My life with ADHD (1 Viewer)

[wazoo11]

What about mixing cold medicine and allergy medicine with Adderall?

My link

 

[Toad_1234]

thx

 

[Bob Loblaw]

Every now and then I get migraines (or what seem like migraines), and pre-diagnosis I would take Excedrin Migraine, which is basically caffeine in a pill. I can't take it anymore now that I'm on Adderall XR.

 

[cstu]

In Feb/March 2012, I was diagnosed with Adult ADHD. I was prescribed Adderall XR (started at 5 mg, now at 15 mg). I am married with 3 kids, and my ADHD is seriously affecting my marriage in a negative way.

I don't want to get into the minutiae of my issues just yet. But I am interested to hear how others have successfully managed their ADHD.



I have troubles with time management, conflict resolution, follow-through, and focus. Also, I don't mean to be self-centered, but I tend to consider myself before others. Even if it's something that I am already doing for someone else, I subconsciously think about how it's affecting me (i.e. when changing my daughter's diaper, I think "why do I always have to change it? my wife should be doing it too"). Some instances I am right, most I'm wrong, but in every instance, my first thought is me. Even if it's for half a second, it's still me.

I've read Orlov and Hallowell's The ADHD Effect on Marriage, attended classes thru Kaiser on ADHD, read a ton of other literature on the subject, but I just can't seem to put it all together.

Any help/suggestions is/are greatly appreciated.

That sounds exactly like me. I've always assumed I'm just an ####### but maybe I'm an ####### with ADHD.

 

[[icon]]

Pretty sure I've had ADHD my entire life. Never sought any treatment.

I have all the classic telltale signs. I just don't care to get on some sort of drug to try to fix them.

 

[Dr. Awesome]

Bob - have the meds helped with your sense of time? What tricks have you tried to help you? I have yet to try medication but the only trick that has even slightly worked is having an alarm beep at me every 5 minutes.

 

[Novice2]

They have pills for selfishness now?

 

[Bob Loblaw]

Bob - have the meds helped with your sense of time? What tricks have you tried to help you? I have yet to try medication but the only trick that has even slightly worked is having an alarm beep at me every 5 minutes.

Meds haven't really helped with sense of time. I use my iPhone for an audible reminder of To Dos. But the problem is that I start to overlook them because they're the same reminders day after day. Also, I stopped taking Adderall XR Sept 20 to see if there would be a difference. And there wasn't. I didn't tell my wife until a week later, because I didn't want her to be aware of me stopping, and she didn't notice a difference either. So, I informed my psychiatrist, and he said I should consider starting Concerta. Anyone else have experience with Concerta?

 

[Big Cat]

Bob - have the meds helped with your sense of time? What tricks have you tried to help you? I have yet to try medication but the only trick that has even slightly worked is having an alarm beep at me every 5 minutes.

Meds haven't really helped with sense of time. I use my iPhone for an audible reminder of To Dos. But the problem is that I start to overlook them because they're the same reminders day after day. Also, I stopped taking Adderall XR Sept 20 to see if there would be a difference. And there wasn't. I didn't tell my wife until a week later, because I didn't want her to be aware of me stopping, and she didn't notice a difference either. So, I informed my psychiatrist, and he said I should consider starting Concerta. Anyone else have experience with Concerta?

My youngest daughter (age 9) takes Concerta. It has helped her a lot. It is very evident when she misses her morning meds, too.

 

[bagger]

Not a real thing.

Like

 

[modogg]

Bob - have the meds helped with your sense of time? What tricks have you tried to help you? I have yet to try medication but the only trick that has even slightly worked is having an alarm beep at me every 5 minutes.

Meds haven't really helped with sense of time. I use my iPhone for an audible reminder of To Dos. But the problem is that I start to overlook them because they're the same reminders day after day. Also, I stopped taking Adderall XR Sept 20 to see if there would be a difference. And there wasn't. I didn't tell my wife until a week later, because I didn't want her to be aware of me stopping, and she didn't notice a difference either. So, I informed my psychiatrist, and he said I should consider starting Concerta. Anyone else have experience with Concerta?

. Concerta is usually considered not as intensive drug as the other stimulants. i work with a lot of people who take a lot of meds, and i can't remember hearing a bad experience with concerta. give it a try. one reason why they prescribe these meds so frequently is because a lot of the ADHD meds go in and go right out of your body. so if you don't like the med it us easy to go past it.and that does say something that neither you nor your wife noticed a difference with and without the meds. i have a ton of "tells" thateverybody i have lived with can usually tell if I am on meds or not (e.g. one of the funniest i never realized until an old roommate told me about it is whenever i am off my ADHD med I literally run up and down the stairs. When i am on it i am more normal and walk, but when i a off this particular roommate said it was a guarantee i would run up and down the stairs. pretty funny stuff i think). good luck

 

[Bob Loblaw]

Bob - have the meds helped with your sense of time? What tricks have you tried to help you? I have yet to try medication but the only trick that has even slightly worked is having an alarm beep at me every 5 minutes.

