That sucks. Sorry for your and your family's loss, Bob. Hang in there. Sounds like he was a great guy and a guy that'll be fondly remembered. That's a good tribute.J
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Hang in there YSR. No idea if you'd even want to hear anything like this, but as someone like you who's in business for themselves and rides that balance wire all the time, I find I take less and less "personal" identity or attachment to the success or failure of the businesses. If Footballguys were to go under, I'd be bummed, but I'd be the same person. I'd still have my family (I'd hope they wouldn't leave me if Footballguys died) and I'd still have pretty much everything I do now. Same with the boat company. Losing them would mean some lifestyle changes but nothing really that big in the grand scheme of things.I see people who basically become their business. They feel like they're a success because their business is prosperous. When in reality, they might be a mess. Or they feel like they're a failure because their business failed. I don't think that's true. I know it's easy for the business to "become you" as you pour so much of yourself into it. But it's not you. It's a job that hopefully you like and that you make money with. But it's not you.Good luck there.J
Limp Ditka
Footballguy
Condolences GB
It seems like it's such a rare thing to have a great relationship with a MIL or FIL. I've been lucky enough to have that with both of my wife's parents. Glad you got to experience some of that too.
Already lost the MIL in February, it was devastating. Can't even imagine the FIL
Drifter
Footballguy
Sorry to hear that Bob. Ever since I've had my son, for the first time in my life, I'm terrified of dying. Not of death, but of not being there for my boy (and most likely as of tomorrow, for my little girl). Your FIL's "sorry" is exactly how I would feel if I were to pass away at this point. Sorry for not being there for you. Sorry for not being able to help you when you need it. Sorry I won't get to see the rest of your life.
Oof. The room just got dusty again.
Oof. The room just got dusty again.
YSR
Footballguy
Thanks, JB.It's still looking bleak-ish but we have some very worst case scenario options that we can tap into (e.g. my parents) if need be. I'm trying to sell my house (which I've been renting) in SC, my partner (boyfriend) is trying to sell a couple of his rental properties in Knoxville, etc.We have an investor who wants to open a new office in Savannah for us and that's going to be gangbusters. It's just not going to happen until February, most likely.But to your point, I had to take a hard look at my particular situation the other day when I had this realization. I could get out. I would take a hit, as I've put a good deal of money into this business, but I could still get out. We are not married, the house we live in in Jacksonville is in my name and I would have every right to sell it, etc.But the thought was fleeting, as after an at-times painful journey, I'm happy in my personal life. If we wind up on the streets, we do so together.Thanks for the validation on that.
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
Thanks guys, I really appreciate it.
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
Well said Drifter. Well said.
Hang in there.I don't know the specifics of your business (size, how you make your money, etc.), but make sure you have a solid top finance/accounting person. I don't know if you're large enough to have a CFO/controller but a good finance person should be overseeing everything, doing projections and budgers, and probably most importantly, have a good relationship with the bank.Thanks, JB.It's still looking bleak-ish but we have some very worst case scenario options that we can tap into (e.g. my parents) if need be. I'm trying to sell my house (which I've been renting) in SC, my partner (boyfriend) is trying to sell a couple of his rental properties in Knoxville, etc.We have an investor who wants to open a new office in Savannah for us and that's going to be gangbusters. It's just not going to happen until February, most likely.But to your point, I had to take a hard look at my particular situation the other day when I had this realization. I could get out. I would take a hit, as I've put a good deal of money into this business, but I could still get out. We are not married, the house we live in in Jacksonville is in my name and I would have every right to sell it, etc.But the thought was fleeting, as after an at-times painful journey, I'm happy in my personal life. If we wind up on the streets, we do so together.Thanks for the validation on that.
Sorry for your loss, StlB.It probably doesn't mean much, but try to look on the bright side.....you at least got a chance to say good bye. It sounds like he knew he was loved in his final days.
Cool. I bet you do great.And sorry if that sounded preachy. It's just something that's really hit me hard the last few years. Keep us posted.JThanks, JB.It's still looking bleak-ish but we have some very worst case scenario options that we can tap into (e.g. my parents) if need be. I'm trying to sell my house (which I've been renting) in SC, my partner (boyfriend) is trying to sell a couple of his rental properties in Knoxville, etc.We have an investor who wants to open a new office in Savannah for us and that's going to be gangbusters. It's just not going to happen until February, most likely.But to your point, I had to take a hard look at my particular situation the other day when I had this realization. I could get out. I would take a hit, as I've put a good deal of money into this business, but I could still get out. We are not married, the house we live in in Jacksonville is in my name and I would have every right to sell it, etc.But the thought was fleeting, as after an at-times painful journey, I'm happy in my personal life. If we wind up on the streets, we do so together.Thanks for the validation on that.
Flash
Footballguy
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
krista4 said:High-school classmate/friend died yesterday. Seemingly healthy until Nov. 1 last year, when she woke up with yellow eyes and was diagnosed within a week with Stage 4 liver cancer. She had a 14-year-old and 11-year-old, in addition to a very loving husband.
That is just awful. I'm very sorry for your loss Krista.
