Your baby is not invited (1 Viewer)

[TobiasFunke]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

 

[NCCommish]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

I was always the one who ended watching the kids when my kid having friends would get together. Kids like me and they listen to me. I enjoyed keeping up with the little monsters as long as everyone takes theirs when they go.

 

[Timmay]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Just give the kid a bag of funions and a big gulp, they will be set for the weekend.

 

[NCCommish]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

It really doesn't matter if they are going to sit around and drink 0 calorie lemonade while making doilies for the church festival. It is a kid free event.

 

[NCCommish]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Just give the kid a bag of funions and a big gulp, they will be set for the weekend.

Good point

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

 

[McGarnicle]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Just give the kid a bag of funions and a big gulp, they will be set for the weekend.

Or one of those 1000-piece jigsaw puzzles. Can you imagine how long it would take an 18-month-old to complete one of those?

 

[TobiasFunke]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

It really doesn't matter if they are going to sit around and drink 0 calorie lemonade while making doilies for the church festival. It is a kid free event.

In my experience there's such thing as a kid free annual trip that stays kid free forever ... or at least not a coed one. Eventually single friends get married, and eventually married friends have kids. First people start bringing SOs, then they start bringing kids.

No idea if it's time for this group to adjust or not. Kinda sounds like this one guy with the kid should let them have a last year or two kid-free before they make the change. But generally speaking, this change is inevitable. Just gotta figure out when to give in to it.

 

[RC94]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

I was always the one who ended watching the kids when my kid having friends would get together. Kids like me and they listen to me. I enjoyed keeping up with the little monsters as long as everyone takes theirs when they go.

You could also just plunk them down in front of the TV. That's how I was raised and I turned out TV.

 

[NCCommish]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

I was always the one who ended watching the kids when my kid having friends would get together. Kids like me and they listen to me. I enjoyed keeping up with the little monsters as long as everyone takes theirs when they go.

You could also just plunk them down in front of the TV. That's how I was raised and I turned out TV.

You could do that, I spent a lot of time doing that as a kid. But I don't have a problem keeping them in play and active.

 

[Homer J Simpson]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

I was always the one who ended watching the kids when my kid having friends would get together. Kids like me and they listen to me. I enjoyed keeping up with the little monsters as long as everyone takes theirs when they go.

You could also just plunk them down in front of the TV. That's how I was raised and I turned out TV.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

I was always the one who ended watching the kids when my kid having friends would get together. Kids like me and they listen to me. I enjoyed keeping up with the little monsters as long as everyone takes theirs when they go.

You could also just plunk them down in front of the TV. That's how I was raised and I turned out TV.

 

[NCCommish]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

It really doesn't matter if they are going to sit around and drink 0 calorie lemonade while making doilies for the church festival. It is a kid free event.

In my experience there's such thing as a kid free annual trip that stays kid free forever ... or at least not a coed one. Eventually single friends get married, and eventually married friends have kids. First people start bringing SOs, then they start bringing kids.

No idea if it's time for this group to adjust or not. Kinda sounds like this one guy with the kid should let them have a last year or two kid-free before they make the change. But generally speaking, this change is inevitable. Just gotta figure out when to give in to it.

Yeah but one guy doesn't get to make that call. It doesn't seem like anyone else is ready to move on. So he needs to suck it up and either stay home with the kid or get the nanny.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

SHOCKING

 

[TobiasFunke]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

It really doesn't matter if they are going to sit around and drink 0 calorie lemonade while making doilies for the church festival. It is a kid free event.

In my experience there's such thing as a kid free annual trip that stays kid free forever ... or at least not a coed one. Eventually single friends get married, and eventually married friends have kids. First people start bringing SOs, then they start bringing kids.

No idea if it's time for this group to adjust or not. Kinda sounds like this one guy with the kid should let them have a last year or two kid-free before they make the change. But generally speaking, this change is inevitable. Just gotta figure out when to give in to it.

Yeah but one guy doesn't get to make that call. It doesn't seem like anyone else is ready to move on. So he needs to suck it up and either stay home with the kid or get the nanny.

