Over 50 advice thread (11 Viewers)

[Terminalxylem]

Everyone always said turning the big 40 was the decline, but it was definitely turning 50 for me. I am 53 now, everything aches a little more, it takes longer to heal. Middle of the night pee is a nightly occurance now.

I’ve heard it’s 55.

 

[-fish-]

I work out 5 times a week. Gave up liquor but still drink beer. Feel better than I have in years.

 

[snellman]

Everyone always said turning the big 40 was the decline, but it was definitely turning 50 for me. I am 53 now, everything aches a little more, it takes longer to heal. Middle of the night pee is a nightly occurance now.

I’ve heard it’s 55.

For me it was 50. And +1 to the heartburn. I enjoy onion rings, but they don't like me any more. Also, be ready to use all of the doorways in your house as scratching posts for your back.

 

[JohnnyU]

Quit watching news and don’t spend more than an hour or two in a 24 hour period looking at your devices.

 

[Navin R Johnson]

Play from the white tees and look forward to when you GET to move up from there.

Everything takes longer to heal - discretion is the better part of valor AND aging.

Be kind to "kids these days". They only seem dumb because they are. So we're you at that age.

Otherwise it's the same as it ever was:
The Lord loves a working man
Don't trust Whitey
See a doctor and get rid of it

 

[Skipdog77]

9:30pm is a perfectly acceptable bedtime.

 

[snellman]

No matter how much your wife yells at you for snoring, it is perfectly ok to fall Take a 30 minute nap in the recliner before going to bed.

 

[Uncle Leo]

Congratulations. You are now eligible for a Pneumonia and Shingles Vaccine.

 

[Snoopy]

Congratulations. You are now eligible for a Pneumonia and Shingles Vaccine.

and AARP membership.

 

[FarFromHome]

Turn 50 this month. Physically I'm bigger and stronger then when I was 24 entering basic training. I work hard for it. My cardio might be half. The biggest different for me is the supplements and vitamins I take each morning. It's getting kinda silly. Stretching. Stretching. Stretching. So big for me and my body. A good mattress. It's important. Like dont go cheap on a mattress. Slip ons? Oh hell ya. Been wearing for years. Ha ha. Socially I find my circle is smaller then it's ever been. Can't explain it. I just feel less interested in others overall. Except on this site. Maybe this site has simply replaced my real life social need. Hmmmm.

 

[Uncle Leo]

Congratulations. You are now eligible for a Pneumonia and Shingles Vaccine.

and AARP membership.

In all seriousness, get the Shingles and Pneumonia vaccines as soon as you turn 50.

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

I've moved on to whiskey and/or rye.

Did you drive your Chevy to the levee?

 

[TripItUp]

It’s very easy for your social circles to diminish at this age, especially as your kids age out of sports and/or school activities. We had a big adjustment when our kids both went off to college since a majority of our prior social life was with other families involved in the kids activities.

I’ve found you need to be a little more proactive in keeping those personal connections, which can be harder if you’re an introvert. I’m still trying to figure this one out.

pickleball has been huge for me....check it out

 

[InDitkaWeTrust]

From the pages of Captain Obvious - stay ahead of the foods that give you heartburn.

Man, that one hit me like a ton of bricks after I turned 50. Never had heartburn in my life until one bout of extra spicy thai red curry a fee months after i turned 50. Almost went to the ER thinking it was a heart attack!

 

[Uruk-Hai]

I never got allergies until I hit my 50s. I'm not talking about food allergies, but the plant-based springtime type. My brother used to swell up in his teens from mown grass, but it didn't bother me. It's not bad, but it's apparent every spring now.

 

[Payne]

I agree stretching is the key. Still golf once per week and softball 2x a week and stretching is key. Get a good foam roller and I also have one of those Theragun massage guns. I have a whole 20 plus minute routine before I play and knock on wood haven't had an injury issues. My hip flexors and hamstring are ridiculous tight and without doing thing I guaranty I'd have pulled a hammy by now.

