So I somehow pissed off my MIL and wife... wtf?.. blah what now (1 Viewer)

[SWC]

did you try the fart suana thing yet bromigo

Thought about it, but last time I farted I still had the flu and #### myself a little so I've been gun shy.

i have never thought about a poopsmell suana but i bet that would be devastating nothing smells worse than laying down some brown downtown ifyou know what i am saying take that to the bank

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

Here's a pro tip: Don't go to your MIL's kitchen with the intent of conducting a covert operation with the sole purpose of proving your MIL wrong, and then be surprised when she wanders in and gets her feelings hurt.

Some of you guys are amazing.

People like you and the mongo mother in law are the reason why we have ear candling, "essential oils", magical baseball necklaces, and Zicam.

 

[RnR]

Here's a pro tip: Don't go to your MIL's kitchen with the intent of conducting a covert operation with the sole purpose of proving your MIL wrong, and then be surprised when she wanders in and gets her feelings hurt.

Some of you guys are amazing.

People like you and the mongo mother in law are the reason why we have ear candling, "essential oils", magical baseball necklaces, and Zicam.

... and people who behave like the OP are insufferable to be around. Life isn't about showing everyone how right you are. Show a little respect and conduct your experiment on your own time in your own kitchen you ungrateful savage. There are battles to fight and this one isn't it.

 

[Kanil]

Here's a pro tip: Don't go to your MIL's kitchen with the intent of conducting a covert operation with the sole purpose of proving your MIL wrong, and then be surprised when she wanders in and gets her feelings hurt.

Some of you guys are amazing.

People like you and the mongo mother in law are the reason why we have ear candling, "essential oils", magical baseball necklaces, and Zicam.

... and people who behave like the OP are insufferable to be around. Life isn't about showing everyone how right you are. Show a little respect and conduct your experiment on your own time in your own kitchen you ungrateful savage. There are battles to fight and this one isn't it.

People that get butthurt when they're wrong are the ones that are insufferable. If you can't take being wrong then follow the ####ing instructions and don't do whatever you want. JFC, people are so afraid to hurt someone else's feelings even if they're in the right. WTF.

 

[Harry Manback]

I want to make sure I have this one right... MIL got it wrong by .25oz and it's on

that about right?

Not really, no.

what did I miss... honestly.

MIL made what she thought was enough bottle.

OP comes home and sees baby crying, so thinks MIL didnt' give enough (seeing smaller bottle).

OP makes another bottle

MIL says she made enough, baby should be fine.

OP says yeah... but then measures just to make sure. catches MIL off by a massive 1/4 oz.

MIL's feeling are hurt which makes wife's feelings hurt.

OP couldn't just say- mmm... ok, baby still looks hungry- let's give it some more and leave it that.

He never intended on her seeing his experiment, and very likely was doing it to satisfy his own peace of mind (to prove to himself he was correct, not to her).

She happened to walk in, and then, rather than let this measuring fiasco stay between them, involved the rest of the family and then feigned "embarrassment", even though the only reason anyone else knew about it was because she made it a big deal with the tears and theatrics.

Here's a pro tip: Don't go to your MIL's kitchen with the intent of conducting a covert operation with the sole purpose of proving your MIL wrong, and then be surprised when she wanders in and gets her feelings hurt.

Some of you guys are amazing.

I fail to see how this is relevant. We are talking about intent, not outcome.

 

[El Floppo]

I want to make sure I have this one right... MIL got it wrong by .25oz and it's on

that about right?

Not really, no.

what did I miss... honestly.

MIL made what she thought was enough bottle.

OP comes home and sees baby crying, so thinks MIL didnt' give enough (seeing smaller bottle).

OP makes another bottle

MIL says she made enough, baby should be fine.

OP says yeah... but then measures just to make sure. catches MIL off by a massive 1/4 oz.

MIL's feeling are hurt which makes wife's feelings hurt.

OP couldn't just say- mmm... ok, baby still looks hungry- let's give it some more and leave it that.

He never intended on her seeing his experiment, and very likely was doing it to satisfy his own peace of mind (to prove to himself he was correct, not to her).

She happened to walk in, and then, rather than let this measuring fiasco stay between them, involved the rest of the family and then feigned "embarrassment", even though the only reason anyone else knew about it was because she made it a big deal with the tears and theatrics.

Here's a pro tip: Don't go to your MIL's kitchen with the intent of conducting a covert operation with the sole purpose of proving your MIL wrong, and then be surprised when she wanders in and gets her feelings hurt.

Some of you guys are amazing.

I fail to see how this is relevant. We are talking about intent, not outcome.

so going out of your way to try to prove your MIL wrong in her own house over 1/4oz of formula... no intent there?

 

[El Floppo]

Here's a pro tip: Don't go to your MIL's kitchen with the intent of conducting a covert operation with the sole purpose of proving your MIL wrong, and then be surprised when she wanders in and gets her feelings hurt.

