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Wooing my neighbor: I came. I hugged. I wooed. Now moving on. (1 Viewer)

The saddest part is NRJ is too much of a nice guy to tell us when he finally does tap it.  There is no way this thread ends well.  

 
Jesus, that text exchange was painful

Checking out now, reading about grown men 'chubbing up' reading another man's texts about hugging is enough for me

Good luck Nate

 
El Floppo said:
wait a sec... I read through that twice, but I have no idea whether it was raining or not. :confused:  

big :thumbup:  CJ... all signals' go- I'm happy for you.
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82 Degrees, Barometric pressure of 29.64, Winds moving SSW @ 15 MPH, Partly Cloudy, Humidity at 78%, Dew Point at 75 degrees --- wait, you didn't get all that?

 
jonessed said:
He played it right.  He has played it right the whole time (except for the awful matching hat and t-shirt).  Things move slower with kids involved and that's the way it should be.
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I'm divorced with young kids and know all about taking things slowly for their benefit, so I know where both you and the Colonel are coming from (and agree with you).  Still, things can be taken too slowly.  If he goes too slow, the whole "he's my next-door neighbor; maybe the guy I met at the supermarket is the safer play" thought that's always in her mind to some degree gains more traction.

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
not when she essentially said that very thing herself :shrug:  
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They are almost programmed to say that.

Again, not saying it has to lead right to the bedroom - that will come eventually. 

I've been liking the slow play up until this. I think she wanted a man to kiss her that first time, and definitely wanted that the second time. I don't care what the texts afterwards say, she was almost certainly disappointed it didn't happen after a second late-night meetup. I think you took a step back. It's not unrecoverable, but you're being too tentative now. 

 
jwb said:
Nathan R. Jessep said:
not when she essentially said that very thing herself :shrug:  
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They are almost programmed to say that.

Again, not saying it has to lead right to the bedroom - that will come eventually. 

I've been liking the slow play up until this. I think she wanted a man to kiss her that first time, and definitely wanted that the second time. I don't care what the texts afterwards say, she was almost certainly disappointed it didn't happen after a second late-night meetup. I think you took a step back. It's not unrecoverable, but you're being too tentative now. 
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pretty sure this all leading to an upside down spiderman style kiss in the rain... but these things take time. and weather forecasts.

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
chet, you're not new here.  I will not divulge any personal details about her. 
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Do you mean no details which someone could potentially use to find her IRL?  I can't imagine posting some details about the nature of her divorce (which I assume you were referring to) could ever lead anyone to her IRL.  I'm not trying to be a #### and I am sure I am not alone here, but the more details the better.  Right?

 
Reflecting on how it's all transpired thus far, how available and agreeable she's been for you, the flirting, and this last statement on her part that you need to initiate the next time, I think you really need to escalate things.  She might be apprehensive about the whole prospect, but she's made it known that it's an option she's considering.  You either need to walk the horse to water, or just be content being her friend.  There's an underlying, "I wish this guy would take the reigns" vibe going on here which might be cute at first, but eventually lead to frustration and the impression of weakness.  If you want this, go for it...sooner rather than later.  Quit #####-footing around at this point.  

 
At the Purse forum FFA...

Mona Lisa Vito:  The second hug was so filled with passion! 

Wikkid Tee-tee: Did you feel a lump in his pants?

Joan_MX:  You initiated the hug?  He sounds too passive!

Gian-Marcia! Marcia! Marcia!:  You need to back off.  You're going to come off as too easy!

SWC-section:  He's asking you to dinner next, probably at Applebee's or Chick-Fil-A, you can take that to the store, sister.

La Floppa:  This is boring.  I am going back to the Coach thread.

 
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dhockster said:
It's not what she said, but how she said it. She definitely wanted more than a hug on the 2nd trip outside, she just settled for a hug because that all that you offered. 
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I'm sorry, fellas, but there is NO WAY you know that just from reading text. Sure, sounds logical, but I also was able to read her body language as well on the 2nd time. She stayed in close. Not pulling back for the kiss range. It may have been a while, but I haven't forgotten everything.  

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
She says it's kind of a delicate situation, being as she lives right next door and she didn't want to make things awkward. I agreed and said there was no awkwardness from my point of view, with which she agreed. --so

basically she's on the same page I am, I feel. Just proceeding with extreme caution, which I am fine with. I'm being cautious as well. There's a lot at stake here for all involved.  
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Dude, it will officially be awkward no matter what (unless you date), and then the aftermath if it doesn't work will be awkward. 

The only way the situation won't be awkward is if you date forever or one of you moves. 

 
I disagree with those who are saying she is giving hints for NRJ to be more assertive and take control.  She's not looking to make anything move too fast.