Meds haven't really helped with sense of time. I use my iPhone for an audible reminder of To Dos. But the problem is that I start to overlook them because they're the same reminders day after day. Also, I stopped taking Adderall XR Sept 20 to see if there would be a difference. And there wasn't. I didn't tell my wife until a week later, because I didn't want her to be aware of me stopping, and she didn't notice a difference either. So, I informed my psychiatrist, and he said I should consider starting Concerta. Anyone else have experience with Concerta?

. Concerta is usually considered not as intensive drug as the other stimulants. i work with a lot of people who take a lot of meds, and i can't remember hearing a bad experience with concerta. give it a try. one reason why they prescribe these meds so frequently is because a lot of the ADHD meds go in and go right out of your body. so if you don't like the med it us easy to go past it.and that does say something that neither you nor your wife noticed a difference with and without the meds. i have a ton of "tells" thateverybody i have lived with can usually tell if I am on meds or not (e.g. one of the funniest i never realized until an old roommate told me about it is whenever i am off my ADHD med I literally run up and down the stairs. When i am on it i am more normal and walk, but when i a off this particular roommate said it was a guarantee i would run up and down the stairs. pretty funny stuff i think). good luck

Thanks.My doc says if Concerta doesn't work, then I may not have ADHD. I don't know what to think about this. Do I not want to be labeled? Do I want the label so I can explain my issues? If it's not ADHD, what else could it be? Depression or anxiety as mentioned above in this thread? Concerta may not work, but based on the typical ADHD tendencies, I feel like it's an exact diagnosis.

 

[modogg]

Bob - have the meds helped with your sense of time? What tricks have you tried to help you? I have yet to try medication but the only trick that has even slightly worked is having an alarm beep at me every 5 minutes.

Meds haven't really helped with sense of time. I use my iPhone for an audible reminder of To Dos. But the problem is that I start to overlook them because they're the same reminders day after day. Also, I stopped taking Adderall XR Sept 20 to see if there would be a difference. And there wasn't. I didn't tell my wife until a week later, because I didn't want her to be aware of me stopping, and she didn't notice a difference either. So, I informed my psychiatrist, and he said I should consider starting Concerta. Anyone else have experience with Concerta?

. Concerta is usually considered not as intensive drug as the other stimulants. i work with a lot of people who take a lot of meds, and i can't remember hearing a bad experience with concerta. give it a try. one reason why they prescribe these meds so frequently is because a lot of the ADHD meds go in and go right out of your body. so if you don't like the med it us easy to go past it.and that does say something that neither you nor your wife noticed a difference with and without the meds. i have a ton of "tells" thateverybody i have lived with can usually tell if I am on meds or not (e.g. one of the funniest i never realized until an old roommate told me about it is whenever i am off my ADHD med I literally run up and down the stairs. When i am on it i am more normal and walk, but when i a off this particular roommate said it was a guarantee i would run up and down the stairs. pretty funny stuff i think). good luck

Thanks.My doc says if Concerta doesn't work, then I may not have ADHD. I don't know what to think about this. Do I not want to be labeled? Do I want the label so I can explain my issues? If it's not ADHD, what else could it be? Depression or anxiety as mentioned above in this thread? Concerta may not work, but based on the typical ADHD tendencies, I feel like it's an exact diagnosis.

not to laugh, but reading your post, it may lean more toward anxiety. (That was supposed to be a joke, so hopefully it came off that way). The truth is quite a few diagnosis are close together and operate off of the same neurotransmitters, etc. there is also a lot of similarities with anxiety disorders and ADHD, and they are diagnosed comorbid quite a bit. Don't sweat the label at all, just be happy if they find something that you think helps you out. there are pro's and con's to all of the diagnosis, and if you have made it this long you will be good to go no matter what they eventually diagnose you with. maybe focus on some cognitive-behavior therapy instead of medicine if you don't feel like the Concerta works? the manifestations of the diagnosis are often similar, so learning to cope with the manifestations no matter what the diagnosis is may be helpful. you want to give the therapy sessions a chance, but those are the kind of thing where if you feel like it isn't for you it is simple as stop going.