Some of you guys are amazing.

People like you and the mongo mother in law are the reason why we have ear candling, "essential oils", magical baseball necklaces, and Zicam.

... and people who behave like the OP are insufferable to be around. Life isn't about showing everyone how right you are. Show a little respect and conduct your experiment on your own time in your own kitchen you ungrateful savage. There are battles to fight and this one isn't it.

People that get butthurt when they're wrong are the ones that are insufferable. If you can't take being wrong then follow the ####ing instructions and don't do whatever you want. JFC, people are so afraid to hurt someone else's feelings even if they're in the right. WTF.

for clarity, is the MIL or the OP the one getting butthurt in your scenario.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

Here's a pro tip: Don't go to your MIL's kitchen with the intent of conducting a covert operation with the sole purpose of proving your MIL wrong, and then be surprised when she wanders in and gets her feelings hurt.

Some of you guys are amazing.

People like you and the mongo mother in law are the reason why we have ear candling, "essential oils", magical baseball necklaces, and Zicam.

... and people who behave like the OP are insufferable to be around. Life isn't about showing everyone how right you are. Show a little respect and conduct your experiment on your own time in your own kitchen you ungrateful savage. There are battles to fight and this one isn't it.

HOW DARE YOU FILL A BOTTLE WITH WATER IN MY KITCHEN!

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

Bottom line:

If you get all butthurt over people proving you wrong...don't do wrong ####.

 

[RnR]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

 

[RnR]

You're a smart guy, OPM, but I get the sense that people skills rank pretty low on your list of strengths.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

You're a smart guy, OPM, but I get the sense that people skills rank pretty low on your list of strengths.

Yeah, my people skills are really lacking. Thanks, Dr. Phil.

 

[msommer]

Here's a pro tip: Don't go to your MIL's kitchen with the intent of conducting a covert operation with the sole purpose of proving your MIL wrong, and then be surprised when she wanders in and gets her feelings hurt.

Some of you guys are amazing.

People like you and the mongo mother in law are the reason why we have ear candling, "essential oils", magical baseball necklaces, and Zicam.

... and people who behave like the OP are insufferable to be around. Life isn't about showing everyone how right you are. Show a little respect and conduct your experiment on your own time in your own kitchen you ungrateful savage. There are battles to fight and this one isn't it.

People that get butthurt when they're wrong are the ones that are insufferable. If you can't take being wrong then follow the ####ing instructions and don't do whatever you want. JFC, people are so afraid to hurt someone else's feelings even if they're in the right. WTF.

And you are all right.

Don't be a doosh to your MIL about being right

MIL should not be butthurt either

We are cursed with ear candling, romcoms, jane austen and zicam. Forever.

Choose battles to fight, this wasn't one of them

 

[msommer]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

The OP's actions were no better than MIL's reaction. Why not just say, 'he seems hungry - I'll see if he wants a bit more...'

 

[RnR]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

We have a fundamental disagreement on who the lunatic is here. My perspective is that the lunatic is the guy that is so hellbent on showing that he is right that he's willing to overturn the apple cart of emotions of his MIL to prove it. The time and place that he chose to become a scientist in the kitchen comes off as passive aggressive, petty, and definitely shows a lack of trust for his MIL. She was wrong. We all know that. She's also a woman who loves her grandchildren, and she's bound to become emotional when her doosh SIL decides to "make a point" about 2 oz of formula after she's kept his brats for the weekend out of the goodness of her heart. Cripes.

 

[glumpy]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

The OP's actions were no better than MIL's reaction. Why not just say, 'he seems hungry - I'll see if he wants a bit more...'

Bingo. there is no 'winning' for the op here vs MIL. It's about making the kid happy, and when you bring the additional formula it wouldn't hurt to act surprised at just how much he wants today.

 

[Gr00vus]

Officer Pete putting on an awesome display of fisherman skills here.

 

[Spin]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

The OP's actions were no better than MIL's reaction. Why not just say, 'he seems hungry - I'll see if he wants a bit more...'

This is exactly what I did. Did some of you even read the OP? I got the bottle for him. Then awhile later I went into the kitchen alone to see if I was right. I was pretty sure there was no way in hell that small of a bottle could hold 6 oz.

 

[Spin]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

We have a fundamental disagreement on who the lunatic is here. My perspective is that the lunatic is the guy that is so hellbent on showing that he is right that he's willing to overturn the apple cart of emotions of his MIL to prove it. The time and place that he chose to become a scientist in the kitchen comes off as passive aggressive, petty, and definitely shows a lack of trust for his MIL. She was wrong. We all know that. She's also a woman who loves her grandchildren, and she's bound to become emotional when her doosh SIL decides to "make a point" about 2 oz of formula after she's kept his brats for the weekend out of the goodness of her heart. Cripes.