Yup. Nothing wrong with him bringing it up ... insisting on it is a different matter, however.

 

[NCCommish]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

It really doesn't matter if they are going to sit around and drink 0 calorie lemonade while making doilies for the church festival. It is a kid free event.

In my experience there's such thing as a kid free annual trip that stays kid free forever ... or at least not a coed one. Eventually single friends get married, and eventually married friends have kids. First people start bringing SOs, then they start bringing kids.

No idea if it's time for this group to adjust or not. Kinda sounds like this one guy with the kid should let them have a last year or two kid-free before they make the change. But generally speaking, this change is inevitable. Just gotta figure out when to give in to it.

Yeah but one guy doesn't get to make that call. It doesn't seem like anyone else is ready to move on. So he needs to suck it up and either stay home with the kid or get the nanny.

Yup. Nothing wrong with him bringing it up ... insisting on it is a different matter, however.

yep

 

[bostonfred]

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Now imagine they were little boys

 

[pollardsvision]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

It really doesn't matter if they are going to sit around and drink 0 calorie lemonade while making doilies for the church festival. It is a kid free event.

In my experience there's such thing as a kid free annual trip that stays kid free forever ... or at least not a coed one. Eventually single friends get married, and eventually married friends have kids. First people start bringing SOs, then they start bringing kids.

No idea if it's time for this group to adjust or not. Kinda sounds like this one guy with the kid should let them have a last year or two kid-free before they make the change. But generally speaking, this change is inevitable. Just gotta figure out when to give in to it.

Yeah but one guy doesn't get to make that call. It doesn't seem like anyone else is ready to move on. So he needs to suck it up and either stay home with the kid or get the nanny.

Yup. Nothing wrong with him bringing it up ... insisting on it is a different matter, however.

Yeah, barring the coke and orgy scenario, this isn't a situation I'm looking to screw up a friendship over.

It's a buddy and he's bringing the kid. Fine.

At this age, for a beach trip, I get excited about drinking beer all day, getting a few good rounds of drunken bocce in, and checking out the young tail that I can't get anymore. I'm a very good drunk. I don't have to watch the kid and the kid's not going to get in the way of anything I plan to do.

Hell, I'm probably excited that there might be somebody sober enough to go reload the cooler mid-afternoon if we failed to prepare properly. He's got the kid, I'm making sure he brings the minivan so he can also drive everybody to go get some overrated seafood.

I'd probably bring up the noise issue, and ask if he's going to be constantly asking everybody to keep it down. But that's not even a big deal as I get older. I'm going to be getting loaded on the beach all day. I forget the mid-afternoon power nap, I might be in bed before the rugrat. Well, unless somebody's bringing the coke. We need really need an answer on the coke situation.

 

[pollardsvision]

In addition to having a DD, another benefit of beach trips with parents/kids, they always bring the sunscreen that I always forget. And they bring the good stuff too.

 

[Steve Tasker]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

I was always the one who ended watching the kids when my kid having friends would get together. Kids like me and they listen to me. I enjoyed keeping up with the little monsters as long as everyone takes theirs when they go.

You could also just plunk them down in front of the TV. That's how I was raised and I turned out TV.

 

[Ditka Butkus]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

I was always the one who ended watching the kids when my kid having friends would get together. Kids like me and they listen to me. I enjoyed keeping up with the little monsters as long as everyone takes theirs when they go.

You could also just plunk them down in front of the TV. That's how I was raised and I turned out TV.

Didn't see that the first go around

 

[Billy Bats]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

It really doesn't matter if they are going to sit around and drink 0 calorie lemonade while making doilies for the church festival. It is a kid free event.

In my experience there's such thing as a kid free annual trip that stays kid free forever ... or at least not a coed one. Eventually single friends get married, and eventually married friends have kids. First people start bringing SOs, then they start bringing kids.

No idea if it's time for this group to adjust or not. Kinda sounds like this one guy with the kid should let them have a last year or two kid-free before they make the change. But generally speaking, this change is inevitable. Just gotta figure out when to give in to it.

