***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (3 Viewers)

[Tremendous Upside]

I can't believe he sent that email.

when all is said and done i will have and probbaly already have had better relationships and better sex than you can dream of. #### off with the hate. man the ####### insults are getting old. uis it really that entertaining to come in and lay into people without a ####### shread of reasoning? give me a ####### break.

Keep on keepin on playa!

yeesh. hey, i remember calling krista a skank last night, did i really type it?

 

[Woz]

GB Drunk Woz. But seriously bud, if you ever want to see this girl you need to unplug your computer from the wall right now. Reply tomorrow (with help from the FFA of course) when your head is relatively clear.

bump because i'm now sober with a throbbing headache and an upset tummy :hungover:

 

[Woz]

I can't believe he sent that email.

when all is said and done i will have and probbaly already have had better relationships and better sex than you can dream of. #### off with the hate. man the ####### insults are getting old. uis it really that entertaining to come in and lay into people without a ####### shread of reasoning? give me a ####### break.

Keep on keepin on playa!

yeesh. hey, i remember calling krista a skank last night, did i really type it?

yeah... why did i do it?

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

Got a reply from the chick, not sure how to take it but here's what it says:

Hello,

I do not play for my college team. I played fastpitch softball for my high school with 3 years on the JV level catching. My senior year some things happened and so I did not play and that carried on into college. I have played slowpitch softball for 14 years and I do continue to do that now in leagues with friends throughout the summer and fall. When playing slowpitch I either pitch or play in the infield. Outfield was ok but I'm a pretty slow runner to be honest with you "pretty slow" is an understatement.

I have changed my major a few times, right now it's Alcohol and Drug Studies, before that it was Physical Education Teaching and soon it may be Early Childhood Education. Who really knows. I know I am getting to a point where I need to decide but this is the one area in my life where I really just don't know what to do. Technically I am a senior in college but I have a feeling it might be a while longer.

So are you from St. Cloud then, or is that just where you are at now? That's not really too close to where I'm located but I guess somethings can be worked out if we decided to hang out sometime (I should add I haven't met someone from here before).

Take it easy,

Emily

Good God this sounds the exact type of e-mail I'd send - bland, reserved, and very serious. I think I';m in love and gotta meet her. I'm wasted off my ### right now so what do I tells her? And I'm not in the ####### Cloud anymore.

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

Okay this ####er is 87 pages long. Can I get a cliffs notes version please? I'll be dead by the time I get to page 30.

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

And I've picked up on DrunkWoz shtick, so no need to fill me in on that.

TIA

 

[Tremendous Upside]

I can't believe he sent that email.

when all is said and done i will have and probbaly already have had better relationships and better sex than you can dream of. #### off with the hate. man the ####### insults are getting old. uis it really that entertaining to come in and lay into people without a ####### shread of reasoning? give me a ####### break.

Keep on keepin on playa!

yeesh. hey, i remember calling krista a skank last night, did i really type it?

yeah... why did i do it?

It was in the sex with someone you don't love thread, and she wondered if you had voted already b/c there was one vote for "Cannot have sex if I don't care about the person"

 

[Woz]

I can't believe he sent that email.

when all is said and done i will have and probbaly already have had better relationships and better sex than you can dream of. #### off with the hate. man the ####### insults are getting old. uis it really that entertaining to come in and lay into people without a ####### shread of reasoning? give me a ####### break.

Keep on keepin on playa!

yeesh. hey, i remember calling krista a skank last night, did i really type it?

yeah... why did i do it?

It was in the sex with someone you don't love thread, and she wondered if you had voted already b/c there was one vote for "Cannot have sex if I don't care about the person"

hmmm not sure if that warrants a "skank" call, sorry krista

 

[Drifter]

Sounds like you're on the right track Woz. The ones who have been on a while and still haven't even met anyone are the toughest to land. At least she's thinking about it.

Play up that you haven't met anyone either and weren't even that sure about the whole i-dating thing until you started talking to her. Push the batting cages thing as a totally short non-threatening place to meet.