 

[kupcho1]

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Not a real thing.

 

[ChainsawU]

Fish oil improves ADHD symptoms

by Newsletter Editor

This study tested the effects of fish-sourced omega-3 EPA and DHA and plant-sourced omega-6 linoleic acid, on 90 children between the ages of 7 and 12 with ADHD. The children took EPA/DHA 1,109 mg/108 mg; EPA/DHA 1,032 mg/264 mg; or 1,467 mg of linoleic acid, per day. After four months, there were no significant differences between the groups for improvements in cognition, literacy, and parent-rated behavior.

However, in the high-DHA group, children had slightly better reading scores and less oppositional behavior compared to the other two groups. Also, in a subgroup of 17 children with learning difficulties, the high-DHA group had significantly better reading and spelling scores, was better able to divide attention, and their parents reported less oppositional behavior, hyperactivity, restlessness, and overall ADHD symptoms.

Reference: Nutrition, 2012 June; 28(6), 670-7

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Fish oil and evening primrose oil vs. Ritalin in kids with ADHD

by Newsletter Editor

This study involved 94 children, aged six to 12, with ADHD, who were taking Ritalin along with standard behavior therapy for more than six months, and whose parents reported no improvements in behavior or academics. The children took 296 mg of omega-3 from fish oil plus 181 mg of omega-6 from evening primrose oil per day, or a placebo. After six months, while parents of kids in the placebo group reported no improvement, parents of children in the omega-3 group reported better attention, cooperation, and less impulsiveness. Doctors began to observe the benefits at six months, and said they believed the children would have continued to improve by taking the omega-3/omega-6 supplement for a longer period of time.

Reference: Journal of Child Neurology, 2012 June; 27(6), 747-53

link

 

[Jobber]

Looking forward to World War Z are ya?

 

[Carver]

Martial Arts

Laugh...but that is the cure, I assure you.

 

[(HULK)]

I'm pretty sure I'm about to join the ADHD ranks. Trying to pick out a shrink now to see me. My dad and bro both have it, but I always thought I couldn't as I can hyperfocus. Turns out thats a symptom of it and I never knew it. I've done a fair amount of looking into it the past week and I'm pretty sure I have it.

One question for the OP: How much did the Adderall change you / how you operate / etc? Trying to determine if I want to be on a pill for the rest of my life or not.

PS: GB my poor wife, I had no idea so much of our problems were stemming from this until I started looking at stuff on ADHD in marriages. I'm a bit of a nightmare I guess.

 

[igbomb]

I'm pretty sure I'm about to join the ADHD ranks. Trying to pick out a shrink now to see me. My dad and bro both have it, but I always thought I couldn't as I can hyperfocus. Turns out thats a symptom of it and I never knew it. I've done a fair amount of looking into it the past week and I'm pretty sure I have it.

One question for the OP: How much did the Adderall change you / how you operate / etc? Trying to determine if I want to be on a pill for the rest of my life or not.

PS: GB my poor wife, I had no idea so much of our problems were stemming from this until I started looking at stuff on ADHD in marriages. I'm a bit of a nightmare I guess.

My son is ADHD Inattentive Type. He has that same hyper-focus. It's actually pretty amazing as he can dive into a stack of books or a giant Lego set and just be in his own world for hours and hours if you let him.

The medicines work different on everybody. That's a big part of why there are so many different types. My son's first medicine addressed his symptoms better than anything since, but made him sad so we dropped it right away. Since then he has tried a couple dosage levels of another and we are seeing better results (i.e. he is happy again).

For adults, quite a few learn coping methods to stay off the meds. Others take pills for years or decades. I only know that in our situation the medicine makes my son feel much more secure and involved than ever before. He is definitely happier on his meds and even when my wife gave him the choice of a day off due to him being sick, he asked if he could take it anyway. It just calms his brain down and lets him experience everything around him.

To those that say it doesn't exist, come hang out at my house some morning and see my son before he takes his medicine. He can hear the people around him talking to him and knows what the right thing to do is (get his homework done, look at the teacher, etc.) but simply can't make his eyes or brain break free from whatever he is doing. He was incredibly frustrated before we did something about it.

 

[Acme CEO]

I'm pretty sure I'm about to join the ADHD ranks. Trying to pick out a shrink now to see me. My dad and bro both have it, but I always thought I couldn't as I can hyperfocus. Turns out thats a symptom of it and I never knew it. I've done a fair amount of looking into it the past week and I'm pretty sure I have it.

One question for the OP: How much did the Adderall change you / how you operate / etc? Trying to determine if I want to be on a pill for the rest of my life or not.