Give in? What if 5 of 6 couples never have kids? They have to give in to this one dude who won't leave junior home? Bull####, it's on him to either leave the kid home or find other families with kids to vacation with. Total violation to bring a kid to an adult weekend with no other kids. Like NCC said, things changed for him when the kid was born, the rest of the adults on the weekend trip shouldn't have to change a damn thing for him.

 

[Freelove]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

I was always the one who ended watching the kids when my kid having friends would get together. Kids like me and they listen to me. I enjoyed keeping up with the little monsters as long as everyone takes theirs when they go.

You could also just plunk them down in front of the TV. That's how I was raised and I turned out TV.

Didn't see that the first go around

When Homer was still funny. RIP.

 

[sbonomo]

The OP is fired. This thread has such great potential.

 

[Sarnoff]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

I was always the one who ended watching the kids when my kid having friends would get together. Kids like me and they listen to me. I enjoyed keeping up with the little monsters as long as everyone takes theirs when they go.

You could also just plunk them down in front of the TV. That's how I was raised and I turned out TV.

 

[Sarnoff]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

It really doesn't matter if they are going to sit around and drink 0 calorie lemonade while making doilies for the church festival. It is a kid free event.

In my experience there's such thing as a kid free annual trip that stays kid free forever ... or at least not a coed one. Eventually single friends get married, and eventually married friends have kids. First people start bringing SOs, then they start bringing kids.

No idea if it's time for this group to adjust or not. Kinda sounds like this one guy with the kid should let them have a last year or two kid-free before they make the change. But generally speaking, this change is inevitable. Just gotta figure out when to give in to it.

Nah, just need to make more friends who are anti-kids and replace as needed.

 

[pollardsvision]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

It really doesn't matter if they are going to sit around and drink 0 calorie lemonade while making doilies for the church festival. It is a kid free event.

In my experience there's such thing as a kid free annual trip that stays kid free forever ... or at least not a coed one. Eventually single friends get married, and eventually married friends have kids. First people start bringing SOs, then they start bringing kids.

No idea if it's time for this group to adjust or not. Kinda sounds like this one guy with the kid should let them have a last year or two kid-free before they make the change. But generally speaking, this change is inevitable. Just gotta figure out when to give in to it.

Give in? What if 5 of 6 couples never have kids? They have to give in to this one dude who won't leave junior home? Bull####, it's on him to either leave the kid home or find other families with kids to vacation with. Total violation to bring a kid to an adult weekend with no other kids. Like NCC said, things changed for him when the kid was born, the rest of the adults on the weekend trip shouldn't have to change a damn thing for him.

I'm very curious....what is it you people do on a beach trip with 10-12 people, mostly couples?

All I need is a well-stocked cooler on the beach and some decent bocce competition. The beach house is generally empty with couples stopping by to nap or bang. If there happens to be a kid in the other room napping or at the kitchen table eating Cheerios, it's not cramping anybody's style.

When the parent/kid makes it to the beach, they bring the sunscreen and watch your #### for you. Otherwise, I don't notice them.

If you need to go see some strippers later on, you either take a cab or arrange for the parents to drop you off/pick you up in the minivan once the kid's asleep.

There's no reason the kid should get in the way of the single folk working their magic either.

 

[TobiasFunke]

I'm definitely surprised by the number of (amusing) responses and won't try to address them all, but I think the bottom line is it probably won't be safe for the baby to be crawling around all weekend, even if it's not quite as wild as I suggested, and one of us needs to tell him even though he should know this already. And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

18 month olds don't crawl around. They also sleep like rocks 12+ hours a day. They're not newborns.

I think people need a little more detail on this. Basically, anything more than weed and monogamous sex going on? If not, an 18 month old kid isn't gonna mess up anything. They're actually kind of hilarious when you're stoned ... as long as you're not the one who has to be responsible for them and whoever has to be responsible for them isn't stoned.

If you're ripping lines on the coffee table and getting midday BJs that's a different story.