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
Thank you, I appreciate it.The funeral was took place at the time as this poor kid was put to rest and and they were both buried at JB which rivals Arlington in its size and beauty. The Patriot Guard was there and it was amazing to see. There had to be close to 300 motorcycles. Thankfully the Phelps crowd wasn't there because I would be in jail right now. The marine told his parents that when he got home from Afghanistan he wanted to buy an old pickup truck and restore it. So the funeral home bought a 1952 Ford and picked up his casket at the airport with it. Pretty cool.
It was all rather short and sweet, just like my FIL wanted.
The honor guard was there, 21 gun salute and this poem was written by the son of his long time friend and girlfriend. My FIL when he talked about the war and the obvious horrible things that went along with it, would always say "a warm place to sleep would have been nice because it was awful waking up in a hole covered in snow but I would have settled for some dry socks and a warm meal."
It was all rather short and sweet, just like my FIL wanted.
The honor guard was there, 21 gun salute and this poem was written by the son of his long time friend and girlfriend. My FIL when he talked about the war and the obvious horrible things that went along with it, would always say "a warm place to sleep would have been nice because it was awful waking up in a hole covered in snow but I would have settled for some dry socks and a warm meal."
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DRY SOCKS AND A WARM MEALAn uncommon common soldier is being laid to restThroughout this soldier's life he always passed the testHarry was a quiet unassuming shy hero who never asked for muchHis life was a testament to the family left and many friends he did touchThis man from Missouri would insist the he was merely doing his jobOur country owes a debt for with the battle weary service his youth we did robA gentle man with a constant smile who never sought to tell his remarkable storySicily, Anzio, The Bulge became his legacy but he did not welcome any gloryHarry was of a generation history has rightly labeled as loyal, brave, and trueWhen his country called he was ready to take the point and do and do and doA foot soldier at the front, he experienced the horrors and the sacrifice of warHis positive outlook remained to the end for he never showed the scarHarry said what he missed in years of combat were dry socks and a warm mealNow he is being welcomed by his brothers in arms who salute this man so real
That Little Voice
Footballguy
Thanks for sharing your thoughts here, Bob. May he rest in peace.
RudiStein
*Not really a bail bondsman
Just spent about 4 hours hanging out with my dad. Actually I was keeping an eye on him since he has Alzheimer's. My stepmom has a support group she goes to every Saturday so we go up and spend the day with him.
The changes this disease causes are just...
Screw it. I don't even want to think about it.
F-U Alzheimer's
The changes this disease causes are just...
Screw it. I don't even want to think about it.
F-U Alzheimer's
Harry Manback
Footballguy
Went through it a little with my Grampa but I was too young. Hoping that I won't have to deal with it with my Dad too. Sorry man, #### Alzheimer's, for real.
YSR
Footballguy
Oh man. I'm sorry to hear this. I don't even really have any encouraging words that won't sound patronizing. Just really sorry to hear it.
El Floppo
Footballguy
+2Just had dinner with an old GB who is going through a parent with Alzheimers too. ####### horrible- so sorry you're having to go through it.
RudiStein
*Not really a bail bondsman
Christ. Good luck, man.
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
Really sorry to hear this GB.
Both of my grandparents have Alzheimer's. It's awful. They haven't recognized each other for about 2 years now.I seriously wish they would just die.F-U Alzheimer's
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Sorry to hear that Rudi. Hang in there.J
Sorry to hear that too, Bob. Hang tough. JReally sorry to hear this GB.
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YSR
Footballguy
Dad went into the clinic for a colonoscopy this morning and ended up in the hospital for a few days with an irregular heartbeat. He has had this kind of thing before, but each time (2x) it's been on one side of his heart and they have done the ablation.
It's on the other side of his heart now and he's nearing 70. I don't know what it means and I how long he will be there, and my mother is painting best possible scenario.
I'm upset. There you have it.
It's on the other side of his heart now and he's nearing 70. I don't know what it means and I how long he will be there, and my mother is painting best possible scenario.
I'm upset. There you have it.
Harry Manback
Footballguy
5:30?!?!?Consider yourself lucky, I walk out my office at 5 and it's pitch black. I have no windows at my desk so I couldn't tell you exactly when it got dark, but earlier than 5:30 and it's only gonna get worse!Getting dark at 5:30 is a downer.
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
Here I thought I had problems.Scored a total of 114 points in the 1st round and quarters destroying two teams with 1 loss total. Last night in the semis got pushed around by the #4 team in the country 51-23 with 4 TOs.
Smiles&Cries
Footballguy
Life it seems, will fade away
Drifting further every day
Getting lost within myself
Nothing matters no one else
I have lost the will to live
Simply nothing more to give
There is nothing more for me
Need the end to set me free
Things are not what they used to be
Missing one inside of me
Deathly lost, this can't be real
Cannot stand this hell I feel
Emptiness is filing me
To the point of agony
Growing darkness taking dawn
I was me, but now He's gone
I think this sums it up best.