 

[Woz]

Thoughts for my next e-mail:

- keep it short, probably just focus on meeting - maybe make a sympathetic statement about how deciding one's major is tough

- explain to her that I'm now back in the cities and pretty close

now the tough part is making her feel comfortable about meeting me, here's my thoughts for ways to do it:

1. tell her the brief versions of stories of the only two girls i met from the site being 1) psycho (the girl who broke into my place) and 2) emotionally disturbed (abortion chick) and say that the third time should be a charm

2. jokingly say it's possible i could be a psycho axe murderer but it's also possible i could be a really nice, charming cool guy she may like to spend time with, and that without meeting me she'll never know either way

3. nicely tell her i understand her concern and if she is more comfortable talking on the phone first we could try that.

 

[pricklypete]

C'mon, Woz.

#2?

 

[Woz]

Sounds like you're on the right track Woz. The ones who have been on a while and still haven't even met anyone are the toughest to land. At least she's thinking about it.Play up that you haven't met anyone either and weren't even that sure about the whole i-dating thing until you started talking to her. Push the batting cages thing as a totally short non-threatening place to meet.

but i'd be lying because i met two girls from this site - and both were nutsbut yeah i like that angle, i tell her my friends looked on the site for me as a joke for awhile and made the first message to her and i have never intended to meet anyone on there and i was going to write it off as nothing until she replied and she seemed like someone i'd like to meeti think this could be dangerous because she my be turned off by thinking she was initially a big joke, especially if she takes idating seriously, but it could also work well too

 

[s_ezy]

good idea, jokingly tell her you are an axe murderer, thats the ticket to meeting her in person

 

[Drifter]

No on 1. - That will reaffirm her fears that i-dating is filled with psychos. With some girls you could go with "I understand your nervousness and meeting people. I've only met 2 and they were both a bit crazy. The good news is that if they were the crazy ones so that means I must be normal." Unfortunately, I don't think that will work with her.

No on 2 - For some girls that might work. Not this one.

Yes on 3. - Go for the phone conversation. I hate the route, but I think that's the only play with this one.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Thoughts for my next e-mail:- keep it short, probably just focus on meeting - maybe make a sympathetic statement about how deciding one's major is tough- explain to her that I'm now back in the cities and pretty closenow the tough part is making her feel comfortable about meeting me, here's my thoughts for ways to do it:1. tell her the brief versions of stories of the only two girls i met from the site being 1) psycho (the girl who broke into my place) and 2) emotionally disturbed (abortion chick) and say that the third time should be a charm2. jokingly say it's possible i could be a psycho axe murderer but it's also possible i could be a really nice, charming cool guy she may like to spend time with, and that without meeting me she'll never know either way3. nicely tell her i understand her concern and if she is more comfortable talking on the phone first we could try that.

I would stay as far away from 1 and 2 as possible...How far away is this chick?

 

[Drifter]

Sounds like you're on the right track Woz. The ones who have been on a while and still haven't even met anyone are the toughest to land. At least she's thinking about it.Play up that you haven't met anyone either and weren't even that sure about the whole i-dating thing until you started talking to her. Push the batting cages thing as a totally short non-threatening place to meet.

but i'd be lying because i met two girls from this site - and both were nutsbut yeah i like that angle, i tell her my friends looked on the site for me as a joke for awhile and made the first message to her and i have never intended to meet anyone on there and i was going to write it off as nothing until she replied and she seemed like someone i'd like to meeti think this could be dangerous because she my be turned off by thinking she was initially a big joke, especially if she takes idating seriously, but it could also work well too

No - she'll feel duped if she knows you didn't contact her to begin with.