Pretty sure second hand smoke ain't great. And really even if they lay around in a pot haze all day it is an adult thing not a kid thing. They have a sitter with a good rep available there is no reason to bring the kid. Of course when you have kids things change. But they change for you not everyone else.

Well yeah, I would assume the parent would have the kid elsewhere while people were smoking. That's on the parent, not the other people.

My point was that we didn't have enough to know whether the presence of a kid would require the other people to change their behavior. If not, no big deal. If so, talk to the parent and point that out. People smoking weed and drinking beer isn't really reason to keep a kid away, it's on the parent not to do those things or let the kid get hotboxed.

It really doesn't matter if they are going to sit around and drink 0 calorie lemonade while making doilies for the church festival. It is a kid free event.

In my experience there's such thing as a kid free annual trip that stays kid free forever ... or at least not a coed one. Eventually single friends get married, and eventually married friends have kids. First people start bringing SOs, then they start bringing kids.

No idea if it's time for this group to adjust or not. Kinda sounds like this one guy with the kid should let them have a last year or two kid-free before they make the change. But generally speaking, this change is inevitable. Just gotta figure out when to give in to it.

Give in? What if 5 of 6 couples never have kids? They have to give in to this one dude who won't leave junior home? Bull####, it's on him to either leave the kid home or find other families with kids to vacation with. Total violation to bring a kid to an adult weekend with no other kids. Like NCC said, things changed for him when the kid was born, the rest of the adults on the weekend trip shouldn't have to change a damn thing for him.

Good luck with that.

 

[swirvenirvin]

Time to make a choice.

Assuming if you are in your late 20's or early 30's

Either grow up and start realizing that as you and your friends get older their kids are going to be a part of the future.

Or isolate everyone of your friends who has a kid.

If you are still young and 26/27 and younger then #### them for having kids so early when you are in the prime of your party life still.

 

[Billy Bats]

I'm very curious....what is it you people do on a beach trip with 10-12 people, mostly couples?

.

Whatever I want to do without having to worry about a baby in the house. I have a 12 and 14 year old. In my case I'm getting away from kids and wouldn't want any around during my kid free vacation.

If I was without kids, I would want the ability to not have to worry about being around a kid, and especially doing something that would offend the parents of the kid. That could be the bigger issue, with the parents. Are they overprotective? Are they going to break my balls for cursing, coming in at 4am from the casino and waking the baby up? Don't need that bull#### when on an adult weekend.

 

[culdeus]

Can we get some actual stories here. True or not. Curious what I'm missing here.

 

[NCCommish]

I'm very curious....what is it you people do on a beach trip with 10-12 people, mostly couples?

.

Whatever I want to do without having to worry about a baby in the house. I have a 12 and 14 year old. In my case I'm getting away from kids and wouldn't want any around during my kid free vacation.

If I was without kids, I would want the ability to not have to worry about being around a kid, and especially doing something that would offend the parents of the kid. That could be the bigger issue, with the parents. Are they overprotective? Are they going to break my balls for cursing, coming in at 4am from the casino and waking the baby up? Don't need that bull#### when on an adult weekend.

When I was a kid my parents sent me to my grandparents every year for the summer starting when I was 5. I liked the airplane ride and my grandmother doted on me. Went every year until I was 15 and got my first real summer job. Now that's the way to get kid free.

 

[beavers]

I'm very curious....what is it you people do on a beach trip with 10-12 people, mostly couples?

.

Whatever I want to do without having to worry about a baby in the house. I have a 12 and 14 year old. In my case I'm getting away from kids and wouldn't want any around during my kid free vacation.

If I was without kids, I would want the ability to not have to worry about being around a kid, and especially doing something that would offend the parents of the kid. That could be the bigger issue, with the parents. Are they overprotective? Are they going to break my balls for cursing, coming in at 4am from the casino and waking the baby up? Don't need that bull#### when on an adult weekend.

When I was a kid my parents sent me to my grandparents every year for the summer starting when I was 5. I liked the airplane ride and my grandmother doted on me. Went every year until I was 15 and got my first real summer job. Now that's the way to get kid free.

Nice. That averages out to about 12 weeks a year.

