***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (3 Viewers)

[LHUCKS]

All right, I'm trying to fill out the Match.com profile thing and I can't help sounding like a completely boring dooshbag tool jackhole %^&*@!.Honestly, talking about myself makes my teeth hurt.

I signed up last week per this thread and I'm still revising it.First Draft - Sounded Like I was just there to get ###Second Draft - Sounded too serious/boringThird Draft - Too Nice, but getting closer

 

[code]

YOU'VE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME. NOT TEN SECONDS AFTER I MAKE THE ABOVE POST SHE TEXTS ME TELLING ME TO RETHINK THINGS.

Gee, didn't see that coming

 

[Woz]

Congrats on the successful date bankerguy. Now I have a question I don't really know the answer to. What if someone emails you and you aren't physically attracted to their photos, but they have an interesting profile. Do people expect to just make friends sometimes, or should there be a small possibility of starting something if you respond to their email.

You are best to not respong imo.If you do respond be 100% sure to be honest that you aren't interested in anything other than being friends.I was nice and responded to someone I normally wouldn't. I ended up spending a week trying to get rid of her and her emails. Be careful.

It's best not to respond at all. I've gotten a few from chicks I'm not initially interested in and the no-response seems to be working as they haven't followed up or anything. Think about it: if the girls are online, they want to date. Learn from me that if you give them an inch of hope, they take it 100 ####### yards. And BG that no-nonsense is chick is very solid IMO . Seems like we share "types" for considering actually dating.

 

[Kendall]

Congrats on the successful date bankerguy.

Now I have a question I don't really know the answer to. What if someone emails you and you aren't physically attracted to their photos, but they have an interesting profile. Do people expect to just make friends sometimes, or should there be a small possibility of starting something if you respond to their email.

You are best to not respong imo.If you do respond be 100% sure to be honest that you aren't interested in anything other than being friends.

I was nice and responded to someone I normally wouldn't. I ended up spending a week trying to get rid of her and her emails. Be careful.

It's best not to respond at all. I've gotten a few from chicks I'm not initially interested in and the no-response seems to be working as they haven't followed up or anything. Think about it: if the girls are online, they want to date. Learn from me that if you give them an inch of hope, they take it 100 ####### yards.

And BG that no-nonsense is chick is very solid IMO . Seems like we share "types" for considering actually dating.

Or in your case give the girl a mile. Heed your own advice this time bub.

 

[ditka...mike ditka]

first ditka update:

Got a date with a cute blonde polish girl coming up this weekend. Only reason I mention she is polish because she is actually from poland, still sounds like it, etc. She is 21 and seems really sweet, so we will see how that goes. She actually found me a myspace before i filled out my match thing.

I sent out my first two messages on match this morning as i have not had anytime to log on there and put time into thinking of somthing good to say. I guess i will see when i get home if they have responded, as well as hopefully go "Otis style" and send out about 30 or so more messages =).

How do i get to this underground page? can someone pm me a link. Ill have some pics to add to it.

 

[ditka...mike ditka]

first ditka update:

Got a date with a cute blonde polish girl coming up this weekend. Only reason I mention she is polish because she is actually from poland, still sounds like it, etc. She is 21 and seems really sweet, so we will see how that goes. She actually found me a myspace before i filled out my match thing.

I sent out my first two messages on match this morning as i have not had anytime to log on there and put time into thinking of somthing good to say. I guess i will see when i get home if they have responded, as well as hopefully go "Otis style" and send out about 30 or so more messages =).

How do i get to this underground page? can someone pm me a link. Ill have some pics to add to it.

 

[LHUCKS]

So do you guys usually send "winks" first or do you just shoot emails?

 

[Otis]

So do you guys usually send "winks" first or do you just shoot emails?

Never, ever send a wink. It's the equivalent of having your friend approach a girl at a bar to tell her you think she's cute, and passing along a note that says "Do you like me too? Check Yes or No."

 

[Otis]

All right, I'm trying to fill out the Match.com profile thing and I can't help sounding like a completely boring dooshbag tool jackhole %^&*@!.Honestly, talking about myself makes my teeth hurt.

If you just write your profile the way you write here, the right chicks will find you. I'd even start with the line above about making your teeth hurt.I know I have a huge crush.

 

[Kraft...]