 

[mr. furley]

Thoughts for my next e-mail:- keep it short, probably just focus on meeting - maybe make a sympathetic statement about how deciding one's major is tough- explain to her that I'm now back in the cities and pretty closenow the tough part is making her feel comfortable about meeting me, here's my thoughts for ways to do it:1. tell her the brief versions of stories of the only two girls i met from the site being 1) psycho (the girl who broke into my place) and 2) emotionally disturbed (abortion chick) and say that the third time should be a charm2. jokingly say it's possible i could be a psycho axe murderer but it's also possible i could be a really nice, charming cool guy she may like to spend time with, and that without meeting me she'll never know either way3. nicely tell her i understand her concern and if she is more comfortable talking on the phone first we could try that.

i can't think of a better way to approach this chick. go for it.

 

[ditka...mike ditka]

Thoughts for my next e-mail:

- keep it short, probably just focus on meeting - maybe make a sympathetic statement about how deciding one's major is tough

- explain to her that I'm now back in the cities and pretty close

now the tough part is making her feel comfortable about meeting me, here's my thoughts for ways to do it:

1. tell her the brief versions of stories of the only two girls i met from the site being 1) psycho (the girl who broke into my place) and 2) emotionally disturbed (abortion chick) and say that the third time should be a charm

2. jokingly say it's possible i could be a psycho axe murderer but it's also possible i could be a really nice, charming cool guy she may like to spend time with, and that without meeting me she'll never know either way

3. nicely tell her i understand her concern and if she is more comfortable talking on the phone first we could try that.

i dont think the bolded two are even options with this girl already being hesitant

 

[Woz]

No on 1. - That will reaffirm her fears that i-dating is filled with psychos. With some girls you could go with "I understand your nervousness and meeting people. I've only met 2 and they were both a bit crazy. The good news is that if they were the crazy ones so that means I must be normal." Unfortunately, I don't think that will work with her.No on 2 - For some girls that might work. Not this one.Yes on 3. - Go for the phone conversation. I hate the route, but I think that's the only play with this one.

youire probably right, i too hate talking on the phone without meeting them first, but it may be needed here. guess i'll leave out the non-funny humor in this e-mail.

 

[Disco Stu]

Woz, you can't be serious with options 1 and 2. You just can't be.

 

[Woz]

Woz, you can't be serious with options 1 and 2. You just can't be.

:Xwhere's krista at, i want the female perspective before i stupidly rattle something off here

 

[Tremendous Upside]

No on 1. - That will reaffirm her fears that i-dating is filled with psychos. With some girls you could go with "I understand your nervousness and meeting people. I've only met 2 and they were both a bit crazy. The good news is that if they were the crazy ones so that means I must be normal." Unfortunately, I don't think that will work with her.No on 2 - For some girls that might work. Not this one.Yes on 3. - Go for the phone conversation. I hate the route, but I think that's the only play with this one.

youire probably right, i too hate talking on the phone without meeting them first, but it may be needed here. guess i'll leave out the non-funny humor in this e-mail.

I would leave out non funny humor in EVERY email you send to all prospective iDates

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Woz, you can't be serious with options 1 and 2. You just can't be.

:Xwhere's krista at, i want the female perspective before i stupidly rattle something off here

That skank?Off doing skanky stuff, no doubt...

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

good idea, jokingly tell her you are an axe murderer, thats the ticket to meeting her in person

It will work if she has a sense of humor.

 

[Alias]

What is the aversion to talking on the phone before meeting someone, I assumed that was a given. I am shocked that people routinely meet up with other people without talking with them first. Emailing <> Talking. There is more to chemistry then eye candy. :X

 

[Alias]

I just answered some chicks questions via eHarmony, I think I failed her "test" with this question:

How many books did you read last year?

[x] 0-3

[ ] 3-7

[ ] 8-12

[ ] more than 12

Oh well, if she is looking for a bookworm that stays in all the time, I am not that guy.

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

What is the aversion to talking on the phone before meeting someone, I assumed that was a given. I am shocked that people routinely meet up with other people without talking with them first. Emailing <> Talking. There is more to chemistry than eye candy. :X

Yes, there is always pheremones. And if that doesn't work, chloroform.

