Lessons you learned...the hard way (1 Viewer)

[Arizona Ron]

Learning can expensive, painful or very easy.

We've all learned things in our lives, what things did you have to learn the hard way.

Examples.

I learned when I was about 21 that I can't drink for several hours then drive - learning that cost me about $10k

I learned that there is no such thing as being 'half Italian' - cost me an ### kicking.

I learned to be more respectful of positions in the workplace, even when I'm 100% right - cost me a job.

I learned to work around employee weaknesses and firing someone should be my last resort as a manager - cost me one of my best employees.

What about you FFA?

 

[=Smackdown=]

Tongue stuck to a frozen pole in not "movie magic"

Cost me a piece of my tongue

 

[MikeIke]

The plain girl in high school might turn out to be a major hottie in 5 years. I shouldn't have blown her off so easily.

 

[mr roboto]

My wife is usually right when it comes to interpreting other people. She's more astute in dealing with emotions. I see things more logically. If there is an interpersonal conflict, I seek her advice before responding.

 

[datonn]

I learned that living to make other people happy will make me miserable...and that a miserable me will make everyone around me miserable as well.

So...one has to find that "sweet spot" between being a selfish SOB and working/living to help and benefit others. Maybe that's a lot easier for some people...but finding that "sweet spot" took me a LONG time to finally figure out. But it's made me a better husband/father/son/_________ in the process.

 

[mr roboto]

The 7 who thinks she's a 5 is far better than a 9 who knows it.

 

[SacramentoBob]

Don't punch a guy in the face when his boy is standing behind you.

 

[gmbacm]

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[cheese]

Holding a grudge is stupid. I've done a lot of it and every time after I finally let it go I wish I had done it years ago. Finally getting it through my head.

If you stop excercising because you don't have the energy, be prepared to have less energy than ever.

 

[saintfool]

Never get involved with a land war in Asia.

 

[cheese]

Being committed to anyone during college is probably a mistake. The flexibility you have at that time in your life is unmatched the rest of your life. Don't give it away.

 

[Arizona Ron]

Being committed to anyone during college is probably a mistake. The flexibility you have at that time in your life is unmatched the rest of your life. Don't give it away.

Good one

 

[Arizona Ron]

Don't punch a guy in the face when his boy is standing behind you.

Yeah you'll traumatize the kid for life after seeing something like that.

 

[spOOfy]

If someone tries to slam a door in your face, don't try to stop it with your fist aimed at the window.

 

[Guest]

Don't dip your pen in the company ink.

 

[spOOfy]

Don't run a half marathon in a cotton t-shirt.

 

[NewlyRetired]

When I was just a kid, maybe 6 or 7, my older brother was having a hard time starting the lawn mower.

He was trying to debug what was wrong and asked me to hold the spark plug.

After he yanked the cord and I went tumbling on my butt from the shock he said "ok its not the spark plug"

 

[Keerock]

Being committed to anyone during college is probably a mistake. The flexibility you have at that time in your life is unmatched the rest of your life. Don't give it away.

Please have this talk with my son.

 

[Todd Andrews]

It isnt rape if you enjoy it

 

[Jaysus]

mineral ice is an awful personal lubricant

 

[Keerock]

It isnt rape if you enjoy it

Or if it's your dog.

 

[spreagle]

You can't have co-owners in an investment pool or fantasy football team for that matter, with all members having equal power in decision making. Attempting to achieve some sort of consensus on risk taking endeavors with all members or even half of the members is a near impossibility, one guy just needs to take the reigns and run with it.

 

[DCThunder]

Tom Hayden wasn't a wartime consiglieri and Sonny was a hothead.

 

[sbonomo]

Life is too short, we can always make more money. There are plenty of good paying jobs that don't take up your entire life (learned this after working 3000 hour years in consulting for way too long).

CLM's (career limiting moves) are a reality in the real world. Take care to be professional at all times around people that can affect your career.

[SIZE=9.5pt]Hot chicks are overrated. I would take a offdee 6 that was cool anytime over a stuck up 9. Looks fade, attitude does not. More power to you saps with a hot, cool chick....in my experience there are not too many of them out there. [/SIZE]

 

[SacramentoBob]

If someone tries to slam a door in your face, don't try to stop it with your fist aimed at the window.

Did this once too.

 

[Controller]

Be really, really careful about sending emails: when you type the first few letters of the intended recipient, your software will often give you a short list of people that match - it is very easy to send to the wrong party, with serious consequences sometimes. Caused major embarassment to my boss doing this one time.

Also, of course, be careful using "reply to all" in stead of "reply" particularly in the workplace

 

[McGarnicle]

People don't really change. They might improve incrementally over a decade or two, but personality is basically a constant. You can't change another person.