Pulled a hamstring almost a year ago tying my show. Didn't think much of it until it pulled again about a week later.
Decided to do my best to rest it like the stud WR I am and haven't had any issues since.
But do need to stretch more.

 

[Payne]

I never got allergies until I hit my 50s. I'm not talking about food allergies, but the plant-based springtime type. My brother used to swell up in his teens from mown grass, but it didn't bother me. It's not bad, but it's apparent every spring now.

I feel allergies, as a whole, have gotten worse.

 

[Hoh]

It’s very easy for your social circles to diminish at this age, especially as your kids age out of sports and/or school activities. We had a big adjustment when our kids both went off to college since a majority of our prior social life was with other families involved in the kids activities.

I’ve found you need to be a little more proactive in keeping those personal connections, which can be harder if you’re an introvert. I’m still trying to figure this one out.

Oh my gosh I feel this so much. It’s especially disheartening when you feel like youre the one putting in all the effort to reach out. I get kind of tired of “thanks for reaching out, we really miss you guys!”. I’m skeptical.

Sorry, got off topic. But it felt good to share that. Harrumph.

 

[zamboni]

Colonoscopies result in the best naps you’ll ever have. Almost makes you want to do them frequently. Almost

 

[urbanhack]

Drink more water.

Drink more water.

Drink more water.

 

[Gally]

Colonoscopies result in the best nap you’ll ever have. Almost makes you want to do them frequently. Almost

I am not sure why people dread the colonoscopy itself. They put you for a nice nap. I have no recollection of anything happening. It was just a great nap. Now the day before wasn't great but it wasn't as bad as it was portrayed. I even did the gallon jug of stuff because the doctor said "it works better". 8 oz every 10 minutes. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. All in all the anticipation was much worse than the actual activity.

 

[Gally]

It’s very easy for your social circles to diminish at this age, especially as your kids age out of sports and/or school activities. We had a big adjustment when our kids both went off to college since a majority of our prior social life was with other families involved in the kids activities.

We have kept going to the high school games and see the parents and kids that are still there. I am sure after a few years as those kids graduate there will be less and less people we know but at least for this year (son graduated last year) it was still a good way to keep in touch and see those families weekly.

 

[Gally]

It’s very easy for your social circles to diminish at this age, especially as your kids age out of sports and/or school activities. We had a big adjustment when our kids both went off to college since a majority of our prior social life was with other families involved in the kids activities.

We have kept going to the high school games and see the parents and kids that are still there. I am sure after a few years as those kids graduate there will be less and less people we know but at least for this year (son graduated last year) it was still a good way to keep in touch and see those families weekly.

Also, if you like sports asking your HS coaches if they could use help with game management (keeping score, announcing games, snack bar, field prep, etc) can be a way into an activity that keeps you around the game, kids, etc. It's not as time consuming as coaching and it usually gives you a reason to be at games and keep you involved to know kids as new kids keep coming up. It's a really great thing because every HS coach needs help with these things to free them up to actually coach.

 

[-fish-]

At 57, I enjoy playing 9 holes of golf more than 18. Doesn't take my whole day and my back doesn't hurt the next day. Maybe if I was good enough to take less swings...

 

[Leroy Hoard]

At 57, I enjoy playing 9 holes of golf more than 18. Doesn't take my whole day and my back doesn't hurt the next day. Maybe if I was good enough to take less swings...

Knowing one's current condition and limits is key. You don't want to end up like one of the Mandelbaums on Seinfeld.

 

[-fish-]

At 57, I enjoy playing 9 holes of golf more than 18. Doesn't take my whole day and my back doesn't hurt the next day. Maybe if I was good enough to take less swings...

Knowing one's current condition and limits is key. You don't want to end up like one of the Mandelbaums on Seinfeld.

I also have a drawer full of capsaicin patches.