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

I just answered some chicks questions via eHarmony, I think I failed her "test" with this question:How many books did you read last year?[x] 0-3[ ] 3-7[ ] 8-12[ ] more than 12Oh well, if she is looking for a bookworm that stays in all the time, I am not that guy.

Anyone who sends you a quiz needs to be written off.

 

[Alias]

What is the aversion to talking on the phone before meeting someone, I assumed that was a given. I am shocked that people routinely meet up with other people without talking with them first. Emailing <> Talking. There is more to chemistry than eye candy. :X

Yes, there is always pheremones. And if that doesn't work, chloroform.

You don't get it. There are different levels of communication, there are many shades of gray, the world is not black and white, you need more speeds then fast and stop, any more cliches I can throw in here?

 

[Disco Stu]

Got a reply from the chick, not sure how to take it but here's what it says:

Hello,

I do not play for my college team. I played fastpitch softball for my high school with 3 years on the JV level catching. My senior year some things happened and so I did not play and that carried on into college. I have played slowpitch softball for 14 years and I do continue to do that now in leagues with friends throughout the summer and fall. When playing slowpitch I either pitch or play in the infield. Outfield was ok but I'm a pretty slow runner to be honest with you "pretty slow" is an understatement.

I have changed my major a few times, right now it's Alcohol and Drug Studies, before that it was Physical Education Teaching and soon it may be Early Childhood Education. Who really knows. I know I am getting to a point where I need to decide but this is the one area in my life where I really just don't know what to do. Technically I am a senior in college but I have a feeling it might be a while longer.

So are you from St. Cloud then, or is that just where you are at now? That's not really too close to where I'm located but I guess somethings can be worked out if we decided to hang out sometime (I should add I haven't met someone from here before).

Take it easy,

Emily

Good God this sounds the exact type of e-mail I'd send - bland, reserved, and very serious. I think I';m in love and gotta meet her. I'm wasted off my ### right now so what do I tells her? And I'm not in the ####### Cloud anymore.

:X

Emily,I'm no longer in St Cloud. I moved to ______ a few weeks ago, so I'm close enough that we could easily grab a drink and get to know each other. How's Thursday?

-Mike

 

[Woz]

What is the aversion to talking on the phone before meeting someone, I assumed that was a given. I am shocked that people routinely meet up with other people without talking with them first. Emailing <> Talking. There is more to chemistry then eye candy. :X

it's awkward because you lose the very helpful tool of being able to read the girl's expressions. a lot of stuff is said without saying it. also, silences can be somewhat normal and common, whereas on the phone it's just weird. plus all i really have to offer a girl is decent eye candy

 

[Tremendous Upside]

What is the aversion to talking on the phone before meeting someone, I assumed that was a given. I am shocked that people routinely meet up with other people without talking with them first. Emailing <> Talking. There is more to chemistry then eye candy.

plus all i really have to offer a girl is decent eye candy

There's the famous Woz self-esteem!

 

[Kraft...]

I just answered some chicks questions via eHarmony, I think I failed her "test" with this question:How many books did you read last year?[x] 0-3[ ] 3-7[ ] 8-12[ ] more than 12Oh well, if she is looking for a bookworm that stays in all the time, I am not that guy.

You've probably read at least 10 book worth of posts here. I would take that into account in your answer to that question going forward.

 

[Disco Stu]

What is the aversion to talking on the phone before meeting someone, I assumed that was a given. I am shocked that people routinely meet up with other people without talking with them first. Emailing <> Talking. There is more to chemistry then eye candy.

I don't like talking on the phone with anyone, especially some chick I've never met. Since I don't enjoy it, I'm sure that comes across poorly.I'll call if she repeatedly asks me to, but my preference is to skip straight to the meeting.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

What is the aversion to talking on the phone before meeting someone, I assumed that was a given. I am shocked that people routinely meet up with other people without talking with them first. Emailing <> Talking. There is more to chemistry then eye candy.

plus all i really have to offer a girl is decent eye candy

There's the famous Woz self-esteem!