You know me so well.

 

[msommer]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

The OP's actions were no better than MIL's reaction. Why not just say, 'he seems hungry - I'll see if he wants a bit more...'

This is exactly what I did. Did some of you even read the OP? I got the bottle for him. Then awhile later I went into the kitchen alone to see if I was right. I was pretty sure there was no way in hell that small of a bottle could hold 6 oz.

I must have imagined the bit where you confronted your MIL with your scientific research...

 

[sdp1226]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

We have a fundamental disagreement on who the lunatic is here. My perspective is that the lunatic is the guy that is so hellbent on showing that he is right that he's willing to overturn the apple cart of emotions of his MIL to prove it. The time and place that he chose to become a scientist in the kitchen comes off as passive aggressive, petty, and definitely shows a lack of trust for his MIL. She was wrong. We all know that. She's also a woman who loves her grandchildren, and she's bound to become emotional when her doosh SIL decides to "make a point" about 2 oz of formula after she's kept his brats for the weekend out of the goodness of her heart. Cripes.

You know me so well.

I'd be willing to bet that your wife knows you better than you know yourself.

2 minutes later my wife walks in. "That was incredibly rude of you to try to prove my mom wrong and make her look bad infront of everybody. You don't always have to prove everybody wrong"

 

[Spin]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

The OP's actions were no better than MIL's reaction. Why not just say, 'he seems hungry - I'll see if he wants a bit more...'

This is exactly what I did. Did some of you even read the OP? I got the bottle for him. Then awhile later I went into the kitchen alone to see if I was right. I was pretty sure there was no way in hell that small of a bottle could hold 6 oz.

I must have imagined the bit where you confronted your MIL with your scientific research...

she walked in on me >< It wasn't my intention to "shove it in her face" I didn't even say anything. She just saw me pouring the 6oz of water into the 4oz bottle and it overflowing.

 

[El Floppo]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

The OP's actions were no better than MIL's reaction. Why not just say, 'he seems hungry - I'll see if he wants a bit more...'

This is exactly what I did. Did some of you even read the OP? I got the bottle for him. Then awhile later I went into the kitchen alone to see if I was right. I was pretty sure there was no way in hell that small of a bottle could hold 6 oz.

I must have imagined the bit where you confronted your MIL with your scientific research...

she walked in on me >< It wasn't my intention to "shove it in her face" I didn't even say anything. She just saw me pouring the 6oz of water into the 4oz bottle and it overflowing.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

she walked in on me >< It wasn't my intention to "shove it in her face" I didn't even say anything. She just saw me pouring the 6oz of water into the 4oz bottle and it overflowing.

And MIL cries like a 3 year old.

And wife proves she's her mother's daughter.

/thread

 

[gianmarco]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

The OP's actions were no better than MIL's reaction. Why not just say, 'he seems hungry - I'll see if he wants a bit more...'

This is exactly what I did. Did some of you even read the OP? I got the bottle for him. Then awhile later I went into the kitchen alone to see if I was right. I was pretty sure there was no way in hell that small of a bottle could hold 6 oz.

I must have imagined the bit where you confronted your MIL with your scientific research...

she walked in on me >< It wasn't my intention to "shove it in her face" I didn't even say anything. She just saw me pouring the 6oz of water into the 4oz bottle and it overflowing.

The mental picture of this is awesome.

 

[Harry Manback]

I want to make sure I have this one right... MIL got it wrong by .25oz and it's on

that about right?

Not really, no.

what did I miss... honestly.

MIL made what she thought was enough bottle.

OP comes home and sees baby crying, so thinks MIL didnt' give enough (seeing smaller bottle).

OP makes another bottle

MIL says she made enough, baby should be fine.

OP says yeah... but then measures just to make sure. catches MIL off by a massive 1/4 oz.

MIL's feeling are hurt which makes wife's feelings hurt.

OP couldn't just say- mmm... ok, baby still looks hungry- let's give it some more and leave it that.

He never intended on her seeing his experiment, and very likely was doing it to satisfy his own peace of mind (to prove to himself he was correct, not to her).

She happened to walk in, and then, rather than let this measuring fiasco stay between them, involved the rest of the family and then feigned "embarrassment", even though the only reason anyone else knew about it was because she made it a big deal with the tears and theatrics.

Here's a pro tip: Don't go to your MIL's kitchen with the intent of conducting a covert operation with the sole purpose of proving your MIL wrong, and then be surprised when she wanders in and gets her feelings hurt.

Some of you guys are amazing.

I fail to see how this is relevant. We are talking about intent, not outcome.

so going out of your way to try to prove your MIL wrong in her own house over 1/4oz of formula... no intent there?

Seemed to me he didn't intend to confront her about it. Just wanted to know for his own peace of mind.

You seem to know better than I though.