Ok...my update:First off Woz.....wow dude......sorry. I had my date with "no nonsense". We ended up going out for a very nice dinner at one of the best restuarants in my city. Started off rocky, wasn't sure she was ino me. She said, you aren't what I expected then struggled to explain. Was worried for a second. As the night went on, the conversation was better and we got to the touchy feeling thing, which is always a good sign. The night ended with a kiss. For a long term prospect...... Nice girl, similar outlooks and up-bringing, a solid 8 out of 10, cute but not a head turner. Which is good. I honestly liked her as far as first dates go. Bankerguy is pushing for a second date.

Your scale is messed up - 8 = head turner

Well i'd be interested to hear others rating of her? Based on the pic I posted.

Very pretty face, 8 minimum with potential to go up a 1/2 point if the body matches

 

[Disco Stu]

All right, I'm trying to fill out the Match.com profile thing and I can't help sounding like a completely boring dooshbag tool jackhole %^&*@!.Honestly, talking about myself makes my teeth hurt.

If you just write your profile the way you write here, the right chicks will find you. I'd even start with the line above about making your teeth hurt.I know I have a huge crush.

Try to mix wit with sincerity.

 

[Mrs. BSR]

All right, I'm trying to fill out the Match.com profile thing and I can't help sounding like a completely boring dooshbag tool jackhole %^&*@!.

Honestly, talking about myself makes my teeth hurt.

If you just write your profile the way you write here, the right chicks will find you. I'd even start with the line above about making your teeth hurt.I know I have a huge crush.

We all do! Now, Wozzy Bear, do you now see why everyone told you you should have not left it so open in your e-mail?

 

[Duk]

So do you guys usually send "winks" first or do you just shoot emails?

Never, ever send a wink. It's the equivalent of having your friend approach a girl at a bar to tell her you think she's cute, and passing along a note that says "Do you like me too? Check Yes or No."

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

So do you guys usually send "winks" first or do you just shoot emails?

Never, ever send a wink. It's the equivalent of having your friend approach a girl at a bar to tell her you think she's cute, and passing along a note that says "Do you like me too? Check Yes or No."

X▐ Yes

▐ No

▐ Maybe

Gotta have the "maybe" option.

 

[LHUCKS]

So do you guys usually send "winks" first or do you just shoot emails?

Never, ever send a wink. It's the equivalent of having your friend approach a girl at a bar to tell her you think she's cute, and passing along a note that says "Do you like me too? Check Yes or No."

Good point, it's kind of weak...I wasn't really thinking of it from a confidence perspective.

 

[Team Tosh]

So do you guys usually send "winks" first or do you just shoot emails?

Never, ever send a wink. It's the equivalent of having your friend approach a girl at a bar to tell her you think she's cute, and passing along a note that says "Do you like me too? Check Yes or No."

Good point, it's kind of weak...I wasn't really thinking of it from a confidence perspective.

I think a female friend of mine on match liked the winks, but I would tend to agree that it's weak. I guess it depends on the winkee.

 

[Disco Stu]

Are messages a good indication of intelligence, or do you give them the benefit of the doubt (casual interface or whatever)?

This chick's profile mentioned loving hockey, so I asked if she was a Stars fan. This was her reply...

yuppers i like the stars but have to admitt i fallow players more than teams wich makes it hard when theres a player i like that not on the stas playing against them

of:She did send it at 2am, so maybe she was drunk. On a Monday...

 

[Mrs. BSR]

Are messages a good indication of intelligence, or do you give them the benefit of the doubt (casual interface or whatever)?

This chick's profile mentioned loving hockey, so I asked if she was a Stars fan. This was her reply...

yuppers i like the stars but have to admitt i fallow players more than teams wich makes it hard when theres a player i like that not on the stas playing against them

of:She did send it at 2am, so maybe she was drunk. On a Monday...

Imagine her talking like that on a date.

 

[krista4]

Are messages a good indication of intelligence, or do you give them the benefit of the doubt (casual interface or whatever)?

This chick's profile mentioned loving hockey, so I asked if she was a Stars fan. This was her reply...

yuppers i like the stars but have to admitt i fallow players more than teams wich makes it hard when theres a player i like that not on the stas playing against them

of:She did send it at 2am, so maybe she was drunk. On a Monday...

