I don't want to sound snarky, but a big part of the issue you are having is your church plans. Before you get riled up, let me tell you that it used to be an issue for me too, until I figured out how to deal with it. The closest church of my religion to my house is 1/2 hour drive, and they only have 1 service, 9:30 AM. Sometimes the service, etc. takes up to 2 hours, so I was rarely home before Noon, and distracted during the whole service, which wasn't very cool. Getting an XM Satellite Radio helped - I could get the most current info on the ride in, and ride back. Getting a laptop with a wireless LAN card allowed me to make decisions on the move...but it wasn't enough, especially once I started playing a TON of National High-Stakes Leagues. Drove me nuts, because I felt like I was letting something material get between me and my relationship with God, which I started feeling uncomfortable about...
Well, there's a Catholic Church right up the road from my house, and they sure do have plenty of services! Monday - Saturday, 6:30AM & 9AM, add an evening service on Saturday 5:30PM, and on Sunday @ 7, 8, 9:30, 11, 12:30...and from what I understand, that's fairly typical for them. For all the issues they might have, the Catholics are pretty savvy about getting folks through the Church doors, no matter how busy or preoccupied their lives are. With that many services, you can't have an excuse!
Personally, I think it's a safe bet that as long as you're taking time out of your busy life to have some 'alone time' with Him, where you're able to focus on what you're supposed to focus on while you're there, God could pretty much care less where and when you go to church, and I don't think He'd have a problem if you have a 'regular schedule' and a 'football season schedule' for church attendance. IMO, you're still prioritizing things properly, and doing a fine job of multi-tasking in the process!
Your wife, on the other hand...well, when it comes to these things, God might just be a little more tolerant.
In any case, personally, I think it's more about 'faith' than 'religion', so my outlook works for me, and I'm pretty sure if it didn't work for The Man Upstairs, he'd find a way to let me know. Just offering you a reasonable solution. I've been doing it this way for years. So far, so good.
over, and good luck!