 

[Judge Smails]

Rotator cuffs say "I'm done"

 

[steelerfan1]

Get ready to become more friendly with bathrooms as out of nowhere you find yourself needing to pee.

never trust a fart either...

 

[B Maverick]

Get ready to become more friendly with bathrooms as out of nowhere you find yourself needing to pee.

never trust a fart either...

Can you trust a big butt and a smile?

 

[Idiot Boxer]

55 here. We had a very active social life throughout, but especially starting when the kids were teens, so that hasn't changed, only gotten busier.
We are "out" 4-5 nights a week either with tennis, friend groups or other activities and I host a regular Monday night poker game at my house.
Just won the state championship for 55+ men's tennis with my team and stay relatively active.

I have put on an extra 15 lbs in the gut and that is bothersome.
Finishing a pee has never been more difficult. Never can fully trust it.

But other than that, life's pretty good.

 

[Wingnut]

Drinking after 6pm = poor sleep. I avoid it.

I'm the opposite. Can't drink before dark or Im in bed with a headache after my 2nd beer.

 

[AAABatteries]

I have put on an extra 15 lbs in the gut and that is bothersome.

May be time for an avatar pic update - you were always too skinny in that one anyway.

 

[Idiot Boxer]

I have put on an extra 15 lbs in the gut and that is bothersome.

May be time for an avatar pic update - you were always too skinny in that one anyway.

Ha! Yeah. This was never me, though the number of times people thought it was amused me.

 

[AAABatteries]

I have put on an extra 15 lbs in the gut and that is bothersome.

May be time for an avatar pic update - you were always too skinny in that one anyway.

Ha! Yeah. This was never me, though the number of times people thought it was amused me.

I know GB - good to see you around

 

[Hastur]

I have put on an extra 15 lbs in the gut and that is bothersome.

May be time for an avatar pic update - you were always too skinny in that one anyway.

Ha! Yeah. This was never me, though the number of times people thought it was amused me.

I know GB - good to see you around

Agree with AAA. Good to see you IB! I think I remember looking you up and it said you hadn't been logged in here in a few years?

 

[SpurrierisisGod]

49 here....but feel 59 according to some of these issues.

Starting my 30th year coaching soccer (while having a "real job") and have put on weight and grown a decent belly all while being as active as usual. Guess I need to do more.

Pain while putting on socks is awesome. Been planning on stretching more and getting back into my push up/plank routine but as soon as my brain thinks it, the next day something hurts. Crazy.

And eyesight. I was the last to get glasses in my family and it seems the last year or 2 it's really gone down.

And hemorrhoids... wtf.

 

[Terminalxylem]

It’s very easy for your social circles to diminish at this age, especially as your kids age out of sports and/or school activities. We had a big adjustment when our kids both went off to college since a majority of our prior social life was with other families involved in the kids activities.

I’ve found you need to be a little more proactive in keeping those personal connections, which can be harder if you’re an introvert. I’m still trying to figure this one out.

Oh my gosh I feel this so much. It’s especially disheartening when you feel like youre the one putting in all the effort to reach out. I get kind of tired of “thanks for reaching out, we really miss you guys!”. I’m skeptical.

Sorry, got off topic. But it felt good to share that. Harrumph.

Same. There’s a fine line between fostering a meaningful relationship, and badgering a friendship that’s run it’s course.

I’ve certainly jettisoned some friends with age, but think it’s really important to maintain the good ones.

 

[Terminalxylem]

At 57, I enjoy playing 9 holes of golf more than 18. Doesn't take my whole day and my back doesn't hurt the next day. Maybe if I was good enough to take less swings...

Knowing one's current condition and limits is key. You don't want to end up like one of the Mandelbaums on Seinfeld.

Yeah, it’s tough to know when to ease off the gas.

Also, be careful not to overexert yourself.

