted who she was. She got tempted, lied to me, started a relationship behind my back, left me, went to HI with this ####er for our 7 year anniversary vacation, and since then generally did her best to make sure I knew she was doing much better with this ########. Even if she says she never wants me back, it's a huge change knowing that she's doubting things now and probably slowly realizing she ####ed up. Like many have mentioned I have the upper hand now and I'm never going to let that go.

Who knows maybe we end up together after all is said and done, but I owe it myself to see what else is out there. I'm determined to be single and experience all there is to be a bachelor at my age and stage of my life. She can't come crawling back to me, say sorry, and pretend like nothing happened.

It's not a matter of a broken heart anymore. I'm confident my heart will heal, but the trust that I gave her will take effort on both our parts to get it where it needs to be, but at that point the energy is better spent pursuing a new relationship without all this baggage.

I've heard it said that keeping a resentment is like pooping your pants. Everyone else can sense it, but you are the only one who feels it. Good article about resentment here. I suggest you give it a read.

RESENTMENT

The word “resentment” has two parts: “re,” which means “again,” and “sentment,” which is “to feel.” So resentment is to feel again, or a feeling that is re-sent. Resentment is the internal revisiting of old wrongs or mistreatments. Resentment operates by mentally replaying, reliving, or reexperiencing actual or imagined injuries from the past. Resentment is the recycling of past anger, hurt, or pain. Resentment is a deep, reflective displeasure at the conduct of another.

Resentment is actually secondary to the original feeling. For example, if we are hurt by someone, we feel the hurt. Resentment begins when we replay, refeel, and remind ourselves of that original hurt. Resentment is fueled and fortified by errors in thinking. Assumption, justification, blaming, and playing victim are common thinking errors used to solidify resentment.

Resentment is then held onto, fostering increased bitterness and a grudge. Resentment takes on a life of its own and is often more severe than the original hurt. “I resent that” is more intense and threatening than “I feel hurt” or “I feel insulted.”

There is an old story about two monks who meet up with a woman in their travels. One of the monks helps the woman across a river, even though monks are forbidden to touch females. The next day, the other monk bursts into a rage, exclaiming, “You should not have carried that woman across the river!” The other replied, “Perhaps I shouldn’t have, but you are still carrying her.” Resentment is hanging onto the anger inside.

Resentment can be collected at anytime from anywhere. Resentment can be born from others telling us what to do, how to run our lives, what we need, how we should act or feel, and what they think is best for us. Resentment can rise if we are lied to, abused, judged, falsely accused, or discriminated against. Resentment can be created when others abuse their power or deprive us of what we need.

When resentment harbors past anger, hurt, or pain, it impacts how we think, feel, and behave in the present. You may pout or fume. You may have a furrowed brow, gritted teeth, bodily aches and pains, or a fake smile. Resentment can be a factor in depression, sarcasm, cynicism, agitation, isolation, and lethargy. Appetite and sleep disturbances can be by-products of resentment. For those with addiction problems, cravings can arise from efforts to avoid or soothe the pain of harbored resentment.

Resentment happens when we continue to rent space in our heads to those we have worked so hard to evict. Resentment is self-torture. Resentment is like peeing your pants: No one is affected as much as you are.

Eliminating resentment is essential in developing a healthy attitude about yourself and your future successes. Eliminating resentment about the past will allow you to thoroughly enjoy the present.

Eliminating resentment will allow you to better ward off depression, fear, isolation, and other negative thoughts. Eliminating resentment can help keep you free of the mental traps that trigger escape into addictions.

Before resentment can be eliminated and possibly addressed with the offender, clarification is needed. The original feelings and underlying resentment have to be identified and described. This is best done by clearly writing about the original feelings. Asking three questions will help start the resentment clarification process:

Question #1: Why is it necessary for me to keep refeeling the original feeling?

You may be using resentment to replicate some family drama. You may be mentally confusing people in your present life with people in your past life. It is easier to harbor resentment than to feel insult, rejection, fear of inadequacy, or injury. Resentment gives an illusion of strength, and it seems to make you look better than others.

Question #2: How did I contribute to the situation?

You may have allowed it to happen. You may have made it worse. You may have been able to prevent the situation. Take a look at the other person’s point of view (empathize). Admit if the fault is yours. Forgive if it is theirs.

Question #3: What did I learn from the situation?

Resentment will be there until you know your part and learn from it. Look for a positive lesson. The best time to learn about resentment is when feeling resentful. Resolution comes when feelings and understanding unite. When you fall down, pick something up.