I thought I was doing well with my child going to the grandparents once a month for 4 days....

 

[Billy Bats]

I'm very curious....what is it you people do on a beach trip with 10-12 people, mostly couples?

.

Whatever I want to do without having to worry about a baby in the house. I have a 12 and 14 year old. In my case I'm getting away from kids and wouldn't want any around during my kid free vacation.If I was without kids, I would want the ability to not have to worry about being around a kid, and especially doing something that would offend the parents of the kid. That could be the bigger issue, with the parents. Are they overprotective? Are they going to break my balls for cursing, coming in at 4am from the casino and waking the baby up? Don't need that bull#### when on an adult weekend.

When I was a kid my parents sent me to my grandparents every year for the summer starting when I was 5. I liked the airplane ride and my grandmother doted on me. Went every year until I was 15 and got my first real summer job. Now that's the way to get kid free.

Nice, the whole summer? Probably a good vacation for you too. My parents would do a winter and summer adult weekend mostly every year. Winter skiing up the mountains, summer weekend down the shore. And same here, was sent to Grandmoms while they went away. We did family vacations with other families.

 

[NCCommish]

I'm very curious....what is it you people do on a beach trip with 10-12 people, mostly couples?

.

Whatever I want to do without having to worry about a baby in the house. I have a 12 and 14 year old. In my case I'm getting away from kids and wouldn't want any around during my kid free vacation.If I was without kids, I would want the ability to not have to worry about being around a kid, and especially doing something that would offend the parents of the kid. That could be the bigger issue, with the parents. Are they overprotective? Are they going to break my balls for cursing, coming in at 4am from the casino and waking the baby up? Don't need that bull#### when on an adult weekend.

When I was a kid my parents sent me to my grandparents every year for the summer starting when I was 5. I liked the airplane ride and my grandmother doted on me. Went every year until I was 15 and got my first real summer job. Now that's the way to get kid free.

Nice, the whole summer? Probably a good vacation for you too. My parents would do a winter and summer adult weekend mostly every year. Winter skiing up the mountains, summer weekend down the shore. And same here, was sent to Grandmoms while they went away. We did family vacations with other families.

Yeah I would leave a few days after school ended and usually get back about a week or so before it started back up. I did enjoy it. They lived in a very rural area. Lots of woods and ponds and just all kinds of stuff that interest boys. They also had a family about half a mile away down a dirt road with kids my age and their parents were always super cool to me. It was great.

 

[NCCommish]

I'm very curious....what is it you people do on a beach trip with 10-12 people, mostly couples?

.

Whatever I want to do without having to worry about a baby in the house. I have a 12 and 14 year old. In my case I'm getting away from kids and wouldn't want any around during my kid free vacation.

If I was without kids, I would want the ability to not have to worry about being around a kid, and especially doing something that would offend the parents of the kid. That could be the bigger issue, with the parents. Are they overprotective? Are they going to break my balls for cursing, coming in at 4am from the casino and waking the baby up? Don't need that bull#### when on an adult weekend.

When I was a kid my parents sent me to my grandparents every year for the summer starting when I was 5. I liked the airplane ride and my grandmother doted on me. Went every year until I was 15 and got my first real summer job. Now that's the way to get kid free.

Nice. That averages out to about 12 weeks a year.

I thought I was doing well with my child going to the grandparents once a month for 4 days....

Yeah I think it was like 11 or 12 weeks each year. Sometimes I went up there for Christmas/New Years as well but the whole family went for that.

 

[Snogger3]

Is the kid white? I know somebody that will buy him. Send me a text.

 

[Quez]

Can we get some actual stories here. True or not. Curious what I'm missing here.

Is that Elliot Rodger in your avatar?

 

[FUBAR]

Frankly I'm surprised the guy still wants to go. My experience is that most parents of young children lose interest in parties like that. I know I did.

Great, I agree with Tim and need to rethink my life.

On a Monday, no less.

It's Tuesday ... but proceed.

Monday is a state of mind.

Memorial Day, so Tuesday is this week's Monday.