 

[Harry Manback]

Moral of the story is you should've done it in the bathroom.

 

[sbonomo]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

The OP's actions were no better than MIL's reaction. Why not just say, 'he seems hungry - I'll see if he wants a bit more...'

This is exactly what I did. Did some of you even read the OP? I got the bottle for him. Then awhile later I went into the kitchen alone to see if I was right. I was pretty sure there was no way in hell that small of a bottle could hold 6 oz.

I must have imagined the bit where you confronted your MIL with your scientific research...

she walked in on me >< It wasn't my intention to "shove it in her face" I didn't even say anything. She just saw me pouring the 6oz of water into the 4oz bottle and it overflowing.

You didn't do anything wrong. You also handled your wife well in the aftermath. There is definately no need to overthink this.

 

[El Floppo]

I want to make sure I have this one right... MIL got it wrong by .25oz and it's on

that about right?

Not really, no.

what did I miss... honestly.

MIL made what she thought was enough bottle.

OP comes home and sees baby crying, so thinks MIL didnt' give enough (seeing smaller bottle).

OP makes another bottle

MIL says she made enough, baby should be fine.

OP says yeah... but then measures just to make sure. catches MIL off by a massive 1/4 oz.

MIL's feeling are hurt which makes wife's feelings hurt.

OP couldn't just say- mmm... ok, baby still looks hungry- let's give it some more and leave it that.

He never intended on her seeing his experiment, and very likely was doing it to satisfy his own peace of mind (to prove to himself he was correct, not to her).

She happened to walk in, and then, rather than let this measuring fiasco stay between them, involved the rest of the family and then feigned "embarrassment", even though the only reason anyone else knew about it was because she made it a big deal with the tears and theatrics.

Here's a pro tip: Don't go to your MIL's kitchen with the intent of conducting a covert operation with the sole purpose of proving your MIL wrong, and then be surprised when she wanders in and gets her feelings hurt.

Some of you guys are amazing.

I fail to see how this is relevant. We are talking about intent, not outcome.

so going out of your way to try to prove your MIL wrong in her own house over 1/4oz of formula... no intent there?

Seemed to me he didn't intend to confront her about it. Just wanted to know for his own peace of mind.

You seem to know better than I though.

I'm not saying he intended to confront her or intended for her to walk in... but damn- you gotta be kinda whacko passive-aggressive to pull that there and not take those possible outcomes into consideration. and ultimately, that's the bottom line for me. of course MIL's reaction was over the top- but she's not posting here, the OP is... so it's his actions that I'm responding to. and without his actions, MIL stays the non-crazy course.

 

[comfortably numb]

I see taking other's feelings into consideration before taking action isn't high on your priority list. That's fine. The OP just shouldn't be surprised when this #### happens and then try to act like he's not at least partially to blame for the outcome. None of this happens if he has any sort of social awareness.

The reaction from the MIL was not normal. It was infantile and selfish. The OP's actions did not deserve such a moronic reaction. Are we all supposed to tiptoe around lunatics like this?

The OP's actions were no better than MIL's reaction. Why not just say, 'he seems hungry - I'll see if he wants a bit more...'

Because that's a total beta move.

 

[Captain Quinoa]

Should have whipped the bottle at her head. "SHOW ME WHERE THERE'S A 6 ON THIS BOTTLE. SHOW ME!!"

 

[Spin]

Should have whipped the bottle at her head. "SHOW ME WHERE THERE'S A 6 ON THIS BOTTLE. SHOW ME!!"

Only after calling all her family into the living room to witness the public shaming.

 

[El Floppo]

Should have whipped the bottle at her head. "SHOW ME WHERE THERE'S A 6 ON THIS BOTTLE. SHOW ME!!"

Only after calling all her family into the living room to witness the public shaming.

 

[Sand]

10 yrs ago, being somewhat newly married and with my first new kid, I would have set up an elaborate scientific experiment and invited everyone, including the neighbors, to come and join so they could witness how egregious the measuring was.

Today, and knowing a little bit more than I did 10 yrs ago, I'd have been ordering dinner delivery for everyone so we could all have some peace. And the next time I brought the kids over, I'd bring over some 8 oz bottles and ask to just use those since you're trying to transition if I really cared that much about 3/4 oz (which I don't).

Yah, we just threw out the 4 oz bottles. Problem solved.

Talked to wife about it last night. Said I was just wanting to make sure our son wasn't going to get constipation from having too thick of formula. And wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy about not being able to fit 6 oz into a 4 oz bottle. Didn't intend on her walking in on me while looking at it, and meant no ill will towards her mom, etc etc. She said she'll talk to her mom today about it and explain and make sure everything is smoothed over.

Gotta be a first child.

 

[SWC]

you should have signed up for a local cable access show and measured the bottles there so the whole world saw it bromigo

 

[Bucky86]

Have you slept with the MIL yet?