PS: GB my poor wife, I had no idea so much of our problems were stemming from this until I started looking at stuff on ADHD in marriages. I'm a bit of a nightmare I guess.

I'm still having trouble buying into this ADHD stuff. Most of the "symptoms" of marriage discussed here are just likely standard fare for responsible married males.

Uneven share of work load, resentment for constantly putting everyone else's wants before yours, not having the appreciation for your sacrifices and work in the marriage. I'm responsible to my family to the point where I have little time to spend for myself. A little resentment or frustration is natural. But my love for my family overcomes that and that is my reward. I just learned to keep my thoughts to myself when they turn negative.

Just sounds like the drug makers are exploiting this for profit.

 

[[icon]]

Bob - have the meds helped with your sense of time? What tricks have you tried to help you? I have yet to try medication but the only trick that has even slightly worked is having an alarm beep at me every 5 minutes.

Meds haven't really helped with sense of time. I use my iPhone for an audible reminder of To Dos. But the problem is that I start to overlook them because they're the same reminders day after day.Also, I stopped taking Adderall XR Sept 20 to see if there would be a difference. And there wasn't. I didn't tell my wife until a week later, because I didn't want her to be aware of me stopping, and she didn't notice a difference either. So, I informed my psychiatrist, and he said I should consider starting Concerta. Anyone else have experience with Concerta?

.Concerta is usually considered not as intensive drug as the other stimulants. i work with a lot of people who take a lot of meds, and i can't remember hearing a bad experience with concerta. give it a try. one reason why they prescribe these meds so frequently is because a lot of the ADHD meds go in and go right out of your body. so if you don't like the med it us easy to go past it.

and that does say something that neither you nor your wife noticed a difference with and without the meds. i have a ton of "tells" that

everybody i have lived with can usually tell if I am on meds or not (e.g. one of the funniest i never realized until an old roommate told me about it is whenever i am off my ADHD med I literally run up and down the stairs. When i am on it i am more normal and walk, but when i a off this particular roommate said it was a guarantee i would run up and down the stairs. pretty funny stuff i think).

good luck

Thanks.My doc says if Concerta doesn't work, then I may not have ADHD. I don't know what to think about this. Do I not want to be labeled? Do I want the label so I can explain my issues? If it's not ADHD, what else could it be? Depression or anxiety as mentioned above in this thread? Concerta may not work, but based on the typical ADHD tendencies, I feel like it's an exact diagnosis.

You do realize that the majority of people on this planet exhibit ADD symptoms, right?

People are too quick to make up some crazy "syndrome" and try to take a pill for it.

 

[Mister Martie]

I'm pretty sure I'm about to join the ADHD ranks. Trying to pick out a shrink now to see me. My dad and bro both have it, but I always thought I couldn't as I can hyperfocus. Turns out thats a symptom of it and I never knew it. I've done a fair amount of looking into it the past week and I'm pretty sure I have it. One question for the OP: How much did the Adderall change you / how you operate / etc? Trying to determine if I want to be on a pill for the rest of my life or not. PS: GB my poor wife, I had no idea so much of our problems were stemming from this until I started looking at stuff on ADHD in marriages. I'm a bit of a nightmare I guess.

I'm still having trouble buying into this ADHD stuff. Most of the "symptoms" of marriage discussed here are just likely standard fare for responsible married males. Uneven share of work load, resentment for constantly putting everyone else's wants before yours, not having the appreciation for your sacrifices and work in the marriage. I'm responsible to my family to the point where I have little time to spend for myself. A little resentment or frustration is natural. But my love for my family overcomes that and that is my reward. I just learned to keep my thoughts to myself when they turn negative. Just sounds like the drug makers are exploiting this for profit.

Sounds like you have it all figured out, doctor. Thanks for stopping by.

 

[SaintsInDome2006]

In Feb/March 2012, I was diagnosed with Adult ADHD. I was prescribed Adderall XR (started at 5 mg, now at 15 mg). I am married with 3 kids, and my ADHD is seriously affecting my marriage in a negative way.I don't want to get into the minutiae of my issues just yet. But I am interested to hear how others have successfully managed their ADHD.I have troubles with time management, conflict resolution, follow-through, and focus. Also, I don't mean to be self-centered, but I tend to consider myself before others. Even if it's something that I am already doing for someone else, I subconsciously think about how it's affecting me (i.e. when changing my daughter's diaper, I think "why do I always have to change it? my wife should be doing it too"). Some instances I am right, most I'm wrong, but in every instance, my first thought is me. Even if it's for half a second, it's still me.I've read Orlov and Hallowell's The ADHD Effect on Marriage, attended classes thru Kaiser on ADHD, read a ton of other literature on the subject, but I just can't seem to put it all together.Any help/suggestions is/are greatly appreciated.

