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My in-laws retired in Mexico 25 years ago (in their early 50s), largely on the promise of an inheritance that was already in a trust that they've since received. They now hold that over us at times as it's just part of his mindset, but I just honestly don't consider it in my planning at all. I have plugged it in a few times just to see what a difference it might make (we're likely talking low-mid six figures so not insignificant but not like winning the lottery or anything), but it's not in my actual plan. And they could very well spend most of it down, there is no guarantee there will be anything left if they live long enough.
My parents have saved well, have some pensions that have kept their withdrawal rates in check, and equity in two homes. Like many retirees their account balances continue to go up despite being in RMDs for several years now. So it's likely there will be something left over, but again I'm not counting on it. I also have an essentially disabled sister that they're already helping, they'll sometimes bring that up with me concerned I'll consider that "unfair", but I just encourage them to help her even more if she needs it. And I always tell them when they bring the inheritance topic up that I truly hope they spend their last dollar on their last day. The only thing I'm really hoping to get is the little one bedroom, one bath cabin at the Oregon coast that just has special meaning to me having spent my summers there growing up. But if they need to sell it at some point, and I'm not in a position to buy it, so be it!
The topic takes me back to the Die with Zero book. For those that do want to leave a legacy for their kids, how impactful will it really be to give them whatever you have left when you pass, when they'll (hopefully for your sake) be in their 50s-60s-70s? If you truly want to make a difference in their lives, give it to them when it will be most impactful - college tuition, funding a Roth in their early career, down payment assistance, 529s for their kids, building memories with big family vacations, that kind of thing.
My parents have saved well, have some pensions that have kept their withdrawal rates in check, and equity in two homes. Like many retirees their account balances continue to go up despite being in RMDs for several years now. So it's likely there will be something left over, but again I'm not counting on it. I also have an essentially disabled sister that they're already helping, they'll sometimes bring that up with me concerned I'll consider that "unfair", but I just encourage them to help her even more if she needs it. And I always tell them when they bring the inheritance topic up that I truly hope they spend their last dollar on their last day. The only thing I'm really hoping to get is the little one bedroom, one bath cabin at the Oregon coast that just has special meaning to me having spent my summers there growing up. But if they need to sell it at some point, and I'm not in a position to buy it, so be it!
The topic takes me back to the Die with Zero book. For those that do want to leave a legacy for their kids, how impactful will it really be to give them whatever you have left when you pass, when they'll (hopefully for your sake) be in their 50s-60s-70s? If you truly want to make a difference in their lives, give it to them when it will be most impactful - college tuition, funding a Roth in their early career, down payment assistance, 529s for their kids, building memories with big family vacations, that kind of thing.