ETA @steelerfan1 beat me to it

 

[Mrs. Rannous]

And eyesight. I was the last to get glasses in my family and it seems the last year or 2 it's really gone down.

You might want to see an opthamologist at least once, just to make sure nothing abnormal is going on.

 

[Mookie Gizzy]

What a drag it is getting old.

 

[Hastur]

What a drag it is getting old.

"Youth is wasted on the young"
-George Bernard Shaw

 

[InDitkaWeTrust]

It’s very easy for your social circles to diminish at this age, especially as your kids age out of sports and/or school activities. We had a big adjustment when our kids both went off to college since a majority of our prior social life was with other families involved in the kids activities.

I’ve found you need to be a little more proactive in keeping those personal connections, which can be harder if you’re an introvert. I’m still trying to figure this one out.

Oh my gosh I feel this so much. It’s especially disheartening when you feel like youre the one putting in all the effort to reach out. I get kind of tired of “thanks for reaching out, we really miss you guys!”. I’m skeptical.

Sorry, got off topic. But it felt good to share that. Harrumph.

Same. There’s a fine line between fostering a meaningful relationship, and badgering a friendship that’s run it’s course.

I’ve certainly jettisoned some friends with age, but think it’s really important to maintain the good ones.

A lot of this just depends on where your friends are with their family/kids. I know when I was in my 30s (unmarried with no kids), I would get frustrated with my close friends who had young kids because they would completely ghost for months at a time. Now that I have kids myself, I understand and I hope that my 50's friends who's kids are out of the house remember that when I completely ghost for months at a time.

That said, the solid friendships based on booze, sarcasm, and shenanigans that are best left off tiktok can and should transcend all the responsibilities of family life.

 

[Idiot Boxer]

I have put on an extra 15 lbs in the gut and that is bothersome.

May be time for an avatar pic update - you were always too skinny in that one anyway.

Ha! Yeah. This was never me, though the number of times people thought it was amused me.

Thanks. Good to see you too.

No idea how long it was, but I definitely took many years off from here. Still not around much, but at least a little.

Someone has to correct Dan Lamb and tim when they're woefully wrong on lists.

 

[cosjobs]

Hah - I’m going the other way. Joined friends from the whites and am started to get used to it.

Sounds racist

 

[Andy Dufresne]

Hah - I’m going the other way. Joined friends from the whites and am started to get used to it.

Sounds racist

Like I said, didn't trust whitey.

 

[Gally]

Hah - I’m going the other way. Joined friends from the whites and am started to get used to it.

Sounds racist

I mean having watched the Judge Smails documentary Caddyshack many times it wouldn't surprise me if he was racist.

 

[Gatorade]

We can't enjoy a beer now and again? That sucks.

No, just a glass of wine with dinner. It will help you sleep.

 

[Gatorade]

Congratulations. You are now eligible for a Pneumonia and Shingles Vaccine.

and AARP membership.

In all seriousness, get the Shingles and Pneumonia vaccines as soon as you turn 50.

I have been putting these off. Don't know why. At 68, I guess I'm overdue. My wife finally had the pneumonia shot after having it the third time.

 

[Gatorade]

pickleball has been huge for me....check it out

Especially when everyone you play with is your age. Make sure you stretch before you play.

Even better than stretching, do yoga regularly. It keeps you limber to prevent injuries. Also, walking is great to stay in shape.

 

[Gatorade]

Colonoscopies result in the best nap you’ll ever have. Almost makes you want to do them frequently. Almost

I am not sure why people dread the colonoscopy itself. They put you for a nice nap. I have no recollection of anything happening. It was just a great nap. Now the day before wasn't great but it wasn't as bad as it was portrayed. I even did the gallon jug of stuff because the doctor said "it works better". 8 oz every 10 minutes. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. All in all the anticipation was much worse than the actual activity.

I've had three. Not bad at all. I actually watched the TV monitor of the procedure during the first one. Interesting ?