I have no idea if this is helpful or even reasonably guaranteed to work, but:

- Cut off tv, internet, video games, and radio until you can think clearly. If it takes a month, do it.

- Read, read, read. I mean books.

- Work out, exercise.

- Hey if your wife or anyone else speaks to you, just stop doing what you're doing and focus.

- Listen to calm, deep, beautiful, natural music. Even if you hate it classical music, or even jazz or anything instrumental, can be good.

- Go to bed early. Wake up early.

- Play (throw the football in the street, roll around with the dog, build a model, whatever), have fun, laugh, more sex.

- Try church (or synagogue, or whatever). Find a real place of worship or spirtual room or building that gives you space and some room to think and meditate at the same time every week. Do this even if you're not religious (yes).

- Join some non-profit or charity or public group and contribute to something you believe in and which is bigger and outside yourself.

- Talk to friends, your wife, relatives, about whatever's bugging you. It clears the decks.

- Go over your list of things to do and then do the thing you have put off for the longest time. Do it now.

- Check out your drinking or herb use, if you're not sure of its effect just cut it out for a week. Heck just cut it out for 2 weeks anyway just to get some internal discipline going.

- Be 100% honest about every thing, great and small. Don't hide shyte.

- If something makes you sad or frustrated, don't do it.

- Be a man of action, don't live in your head, do things.

Ok, that's what I got.

Good luck.

 

[(HULK)]

I'm pretty sure I'm about to join the ADHD ranks. Trying to pick out a shrink now to see me. My dad and bro both have it, but I always thought I couldn't as I can hyperfocus. Turns out thats a symptom of it and I never knew it. I've done a fair amount of looking into it the past week and I'm pretty sure I have it.

One question for the OP: How much did the Adderall change you / how you operate / etc? Trying to determine if I want to be on a pill for the rest of my life or not.

PS: GB my poor wife, I had no idea so much of our problems were stemming from this until I started looking at stuff on ADHD in marriages. I'm a bit of a nightmare I guess.

My son is ADHD Inattentive Type. He has that same hyper-focus. It's actually pretty amazing as he can dive into a stack of books or a giant Lego set and just be in his own world for hours and hours if you let him.

The medicines work different on everybody. That's a big part of why there are so many different types. My son's first medicine addressed his symptoms better than anything since, but made him sad so we dropped it right away. Since then he has tried a couple dosage levels of another and we are seeing better results (i.e. he is happy again).

For adults, quite a few learn coping methods to stay off the meds. Others take pills for years or decades. I only know that in our situation the medicine makes my son feel much more secure and involved than ever before. He is definitely happier on his meds and even when my wife gave him the choice of a day off due to him being sick, he asked if he could take it anyway. It just calms his brain down and lets him experience everything around him.

To those that say it doesn't exist, come hang out at my house some morning and see my son before he takes his medicine. He can hear the people around him talking to him and knows what the right thing to do is (get his homework done, look at the teacher, etc.) but simply can't make his eyes or brain break free from whatever he is doing. He was incredibly frustrated before we did something about it.

Pretty sure I'm the inattentive subtype as well. I don't have enough of the hyperactive systems for the other subtypes, just a handful.

I've always thought that the way my brain operated was different than most, but I just assumed it was because I have a very high IQ (over 3 standard deviations above the mean). I guess not. Its weird though, I've been mostly functioning fine professionally and with school... I just learned routines to keep my tendancies in check. But in relationships, nope, never learned the routines I need to. I want to try the meds just to see what it is like... to turn down all the noise so to speak. Long haul, hopefully I can develop habits to manage relationships better too.

 

[(HULK)]

I'm dyslexic too, but I already knew that.

 

[Acme CEO]

I'm pretty sure I'm about to join the ADHD ranks. Trying to pick out a shrink now to see me. My dad and bro both have it, but I always thought I couldn't as I can hyperfocus. Turns out thats a symptom of it and I never knew it. I've done a fair amount of looking into it the past week and I'm pretty sure I have it. One question for the OP: How much did the Adderall change you / how you operate / etc? Trying to determine if I want to be on a pill for the rest of my life or not. PS: GB my poor wife, I had no idea so much of our problems were stemming from this until I started looking at stuff on ADHD in marriages. I'm a bit of a nightmare I guess.

