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Rusty is too ugly to get any other friends.
One cheating girlfriend takes the side of another cheating girlfriend, blaming the guy who didn't cheat? That's surprising.
Texts/emails?
Ah, in that case, it's good they're together so they aren't cheating on people with souls.
I appreciate the concern and the advice but maybe my family and friends haven't done or said anything because everything is ok?The DUI was a big eye opener and after that I realized I needed to stop partying the way I was. Since then we'll have to agree to disagree in regards to my "partying". Go back and plot the times I discuss partying and you'll see it isn't that much. I pretty much lay low and save money for my trios to Hawaii and Vegas so far. Then I party like crazy over there.'gianmarco said:'Henry Ford said:It's the timeframe that this type of behavior has occurred that is worrisome. I mentioned it a while ago that he should take even a small break (1-2 months) from drinking, partying, drugging it up and just work on himself. Work on being a better person. Based on the recent set of events, texts, and conversations, that just went out the window but, of course, he isn't doing this "all the time" so there isn't an issue, apparently.
Everyone approved of this behavior 1 month after breaking up. Still so 2 months after breaking up. Even at 3 months it's fine. It's now 8 months later, you're no better off and I'd argue you're even worse off and keep making excuses for why your behavior is appropriate.
So yeah, keep trying to make up for lost time by living it up. If you had it under control and were on the right path, then I'd argue that it's fine to do so. But, overall picture from an outside perspective, you have absolutely no control over your current situation and are just flailing without any direction. You simply don't see it. There have been some FANTASTIC posts above and the recommendation to go see a therapist at a minimum and better yet, a psychiatrist, are spot-on. I'm amazed some of your close friends and family haven't done the same, but then again, they've allowed you to continue with your current behavior without punching you in the nuts so I wouldn't expect much more anyway.
No one here is wishing you bad stuff. A lot of people have actually tried to help you and spent time responding in a manner that would try and get through to you. You've effectively managed to ignore virtually every good piece of advice in this thread for months now and have suffered the consequences of that many times over. It's truly amazing.
At this point, I read this thread for entertainment value only. It's sad because you seem like a good guy that just needs a little help and direction to get back on track. This thread could have provided that and yet you seem to know better than the overwhelming unanimous advice at every turn. While I'd like to see you get better, I've completely given up hope that's going to happen any time soon.
Nada.
Already answered earlier today
Maybe. Does your life feel totally okay?
Unless someone's getting married. Then you need lots of drugs to help them celebrate their love.
If anyone thought your problems were confined to not being strong enough and not knowing enough foreign languages, that would be relevant. You don't just need to work on random things, you need to work on the things that will help you deal with the problems you're actually having.
Your life is not going to be much fun with your personal life being a complete wreck, but having lots of Spanish classes.My concern is this:16: X is happening in my life. I feel like Y.FFA: X is pretty messed up. You need to work on X. Also, if you feel like Y a lot, you should probably speak to a professional.16: X doesn't happen all the time. And I only feel like Y when X is happening, so it's not that big a deal.FFA: You brought up X. You brought up Y. They're clearly important enough to talk to about strangers. I'm surprised that people in your real life aren't bringing this up to you.16: It's really not a big deal. My life is great. I'm working out a lot and taking Spanish classes.You're bringing up problems for validation and sympathy, but when people bring up very legitimate concerns that you really should be addressing in your life, you downplay everything you've been talking about for... let me make sure I have this right... 95 pages, including 655 posts of your own in this thread.
:standingovation:
I don't write here for validation or sympathy. I write here because the act of writing my thoughts out is therapy. It helps me vent. I could write in a journal if it made you feel better about my life, but I figure why not share with the FFA? I share it with you guys for entertainment purposes and like I said many times before... I just like hearing other peoples opinions and thoughts. If I were seeking validation and sympathy would I continue posting despite the abuse I take in this thread? I post because it helps me relax and because you guys find it entertaining. I can assure you my life is under control aside from this whole Alyssa business. You may not believe me, but it is. Again, I appreciate the concern and advice so keep it coming but I when I have real problems I turn to my family before I turn to the FFA. Also, I don't drink booze anymore when something goes wrong. I just write my thoughts here and that helps me deal with it instead of turning to booze like I did earlier.
please continue to post here. we appreciate the entertainment.
BAMP! The correct answer was, "I don't know, I blocked her #." You've done that, right? Please?
Yeah, you don't speak for the FFA. Hell, the FFA can't even agree on scientific facts. Sure, some of you think he's out of control and partying way too much, but for a single employed guy in a large, liberal city - he's hardly detailed enough partying to raise my eyebrows.
Agreed, it's in the gray area, I tend to lean towards it's not that big of deal. However, the FFA is 100% unanimous on the fact he needs to stop all communication with her and move on, so that tells you something, yet he continues to defy logic and ignore this once-in-a-bluemoon event (agreement within the FFA).