On a personal note, as someone who has been married for almost 15 years, and was in an 8 year relationship prior to that, the chase is a huge part of the fun that will not present itself again.  Don't rush through this stage.  She's being coy, but we all know where this is leading.  No need to rush there.

But, I do feel this trhead is like one of those movies on late at night in the old days on basic cable (not pay channels).  The plot isn't the best, but it is good enough to keep you watching until the details start to get good.  You know that its basic cable, so you're not going to see full frontal or anything, but you hold out hope none the less.

 
Man....I watch my teenage daughter tap on that stupid phone for hours.  I hope she's not sending crap like that to her gay friends.

 
worrierking said:
At the Purse forum FFA...

Mona Lisa Vito:  The second hug was so filled with passion! 

Wikkid Tee-tee: Did you feel a lump in his pants?

Joan_MX:  You initiated the hug?  He sounds too passive!

Gian-Marcia! Marcia! Marcia!:  You need to back off.  You're going to come off as too easy!

SWC-section:  He's asking you to dinner next, probably at Applebee's or Chick-Fil-A, you can take that to the store, sister.

La Floppa:  This is boring.  I am going back to the Couch thread.
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I just knew my wife was up to something.

 
Wait, in this case was a hug > a kiss?

Is the whole 'judgement thing' and 'hug thing' her holding back her passionate desires which cannot held back much longer?

 
Bull Dozier said:
I disagree with those who are saying she is giving hints for NRJ to be more assertive and take control.  She's not looking to make anything move too fast.

On a personal note, as someone who has been married for almost 15 years, and was in an 8 year relationship prior to that, the chase is a huge part of the fun that will not present itself again.  Don't rush through this stage.  She's being coy, but we all know where this is leading.  No need to rush there.

But, I do feel this trhead is like one of those movies on late at night in the old days on basic cable (not pay channels).  The plot isn't the best, but it is good enough to keep you watching until the details start to get good.  You know that its basic cable, so you're not going to see full frontal or anything, but you hold out hope none the less.
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Its more like the horror movie when they split up and one goes into the basement and the other goes into the crypt. 

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
I'm sorry, fellas, but there is NO WAY you know that just from reading text. Sure, sounds logical, but I also was able to read her body language as well on the 2nd time. She stayed in close. Not pulling back for the kiss range. It may have been a while, but I haven't forgotten everything.  
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Yeah, but it feels like we were there. We know

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
I'm sorry, fellas, but there is NO WAY you know that just from reading text. Sure, sounds logical, but I also was able to read her body language as well on the 2nd time. She stayed in close. Not pulling back for the kiss range. It may have been a while, but I haven't forgotten everything.  
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I think she was waiting for you to "pull back into kiss range".  Anyway, no harm, no foul.

Leave the sequential hugs at two, though.

 
Could there ever be a more perfect opportunity for a first kiss then last night on the deck? That was the moment. When you do finally kiss it's going to be awkward because you've passed the right time. It's going to be a "get it out of the way" first kiss. You know she wants one because she came to your deck after the kids were in bed looking for physical contact. She said "hug" in the text because she doesn't want to come across as being fast or promiscuous. She's practically begging you to take charge and plant one on her.  Just do it!

 
Nathan R. Jessep said:
I'm sorry, fellas, but there is NO WAY you know that just from reading text. Sure, sounds logical, but I also was able to read her body language as well on the 2nd time. She stayed in close. Not pulling back for the kiss range. It may have been a while, but I haven't forgotten everything.  
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you've done everything right.  Just keep on keeping on.    i did this with my wife as well because, if you really really like this gal and see a future, what's the hurry?>    first time my wife and i had sex she initiated it.  

i can tell from all that you've posted so far that in the right situation like, tonight for example, this girl would rape you because of all the sexual tension that has built up between you.  Give her a reason to tear your clothes off and she would.    

you're like a cat toying with a mouse before he eats it.    you'll be fine.   Just continue to be yourself and let it all come to you.

 
Seriously, just give one of us your phone and we'll handle the texting.  You just go outside when we tell you to and do as directed.  That's an order, Colonel.  At ease.

 
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Willie Neslon said:
Could there ever be a more perfect opportunity for a first kiss then last night on the deck? That was the moment. When you do finally kiss it's going to be awkward because you've passed the right time. It's going to be a "get it out of the way" first kiss. You know she wants one because she came to your deck after the kids were in bed looking for physical contact. She said "hug" in the text because she doesn't want to come across as being fast or promiscuous. She's practically begging you to take charge and plant one on her.  Just do it!
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I can guarantee you she won't be thinking it's awkward when it happens. I am also confident in that. 

 
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