Even setting aside the misspellings and lack of punctuation, I think use of "yuppers" should lead to automatic disqualification, but perhaps I'm too picky.

 

[Team Tosh]

Are messages a good indication of intelligence, or do you give them the benefit of the doubt (casual interface or whatever)?

This chick's profile mentioned loving hockey, so I asked if she was a Stars fan. This was her reply...

yuppers i like the stars but have to admitt i fallow players more than teams wich makes it hard when theres a player i like that not on the stas playing against them

of:She did send it at 2am, so maybe she was drunk. On a Monday...

What Would Smoo Do? If she has a good sense of humor you can ask her why she writes like a third grader.

 

[krista4]

Are messages a good indication of intelligence, or do you give them the benefit of the doubt (casual interface or whatever)?

This chick's profile mentioned loving hockey, so I asked if she was a Stars fan. This was her reply...

yuppers i like the stars but have to admitt i fallow players more than teams wich makes it hard when theres a player i like that not on the stas playing against them

of:She did send it at 2am, so maybe she was drunk. On a Monday...

What Would Smoo Do? If she has a good sense of humor you can ask her why she writes like a third grader.

I'm going to go with "not great dating advice" here.

 

[Disco Stu]

Are messages a good indication of intelligence, or do you give them the benefit of the doubt (casual interface or whatever)?

This chick's profile mentioned loving hockey, so I asked if she was a Stars fan. This was her reply...

yuppers i like the stars but have to admitt i fallow players more than teams wich makes it hard when theres a player i like that not on the stas playing against them

of:She did send it at 2am, so maybe she was drunk. On a Monday...

What Would Smoo Do? If she has a good sense of humor you can ask her why she writes like a third grader.

I'm going to go with "not great dating advice" here.

Yeah, I don't think that's the route to take. I'm tempted to go into Studs n Duds mode though...

 

[Mrs. BSR]

Are messages a good indication of intelligence, or do you give them the benefit of the doubt (casual interface or whatever)?

This chick's profile mentioned loving hockey, so I asked if she was a Stars fan. This was her reply...

yuppers i like the stars but have to admitt i fallow players more than teams wich makes it hard when theres a player i like that not on the stas playing against them

of:She did send it at 2am, so maybe she was drunk. On a Monday...

What Would Smoo Do? If she has a good sense of humor you can ask her why she writes like a third grader.

I'm going to go with "not great dating advice" here.

Yeah, I don't think that's the route to take. I'm tempted to go into Studs n Duds mode though...

You could respond with all FFA shtick and see what happens!

 

[Disco Stu]

Even setting aside the misspellings and lack of punctuation, I think use of "yuppers" should lead to automatic disqualification, but perhaps I'm too picky.

Yeah, "yuppers" definitely got her off on the wrong foot.I was caught off guard by the message. Her profile was fine, and she looked smart. BTW, this is chick "B"...

 

[krista4]

Are messages a good indication of intelligence, or do you give them the benefit of the doubt (casual interface or whatever)?

This chick's profile mentioned loving hockey, so I asked if she was a Stars fan. This was her reply...

yuppers i like the stars but have to admitt i fallow players more than teams wich makes it hard when theres a player i like that not on the stas playing against them

of:She did send it at 2am, so maybe she was drunk. On a Monday...

What Would Smoo Do? If she has a good sense of humor you can ask her why she writes like a third grader.

I'm going to go with "not great dating advice" here.

Yeah, I don't think that's the route to take. I'm tempted to go into Studs n Duds mode though...

You could respond with all FFA shtick and see what happens!

I used "______ down?" the other day at work, without realizing what I was doing. Lots of blank stares.

 

[krista4]

Even setting aside the misspellings and lack of punctuation, I think use of "yuppers" should lead to automatic disqualification, but perhaps I'm too picky.

Yeah, "yuppers" definitely got her off on the wrong foot.I was caught off guard by the message. Her profile was fine, and she looked smart. BTW, this is chick "B"...

Hmmm...surprising. Let's go with "bit of a party girl, drunk on a Monday night" excuse, then. If it were football season, I could relate.

 

[LHUCKS]

so another question: do you guys get right to the point in the first email and ask them to meet you out at happy hour, or is there a required exchange of small talk over emails?

 

[code]

Even setting aside the misspellings and lack of punctuation, I think use of "yuppers" should lead to automatic disqualification, but perhaps I'm too picky.