While working to eliminate resentment, avoid collecting any new issues that could turn into resentment. When you feel hurt, slighted, etc., talk to the person in a timely manner. Begin sentences with “I feel” instead of “you did.”

Keep resentment away by practicing forgiveness. Forgiveness is for the forgiver. It is not forgetting, but letting go of hurt. Practice not keeping score; an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. Live and let live. Tolerate your own mistakes.

 

[EYLive]

Who knows maybe we end up together after all is said and done, but I owe it myself to see what else is out there.

100% agree that you should go out and jizz into whatever you can. Now's the time to do it; while you're young and not tied down.But you'll be a different person in 5 years, hopefully a wiser and better version of your current self. And by the same token so might she. And when you realize that (for your sake it won't take years), you may realize the 2 of you have been walking separate but parallel paths that eventually merge back together.Young people make mistakes, give her a 2nd chance.

 

[No. 16]

True and that's the probably the main reason behind this message and why I won't get back with her and why I can't contact her. I was already committed to being with her forever and didn't need to see what else was out there because I accepted who she was. She got tempted, lied to me, started a relationship behind my back, left me, went to HI with this ####er for our 7 year anniversary vacation, and since then generally did her best to make sure I knew she was doing much better with this ########. Even if she says she never wants me back, it's a huge change knowing that she's doubting things now and probably slowly realizing she ####ed up. Like many have mentioned I have the upper hand now and I'm never going to let that go.

Who knows maybe we end up together after all is said and done, but I owe it myself to see what else is out there. I'm determined to be single and experience all there is to be a bachelor at my age and stage of my life. She can't come crawling back to me, say sorry, and pretend like nothing happened.

It's not a matter of a broken heart anymore. I'm confident my heart will heal, but the trust that I gave her will take effort on both our parts to get it where it needs to be, but at that point the energy is better spent pursuing a new relationship without all this baggage.

I've heard it said that keeping a resentment is like pooping your pants. Everyone else can sense it, but you are the only one who feels it. Good article about resentment here. I suggest you give it a read.

RESENTMENT

The word “resentment” has two parts: “re,” which means “again,” and “sentment,” which is “to feel.” So resentment is to feel again, or a feeling that is re-sent. Resentment is the internal revisiting of old wrongs or mistreatments. Resentment operates by mentally replaying, reliving, or reexperiencing actual or imagined injuries from the past. Resentment is the recycling of past anger, hurt, or pain. Resentment is a deep, reflective displeasure at the conduct of another.

Resentment is actually secondary to the original feeling. For example, if we are hurt by someone, we feel the hurt. Resentment begins when we replay, refeel, and remind ourselves of that original hurt. Resentment is fueled and fortified by errors in thinking. Assumption, justification, blaming, and playing victim are common thinking errors used to solidify resentment.

Resentment is then held onto, fostering increased bitterness and a grudge. Resentment takes on a life of its own and is often more severe than the original hurt. “I resent that” is more intense and threatening than “I feel hurt” or “I feel insulted.”

There is an old story about two monks who meet up with a woman in their travels. One of the monks helps the woman across a river, even though monks are forbidden to touch females. The next day, the other monk bursts into a rage, exclaiming, “You should not have carried that woman across the river!” The other replied, “Perhaps I shouldn’t have, but you are still carrying her.” Resentment is hanging onto the anger inside.

Resentment can be collected at anytime from anywhere. Resentment can be born from others telling us what to do, how to run our lives, what we need, how we should act or feel, and what they think is best for us. Resentment can rise if we are lied to, abused, judged, falsely accused, or discriminated against. Resentment can be created when others abuse their power or deprive us of what we need.

When resentment harbors past anger, hurt, or pain, it impacts how we think, feel, and behave in the present. You may pout or fume. You may have a furrowed brow, gritted teeth, bodily aches and pains, or a fake smile. Resentment can be a factor in depression, sarcasm, cynicism, agitation, isolation, and lethargy. Appetite and sleep disturbances can be by-products of resentment. For those with addiction problems, cravings can arise from efforts to avoid or soothe the pain of harbored resentment.

Resentment happens when we continue to rent space in our heads to those we have worked so hard to evict. Resentment is self-torture. Resentment is like peeing your pants: No one is affected as much as you are.

Eliminating resentment is essential in developing a healthy attitude about yourself and your future successes. Eliminating resentment about the past will allow you to thoroughly enjoy the present.

Eliminating resentment will allow you to better ward off depression, fear, isolation, and other negative thoughts. Eliminating resentment can help keep you free of the mental traps that trigger escape into addictions.