BTW Woz, this is a BIG part of your problem...You get a lot of grief for the whole "I have to have a real deep emotional connection before I can sleep with them," but if that's who you are, that's who you are (getting out of your comfort zone we'll leave for another post)...That being said, this feeling that all you have to offer is physical is at complete odds with the above feeling...How are you going to form this deep emotional connection when you feel like you have so little to offer?So you end up in this emotional limbo...

 

[Drifter]

I just answered some chicks questions via eHarmony, I think I failed her "test" with this question:How many books did you read last year?[x] 0-3[ ] 3-7[ ] 8-12[ ] more than 12Oh well, if she is looking for a bookworm that stays in all the time, I am not that guy.

Reminds me of a girl I once brought home to meet mom and dad (who are both voracious readers and a bit high brow).Mom: So X, what do you like to do?X: I like to read.Mom: Oh? What have you read recently?X: Well, I read mostly graphic novels.Mom: ?X: They're kind of like big comic books.Mom: OhX: No, really. They're very well done. Some people consider them literature.Mom:

 

[Keys Myaths]

Seriously, though--pick up a book. It won't kill you, and you might enjoy it.

 

[parasaurolophus]

Seriously, though--pick up a book. It won't kill you, and you might enjoy it.

i read atlas shrugged twice, just so I would never have to read another book.

 

[mr. furley]

What is the aversion to talking on the phone before meeting someone, I assumed that was a given. I am shocked that people routinely meet up with other people without talking with them first. Emailing <> Talking. There is more to chemistry then eye candy.

plus all i really have to offer a girl is decent eye candy

There's the famous Woz self-esteem!

BTW Woz, this is a BIG part of your problem...You get a lot of grief for the whole "I have to have a real deep emotional connection before I can sleep with them," but if that's who you are, that's who you are (getting out of your comfort zone we'll leave for another post)...That being said, this feeling that all you have to offer is physical is at complete odds with the above feeling...How are you going to form this deep emotional connection when you feel like you have so little to offer?So you end up in this emotional limbo...

psst, i told him more or less the exact same thing months ago.. it was in his sig for a while.. he chose to ignore it then. i'm sure he'll do the same again.

 

[DrJ]

Woz - DO NOT talk to her on the phone at this point. We need a meeting here, for the sake of this thread, and if the guys here can't proofread what you're saying you're sunk. The drama is starting to build a little, and the trainwreck that's coming looks like it could be gruesome. Don't kill at all right now.

 

[KnowledgeReignsSupreme]

Woz - DO NOT talk to her on the phone at this point. We need a meeting here, for the sake of this thread, and if the guys here can't proofread what you're saying you're sunk. The drama is starting to build a little, and the trainwreck that's coming looks like it could be gruesome. Don't kill at all right now.

Glad you got your priorities straight.

 

[strykerpks]

Got a reply from the chick, not sure how to take it but here's what it says:

Hello,

I do not play for my college team. I played fastpitch softball for my high school with 3 years on the JV level catching. My senior year some things happened and so I did not play and that carried on into college. I have played slowpitch softball for 14 years and I do continue to do that now in leagues with friends throughout the summer and fall. When playing slowpitch I either pitch or play in the infield. Outfield was ok but I'm a pretty slow runner to be honest with you "pretty slow" is an understatement.

I have changed my major a few times, right now it's Alcohol and Drug Studies, before that it was Physical Education Teaching and soon it may be Early Childhood Education. Who really knows. I know I am getting to a point where I need to decide but this is the one area in my life where I really just don't know what to do. Technically I am a senior in college but I have a feeling it might be a while longer.

So are you from St. Cloud then, or is that just where you are at now? That's not really too close to where I'm located but I guess somethings can be worked out if we decided to hang out sometime (I should add I haven't met someone from here before).