 

[RUSF18]

I'm very curious....what is it you people do on a beach trip with 10-12 people, mostly couples?

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Whatever I want to do without having to worry about a baby in the house. I have a 12 and 14 year old. In my case I'm getting away from kids and wouldn't want any around during my kid free vacation.

If I was without kids, I would want the ability to not have to worry about being around a kid, and especially doing something that would offend the parents of the kid. That could be the bigger issue, with the parents. Are they overprotective? Are they going to break my balls for cursing, coming in at 4am from the casino and waking the baby up? Don't need that bull#### when on an adult weekend.

Considering the guy is the one who won't leave his kid alone with a babysitter, despite having one locked and loaded, I'm guessing that's a yes. Also guessing your scenario is pretty likely to play out. Either he'll get pissed at the OP and his friends when someone makes too much noise at one point, or the kid will start crying at 6am and piss off people in the house, and either way, the drunk friends will end up saying a lot of #### in reference to the situation that they normally wouldn't say.

 

[FUBAR]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

LOL. Most new parents I knew felt the exact same way.

Not here. Some groups have been like that. Our closest friends a decade ago were very much in synch with us in that regard for the first two.

Now that I've had a 3 yo or younger in the house for 11 consecutive years, I'll get away whenever I can. Which really isn't that often but it's a nice idea.

We also don't live near family who we can pass the kids off to often. We're lucky to get a few hours a month together without kids or passing out from exhaustion.

 

[Zow]

I have plenty friends with young kids. We still party and stuff with them around all the time. If it's just a small child it's not like they'll get what's going on and every friend/parents I know understands that us non-parents aren't going to change their behaviors just because babies are around.

I really don't see this as much of an issue.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

I have plenty friends

This is where I stopped reading.

 

[Parrothead]

its all fun and games till someone gives the kid heroin or a hot pepper

 

[Billy Bats]

I have plenty friends with young kids. We still party and stuff with them around all the time. If it's just a small child it's not like they'll get what's going on and every friend/parents I know understands that us non-parents aren't going to change their behaviors just because babies are around.

I really don't see this as much of an issue.

Sure, we have backyard parties all the time with kids around. Adults drinking, kids off doing their thing. But it's not exactly fair to bring a baby into a situation where none are expected or have been before. Like me and RUSF were talking above, it could cause issues amongst friends that isn't necessary and easily avoidable.

 

[Gianni Verscotchie]

What's the level of debauchery at said beach party?

 

[peaces]

If he does show with the kid you need to bust his balls constantly and use the word "breathtaking" a lot when describing the rugrat.

 

[FUBAR]

I have plenty friends with young kids. We still party and stuff with them around all the time. If it's just a small child it's not like they'll get what's going on and every friend/parents I know understands that us non-parents aren't going to change their behaviors just because babies are around.

I really don't see this as much of an issue.

Sure, we have backyard parties all the time with kids around. Adults drinking, kids off doing their thing. But it's not exactly fair to bring a baby into a situation where none are expected or have been before. Like me and RUSF were talking above, it could cause issues amongst friends that isn't necessary and easily avoidable.

I'd be more likely to bring the kid along if he were 6 months old. Assuming he sleeps alright.

18 months is a pain.

 

[Jeff Vader]

And his is definitely a situation where the mom will end up looking after the kid while the dad has fun.

And this represents the disconnect for me, because looking after the kid WAS fun for me- in fact, when my daughters were babies, there was nothing else I would have rather been doing. It wasn't a burden.

Should I start the canonization process or do you have someone working on that already?

LOL. Most new parents I knew felt the exact same way.

This thread may be an abortion, but I'm having fun imagining Tim and his friends showing up at one of Arizona Ron's "parties," complete with the Ice Queen, Angie, Girl #2, Mrs. Ron, etc.

See Ron and Friends on the couch. Now see Tim and Friends' faces.

Ok. Now the power goes out and all the doors get locked by a group of anonymous FBGs....

 

[Johnny Rock]

What's the level of debauchery at said beach party?

No reference or past years' pics were provided. OP failed on this point.