Before resentment can be eliminated and possibly addressed with the offender, clarification is needed. The original feelings and underlying resentment have to be identified and described. This is best done by clearly writing about the original feelings. Asking three questions will help start the resentment clarification process:

Question #1: Why is it necessary for me to keep refeeling the original feeling?

You may be using resentment to replicate some family drama. You may be mentally confusing people in your present life with people in your past life. It is easier to harbor resentment than to feel insult, rejection, fear of inadequacy, or injury. Resentment gives an illusion of strength, and it seems to make you look better than others.

Question #2: How did I contribute to the situation?

You may have allowed it to happen. You may have made it worse. You may have been able to prevent the situation. Take a look at the other person’s point of view (empathize). Admit if the fault is yours. Forgive if it is theirs.

Question #3: What did I learn from the situation?

Resentment will be there until you know your part and learn from it. Look for a positive lesson. The best time to learn about resentment is when feeling resentful. Resolution comes when feelings and understanding unite. When you fall down, pick something up.

While working to eliminate resentment, avoid collecting any new issues that could turn into resentment. When you feel hurt, slighted, etc., talk to the person in a timely manner. Begin sentences with “I feel” instead of “you did.”

Keep resentment away by practicing forgiveness. Forgiveness is for the forgiver. It is not forgetting, but letting go of hurt. Practice not keeping score; an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. Live and let live. Tolerate your own mistakes.

So you want me to get back with her?

 

[johnnycakes]

True and that's the probably the main reason behind this message and why I won't get back with her and why I can't contact her. I was already committed to being with her forever and didn't need to see what else was out there because I accepted who she was. She got tempted, lied to me, started a relationship behind my back, left me, went to HI with this ####er for our 7 year anniversary vacation, and since then generally did her best to make sure I knew she was doing much better with this ########. Even if she says she never wants me back, it's a huge change knowing that she's doubting things now and probably slowly realizing she ####ed up. Like many have mentioned I have the upper hand now and I'm never going to let that go.

Who knows maybe we end up together after all is said and done, but I owe it myself to see what else is out there. I'm determined to be single and experience all there is to be a bachelor at my age and stage of my life. She can't come crawling back to me, say sorry, and pretend like nothing happened.

It's not a matter of a broken heart anymore. I'm confident my heart will heal, but the trust that I gave her will take effort on both our parts to get it where it needs to be, but at that point the energy is better spent pursuing a new relationship without all this baggage.

I've heard it said that keeping a resentment is like pooping your pants. Everyone else can sense it, but you are the only one who feels it. Good article about resentment here. I suggest you give it a read.

RESENTMENT

The word “resentment” has two parts: “re,” which means “again,” and “sentment,” which is “to feel.” So resentment is to feel again, or a feeling that is re-sent. Resentment is the internal revisiting of old wrongs or mistreatments. Resentment operates by mentally replaying, reliving, or reexperiencing actual or imagined injuries from the past. Resentment is the recycling of past anger, hurt, or pain. Resentment is a deep, reflective displeasure at the conduct of another.

Resentment is actually secondary to the original feeling. For example, if we are hurt by someone, we feel the hurt. Resentment begins when we replay, refeel, and remind ourselves of that original hurt. Resentment is fueled and fortified by errors in thinking. Assumption, justification, blaming, and playing victim are common thinking errors used to solidify resentment.

Resentment is then held onto, fostering increased bitterness and a grudge. Resentment takes on a life of its own and is often more severe than the original hurt. “I resent that” is more intense and threatening than “I feel hurt” or “I feel insulted.”

There is an old story about two monks who meet up with a woman in their travels. One of the monks helps the woman across a river, even though monks are forbidden to touch females. The next day, the other monk bursts into a rage, exclaiming, “You should not have carried that woman across the river!” The other replied, “Perhaps I shouldn’t have, but you are still carrying her.” Resentment is hanging onto the anger inside.

Resentment can be collected at anytime from anywhere. Resentment can be born from others telling us what to do, how to run our lives, what we need, how we should act or feel, and what they think is best for us. Resentment can rise if we are lied to, abused, judged, falsely accused, or discriminated against. Resentment can be created when others abuse their power or deprive us of what we need.

When resentment harbors past anger, hurt, or pain, it impacts how we think, feel, and behave in the present. You may pout or fume. You may have a furrowed brow, gritted teeth, bodily aches and pains, or a fake smile. Resentment can be a factor in depression, sarcasm, cynicism, agitation, isolation, and lethargy. Appetite and sleep disturbances can be by-products of resentment. For those with addiction problems, cravings can arise from efforts to avoid or soothe the pain of harbored resentment.

