tommyboy
Footballguy
Kick her out of the house, cancel all joint checking/credit cards/accts and file for divorce
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Worst thing my wife has ever said to me (1 Viewer)
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Ask her if she is spending all the money on new clothes because she is obviously getting bigger.
Ilov80s
Footballguy
Pretty much this or try to win her back by improving the relationship and rectifying the mistakes you have made in the past, becoming more what she wants you to be. I don't see a middle ground.
Chemical X
Footballguy
Also, it would help if he could post his roster.tri-man 47 said:
Hot Diggity Dog
Footballguy
I would steal all the TP every time she tryin to go to the bathroom
bostonfred
Footballguy
How long has she been reading this forum?
Billy Bats
Footballguy
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AhrnCityPahnder
Yinz-o-riffic
BustedKnuckles
Footballguy
shopping is pretty important ...especially shoe shopping...id just back off man...it aint worth dying over
CurlyNight
Footballguy
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Patrick Bateman
Footballguy
Gonna try counseling. If I'm being honest, I feel like I'm doing it for the kids. Mistake.
trogg78
Footballguy
Some women beg for it. The relationship needs to be strong to start. Takes a lot of trust.
Don't stay with her for the kids sake. You have to be willing to trust her again once things settle down and work things out with a counselor
CurlyNight
Footballguy
Yep. My cousin and his wife tried it after she said I don't love you anymore. The kids were young. It just prolonged the inevitable and was painful for my cousin, also more costly with therapy fees as well as the divorce as we believe she tried to get to the 10 year mark here in CA so she could get half. Her I don't love you and haven't since a year after the marriage. She couldn't make it that far as she said it again in 2007 and in 2008 papers were filed after 8 years. She still got a nice deal since he makes a nice 6 digit salary and child support.
He is now very happily married with a woman who does love him who has a young daughter herself. Good luck but I really think your gut is correct here.
MC Gas Money
Footballguy
Yeah dude. If you guys split it will be rough on the kids but in the long run it will be healthier for them to have divorved parents who are both happier rather than staying together and being miserable.
I dont understand why things are so bad for marriages and couples these days that nobody can stay together. Its really unfortunate that you hardly see any married couples that stay in love until the very end like it used to be.
MC Gas Money
Footballguy
That is so messed up man. I cant believe someone would be in love enough to get married and then just stop loving that person after only a year and then rob the poor guy of the next 7 years of his life that he could have spent someone who truly loved him.
Did anything serious happen within that year or was it just completely out of the blue she turned in to a cold ##### and stopped loving the guy for no reason?
trogg78
Footballguy
CurlyNight
Footballguy
Out of the blue is what my cousin said. Remained cool until the end. He got her out of being a waitress and into a legal secretary who made good money (cousin is a well established family attorney). She is a really nice and caring person, even to this day, which is why this was surprising. Well it turns out she has some mental illness and wasn't taking her meds regularily. I guess she has that under control now and has moved on to another relationship. In the end it was the best thing as they are both much happier now. But man when she told him she doesn't love him, I've never seen such hurt. Was truly left field even though they like all couples had their ups and downs. You just don't say that and really not mean it at some level.
Judge Smails
Footballguy
Wouldn't want a counselor have to try to reason with my wife to come to the understanding that she does in fact love me.
MC Gas Money
Footballguy
MC Gas Money
Footballguy
Papa Georgio
Footballguy
Well unless you really think she means it the "I hope you die in your sleep" is just angry venting. However the fact that she said she doesn't love you and was willing to say all of it where a child could hear is very disconcerting. It sounds like something shes been holding in and finally just came out with it. As always between the funny and not so funny replies there is some good advice but only you know what's best for your situation.
I never get the "don't stay together for the kids" crowd. If you're not subjecting them to arguing and fighting there are worse things. Imagine you divorce and she brings some man you can not stand into your kids life...did you make the kids life better, or yours? Anyway not trying to hi-jack just wanted to make a point that sometimes staying with someone for the kids works.
