By and large, people in this country defactively allow ethnicities control over the slurs that were used by the established to define them. There's an understanding that they're "not allowed" to use said slurs and in doing so, put themselves out there for criticism and (anecdotally) a butt whipping if said in the company of the ethnicity in question. For some reason, the rank and file of this country don't want to extend to the black community that same guardianship. You don't use ________ if you're not Italian. You don't use _________ if you're not Chinese. You don't use _________ if you're Polish, Irish, French, Vietnamese or Sudanese. It's that simple. Don't feel push the use of ________ if you're not African American.
The N-word was the last thing that many black Americans heard shouted at them in hate and rage and in a manifestation of pure evil as they were hanged or shot or drowned or had their throats cut. Sometimes this was done in front of their own children.
These black Americans were slaughtered for wanting to vote. For trying to find work to feed their families. For wanting to walk down a city street without fear. For trying to buy a home to chase the American Dream. For starting a business to form a lasting legacy to protect the people they loved.
For the crime of simply existing.
IIRC, something Ditkaless Wonders said years ago in the FFA, was that the limit of right versus wrong for him was if he could explain that action to his 8 year old daughter. That if he couldn't articulate the concept easily to a little girl, that the action in question was clearly wrong for him to do as a person, as a parent, as a citizen of a larger community and as an example for his child.
When my godson was 8 years old, I could not reasonably and rationally explain to him, at our kitchen table, why some people can use the N word and others cannot and should not, given the actual history of the word is linked with murder, suffering, oppression, terror, indignity, violence, racism and just plain pure hatred as a whole.
I refuse to sell out my own humanity to try to put context to the widespread battle cry used to rob human beings of their dignity.
It's a free country. It's your free speech. Some people don't like my personal politics, but no one can say I have ever tried to abridge anyone's free speech. If you can sit at your kitchen table and create context to hatred to your own 8 year old, then you clearly have a stronger stomach than I do. I hope I will never wake up one morning and find I have learned how to stomach something like that.
Real change in the world requires good men to become leaders for a greater good. Leaders to their communities, leaders in their workplaces, leaders to their families, but mostly leaders to themselves through being an example.
Be The Change You Want To See In The World.