What do early teen girls do? The boys are absolutely set with gaming. They get competition, social interaction, all while enjoying the comfort of their own home where parents provide all the snacks necessary! He does Muay Thai few days a week, but kids these days don't play outside like we use to. When I was young we had to go outside to socialize and compete. it's 100 degrees currently in my area outside, so I can't say I blame the kids, but hey aren't outside ever.
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snellman
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Teen Girls are a lot harder, I can't even imagine what it would be like with a teen daughter now. My daughters are 30 and 29 , so they were teens at the beginning of the smart phone era (none of my older kids were allowed smart phones as long as we were playing for the plan, funny how things change
). I will say, when my youngest was the same age as your child, I would get very frustrated because he wasn't going out side, wasn't going out to find friends, going swimming or doing the things we did. Once he got into high school he was gone a lot more though. He is still home more than when I was his age, (Home was the last place I wanted to be when I was going into my senior year) especially in the Summer, but when band camp starts in 2 weeks, we will see a lot less of him until he graduates.
El Floppo
Footballguy
Floppinha just turned 14.
She hangs with her friends after school or meets them around town on weekends or summer.
They text, snapchat and facetime from home. No video games. She did roblox? with a couples boys in 5th or 6th grade...but that stopped.
Otherwise theres after school stuff...theater, tennis, etc to socialize.
Ilov80s
Footballguy
It's been about 1.5 months since I posted here. Late July was looking good compared to the spring where we had talks of suicide, trips to the ER and a short stay at a mental health facility. Things are going very well with her new boyfriend. He treats her super well and his family loves her. They take her camping, to Cedar Point, the zoo, etc. and always make sure she's eating. She's at her highest weight in 3 years. She is happy, taking her meds everyday and doing 2 different forms of therapy. She hates the one where she sits and talks but the other is horse therapy which she loves. School is going well. She will be able to graduate early if she wants to. She's still smoking weed probably near everyday but we are at over a month since she had an incident with alcohol. She is finally starting to talk about a job because her boyfriend is working a lot and saving money so she feels she needs to. They have dreams of eventually getting a place together. I wish she would make her life a little bigger than just this boy and his family but she's happy and this is the best she's been doing in probably 18 months. If they break up or he does something ****ty, it's going to get ugly but for a kid who has very little in their life to build a future upon, what else can you do but build your future around the people in your life right now?
Ilov80s
Footballguy
But nobody prepared me for what it's like to have a kid grow up. I had a hyper condensed father experience. 18 months where I was her hero, could no wrong and she just wanted to be like me, with me, etc. Then a few months where we fought like crazy and now a spot where we mostly get a long but she has only her own stuff going on. We had a whole father-daughter lifetime in 3 years. I think it helped her a lot but hit me hard. This sounds so dumb for people who had their own kids but **** it does leave a big hole losing your little girl. It is good she is growing up and out with her bf and friends. It is 100% what shoud happen but the loss for me is real.
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ChiefD
Footballguy
Yeah, its a real thing. There are three great takeaways from this:
1. No matter what happens from here on out, you helped her. She is better today than when you met her. And that is a direct result of you giving a damn. Not everyone can do that.
2. You are a dad now. Think about that. It’s cool and scary and rewarding and terrifying and joyful and pure fear. Welcome to parenthood. And by the way, that will never go away. And that is a good thing.
3. She will never, ever forget you.
Please keep us posted. Love that you have done this for her.
FarFromHome
Footballguy
They always talk about the joy of parenting, but they never talk about how much you worry as a parent. My youngest, an old teenager at 19, drove two hours with a friend to Nashville for a concert tonight. I try to convince myself she loves dads random texts of "hold your mace in your hand if it starts to feel weird" or just a "be aware of surroundings" reminder. Nothing scares me more then my beautiful teenage daughter and her beautiful teenage friend out in the big city outside my protection. Smh
Ilov80s
Footballguy
Thanks I appreciate that. We fight or whatever but it always comes back to how much we love each other. That is what it's all about for me. Or at least what I try for. And yeah, when I think about her BF and how he isn't the choice I would make, I think of how she was basiccally wanting to die when I met her and think who cares what she is, as long as she is something she loves.
Mrs. Rannous
Footballguy
That's really pretty- poetic even. I like it very much.
Chadstroma
Footballguy
@Ilov80s
Good to hear she is doing well. A bit scary that it seems that is may center around this boy and that can go south very easily but hopefully the stability gets her making progress with all the crap and then if/when they break up or something, she will be in a good spot to handle it without having her world crash down. You have done a great job to influence her life and be that father for her. She has a chance now in life that she really would not have had without you. Praying for her to continue to heal and grow and have some great things ahead of her.