I never get the "don't stay together for the kids" crowd. If you're not subjecting them to arguing and fighting there are worse things. Imagine you divorce and she brings some man you can not stand into your kids life...did you make the kids life better, or yours? Anyway not trying to hi-jack just wanted to make a point that sometimes staying with someone for the kids works.
trogg78
Footballguy
Considering you're a failure at just about everything. I'm not surprised everybody you know has failed at marriage.
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snogger
Footballguy
Bucking the trend here .. Just hit our 23rd Anniversary in June and going VERY strong..
Ned
Footballguy
I'll add "So I've been thinking...."
IvanKaramazov
Footballguy
Bucking the trend here .. Just hit our 23rd Anniversary in June and going VERY strong..
People start threads about marital problems, not about how nice and steady their marriages are. If you go by this board, it's going to seem like everybody is divorced or headed toward divorce, but that's only because of what people choose to post about. (Likewise, I'm sure most people get along just fine with their neighbors -- we only hear about the ones who poop on their lawn).
snogger
Footballguy
Bucking the trend here .. Just hit our 23rd Anniversary in June and going VERY strong..
People start threads about marital problems, not about how nice and steady their marriages are. If you go by this board, it's going to seem like everybody is divorced or headed toward divorce, but that's only because of what people choose to post about. (Likewise, I'm sure most people get along just fine with their neighbors -- we only hear about the ones who poop on their lawn).
Judge Smails
Footballguy
Nice! 28 years in October with Mrs. Smails. Wouldn't change a thing. Even her loofah.Bucking the trend here .. Just hit our 23rd Anniversary in June and going VERY strong..
tri-man 47
Footballguy
My son sent this to both my wife and I for our 31st anniversary yesterday:
[SIZE=medium]"Congratulations!! You successfully tolerated each other for another full year of marriage
In all seriousness though, I hope you get to have a nice, relaxing anniversary today/tonight. I love you both so much, and I hope that you realize how much your love and support for both each other and for me has helped guide me to the point that I am at in my life (about to get married myself... AHHH!!!)." [emphasis added][/SIZE][SIZE=medium]Trust me, these have not been easy years of marriage. She's not affectionate; bossy; glass-half empty. She doesn't really enjoy the role of wife or, through years past, mom (two grown kids now). But we don't fight about things and enough of a spark has remained to keep it manageable. The bolded above trumps the downside. The kids know things aren't always rosy, but they have learned about the commitment of the relationship ...and that has helped to guide them and will influence them in their own relationships. And it's the details: A couple years ago, my son had an emergency situation with a detached retina. I'm so glad that in the middle of that he didn't have to think about whether to call mom or dad to help get it addressed. He just called us. [/SIZE]
glumpy
breeze
Congrats on 31 years tri-man. I just read and reread your post and want to post a like on it but want to think about that a bit.
Awesome letter from your son and that's the point really--that type of appreciation is what I think makes everything worthwhile. Relationships are tough and demand compromise. When they work well enough to maintain there's little that's better, especially for the kids. Sometimes they don't, and that too can work well so long as both parents maintain respect for each other and prioritize their relationship with their kids. In either case, it's all about the kids, and it seems that you have left yours with a real good sense of himself.
Awesome letter from your son and that's the point really--that type of appreciation is what I think makes everything worthwhile. Relationships are tough and demand compromise. When they work well enough to maintain there's little that's better, especially for the kids. Sometimes they don't, and that too can work well so long as both parents maintain respect for each other and prioritize their relationship with their kids. In either case, it's all about the kids, and it seems that you have left yours with a real good sense of himself.
Zow
Footballguy
Roses are red,
Violets are blue.
Stop posting in this thread,
Because it's not about you.
rail
Footballguy
This. And given the fact that you think this is a mistake = why bother? Save yourself, the kids, and her a lot of prolonged agony.
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