Wife hired help for a party we are throwing (1 Viewer)

[comfortably numb]

You should hire her just to go say good bye to all your guests.

 

[Van Dyman]

Don't worry about the flaunting perception. I'd turn it into a joke when people asked. Just say she got into a car accident with your wife and a judge ruled the nanny had to be your butler for a week.

 

 

[Van Dyman]

Nobody is going to think you're pretentious or flaunting money for hiring someone to help out with a party of 25-30 people. Your nanny-hiring friends on the other hand...maybe.

 

[Snickers]

Nobody is going to think you're pretentious or flaunting money for hiring someone to help out with a party of 25-30 people. Your nanny-hiring friends on the other hand...maybe.

They have twin baby boys, one with special needs. Pretty sure most people will give them a pass.

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

Arizona Ron II: Electric Bugaloo

 

[Snickers]

Arizona Ron II: Electric Bugaloo

If I thought this Nanny would be as good as Angie there would be no debate.

While I did just get a vasectomy, I'm no AZ Ron. I don't have herpies, not even the good kind.

 

[Godsbrother]

Will you be providing a uniform for this cute young spinner to wear?  If so, please elaborate.

 

[sbonomo]

Seen it before. Rarely turns out well.

Now the burden of being hosts will be replaced by the burden of being an employer. 

Your wife will be looking over her shoulder every 2-3 minutes making sure this person is doing what she’s supposed to instead of paying attention to the guests.

hahaha - this is exactly what i came to post.  A friend of mine had a party similar to the OP.  They decided to hire a gal i know to "help" with everything.  His wife ended up micro managing her to the point that she left halfway through the party (i don't blame her).  Given that it is all friends i would not want to hire help.  Just my $.02  

 

[NutterButter]

hahaha - this is exactly what i came to post.  A friend of mine had a party similar to the OP.  They decided to hire a gal i know to "help" with everything.  His wife ended up micro managing her to the point that she left halfway through the party (i don't blame her).  Given that it is all friends i would not want to hire help.  Just my $.02  

someone needs to feed that wife a couple of adult beverages. 

 

[Limp Ditka]

someone needs to feed that wife a couple of adult beverages. 

For some, it only fuels it.

DISCLAIMER: CHET, JUST BECAUSE I'VE WITNESSED IT DOES NOT MEAN I'M TALKING ABOUT MY WIFE!

 

[NutterButter]

For some, it only fuels it.

DISCLAIMER: CHET, JUST BECAUSE I'VE WITNESSED IT DOES NOT MEAN I'M TALKING ABOUT MY WIFE!

Maybe some ganja instead

 

[Keith R]

I wish every party I went to had a drunk nanny serving drinks. 

Ok, now I need date, time and location of this party

 

[Courtjester]

The only downside to this is if she really sucks at it ie: shows up drunk, spills drinks on people or ends up going off in the other room to hook up. Then not only are firing your hostess--you lose a nanny too. 

 

[sbonomo]

someone needs to feed that wife a couple of adult beverages. 

She is worse when she gets drunk!

 

[Van Dyman]

  of the nanny

 

[Kanil]

Have you considered serving Kraft Macaroni & Cheese?

Kraft Cheese and Macaroni... it's the cheesiest!  Get it right!!!!

 

[Kanil]

Also, I'm on your wife's side.  I don't see it as pretentious and it should allow you to enjoy the party more.

 

[Brunell4MVP]

So you are complaining because you'll have to do less serving and cleaning?  because you'll feel pretentious?  because the nanny is cute?  because you'll have to pay $200?

Wait, there's nothing to complain about and you are complaining.  Sounds like you wife has some smarts.

 

[Snickers]

  of the nanny

I will do my best to snap a few photos on Saturday night but no promises. She is pretty cute though, funny story about her is that she goes to the same college that both my wife and I attended. It was a big party school when I went there but turned into a dry campus when my wife went a few years later. My wife was talking to the Nanny about the partying dynamics of when the two of us went there and asked her if it was still a dry campus. The Nanny looks at her deadpan and says "Everyone refers to it now as a moist campus"

 

[JaxBill]

Maybe your wife's thinking is "If I hire a bartender, maybe he won't get so plastered".

 

[Snickers]

Maybe your wife's thinking is "If I hire a bartender, maybe he won't get so plastered".

She knows I'm going to get plastered

 

[chet]

I will do my best to snap a few photos on Saturday night but no promises. She is pretty cute though, funny story about her is that she goes to the same college that both my wife and I attended. It was a big party school when I went there but turned into a dry campus when my wife went a few years later. My wife was talking to the Nanny about the partying dynamics of when the two of us went there and asked her if it was still a dry campus. The Nanny looks at her deadpan and says "Everyone refers to it now as a moist campus"

 

 

[Koya]

1. Your wife asked for this.  It's in your interest to do it.

2.  It's actually a great idea, WILL let you two spend a little more time as "front of the house hosts" and not servers and getters.