I'm still having trouble buying into this ADHD stuff. Most of the "symptoms" of marriage discussed here are just likely standard fare for responsible married males. Uneven share of work load, resentment for constantly putting everyone else's wants before yours, not having the appreciation for your sacrifices and work in the marriage. I'm responsible to my family to the point where I have little time to spend for myself. A little resentment or frustration is natural. But my love for my family overcomes that and that is my reward. I just learned to keep my thoughts to myself when they turn negative. Just sounds like the drug makers are exploiting this for profit.

Sounds like you have it all figured out, doctor. Thanks for stopping by.

Why the defensiveness? I'm guessing you take issue with the bolded?

 

[-jb-]

I tried Adderall once, on a friend's recommendation, when I told him I had a crapload of work to do and couldn't seem to get over the hump. Within a half hour of taking the pill, I was nowhere near the stack of work and couldn't focus one bit. It was worse. Pretty much blew off everything I had to do and went out for beers. I'm amazed how people actually improve focus on that stuff.

 

[cstu]

I'm pretty sure I'm about to join the ADHD ranks. Trying to pick out a shrink now to see me. My dad and bro both have it, but I always thought I couldn't as I can hyperfocus. Turns out thats a symptom of it and I never knew it. I've done a fair amount of looking into it the past week and I'm pretty sure I have it.

One question for the OP: How much did the Adderall change you / how you operate / etc? Trying to determine if I want to be on a pill for the rest of my life or not.

PS: GB my poor wife, I had no idea so much of our problems were stemming from this until I started looking at stuff on ADHD in marriages. I'm a bit of a nightmare I guess.

My son is ADHD Inattentive Type. He has that same hyper-focus. It's actually pretty amazing as he can dive into a stack of books or a giant Lego set and just be in his own world for hours and hours if you let him.

The medicines work different on everybody. That's a big part of why there are so many different types. My son's first medicine addressed his symptoms better than anything since, but made him sad so we dropped it right away. Since then he has tried a couple dosage levels of another and we are seeing better results (i.e. he is happy again).

For adults, quite a few learn coping methods to stay off the meds. Others take pills for years or decades. I only know that in our situation the medicine makes my son feel much more secure and involved than ever before. He is definitely happier on his meds and even when my wife gave him the choice of a day off due to him being sick, he asked if he could take it anyway. It just calms his brain down and lets him experience everything around him.

To those that say it doesn't exist, come hang out at my house some morning and see my son before he takes his medicine. He can hear the people around him talking to him and knows what the right thing to do is (get his homework done, look at the teacher, etc.) but simply can't make his eyes or brain break free from whatever he is doing. He was incredibly frustrated before we did something about it.

Pretty sure I'm the inattentive subtype as well. I don't have enough of the hyperactive systems for the other subtypes, just a handful.

I've always thought that the way my brain operated was different than most, but I just assumed it was because I have a very high IQ (over 3 standard deviations above the mean). I guess not. Its weird though, I've been mostly functioning fine professionally and with school... I just learned routines to keep my tendancies in check. But in relationships, nope, never learned the routines I need to. I want to try the meds just to see what it is like... to turn down all the noise so to speak. Long haul, hopefully I can develop habits to manage relationships better too.

That's nothing - I'm 3 superior deviations above the mean.

 

[wazoo11]

Anybody who says it isn't real is a moron. It is very real and has very real neurochemical and neurological causes.

Are people overdosed with ADHD? Yes, but ADHD doesn't always equate to hyperactivity.

 

[Judge Smails]

Still don't know if my son just procrastinates or has ADHD

 

[Hopeless Lions Fan]

Did you see the Steven Hawking thread?

 

[Bob Loblaw]

 

[-jb-]

You black dotted your own thread? You really do have ADHD.

 

[Kool-Aid Larry]

when did you ####ers change it from add to adhd?

that kind of pisses me off.

 

[Chaos Commish]

In Feb/March 2012, I was diagnosed with Adult ADHD. I was prescribed Adderall XR (started at 5 mg, now at 15 mg). I am married with 3 kids, and my ADHD is seriously affecting my marriage in a negative way.I don't want to get into the minutiae of my issues just yet. But I am interested to hear how others have successfully managed their ADHD.I have troubles with time management, conflict resolution, follow-through, and focus. Also, I don't mean to be self-centered, but I tend to consider myself before others. Even if it's something that I am already doing for someone else, I subconsciously think about how it's affecting me (i.e. when changing my daughter's diaper, I think "why do I always have to change it? my wife should be doing it too"). Some instances I am right, most I'm wrong, but in every instance, my first thought is me. Even if it's for half a second, it's still me.I've read Orlov and Hallowell's The ADHD Effect on Marriage, attended classes thru Kaiser on ADHD, read a ton of other literature on the subject, but I just can't seem to put it all together.Any help/suggestions is/are greatly appreciated.