I wanted to reply to this earlier but was traveling. I think you seriously missed the point :whoosh: of MMSL, Roosh, Roissy, etc. if that (what you said above) is what you took from their message. Their message is basically A) don't put the ##### on the pedestal (one-itis her) and B) if she's not doing everything she can to be a good partner you kick her to the curb, which shouldn't be hard if you're following A). And yeah, there are divorce threads and TalkAboutMarriage and MMSL where people try and work it out after an affair, but the stakes are SO much higher with kids, a shared house, shared expenses, etc. that it makes trying to work it out worth it. You lump a long college-post college relationship in with marriages and I'm not sure you're getting how the stakes are different (especially with kids). Your Romeo/Juliet star-crossed lover fantasy falls apart since Juliet never banged a PT and Romeo never nice-guyed his way into the third wheel. For your situation, I'd be running not walking away as fast as possible from this situation. Just cut bait man. Based on the info you've provided, she's never really sincerely apologized for the cheating and as far as we know she's still with the guy. You're in the friend zone now bud, hope you like neck rubs.I'd concur with the others to get some help. I think you might have some serious self esteem issues if you are letting her cuckold you like this. You honestly seem like a good guy who has a lot going for himself and deserve better. Read my Silent Bob quote again (and LOL about her positive/negative traits that you posted!) We've said it 1000 times already
, but cut off all contact with this broad, time to turn the page on this chapter of your life... and take off the goggles when reading the Manosphere stuff and you might just take a different message away than what you did. The red pill is bitter, but the change in perspective will make life better for you in the long run. Good luck
I met her when I was 19 so before than I would assume I partied about as much as any HS teenager who wasn't on 24/7 lockdown or getting in trouble with the law. Had fun my first year of college doing what college freshman do so nothing out of the ordinary. I like to think of myself as a responsible person. I mean I'm 27 with no debt and a stable career. I had my fun but I take care of business.
we'll see). If he continues in a downward spiral from here on out there will be cause for concern.
Yeah, that took some work, and was really well done.I think some more drinking probably should have made the list, though.
what happened to banging fatties?All you psychiatrists need to settle down.
No. 16 is an immature 27 year old that was a giant imbecile regarding a very painful breakup. He clung to it for 8 months or so. He's basically just now cutting the cord(
And All the sanctimonious bull#### regarding his DUI, partying etc is way over the top IMHO. Any of us that have ever had 3-4 drinks in 2-3 hours and drove home were legally drunk driving, or were right at the legal limit. unless you're a fat ###. He's dropped e twice, once at a stupid ### rave in Vegas(free pass)
As long as he finally moves on now, I think he's doin just fine.
And he's got giant balls for exposing himself here for constant abuse.
Drink offer still stands bro.
it's one of his biggest failures to date. some super cute, bubbly, sweet girl would do WONDERS for our hero. i've been advocating it for months. but listening isn't a strong suit of our boy.what happened to banging fatties?All you psychiatrists need to settle down.
No. 16 is an immature 27 year old that was a giant imbecile regarding a very painful breakup. He clung to it for 8 months or so. He's basically just now cutting the cord(
And All the sanctimonious bull#### regarding his DUI, partying etc is way over the top IMHO. Any of us that have ever had 3-4 drinks in 2-3 hours and drove home were legally drunk driving, or were right at the legal limit. unless you're a fat ###. He's dropped e twice, once at a stupid ### rave in Vegas(free pass)
As long as he finally moves on now, I think he's doin just fine.
And he's got giant balls for exposing himself here for constant abuse.
Drink offer still stands bro.
Yeah, by the time I got to "16 get's #### on" I was just trying to end it. Left out a lot about the texting and his denial of what her motives were. The STD accusation and non-apology should've gotten a mention too. She's a real piece of work.
"Yeah," I missed the part of what you quoted that included the word partying.No, not everyone thinks he's partying too much. But the overwhelming majority of people in this thread think something messed up is going on. Hence my using "X" rather than a specific thing. Some people think it's just that he's putting his ex on a pedestal, some people think it's his partying, but most everyone seems to believe that spending months obsessing about this woman is bad for him. I suppose I could well be wrong. No one seems particularly supportive of him chatting with/staying with/calling/texting/etc. his ex in my opinion.
you texted her?
Text 2:1Phone call 3:1He proposed 9:1They had sex 16:1Rusty gave him oral 17:1you texted her?
Stayed tuned. DO NOT miss the next update.Text 2:1Phone call 3:1He proposed 9:1They had sex 16:1Rusty gave him oral 17:1you texted her?
If you listened to the FFA, the only update there should be is how you have moved on. Something tells me you haven't.Stayed tuned. DO NOT miss the next update.Text 2:1Phone call 3:1He proposed 9:1They had sex 16:1Rusty gave him oral 17:1you texted her?
Is this like the bat symbol for Dentist?
This is sure to be healthy.Stayed tuned. DO NOT miss the next update.Text 2:1Phone call 3:1He proposed 9:1They had sex 16:1Rusty gave him oral 17:1you texted her?
She's pregnant and "just knows" he's the father.
Mau-ry! Mau-ry! Mau-ry!
12:1 she comes clean about everything and begs him to take her backStayed tuned. DO NOT miss the next update.Text 2:1Phone call 3:1He proposed 9:1They had sex 16:1Rusty gave him oral 17:1you texted her?
I think it is pretty obvious that she texted him, he pretended to have the upperhand, and they are going to work on things.12:1 she comes clean about everything and begs him to take her backStayed tuned. DO NOT miss the next update.Text 2:1Phone call 3:1He proposed 9:1They had sex 16:1Rusty gave him oral 17:1you texted her?