Drifting further every day
Getting lost within myself
Nothing matters no one else
I have lost the will to live
Simply nothing more to give
There is nothing more for me
Need the end to set me free
Things are not what they used to be
Missing one inside of me
Deathly lost, this can't be real
Cannot stand this hell I feel
Emptiness is filing me
To the point of agony
Growing darkness taking dawn
I was me, but now He's gone
I think this sums it up best.
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
My Uncle Jerry just died. :sigh:
:sigh:
RudiStein
*Not really a bail bondsman
Sorry for your loss, man.My Uncle Jerry just died.:sigh:
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
Thanks brother. I called my cousin to find out more about these coins. My other cousin (his sister) answered and I could tell she was crying. :deepbreath:He's been in pain for a long time but like my FIL, it hurts to see him go.Sorry for your loss, man.My Uncle Jerry just died.:sigh:
Native
Footballguy
:(
SO Sorry. First and foremost, prayers for your nephew. This kind of stuff make me so sad. I hope hes strong and not in a lot of pain.Also, I wish you and your family strength and good wishes through these times.
krista4
Footballguy
My gosh. I don't remember the earlier post on this. I'm so sorry.
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
God that's awful. T&P's Pick.
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
Old friend of ours Dad dropped dead out of nowhere on Friday. I sent Mrs. SLB to the wake tonight. I can't take 3 straight days of heavy depression. Of course after reading Pick's post that seems pretty petty of me.
Dr. Awesome
Footballguy
Dear god this thread is depressing. I was going to share my gloom with you folk but it just seems so trivial now. Thanks to all you miserable folk for cheering me up!
RudiStein
*Not really a bail bondsman
Went to the doctor today. I went in for a check-up about 5-6 weeks ago. There was a little blip on my EKG. Doctor didn't think it was much but figured he have me take an echocardiogram (whatever). So I did it about 10 days ago.
I hadn't heard anything so I figured that was good news.
Wrong. Dr's office called Wed and wanted me to come in so I knew it wasn't good. Doc tells me today that I have biatrial enlargement. Top two top chambers of my heart are enlarged. The doctor seemed a little puzzled by it. I asked him if this was something related to lifestyle (smoking, being overweight, diet etc). He said something to the effect of "probably not...it's probably something more like a faulty valve or you might have even been born with a hole in your heart".
So all these years of not taking great care of myself and my ticker could be screwed by pure nature. I've been exercising and cutting some weight and some damn birth defect sucker punches me.
I have a consultation on the 21st with the cardiologist. My doc says I might need a TEE. I guess that's where they actually shove the echo thing down your throat so they can get a better look from the inside.
I did some research on the biatrial enlargement thing but I have no idea how serious it is. No clue if what the treatment is.
One the bright side the doc said something like "well it's better we found out now instead of in 10 years and we're trying to figure out why your heart is going out."
Man I hate to ##### about health stuff. I know there are people out there with a lot worse. But I haven't been in the hospital since I had my tonsils out when I was 4. I guess I've been lucky but I suppose I've just never had to really think about serious health stuff in a real sense.
I hadn't heard anything so I figured that was good news.
Wrong. Dr's office called Wed and wanted me to come in so I knew it wasn't good. Doc tells me today that I have biatrial enlargement. Top two top chambers of my heart are enlarged. The doctor seemed a little puzzled by it. I asked him if this was something related to lifestyle (smoking, being overweight, diet etc). He said something to the effect of "probably not...it's probably something more like a faulty valve or you might have even been born with a hole in your heart".
So all these years of not taking great care of myself and my ticker could be screwed by pure nature. I've been exercising and cutting some weight and some damn birth defect sucker punches me.
I have a consultation on the 21st with the cardiologist. My doc says I might need a TEE. I guess that's where they actually shove the echo thing down your throat so they can get a better look from the inside.
I did some research on the biatrial enlargement thing but I have no idea how serious it is. No clue if what the treatment is.
One the bright side the doc said something like "well it's better we found out now instead of in 10 years and we're trying to figure out why your heart is going out."
Man I hate to ##### about health stuff. I know there are people out there with a lot worse. But I haven't been in the hospital since I had my tonsils out when I was 4. I guess I've been lucky but I suppose I've just never had to really think about serious health stuff in a real sense.
YSR
Footballguy
Oh, man. Really sorry to hear. Here's hoping your cardiologist up and leaves your appointment in order to go punch your internist in the sexyparts area for wasting his time.
RudiStein
*Not really a bail bondsman
Oh yeah I almost had to go a little MoP on the broad that handles my doc's appointments. She called Wed and left a voicemail to call back. So I call her and she says "Dr. H wanted you to come in for a routine appointment..."Me: (I'd seen the guy like 3 times in one month. Full check up, cyst removal, Echo)Her: ...yes, a routin...um...oh, wait...it says something about you having an Echo and um, er...but it's just a regular check-up."Me: Umm...yeahhhh...After we make the appointment I almost told her "You know I'm not in the medical profession but it wasn't hard to figure out that something was up with my results. This isn't a regular check-up. Doctor H grabbed my junk and jammed a finger up me less than 3 weeks ago. I'm all 'checked-up'. " I'm not a cocker spaniel that needs to be tricked into 'going for a ride, boy!' when it's time to go to the vet.
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