I can never remember if this is the thread where we discuss travel/club soccer, so forgive my faux pas if it's not. Otherwise, I could use some advice on how to best handle (or not handle) a situation with my son.
The long backstory: Son has played for a relatively competitive local travel team for 8 years - he's now U15 and in 8th grade. From day 1, the coach has always said his long-term goal was to help the boys build a skillset so that they make their high school's JV team when they hit 9th grade. He's good with the kids, but very prickly with parents and other adults. The coaches for our other age groups, the club director, and the high school coach openly can't stand him. On the other hand, he has donated countless hours a year to working with our sons.
A little over 2 years ago, we needed an extra GK for spring because our two keepers also played another spring sport and couldn't make every game. My son volunteered to be the 3rd keeper - he never intended it to be permanent. He did well enough in the spring that at tryouts for the following fall, the coach cut one of the other GKs. My son could live with this, because he still got to play the field more than half the time. He didn't love it, but felt he owed it to the team and GK#1 (who also liked to get some time in the field).
Last year, the split was straight 50/50, and my son was less happy with it. With tryouts for this year approaching, I suggested he ask the coach to find another GK because he preferred playing the field (without going into detail, both GKs are also two of our better field players, and also among the handful that have seemed to hit a growth spurt). Not sure what my son said to him, but the Coach did bring up to me that son told him that he didn't want to play goal. I assumed the coach meant play goal for the club, and asked if he would be recruiting a new #2 GK. Coach replied, "Oh no, I meant that he told me he didn't want to play goal in high school." I guess that was where I should have responded, "But isn't the whole goal to get him ready for HS?"
The situation: Fast forward to our first pre-season tourney this weekend. In the first game, GK#1 gets hurt. He's OK, but likely out 4-6 weeks with a muscle strain. This, of course, meant my son had to play goal for the rest of the tournament. He played really well given the circumstances, but thanks to injuries, our lack of size, and losing a couple of 9th graders to JV, the whole team got pummeled. We only scored 2 goals in the 5 games he played GK, and gave up 9 (3 on PKs). Despite playing really well, he was totally demoralized. And knowing he's the only GK for our upcoming Labor Day tournament and possibly the first half of the season just makes him feel worse. Before the last game, another kid actually offered to play goal so Lex could see the field, and the coach nixed it: "you guys obviously need to get better at your real positions."
The question: When my son asked for advice, I told him he should talk to the coach and present the argument to him that playing GK full time isn't helping improve for HS next year. But today when I talked to work friends with older kids that play HS sports, they seemed to think that my son is still young enough that I should be the one to approach the coach and say something. I don't want to be that parent, and the coach also has a history of taking parental input very poorly. Therefore, I'm inclined to stay out of it, but wanted to see if folks in the soccer thread thought I owed it to my son to bring it up with the coach.
Thanks for reading...