I have no idea if this is helpful or even reasonably guaranteed to work, but:

- Cut off tv, internet, video games, and radio until you can think clearly. If it takes a month, do it.

- Read, read, read. I mean books.

- Work out, exercise.

- Hey if your wife or anyone else speaks to you, just stop doing what you're doing and focus.

- Listen to calm, deep, beautiful, natural music. Even if you hate it classical music, or even jazz or anything instrumental, can be good.

- Go to bed early. Wake up early.

- Play (throw the football in the street, roll around with the dog, build a model, whatever), have fun, laugh, more sex.

- Try church (or synagogue, or whatever). Find a real place of worship or spirtual room or building that gives you space and some room to think and meditate at the same time every week. Do this even if you're not religious (yes).

- Join some non-profit or charity or public group and contribute to something you believe in and which is bigger and outside yourself.

- Talk to friends, your wife, relatives, about whatever's bugging you. It clears the decks.

- Go over your list of things to do and then do the thing you have put off for the longest time. Do it now.

- Check out your drinking or herb use, if you're not sure of its effect just cut it out for a week. Heck just cut it out for 2 weeks anyway just to get some internal discipline going.

- Be 100% honest about every thing, great and small. Don't hide shyte.

- If something makes you sad or frustrated, don't do it.

- Be a man of action, don't live in your head, do things.

Ok, that's what I got.

Good luck.

tl;dr

 

[Ilov80s]

when did you ####ers change it from add to adhd?

that kind of pisses me off.

Apparently, it was while you weren't paying attention. Who has ADHD now?

 

[Warrior]

Too much vidya games. That's the cause.

 

[RustyFA4]

In all seriousness, read this book: Lead Like JesusI also have adult adhd and this book has been a great start in getting me to change my paradigms about what my priorities are. Of course, if you hate religion or think that it is b.s, you might not like this suggestion, but I felt that there were many concepts that allowed a person to reform themselves into servant leaders, especially in the home. A reversal in thinking might help you get away from the 'me' centered way of life that ultimately destroys relationships and other things in your life.

I don't hate religion. I do feel a change in what my priorities are is necessary. Does this book suggest letting God/Jesus run my life? While going to a Catholic middle school, high school and college, I have never been a really devout Catholic, or overly religious person. I don't go to church on Sundays.

Bob, I hope you really can focus on Jesus. My life and marriage are so amazingly better since we figured out we can't and shouldn't do it on our own. God Bless, I hope you learn to live with it and thrive with it.

 

[Ilov80s]

Place

In all seriousness, read this book: Lead Like JesusI also have adult adhd and this book has been a great start in getting me to change my paradigms about what my priorities are. Of course, if you hate religion or think that it is b.s, you might not like this suggestion, but I felt that there were many concepts that allowed a person to reform themselves into servant leaders, especially in the home. A reversal in thinking might help you get away from the 'me' centered way of life that ultimately destroys relationships and other things in your life.

I don't hate religion. I do feel a change in what my priorities are is necessary. Does this book suggest letting God/Jesus run my life? While going to a Catholic middle school, high school and college, I have never been a really devout Catholic, or overly religious person. I don't go to church on Sundays.

Bob, I hope you really can focus on Jesus. My life and marriage are so amazingly better since we figured out we can't and shouldn't do it on our own. God Bless, I hope you learn to live with it and thrive with it.

What about Buddha? He might be a better option for someone with ADHD. Lots of meditation, quiet time, and reflection might help center him a bit more.

 

[PIK95]

I wanted to read this thread but my short attention span won't allow it. Oh well, carry on.

 

[RustyFA4]

Place

In all seriousness, read this book: Lead Like JesusI also have adult adhd and this book has been a great start in getting me to change my paradigms about what my priorities are. Of course, if you hate religion or think that it is b.s, you might not like this suggestion, but I felt that there were many concepts that allowed a person to reform themselves into servant leaders, especially in the home. A reversal in thinking might help you get away from the 'me' centered way of life that ultimately destroys relationships and other things in your life.

I don't hate religion. I do feel a change in what my priorities are is necessary. Does this book suggest letting God/Jesus run my life? While going to a Catholic middle school, high school and college, I have never been a really devout Catholic, or overly religious person. I don't go to church on Sundays.

