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Parents send invoice to kid who didn't show up to a birthday party (1 Viewer)
- Thread starter Righetti
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Mom of the birthday boy said her phone number was on the invite, dad confirmed Thursday night that his kid would be there. To me it's rude as hell to confirm Thursday night, have a phone number to call and just not show up...I think he should pay up and shut up. At certain places for kids parties you have to pay per kid and good luck getting anything back if there's a no-show. If the kids show up I have no problem paying for them, but to confirm 2 days before, have a number to call and decide not to show up, you're just an ####### then...
mr roboto
Footballguy
Provably because they paid for a group of ___ (kinda like a wedding). No shows are still paid for. Every parent has been left paying for a no show. This is tacky and petty. But the weirdest thing is that the delivery address on the invoice is the ski park. So maybe Queen Tacky isn't oaying for the no shows and she's getting #### from the ski hill.
mr roboto
Footballguy
What's fascinating to me is that once people have confirmed and you give the venue the number (say 25) and 2 don't show its not like you are paying MORE for them not showing. Sure it would have been nice if everyone who RSVPd would show but if they don't its THEM who misses the benefit (party). Doesn't affect you in the least.
fruity pebbles
Footballguy
Don't like the way they went about it but I think the parents should pay for the kid if it means that much to the other family. They confirmed, it cost the other family that money.
fruity pebbles
Footballguy
Also like the excuse for not going. Big meaningful day out with the grandparents that nobody remembered about until the night before.
Righetti
Footballguy
I always understate the amount of people to a party or event because you always count on people not showing up (sickness, car trouble, unforeseen event, inconsiderate parents)
I have never had a place not accommodate for an extra person if you under estimated and you have more people than expected
Get 15 RSVP's, tell them you have 13
I have never had a place not accommodate for an extra person if you under estimated and you have more people than expected
Get 15 RSVP's, tell them you have 13
mr roboto
Footballguy
To the grandparents or a kid with a ##### mother?
Cliff Clavin
Footballguy
Both sides look pretty terrible here.
Gawain
Footballguy
It'd be tacky if the other family actually took the cash, but I appreciate whenever inconsiderate behavior is called out.
bigbottom
Footballguy
There are several ways it could affect you. Kid is bummed because his friend didn't show. Kid is bummed because he could have invited someone else instead (lots of parents cap the number of kids that can be invited). Start of event is delayed because host is waiting for the missing kid, thinking that he's just running late. One less gift or birthday card. It could be that kids are paired off, and now one kid doesn't have a buddy.
I'm not saying that any of the above justify demanding reimbursement (I don't think they do), but there are definitely ways in which the host kid could be affected. If there was a number to call on the invite and the guest's dad confirmed on Thursday night, no showing without a call was completely rude. That said, they should just get over it.
Cjw_55106
Footballguy
McGarnicle
Footballguy
True, but the world is full of inconsiderate people. They should just let it go. This approach really just prolongs their own aggravation and makes them look like petty nutjobs.
doowain
Footballguy
Sure it does. As with any gathering for a celebration (wedding, birthday party, etc.), the convention is "I pay for you, you bring a gift". We don't like to look at it that way, but honestly, would you have seriously invited some of the people to your wedding, paid ~$50/head for them, if there wasn't an expectation that they'd be giving you a gift to help offset that cost a bit? I don't see how birthday parties should be viewed any differently.
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Apple Jack
Footballguy
They don't want the money, they want the dip#### parents who decided to just blow it off to know that wasn't really cool. Y'know, for the next time. I like it.
El Floppo
Footballguy
mr roboto
Footballguy
And if you can't explain to little Billy 'Sorry, Frankie couldn't make it buddy. I know but sometimes people have things to do with their families' then I don't know what to say. People cancel. People don't come to things that are important to other people.
Having said all that I think parents of boy who RSVP no-show should have proactively apologized and offered a gift.
Having said all that I think parents of boy who RSVP no-show should have proactively apologized and offered a gift.