3. Who the #### cares if #2 is right (although it is), see point #1.

 

[Koya]

Ok, this thread has me concinced that I was wrong about hiring this girl.

HIRE TWO.

YWIA

 

[jon_mx]

Stare at the girl's butt as you tell your wife she was absolutely right about hiring this chick.  

 

[fantasycurse42]

Have you considered nailing the nanny while the party is going on downstairs? 

If not, you should consider.

 

[The Big Guy]

My wife did this for a birthday party for me, freeing me up from the grill and shopping for the party. I thought it was a huge waste of money before the party and loved it after the party.

Not having to work the grill all day, not having to shop for all the stuff, not having to clean and pack away all the leftovers was so worth every penny spent on the helper. 

I am pretty sure that none of our guests thought that we were pretentious for having a helper at the party. Would strongly recommend doing this.

 

[Van Dyman]

I will do my best to snap a few photos on Saturday night but no promises. She is pretty cute though, funny story about her is that she goes to the same college that both my wife and I attended. It was a big party school when I went there but turned into a dry campus when my wife went a few years later. My wife was talking to the Nanny about the partying dynamics of when the two of us went there and asked her if it was still a dry campus. The Nanny looks at her deadpan and says "Everyone refers to it now as a moist campus"

brown chicken brown cow

 

[Statorama]

I'm in a current dispute with my wife over a party we are having this weekend. We have roughly 25-30 people coming, mostly couples. The party is at night, we are not serving a dinner but will that various appetizers but nothing too heavy. My wife hired the nanny of our friends to work the party, help serve people drinks and clean up. I've told her that I think it is totally unnecessary and somewhat pretentious. She thinks it would just take the burden off of us as hosts and we can just enjoy ourselves for the evening instead of making sure everyone else is having a good time. Typically I'm the one that makes sure everyone has what they need to drink and almost always I pull myself out of whatever drunken stupor I'm in at the end of the night and do all the cleaning so we wake up to a clean house in the morning. I'm going to make a big thing in sangria, we will have lots of craft beer and tons of wine. I suspect no more than a few folks will opt for the various mixed drink options we will have available. I would think after getting everyone their initial drink that most folks will be self-sufficient. We have a room in the house with a bar and it will be a pretty easy set up. Normally, I would have to make a bunch of trips to our garage fridge to replenish the beers for the bar, open up new bottles of wine and make a few drinks. 

We are not fighting about it, just agreeing to disagree right now which pretty much means my wife will get her way. She thinks I've brought it up too late and thinks it is rude to cancel on our friend's nanny so late (party is this Saturday). Granted, the nanny is a cute little college spinner but it still seems like something we don't need. 

If this is your way of rubbing it in that I wasn't invited, well done.

 

[Statorama]

My wife did this for a birthday party for me, freeing me up from the grill and shopping for the party. I thought it was a huge waste of money before the party and loved it after the party.

Not having to work the grill all day, not having to shop for all the stuff, not having to clean and pack away all the leftovers was so worth every penny spent on the helper.

I am pretty sure that none of our guests thought that we were pretentious for having a helper at the party. Would strongly recommend doing this.

(from the "Cool Story Bro" files) I have a guy mow my grass every other week, and I'm never going back to doing it myself

 

[need2know]

Yeah you got to hire more than one and have uniforms for sure.  

Can size would also be helpful for future analysis and discussion

 

[Snickers]

Yeah you got to hire more than one and have uniforms for sure.  

Can size would also be helpful for future analysis and discussion

Her cans are small but she looks to be a size 2, has a semi-crunchy, hot sweet look but her eyes tells me she has dirty intentions.

 

[Politician Spock]

When you need food or drink during the party...

summon the nanny like this

 

[dal_boys_phan]

Your two possible downsides are:

(1) Wife angry that she now has to do everything 

(2) Friends thinking who are these folks with hired help

Since I presume you are planning to keep married to the person in (1), I'd keep her happy and sign off enthusiastically about the idea, even if I knew I would get (2).  Chances are 75% of people there won't care.

BTW, we did this for a big gathering a few years back and now continue pulling that lever each time we have a sizable party.  No brainer now in my opinion.

 

[squidrope]

Me too, but i didnt provide food and drinks.

Here ya go.  Have everyone kick in 5 bucks to give to the "help". You get to save face and also save money.  Maybe you can enjoy the night with that weight off your back.

You have to be joking? We're FBG's

 

[shadrap]

How much is the nanny going to cost you?    With the amount of money you're going to drop on booze, I can't see why another hundo is going to matter and no one is going to thinking any less of you b/c you have a single person helping you out with the party.   Easy call.

also there will be whispers about you banging the nanny.  really no down side except for the hundo.

thanx for the thread.  I needed this.

 

[mr roboto]

LOOK AT ME MY WIFE HIRES HOT YOUNG WOMEN TO SERVE ME DRINKS IN MY OWN HOME!!!!!