Good to hear she is doing well. A bit scary that it seems that is may center around this boy and that can go south very easily but hopefully the stability gets her making progress with all the crap and then if/when they break up or something, she will be in a good spot to handle it without having her world crash down. You have done a great job to influence her life and be that father for her. She has a chance now in life that she really would not have had without you. Praying for her to continue to heal and grow and have some great things ahead of her.
Chadstroma
Footballguy
My oldest started HS. She has not been a problematic kid at all. She does not get in trouble, she is maybe an above average student (could be more but is some what lazy and trys to just get by for the most part), is playing vball all at her new school which was a big jump that I was really anxious for her about- going from a small Catholic private school to a large public HS. Right when she started, I took her to dinner and we had a long conversation... where I went over a ton of things with her trying to prep her for the change, enjoying HS and getting the most out of it as it will fly by and it will be gone but also making good decisions, always talk to either Mom or me and if she gets in trouble I don't want her to think "Dad is going to kill me" but rather "I need to call my Dad" and things like dating etc.
So far, she has really just blossomed. Before she wasn't exactly a wallflower but wasn't too far from it either. She has opened up a lot more and her personality has come out more and more publicly. One of her closest friends Moms even said something to me the other day about her that she use to barely talk to her and now... I cut her off and said "we can't shut her up". She originally was on the A team for freshman vball but then was demoted to B team but it seems to be a good thing overall. She was moved to DS on A and them back to her 'normal' position as outside and plays much more now than before. Watching her play vball, she is enjoying herself and her teammates more than any time I have ever seen her on her previous school or club teams.
AND..... a boy. She was the first girl asked to HOCO out of her friends. She asked her mother to be with her when she told me because she was scared to tell me. They are a thing and bf/gf I guess. He is a kid that we actually had connections to for a while. His family is friends with one of our closest friends and they actually went trick or treating together like 6 years ago or so. Also, his mother is actually one of the nurses for my wife for her infusion treatments. From all that we know- he is a good kid. He is very supportive of her and has been at all her home vball games and joined their Catholic HS youth group with her. She got three dresses and then modeled them for me for my approval. Seeing other girls HOCO dresses... I don't know how these fathers agree to such short dresses. Hers certainly above the knees but not a half an inch from her crotch that seems to be the style now from other pics I have seen.
My older son has really stabilized after that stretch of terror about a year ago. None of the crazy stuff that had me looking up the definition of sociopath. Much more of the run of the mill things and minor getting in trouble at school or missing homework which is pretty close to par for course for boys. Football season is finishing up which means we are about to get back to swim (which has already started but conflicts with football) and then basketball starts in about a month. He listens to me for the most part now and enjoys challenging me as he continues to grow and add strength. He still has a ways to go before he can really challenge me but it isn't too far down the road where he will eclipse me.
Then my younger son who has a few years before the teenage years as he is in 4th now.
Right now is a good point where there is a lack of drama from the kids which I am all for.
So far, she has really just blossomed. Before she wasn't exactly a wallflower but wasn't too far from it either. She has opened up a lot more and her personality has come out more and more publicly. One of her closest friends Moms even said something to me the other day about her that she use to barely talk to her and now... I cut her off and said "we can't shut her up". She originally was on the A team for freshman vball but then was demoted to B team but it seems to be a good thing overall. She was moved to DS on A and them back to her 'normal' position as outside and plays much more now than before. Watching her play vball, she is enjoying herself and her teammates more than any time I have ever seen her on her previous school or club teams.
AND..... a boy. She was the first girl asked to HOCO out of her friends. She asked her mother to be with her when she told me because she was scared to tell me. They are a thing and bf/gf I guess. He is a kid that we actually had connections to for a while. His family is friends with one of our closest friends and they actually went trick or treating together like 6 years ago or so. Also, his mother is actually one of the nurses for my wife for her infusion treatments. From all that we know- he is a good kid. He is very supportive of her and has been at all her home vball games and joined their Catholic HS youth group with her. She got three dresses and then modeled them for me for my approval. Seeing other girls HOCO dresses... I don't know how these fathers agree to such short dresses. Hers certainly above the knees but not a half an inch from her crotch that seems to be the style now from other pics I have seen.
My older son has really stabilized after that stretch of terror about a year ago. None of the crazy stuff that had me looking up the definition of sociopath. Much more of the run of the mill things and minor getting in trouble at school or missing homework which is pretty close to par for course for boys. Football season is finishing up which means we are about to get back to swim (which has already started but conflicts with football) and then basketball starts in about a month. He listens to me for the most part now and enjoys challenging me as he continues to grow and add strength. He still has a ways to go before he can really challenge me but it isn't too far down the road where he will eclipse me.
Then my younger son who has a few years before the teenage years as he is in 4th now.
Right now is a good point where there is a lack of drama from the kids which I am all for.
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