Take it easy,

Emily

Good God this sounds the exact type of e-mail I'd send - bland, reserved, and very serious. I think I';m in love and gotta meet her. I'm wasted off my ### right now so what do I tells her? And I'm not in the ####### Cloud anymore.

Emily,I'm no longer in St Cloud. I moved to ______ a few weeks ago, so I'm close enough that we could easily grab a drink and get to know each other. How's Thursday?

-Mike

 

[larry_boy_44]

Thoughts for my next e-mail:- keep it short, probably just focus on meeting - maybe make a sympathetic statement about how deciding one's major is tough- explain to her that I'm now back in the cities and pretty closenow the tough part is making her feel comfortable about meeting me, here's my thoughts for ways to do it:1. tell her the brief versions of stories of the only two girls i met from the site being 1) psycho (the girl who broke into my place) and 2) emotionally disturbed (abortion chick) and say that the third time should be a charm2. jokingly say it's possible i could be a psycho axe murderer but it's also possible i could be a really nice, charming cool guy she may like to spend time with, and that without meeting me she'll never know either way3. nicely tell her i understand her concern and if she is more comfortable talking on the phone first we could try that.

 

[DrJ]

Woz - DO NOT talk to her on the phone at this point. We need a meeting here, for the sake of this thread, and if the guys here can't proofread what you're saying you're sunk. The drama is starting to build a little, and the trainwreck that's coming looks like it could be gruesome. Don't kill at all right now.

Glad you got your priorities straight.

You'll thank me later.

 

[Otis]

There's way too much serious in these e-mails I think.For what it's worth, I have 15 or 20 cuties (not super hot, but attractive) lined up that I could meet for drinks, but I haven't made the time to meet them -- and it is all based on one and two line e-mails, keeping the e-mail chain very short, and suggesting we meet for drinks very quickly. That's the shark play. Pen pals are for guppies.

Otis you meet these girls online?Or is your preferred method of communication email/text? Is this how the 22-23 year old crowd works, or does this apply to all age groups.

I'm on match. I haven't made time to meet up with the match girls because I've had my hands full lately with girls met the traditional way. That said, I am not averse to filling up an open night with some randoms from match. The trouble is that when I have a night off lately, I'm so beat I just feel like going home and kicking it in front of the TV. I'm starting to run out of energy to do this every night...

 

[Otis]

Wow. Lots of bad woz ideas up in here.

 

[Woz]

Here's what I sent:

Hey Emily,

I'm actually no longer in St. Cloud and have moved back to my apartment by Hamline in St. Paul. I understand your hesitation to meeting people on here, it's new and a little strange for me too and not something I have done before or even really thought about until I started talking to you, so if you'd want to maybe talk on the phone first or something that would be cool. Otherwise, if you're free this Friday I thought maybe we could have dinner at Rosedale or play some catch or catch a Saints game or something light like that instead.

- Mike

 

[Woz]

Wow. Lots of bad woz ideas up in here.

woz gets it done when he actually gets a girl out with him, but it's admittedly a struggle getting to that point

 

[Uruk-Hai]

I have a date tomorrow night. This isn't with someone new, though. This is a guy from Lavalife whom I went out with on the day before the Super Bowl. We had a good dinner but I totally got the impression he was just not that into me at all. I didn't hear from him after that date...until about a month ago. Apparently my impression was wrong. *lol*

Good luck, Havana. Why no word for 7 months, do you think?

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Here's what I sent:Hey Emily, I'm actually no longer in St. Cloud and have moved back to my apartment by Hamline in St. Paul. I understand your hesitation to meeting people on here, it's new and a little strange for me too and not something I have done before or even really thought about until I started talking to you, so if you'd want to maybe talk on the phone first or something that would be cool. Otherwise, if you're free this Friday I thought maybe we could have dinner at Rosedale or play some catch or catch a Saints game or something light like that instead.- Mike

Not bad, IMO...I probably would have gone with fewer options at the end to avoid potentially intimidating her or seeming indecisive, but really that's nitpicking compared to the complete lack of any mentions of pedophilia or murder...