For most people, its generally harder to be a jerk to someone you know. So be it someone that needs a helping hand or someone that lives differently or is different, proximity changes perspectives.
In rural areas, with more separation of space and distance from big groups of disparate people, its easier to get disconnected from empathy.
Its as simple as the old George Carlin bit about tragedies needing proximity to be driven home. You hear.... 5000 killed..... in ... malaysia, it probably doesn't have the same impact as a single murder in YOUR small town.
You think it's easier to feel empathy for the 3 million neighbors you have than the rural church (for example) you'd attend?I'm betting that people who live in rural areas know more people on a first (AND last) name basis than those in a metro area.
You seem to think that people who don't live in cities are all shut-ins
I agree with Andy here. It's New Yorkers who are your typical jerks that lack southern hospitality. People in small towns all know each other and are helpful to one another. People in big cities are pretty much anonymous most of the time, not likely to encounter the same person twice on the subway or wherever.
I think you guys are talking about two different things. You're talking about people you are friendly with, ST is talking about people you interact with, like it or not. A rural resident may be more friendly towards strangers and casual acquaintances, but you're also less likely to come across situations that trigger empathy simply because you don't come across as many people on a day to day basis.
For example- a guy was murdered around the corner from my home two weeks ago. I don't know the guy and nor do most of my neighbors (he was supposedly dropped off to visit his girlfriend). But our neighborhood felt so awful about it that we started a fundraiser to cover the cost of his funeral and make a large donation in his honor after reading an article about his family struggling with the burial costs. I have no doubt that a rural community would likely respond the same way in the same situation. But those situations don't happen very often. There are fewer people, fewer homes, fewer businesses, so fewer events that trigger empathy.
Sort of related example- the recent blizzard triggered a huge outpouring of community support. Everyone went to help their neighbors shovel, to dig out cars, to clear the porch/stairs/sidewalks of the elderly residents on our block, etc. Again, I'm 100% sure that a rural community would do the same ... but those people don't all live near each other, so the opportunity doesn't present itself as often. When you walk out to shovel after a snowstorm you don't see 5 other people within 100 feet of your front door doing the same thing.
Tobias is pretty close the crux of what I spoke about but to expand...
Almost everyone, everywhere, supports Social Security and medicare. Even if people want to adjust, I haven't heard anyone campaign for the outright abolition. In my opinion, this is because we all:
1. know old people
2. aspire to be old people
Its easy to connect and relate with it as a program. Also its well entrenched. But I don't think thats exclusively a liberal or conservative conceit these days.
Proximity has lent perspective.
There are rural communities and there are rural communities. In New Jersey, we have Hunterdon County and 100 miles away in PA we have Forrest County. Hunterdon has a median household income of 105,000 per year, Forest has a per capita income of 23,000 per year. They are separated by 300 miles or so but both voted predominantly Republican.
Both, are Republican, fair to say conservative based on my limited time in both counties, but both couldn't be more different FROM EACH OTHER. But inside of each county, based on the income level, there is commonality. It might be a separation of driving trucks from the 90's versus Range Rovers and Cayene's. But inside of the county, there is a relatability to your neighbors but conservatism is not created equal. In Hunterdon, at those income levels, conservatism, logic might dictate, is rooted in protecting and preserving wealth, life is good in Hunterdon, what is my interest in helping those who won't help themselves? In Forest County, the conservatism is perhaps rooted in a mix of faith, which seems more strident when you have less in the manner of material goods, and in an attempt to preserve opportunity occupationally and financially.
There is a commonality of lifestyle based on income, there is a protected interest in a small group in not rocking the boat and there is the concept of people being held at arms length. When you don't see the people that need or would benefit from your help, its easier to
Separation is not just space but it encourages a wall to be built. The relatability of the senior citizens and social security is less ever present.
But ask the same people about unemployment or disability insurance in Forest, or if Corporate tax breaks make sense in Hunterdon county, because of the respective relability, and maybe just our own boundless ability to rationalize, these are seen more viable.
I know that this divide isn't strictly dollars and sense, there are lifestyle elements as well, but that falls under an umbrella of diversity. I can see the same trend toward conservatism in every close knit, and frankly isolated culture, be it arabs in Detroit, Orthdox Jews in New York, Menonites in Ohio or Cuban enclaves in Hudson County, NJ.
I want to stress, I don't hate conservatives and I don't identify strictly liberal and there are virtues and vice in being too much of any one perspective IMO. Too much of this is a structure of me vs. you.
I don't see anything wrong with being conservative or inherently right about being liberal. I, like most, feel like I sit in the middle I think. My experiences have taken me many places however. Fundamentally we all want to live our life and provide for our family in the manner which we best understand how so I don't like to see an adversarial construct to this.
But if I do lean liberal, its because I see examples as outlined above when those in conservative environments are exposed to or given true insight to liberal things they might support, their first instinct is not to retreat to an idealogy but adjust to encompass new information in a manner that coincides with their world view.