Bob, I hope you really can focus on Jesus. My life and marriage are so amazingly better since we figured out we can't and shouldn't do it on our own. God Bless, I hope you learn to live with it and thrive with it.

What about Buddha? He might be a better option for someone with ADHD. Lots of meditation, quiet time, and reflection might help center him a bit more.

Friend Jesus is the only way. I hope you get that someday.

 

[Ilov80s]

Place

In all seriousness, read this book: Lead Like JesusI also have adult adhd and this book has been a great start in getting me to change my paradigms about what my priorities are. Of course, if you hate religion or think that it is b.s, you might not like this suggestion, but I felt that there were many concepts that allowed a person to reform themselves into servant leaders, especially in the home. A reversal in thinking might help you get away from the 'me' centered way of life that ultimately destroys relationships and other things in your life.

I don't hate religion. I do feel a change in what my priorities are is necessary. Does this book suggest letting God/Jesus run my life? While going to a Catholic middle school, high school and college, I have never been a really devout Catholic, or overly religious person. I don't go to church on Sundays.

Bob, I hope you really can focus on Jesus. My life and marriage are so amazingly better since we figured out we can't and shouldn't do it on our own. God Bless, I hope you learn to live with it and thrive with it.

What about Buddha? He might be a better option for someone with ADHD. Lots of meditation, quiet time, and reflection might help center him a bit more.

Friend Jesus is the only way. I hope you get that someday.

There are 4 Noble Truths, in this life or the next, it will become self-evident.

 

[St. Louis Bob]

I tried Adderall once, on a friend's recommendation, when I told him I had a crapload of work to do and couldn't seem to get over the hump. Within a half hour of taking the pill, I was nowhere near the stack of work and couldn't focus one bit. It was worse. Pretty much blew off everything I had to do and went out for beers. I'm amazed how people actually improve focus on that stuff.

The doctors we talked to all said adhd drugs work the opposite on people that don't have it. Congrats!

 

[comfortably numb]

http://i.imgur.com/DPUsI.jpg

 

[(HULK)]

I tried Adderall once, on a friend's recommendation, when I told him I had a crapload of work to do and couldn't seem to get over the hump. Within a half hour of taking the pill, I was nowhere near the stack of work and couldn't focus one bit. It was worse. Pretty much blew off everything I had to do and went out for beers. I'm amazed how people actually improve focus on that stuff.

The doctors we talked to all said adhd drugs work the opposite on people that don't have it. Congrats!

I've also heard this.

 

[Whoda Sinkitis]

I was recently put on vyvanse for the same thing. It's really seemed to help with regards to my ability to focus on a single thing instead of having 4 different thoughts going on in my head at the same time.What effects have you seen from the Adderall

That right there is the key. ADHD imo opinion is an informatin processing difficulty. There are researchers who argue it is excutive functioning. However, in my clinical experience the having several thoughts happening at the same time is the key ingrediant to ADHD and not in any of the research and not really looked at in the symptomology. So finding ways to improve your focus and shutter the unnecessary input can help. There are other elemetns as well, but that description is unique to the ADHD brain imo.

 

[(HULK)]

I was talking about this with my wife last night. I don't have major anxiety issues, but when we're in a conversation I typically blurt out whatever thought I have, even over her speaking, because I'm trying to spit it out before I lose the thought to the noise in my head. I do get anxiety if I had a thought and try and hold onto it while still listening to her. I can't do it very well and I get anxious that I'll forget whatever it was I was trying to say.

This is really the only time I feel anxious. Kinda weird.

 

[Kal El]

I found out a few years ago that I went undiagnosed with ADHD for most of my childhood. I started taking Ritalin to combat some of the effects, and it's working very well. All the same. I'm hoping to get to the point where I can live with the effects on my own.

A few books I found that would help someone with the disorder, or if you're a family member of someone dealing with it, is the "Distraction" series by John J Ratey. They're very helpful, and they're written by an author with the disorder.

 

[Whoda Sinkitis]

I was talking about this with my wife last night. I don't have major anxiety issues, but when we're in a conversation I typically blurt out whatever thought I have, even over her speaking, because I'm trying to spit it out before I lose the thought to the noise in my head. I do get anxiety if I had a thought and try and hold onto it while still listening to her. I can't do it very well and I get anxious that I'll forget whatever it was I was trying to say.

This is really the only time I feel anxious. Kinda weird.

Some of that is because you care more about your wife's reaction then anyone else. It sounds like you process quickly and flip through topic to topic in your mind. The threat seems to be not having threat heard by someone who matters to you.

 

[pittstownkiller]

You black dotted your own thread? You really do have ADHD.