Resentment happens when we continue to rent space in our heads to those we have worked so hard to evict. Resentment is self-torture. Resentment is like peeing your pants: No one is affected as much as you are.

Eliminating resentment is essential in developing a healthy attitude about yourself and your future successes. Eliminating resentment about the past will allow you to thoroughly enjoy the present.

Eliminating resentment will allow you to better ward off depression, fear, isolation, and other negative thoughts. Eliminating resentment can help keep you free of the mental traps that trigger escape into addictions.

Before resentment can be eliminated and possibly addressed with the offender, clarification is needed. The original feelings and underlying resentment have to be identified and described. This is best done by clearly writing about the original feelings. Asking three questions will help start the resentment clarification process:

Question #1: Why is it necessary for me to keep refeeling the original feeling?

You may be using resentment to replicate some family drama. You may be mentally confusing people in your present life with people in your past life. It is easier to harbor resentment than to feel insult, rejection, fear of inadequacy, or injury. Resentment gives an illusion of strength, and it seems to make you look better than others.

Question #2: How did I contribute to the situation?

You may have allowed it to happen. You may have made it worse. You may have been able to prevent the situation. Take a look at the other person’s point of view (empathize). Admit if the fault is yours. Forgive if it is theirs.

Question #3: What did I learn from the situation?

Resentment will be there until you know your part and learn from it. Look for a positive lesson. The best time to learn about resentment is when feeling resentful. Resolution comes when feelings and understanding unite. When you fall down, pick something up.

While working to eliminate resentment, avoid collecting any new issues that could turn into resentment. When you feel hurt, slighted, etc., talk to the person in a timely manner. Begin sentences with “I feel” instead of “you did.”

Keep resentment away by practicing forgiveness. Forgiveness is for the forgiver. It is not forgetting, but letting go of hurt. Practice not keeping score; an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. Live and let live. Tolerate your own mistakes.

So you want me to get back with her?

I said no such thing. But this resentment you're packing around is going to eat you alive. You need to forgive her and move on.

 

[tommyGunZ]

Who knows maybe we end up together after all is said and done, but I owe it myself to see what else is out there. I'm determined to be single and experience all there is to be a bachelor at my age and stage of my life. She can't come crawling back to me, say sorry, and pretend like nothing happened.

Intrade now over 94% on a "Back together within the next two months" wager.

 

[Maude]

You should thank her for setting you free.

 

[No. 16]

So you want me to get back with her?

I said no such thing. But this resentment you're packing around is going to eat you alive. You need to forgive her and move on.

Gotcha. Yah, really not sure how I feel towards her. The hate is not always there and lately I don't think of her much until she texts or I have a dream about her. Then again, I can't say I really forgive her either.I know for a fact a few weeks ago, I really resented her because I felt sorry for myself and blamed her for the current situation I am in. However, things have slowly sorted themselves out (DUI, work, etc) and I can say I'm at a decent place right now.One of the constants my Dad has been telling this whole time is: forget and forgive. Pretty much what the FFA has been telling me as well. Thanks for the article. It was a great read.

 

[GreatLakesMike]

Come on 16. I'm rooting for you, but the fact that you're still talking about the ex is not good. I think you need an extended vacation.

 

[Dr. Awesome]

Yah gonna stay away from her at all costs right now. Don't

think I could hold up if I see her crying and begging.



As someone mentioned her timing is ridiculous. Though she does know about FBGs so it's possible that she's been reading.

This could get crazy if she really wants to get back with me. Early in our relationship when we were long distance, one time I tried breaking up with her bc she was being controlling/jealous and she drove from LA to the Bay Area (6 hr drive) to beg and sex me not to break up with her. Looks like this thread may stay entertaining.

I smell an alias!

 

[No. 16]

Yah gonna stay away from her at all costs right now. Don't

think I could hold up if I see her crying and begging.



As someone mentioned her timing is ridiculous. Though she does know about FBGs so it's possible that she's been reading.

This could get crazy if she really wants to get back with me. Early in our relationship when we were long distance, one time I tried breaking up with her bc she was being controlling/jealous and she drove from LA to the Bay Area (6 hr drive) to beg and sex me not to break up with her. Looks like this thread may stay entertaining.

I smell an alias!

It's true.Remember the thread I posted asking about advice about places to go in Hawaii?