Yeah, "yuppers" definitely got her off on the wrong foot.I was caught off guard by the message. Her profile was fine, and she looked smart. BTW, this is chick "B"...

Yuppers might be her attempt at "casual" (though at 25 I'm with Krista, this is a no-no)...but the punctuation and spelling are a puzzler...I think you have to hope she was drunk...seems like the least depressing option at this point...

 

[code]

so another question: do you guys get right to the point in the first email and ask them to meet you out at happy hour, or is the required exchange of small talk over emails?

Advice earlier in the thread on this one...when I was an online dater I swapped a couple of emails tops (to make sure they didn't use words like "yuppers") and then asked them out...don't overinvest in the email stage or you'll find that you've wasted a ton of time on girls who aren't worth it...

 

[Mrs. BSR]

I used "______ down?" the other day at work, without realizing what I was doing. Lots of blank stares.

 

[Disco Stu]

so another question: do you guys get right to the point in the first email and ask them to meet you out at happy hour, or is the required exchange of small talk over emails?

Advice earlier in the thread on this one...when I was an online dater I swapped a couple of emails tops (to make sure they didn't use words like "yuppers") and then asked them out...don't overinvest in the email stage or you'll find that you've wasted a ton of time on girls who aren't worth it...

Don't want to scare them off by asking too early though. First email is definitely too early (for me at least).

 

[code]

so another question: do you guys get right to the point in the first email and ask them to meet you out at happy hour, or is the required exchange of small talk over emails?

Advice earlier in the thread on this one...when I was an online dater I swapped a couple of emails tops (to make sure they didn't use words like "yuppers") and then asked them out...don't overinvest in the email stage or you'll find that you've wasted a ton of time on girls who aren't worth it...

Don't want to scare them off by asking too early though. First email is definitely too early (for me at least).

Ah, yes, I forget email is the first contact for most of these sites...I should've noted I was using eHarmony, so we'd in essence already swapped multiple choice questions, likes/dislikes, short essay questions, and a few "open messages" before email...so by the time we hit email it was just a few messages and then a non threatening "wanna get together for a drink or something?"...I just have some friends who spent a ton of time emailing and even talking on the phone getting way too invested...and 5 minutes into their first in-person meeting realized it was a no-go and they'd wasted a ton of time...

 

[krista4]

so another question: do you guys get right to the point in the first email and ask them to meet you out at happy hour, or is the required exchange of small talk over emails?

Advice earlier in the thread on this one...when I was an online dater I swapped a couple of emails tops (to make sure they didn't use words like "yuppers") and then asked them out...don't overinvest in the email stage or you'll find that you've wasted a ton of time on girls who aren't worth it...

Don't want to scare them off by asking too early though. First email is definitely too early (for me at least).

Ah, yes, I forget email is the first contact for most of these sites...I should've noted I was using eHarmony, so we'd in essence already swapped multiple choice questions, likes/dislikes, short essay questions, and a few "open messages" before email...so by the time we hit email it was just a few messages and then a non threatening "wanna get together for a drink or something?"...I just have some friends who spent a ton of time emailing and even talking on the phone getting way too invested...and 5 minutes into their first in-person meeting realized it was a no-go and they'd wasted a ton of time...

I think in the context of that site, this approach is fine. You have already communicated a lot at that point.I was on eHarmony about four years ago, until it matched me up as being a soul mate of a stalker ex-boyfriend of mine. First and last time I iDated.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Signing up now.

Be sure to have someone (krista) review your profile.

Sent.

 

[Homer J Simpson]

All right, I'm trying to fill out the Match.com profile thing and I can't help sounding like a completely boring dooshbag tool jackhole %^&*@!.Honestly, talking about myself makes my teeth hurt.

If you just write your profile the way you write here, the right chicks will find you. I'd even start with the line above about making your teeth hurt.I know I have a huge crush.

Anyway, is there a way to see the profiles of the guys doing it here? Is there a way to send a link specifically for your profiles or search by usernames? I need to see some examples...

 

[Kraft...]

Even setting aside the misspellings and lack of punctuation, I think use of "yuppers" should lead to automatic disqualification, but perhaps I'm too picky.