 

[sports_fan]

The world only cares about what it can get from you. If you don't have any valuable skills to offer you're not going anywhere.

 

[glock]

Time waits for no one...

 

[Steed]

When someone tells you "don't worry about it, we'll take care of it" is the exact time you should begin to worry about it.

 

[McGarnicle]

Never be that guy who reaches for a rookie running back.

 

[Zerp]

Took me 6 months in Osaka to appreciate this one. In traditional japanese culture one waits before speaking. I mean really waits. There is a space, a pause between speakers. I've been waiting for my turn to talk or worse yet begun speaking as the speaker ended a sentence for 40 years. I missed out on a lot.

 

[glock]

Oh! I shouldn't have married her...

 

[Dentist]

People don't really change. They might improve incrementally over a decade or two, but personality is basically a constant. You can't change another person.

yeah, this is pretty solid.

 

[Dentist]

Being committed to anyone during college is probably a mistake. The flexibility you have at that time in your life is unmatched the rest of your life. Don't give it away.

yeah, this is pretty solid as well.

 

[shadyridr]

Stop being scared of doing/trying new things. I chickened out of football in HS cuz I was scared of breaking my leg again (I broke it at 14, foot went one way, ankle went the other). Football wouldve changed my HS years

GO AWAY TO COLLEGE!

 

[cstu]

The plain girl in high school might turn out to be a major hottie in 5 years. I shouldn't have blown her off so easily.

This is advice I've tried to drill into my nephew who is entering high school.

 

[McGarnicle]

The plain girl in high school might turn out to be a major hottie in 5 years. I shouldn't have blown her off so easily.

This is advice I've tried to drill into my nephew who is entering high school.

Seems like odd advice for a kid that age. He's going to date girls he's attracted to now, not who potentially will be hot 5 years later. If he's smart, he won't get too serious until after college and enjoy his freedom.

Definitely good advice to treat all females with respect though, and don't make fun of the unattractive chicks. Keeps the door open at future reunions.

 

[Spike]

A reputation is a tough thing to rid yourself of.

Do the hard jobs early - when you're not tired.

 

[Dentist]

GO AWAY TO COLLEGE!

This is one of my few entire life regrets.. not living in a different city for a few years.

Having said that, i question whether i would be where i'm at today if i hadn't stuck with the program.

So it's a mild regret.

 

[SacramentoBob]

The plain girl in high school might turn out to be a major hottie in 5 years. I shouldn't have blown her off so easily.

This is advice I've tried to drill into my nephew who is entering high school.

Seems like odd advice for a kid that age. He's going to date girls he's attracted to now, not who potentially will be hot 5 years later.

The point is to be nice to them now so you're in a good position later.

 

[General Malaise]

Debt kills.

You gotta live life like a college sophomore.

You can always add overhead.

 

[belljr]

Being committed to anyone during college is probably a mistake. The flexibility you have at that time in your life is unmatched the rest of your life. Don't give it away.

pretty sure a couple girls i dated were marriage material but i didnt want to be in a serious relationship... college was funnnnn.advice i followed

 

[LittleLarry]

Gas water heaters and anything that might give off vapors such as an empty paint or gas can.

Keep them FAR FAR separated.

 

[johnnycakes]

Don't post pics of your family in the FFA or people accuse you of incest.

 

[Treynwreck3]

Brake hard with the right hand, not the left.

 

[mr roboto]

Don't start smoking.

 

[Dentist]

Debt kills.

You gotta live life like a college sophomore.

You can always add overhead.

Society sure makes it tough though. I get fairly consistent criticism for my frugal lifestyle from friends, in-law half of the family, and some acquaintances for living so light despite earning in many cases 3-4 times what they do.

Me: responding to text on my slider dumb phone

Person: Wait, aren't you a dentist? Why don't you have a good phone?

Me: Well, really I don't need or want one. Frankly I'm always around the internet, and if you're resourceful you'd be surprised how much info you can get via text messaging services, sports scores, individual FFL stats, stock quotes, weather, etc.

Person: But you make a ton of money! You should have the (insert newest latest smartphone here) it does all this stuff!

Me: I'm sure they are great, really I don't need or want one though. If I did, I guess I could get it.

Person: Sheesh, if I had your money, I'd at least have a nice phone. I can't believe I have a better phone than you.

Me (getting hacked): Well the possession of money doesn't imply that I need to purchase things that I neither want nor need. I'll take the $800 I saved off not having a smart phone and buy a flight to Barbados... now are we good?

 

[Tom Hagen]

Tom Hayden wasn't a wartime consiglieri and Sonny was a hothead.

 

[McGarnicle]

Once you start spoiling yourself with weekly visits to the rub & tug parlor, it's almost impossible to give up.