One day after work she comes back with a hand written compilation of the places you guys recommended and which one she'd like to go to. By that time the thread had already fallen off the front page so she had to have hunted it down using the "my content" setting. Then again I am always logged in on my home computer so if she wants to snoop then it was easy to do so, but still.... it surprised the hell out of me.

If she is reading this thread... I couldn't care less!

 

[cstu]

Who knows maybe we end up together after all is said and done, but I owe it myself to see what else is out there.

100% agree that you should go out and jizz into whatever you can. Now's the time to do it; while you're young and not tied down.But you'll be a different person in 5 years, hopefully a wiser and better version of your current self. And by the same token so might she. And when you realize that (for your sake it won't take years), you may realize the 2 of you have been walking separate but parallel paths that eventually merge back together.Young people make mistakes, give her a 2nd chance.

There mistakes and then there's ####### someone after planning a 7th anniversary in Hawaii and taking the guy with you.

 

[Dragons]

Yah gonna stay away from her at all costs right now. Don't

think I could hold up if I see her crying and begging.



As someone mentioned her timing is ridiculous. Though she does know about FBGs so it's possible that she's been reading.

This could get crazy if she really wants to get back with me. Early in our relationship when we were long distance, one time I tried breaking up with her bc she was being controlling/jealous and she drove from LA to the Bay Area (6 hr drive) to beg and sex me not to break up with her. Looks like this thread may stay entertaining.

I smell an alias!

It's true.Remember the thread I posted asking about advice about places to go in Hawaii?

One day after work she comes back with a hand written compilation of the places you guys recommended and which one she'd like to go to. By that time the thread had already fallen off the front page so she had to have hunted it down using the "my content" setting. Then again I am always logged in on my home computer so if she wants to snoop then it was easy to do so, but still.... it surprised the hell out of me.

If she is reading this thread... I couldn't care less!

Bravo sir. Bravo.For the proper use of the n't.

 

[No. 16]

Who knows maybe we end up together after all is said and done, but I owe it myself to see what else is out there.

100% agree that you should go out and jizz into whatever you can. Now's the time to do it; while you're young and not tied down.But you'll be a different person in 5 years, hopefully a wiser and better version of your current self. And by the same token so might she. And when you realize that (for your sake it won't take years), you may realize the 2 of you have been walking separate but parallel paths that eventually merge back together.Young people make mistakes, give her a 2nd chance.

Just curious EYlive why do you have this viewpoint that is so different from the rest of the FFA? It maybe shtick, but if it is where is this coming from? Did you have personal experience? Just curious why you're the lone dissenter.

 

[Samuel L Bronkowitz]

My heart can be healed, but she can never regain my trust.

Who knows maybe we end up together after all is said and done

Yah, really not sure how I feel towards her.

Yeah I snipped some quotes but as someone who busted my ex having sex with another man, and who 3 months later took her back, you need to step away from this thread and just work on things. You're not ready. You're not over her. Don't worry about entertaining us. Don't worry about what she says/texts/thinks/post on superwhoreboard.com. Distance yourself from anything about her. If that includes your friends, so be it, find some new ones.Drop the shtick. You're hurting inside and we all know it. Go #### a fatty and keep ####### her for a month, then drop her. Then #### another fatty for another month and then drop her. Then don't have sex for 6 months or so and work out, lift weights, run, swim, turn down girls for sex and yank your crank.Day 1 after 6 months, #### another fat girl but don't ever call/see her again.After all of that, THEN start considering a relationship. But that is the point you won't care anymore and you'll start hitting 7s 8s 9s and 10s without thinking of a relationship and that is where the FFA has been pointing you for the length of this thread.Either way, block the freaking number you numbnuts.

 

[Ned]

Make up sex is the best.

 

[comfortably numb]

Make up sex is the best.

Excellent posting.The PT will be pile driving her after this fight they just had to bring her back to No.16

 

[LongDuckDong]

Just curious EYlive why do you have this viewpoint that is so different from the rest of the FFA? It maybe shtick, but if it is where is this coming from? Did you have personal experience? Just curious why you're the lone dissenter.