Foosball God
Foos
I'm guessing parents are going to be lining up to have their kids go to that kid's birthday parties in the future.
doowain
Footballguy
mr roboto
Footballguy
I'm the one saying it's about the experience not the transaction and exchange of value. How am I the grinch here?
Boston
Footballguy
Two loser worlds colliding...sorry Alex and partner but I call BS that you could not track them down to let them know...if you lost the invite, did not know their name or know anyone else going to the party you still could have called the park...their excuse is that of a six year old...bottom-line is they were too lazy or thoughtless to do the right thing here...on the other-side these people are complete tools...you have got to be kidding me not only invoicing them but doing it in a gutless fashion thru the kids...there's some real adult behavior...they look ridiculously petty...this is a story where all involved come off as losers...
Apple Jack
Footballguy
Those who have had the same thing happen to them thanks to lazy, inconsiderate parents probably think it's funny and want to party with them. Or at least super deluxe high five.
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Foosball God
Foos
Boston
Footballguy
They should just do what everyone else does...talk bad about them to the other parents...
Nick Vermeil
Footballguy
My son and I have to no-show on two kid's birthdays this weekend to go to a funeral. Guess I better find those invites stat!
mr roboto
Footballguy
Send a gift or you're a dooooooosh.
fantasycurse42
Footballguy Jr.
Awesome... Obviously they won't collect the money, but calling the scumbags out is well worth the $15.95.
I had a friend (and guest) no show at my wedding. Haven't spoken a word since, and if I saw him that would be the first and only thing I said to him.
No showing without at least calling or emailing is as inconsiderate as you could be.
I had a friend (and guest) no show at my wedding. Haven't spoken a word since, and if I saw him that would be the first and only thing I said to him.
No showing without at least calling or emailing is as inconsiderate as you could be.
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Nick Vermeil
Footballguy
fantasycurse42
Footballguy Jr.
bigbottom
Footballguy
fantasycurse42
Footballguy Jr.
If you know you aren't going, why can't you just send a note or give them a call?
Nick Vermeil
Footballguy
So everyone thinks I should call ahead then?
El Floppo
Footballguy
fantasycurse42
Footballguy Jr.
Apple Jack
Footballguy
Nick Vermeil
Footballguy
Apple Jack
Footballguy
I'm in the middle of rewatching Deadwood. I highly recommend all who haven't seen it in a few years do the same.
Jaysus
Good times!
Zow
Footballguy
Thank you for demonstrating the adage that those of us who don't have kids just don't get it. When I read Mr. Roboto's post I thought it sounded reasonably and accurate. Then I read yours and realized all your points are totally valid and not a single one of them crept into my mind.
3C's
Footballguy
Like I said, Was this parent expecting attendees to pay their own way? If not, why expect one who couldn't make it pay?
If the attendees were not paying their own way how is "every parent left paying for a no show"? Seems only the host wold be paying for a no show (which she would have been paying if the kid shows up). And if none of the other parents paid for their kid why would a no show have to pay? If there was an expectation that everyone pays their own way then the no show should pay. Sure, it was ####ty of them not to call if they indeed had a means to do so but sounds like birthday mom is being a giant ### about it as well.
Todem
Footballguy
****ing morons.
Pure ****ing morons. Jesus what people do.
Even when kids RSVP for birthday parties..you always expect people not to show up. Happens all the time.
If you invite 25 kids...and 20 RSVP....expect 2-4 not to show up due to some last minute illness, or unexpected thing that comes up. Hell adult parties are worse.
Comes with the territory. If you can't hack it...don't throw a party.
My god.
Pure ****ing morons. Jesus what people do.
Even when kids RSVP for birthday parties..you always expect people not to show up. Happens all the time.
If you invite 25 kids...and 20 RSVP....expect 2-4 not to show up due to some last minute illness, or unexpected thing that comes up. Hell adult parties are worse.
Comes with the territory. If you can't hack it...don't throw a party.
My god.
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