Yeah, "yuppers" definitely got her off on the wrong foot.I was caught off guard by the message. Her profile was fine, and she looked smart. BTW, this is chick "B"...

Having seen the Pic I would say give her another shot

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Even setting aside the misspellings and lack of punctuation, I think use of "yuppers" should lead to automatic disqualification, but perhaps I'm too picky.

Yeah, "yuppers" definitely got her off on the wrong foot.I was caught off guard by the message. Her profile was fine, and she looked smart. BTW, this is chick "B"...

Having seen the Pic I would say give her another shot

 

[Woz]

so another question: do you guys get right to the point in the first email and ask them to meet you out at happy hour, or is there a required exchange of small talk over emails?

I've noticed in my brief experience that it totally depends. So far I've had one chick send me her number in an initial e-mail to another proposing meeting for sex to girls who will share an e-mail addy after a few messages to this really cute girl who keeps insisting we talk online for awhile and said she's nervous about giving her number out just yet.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Alright, Krista and BSR approved the profile, so Keys is in the game.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Question: Does it show up to them when you "favorite" someone? I wanted to keep a list for later, but I don't want to do it if they're going to see it before I send them a message.

 

[LHUCKS]

Question: Does it show up to them when you "favorite" someone? I wanted to keep a list for later, but I don't want to do it if they're going to see it before I send them a message.

good question here...Keys, I thought you had a gf?

 

[LHUCKS]

so who wants to hear my opening paragraph?

 

[Keys Myaths]

Question: Does it show up to them when you "favorite" someone? I wanted to keep a list for later, but I don't want to do it if they're going to see it before I send them a message.

good question here...Keys, I thought you had a gf?

Nop:e:.

 

[krista4]

so who wants to hear my opening paragraph?

Your opening paragraph, as revised, was !

 

[Team Tosh]

Question: Does it show up to them when you "favorite" someone? I wanted to keep a list for later, but I don't want to do it if they're going to see it before I send them a message.

good question here...Keys, I thought you had a gf?

I guess it could show up. Never thought of that. You can view people that have viewed you which is sort of nice. I'm guessing there is some way for it to show up. When I signed up on match there were all these other extra options you could pay for, not sure if the favorite thing was one of them.

 

[Woz]

Question: Does it show up to them when you "favorite" someone? I wanted to keep a list for later, but I don't want to do it if they're going to see it before I send them a message.

I'm still figuring out that function myself. All I know is I accidentally favorited this hot chick, e-mailed her, and she hasn't responded so I'm blaming that.

 

[culdeus]

Woz, any texts/email/calls from x or the work sister friend thing today?

Why not invite both of them to your next softball game to get to know eachother?

 

[Woz]

Woz, any texts/email/calls from x or the work sister friend thing today?Why not invite both of them to your next softball game to get to know eachother?

First of all, I'm insulted you think I play softball. And so far nothing today, but I'm sure like yesterday I'll get a text right after I make this post. Won't hear from the the ex though. She only contacts me when she's drunk, knows I'm on a date (ispy = ), or needs money for some bill I owe her.

 

[Bankerguy]

Are messages a good indication of intelligence, or do you give them the benefit of the doubt (casual interface or whatever)?

This chick's profile mentioned loving hockey, so I asked if she was a Stars fan. This was her reply...

yuppers i like the stars but have to admitt i fallow players more than teams wich makes it hard when theres a player i like that not on the stas playing against them

of:She did send it at 2am, so maybe she was drunk. On a Monday...

Even setting aside the misspellings and lack of punctuation, I think use of "yuppers" should lead to automatic disqualification, but perhaps I'm too picky.

Totally agree again.2 words would come from me:

Buy Bye.

 

[Kraft...]

Are messages a good indication of intelligence, or do you give them the benefit of the doubt (casual interface or whatever)?

This chick's profile mentioned loving hockey, so I asked if she was a Stars fan. This was her reply...

yuppers i like the stars but have to admitt i fallow players more than teams wich makes it hard when theres a player i like that not on the stas playing against them

of:She did send it at 2am, so maybe she was drunk. On a Monday...

Even setting aside the misspellings and lack of punctuation, I think use of "yuppers" should lead to automatic disqualification, but perhaps I'm too picky.

Totally agree again.2 words would come from me:

Buy Bye.

You've seen the pic, what does he have to lose? Chat her up a little more she might turn it around