####### whiner. 

 

[Christo]

We've done this a bunch of times for big parties; for the bigger ones even had a local place come in and cater out of our kitchen, and a local bartender sets up out back and serves drinks.  Makes it so much nicer for us to not have to deal with all that, and just focus on the guests and party.  

As I grow older, I'm becoming a huge fan of staffing up.  Relieves the stress on everyone if you can do it.  I pay a landscaper to handle all that stuff.  My wife stays home, but we started getting help in a few days a week.  Someone to help with the cooking, cleaning, keeping an eye on the kids so my wife gets a break here and there. We also pay a crew of cleaners to come in once every two weeks for a top fo bottom house cleaning.  She ends up in a better mood and, and in turn I get to be in a better mood.

Yeah, my question is if you're going to pay for help why not pay someone who does it professionally?

 

[Christo]

It has nothing to do with the cost. I guess I'm just self conscious about folks perceiving me as flaunting my money by hiring someone to help with the party.

Flaunting your money? 

 

[OrtonToOlsen]

Wait, is this one of those "key parties" I've read about?

How I roll at a key party http://www.gettyimages.com/detail/183958951?esource=SEO_GIS_CDN_Redirect

 

[Snickers]

Yeah you got to hire more than one and have uniforms for sure.  

Wife brought up last night that we really need two people to help out once we started going over the blind wine tasting contest we are having during the party. Pretty sure this is her way of making me think I win in a small way when we settle on just one.

 

[Wildcat]

No offense, but it’s reasons like this why the divorce rate is so high.  People argue over the dumbest stuff.  Why can’t you just appreciate that she wanted you both to enjoy the party?  Sounds like you have an awesome wife.  Don’t get caught up in arguing about things that don’t matter.  Pick your battles.  

 

[Snickers]

No offense, but it’s reasons like this why the divorce rate is so high.  People argue over the dumbest stuff.  Why can’t you just appreciate that she wanted you both to enjoy the party?  Sounds like you have an awesome wife.  Don’t get caught up in arguing about things that don’t matter.  Pick your battles.  

Read my original post, I state clearly we are not arguing over it but simply agreeing to disagree. I posted about it on here to get other perspectives and came around and agreed with my wife on having the nanny work the party. I think it speaks to the health of our marriage how this all played out.

 

[RUSF18]

her eyes tells me she has dirty intentions.

Good thing she's there to clean. 

 

[Judge Smails]

This is a classic Dentist vs Chet thread..

 

[NFL2DF]

In all seriousness, I love the idea.  I have done this before.  Nothing wrong with a helping hand to serve some drinks, food and tidy up. 

Your wife sounds like the smart one and you must be the TV husband that has no idea what is going on and sits at burger king with a crown on his head.

/thread

and pics of the nanny

 

[RokNRole]

Her cans are small but she looks to be a size 2, has a semi-crunchy, hot sweet look but her eyes tells me she has dirty intentions.

I hope you've procured a good lawyer for the inevitable divorce. 

 

[pollardsvision]

In. 

Hiring help for a party is just foreign to me. Never thought about it before. We've hosted plenty of parties before and my wife and I have always shared the duties. Our friends and family are pretty self sufficient in being able to get their own drinks, serve their own food, and throw away their own trash.

For the OP, if the wife wants it, just hire the damn nanny and have a good time.

Personally, I probably fall in this category. The parties that my friends and family throw tend to be group efforts. Preparing/serving the food together tends to be more of what the whole thing is about. Most everybody I hang out with is a "what can I do?" type of person. They'd rather be a part of putting it all together than hanging out being served. And most certainly don't leave until it's cleaned up, even if you try to make them.

I suspect it's a socioeconomic thing.  Most everybody I hang out with is working class. Maybe business owners or not, but folks that work with their hands and tend to do things on their own. No matter how much money they have now, they've likely been "the help" at some point in their lives and still have that mentality. I hire out stuff I don't feel like/can't do all the time, but for a party, yes that would be odd to me. A party for me is going to mean a house full of people wanting to help out.

I assume Chet would put this mentality into the "lame host" category, but there's an entire world of folks that do parties this way and have a wonderful time. I'd guess around 98% of us.

 

[Snickers]

I hope you've procured a good lawyer for the inevitable divorce. 

Not sure why I would get divorced because the nanny servant has eyes that indicate she likes to get her freak on. Yeah, I did find myself the other day wondering what color her underpants might be. Her panties. Odds are they are probably basic white, cotton underpants. But I sorta think, well maybe they're silk panties, maybe it's a thong. Maybe it's something cool I don't even know about.

 

[Kanil]

I assume Chet would put this mentality into the "lame host" category, but there's an entire world of folks that do parties this way and have a wonderful time. I'd guess around 98% of us.

I feel like you missed a solid opportunity for a 1%er joke.