His viewpoint isn't that different. Sorry to speak for you, EYLive.I don't think there is anyone here who legitimately thinks that 5 years from now, if you've moved on and done great things and run into her at a bar and it clicks that you shouldn't investigate. The issue is that right now, if you live your life thinking that is going to happen, you won't move on and do the great things. Lets put it another way. You obviously do want to call her bluff and talk to her, see if its real. See if she can make the pain go away. I, along with everyone else here thinks that is an idea that will do nothing besides delay your recovery and cause you pain. Trust me, if there was schtick here, it would be to tell you to pursue her, because doing so would be a lot more entertaining. There is no play here. If she wants you back, you'll take her, and if she does, she won't send a mixed message text message. Until then, seriously, she is a poison drip in an IV for you. Stop worrying about getting over her. It's hard. Don't worry about pro-active measures or strategies or anything else. Keep telling us your thoughts and adventures. Just understand that she is an active roadblock to your happiness right now, and someday she won't be.

 

[Keerock]

Just curious EYlive why do you have this viewpoint that is so different from the rest of the FFA? It maybe shtick, but if it is where is this coming from? Did you have personal experience? Just curious why you're the lone dissenter.

His viewpoint isn't that different. Sorry to speak for you, EYLive.I don't think there is anyone here who legitimately thinks that 5 years from now, if you've moved on and done great things and run into her at a bar and it clicks that you shouldn't investigate. The issue is that right now, if you live your life thinking that is going to happen, you won't move on and do the great things. Lets put it another way. You obviously do want to call her bluff and talk to her, see if its real. See if she can make the pain go away. I, along with everyone else here thinks that is an idea that will do nothing besides delay your recovery and cause you pain. Trust me, if there was schtick here, it would be to tell you to pursue her, because doing so would be a lot more entertaining. There is no play here. If she wants you back, you'll take her, and if she does, she won't send a mixed message text message. Until then, seriously, she is a poison drip in an IV for you. Stop worrying about getting over her. It's hard. Don't worry about pro-active measures or strategies or anything else. Keep telling us your thoughts and adventures. Just understand that she is an active roadblock to your happiness right now, and someday she won't be.

Point is... IF (and that's a big IF) you ever get back with her, it has to be AFTER you have regained substantial "hand". You can't do that in your current state. You need the confidence and experience that only multiple slump busters and just as importantly TIME will give you. IF, 12+ months down the road, after not having any contact/updates/texts/stalking of her, and after you've filled up and subsequently forgotten a bevy of other wimmens, you two meet up and feel you want to give it another go, then it's worth a shot.

 

[IvanKaramazov]

Make up sex is the best.

Except when 16 notices how everything fits so much looser than he remembered. Then it won't be so great.

 

[No. 16]

Things might get crazy in a hurry.

Received 50 minutes ago. Mind you I'm on the West Coast. She's probably getting ready for work:

"I'm on the verge of having an anxiety attack and I don't know what to do."

I've witnessed first hand these anxiety attacks. Though her roomates should be able to handle this.

 

[No. 16]

Crap she just called. I hung up her. She keeps calling too!

 

[bushdocda]

Dude.

 

[No. 16]

2 calls, hung up twice. Followed by this text:

"Can I please see my dog tomorrow??? I'm going crazy! I need to feel some sense of family while I'm

Up here in the bay alone."

So is this a evil ploy to get the dog or is she really feeling alone now? Either way not my problem.

 

[Rick James]

getting good

 

[No. 16]

And now it gets easy to ignore her again

"You're such a jerk."

How do you block phone numbers on att/iphone 4? Thanks.

 

[IvanKaramazov]

Honestly, she lost all of her dog priviledges when she dumped you. This part shouldn't even be up for discussion.

 

[Evilgrin 72]

You guys will be back together by Memorial Day. Maybe Easter.

What this should be telling you is that the PT is now freed up again, and that only increases your chances of getting him into some sweet, sweet buttsex.

 

[Keerock]

She's going to be sweet to you, then a total #####, then a slobbering baby, then a ##### again, then she'll ignore you, then she'll be sweet again. Anything to get herself back "in".

IGNORE HER. No texts back, don't even answer her calls and hang up... just don't answer.

@ "You're such a jerk."

 

[jestertj]

It won't be texts or phone calls pretty soon. She will show up at his place unannounced. They will relate. They will get back together.

 

[Steve Tasker]

Good luck.

GB crazy #####es

 

[Dr. Awesome]

So is this a evil ploy to get the dog or is she really feeling alone now? Either way not my problem.

The dog has nothing to do with this. It's just a means to an end for her. She's going to make a strong push to get back with you. Hold onto your balls and steer clear of her. A year or two from now? Go nuts if you two reconnect. But steer clear. Find out how to block the number and do it asap. When her sister/your mutual friends start talking to you about her tell them to shut it.Over/under on you sleeping with her is 2 weeks.

 

[derek245583]

I say you give her the dog