Big_Russel
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#### dude... I wish I were you. Except with my own smoking hot ripped abs 26 yr old big Russ body.
On second thought, I just wish I were 26 again.
On second thought, I just wish I were 26 again.
Didnt you read my previous post. That is exactly what im recommending. #####Thanks guys.So no one recommends one last ditch effort? Some type of Hail Mary play to save the relationship?Will check in sporadically. Going to happy hour with some friends and catch the Dubs game at Hooters.
It's not about literally winning the relationship, even if some of us have phrased it that way. It's about Fun Loving, Womanizing, Better-Off-Without-Her No. 16 winning out over I-Can-Change, Let's-Give-It-One-More-Chance, Anything-For-You No. 16. Even if he has to fake it for awhile, it'll eventually become his reality.I don't get this "winning the relationship" talk. You don't win relationships. It either works or it doesn't. You can't game the relationship. Trying to play games is silly. Take her at her word and move on. You can only create more hurt by trying to manipulate her or yourself.Take the time to grieve over the loss and then move on. It sucks and hurts, but if she's going to just end the relationship that quickly over something like that, then you'll be happier in the longterm with someone else anyone. Better than convincing her to stay, getting married and having kids, an having this flake decide to start nailing done other guy because her life isn't a romance novel.
I know where you are coming from but you couldn't be more wrong in my case. I knew at 19 and it was the best decision of my life to be serious about our relationship from day one. I have no regrets and couldn't be happier with my choice 14 years later.20 is far too young to be in a serious, long-term relationship. With all due respect, you have absolutely no idea what you want.
I'm happy for you and glad that it worked out for you, and I'm sure you wouldn't change a thing, but you probably (well... definitely) have no idea what you missed out on.I know where you are coming from but you couldn't be more wrong in my case. I knew at 19 and it was the best decision of my life to be serious about our relationship from day one. I have no regrets and couldn't be happier with my choice 14 years later.20 is far too young to be in a serious, long-term relationship. With all due respect, you have absolutely no idea what you want.
The best last ditch effort is to act like it doesn't bother you, ignore her, and kick some ### in your life.Either she sees how awesome you are, and she comes back on her own.........or you realize how awesome you are, and that you're better off without her.Any other move on your part just makes you look weak and pathetic.Thanks guys.So no one recommends one last ditch effort? Some type of Hail Mary play to save the relationship?
I'm curious to hear what kind of play you are talking about for the hail mary or last ditch effort? You're going to have to go big here, or just go home. What have you come up with?? Interested to hear your ideas. I have some I'd share, if you'd like, just want to get a ballpark of where you are coming from. Me, I'm a gambler by nature, I'd take a chance.So no one recommends one last ditch effort? Some type of Hail Mary play to save the relationship?
Big cans?I know where you are coming from but you couldn't be more wrong in my case. I knew at 19 and it was the best decision of my life to be serious about our relationship from day one. I have no regrets and couldn't be happier with my choice 14 years later.20 is far too young to be in a serious, long-term relationship. With all due respect, you have absolutely no idea what you want.
Please explain what I missed out on. Strange? No thanks. Freedom? I have plenty. I figured out long ago that I am wired a bit differently that most men. And what I received in my wife is something 90% of men miss out judging by how few men display a thankfulness for their spouse.I'm happy for you and glad that it worked out for you, and I'm sure you wouldn't change a thing, but you probably (well... definitely) have no idea what you missed out on.I know where you are coming from but you couldn't be more wrong in my case. I knew at 19 and it was the best decision of my life to be serious about our relationship from day one. I have no regrets and couldn't be happier with my choice 14 years later.20 is far too young to be in a serious, long-term relationship. With all due respect, you have absolutely no idea what you want.
Not then but amazingly they have become so without corresponding weight gain. I figure I am being rewarded for something.Big cans?I know where you are coming from but you couldn't be more wrong in my case. I knew at 19 and it was the best decision of my life to be serious about our relationship from day one. I have no regrets and couldn't be happier with my choice 14 years later.20 is far too young to be in a serious, long-term relationship. With all due respect, you have absolutely no idea what you want.
Wow, sorry to hear it man. Our situations are eerily similar, though my girlfriend hasn't left me (yet?). I have no advice except for you to hang in there. I can't imagine. I'll hang up and listen.How many of you guys have had experience with a significant other who left you and then the two of you got back together? What was the relationship like after you reunited?Right now I'm going through a break up that came out of left field for me. I honestly had no idea she was feeling this way. I am 26 and have been with my ex for the past 6 years. We met in college and I thought she was the one. Why didn't I propose to her sooner? Well we both wanted to be financially stable. Both of us just graduated about 2 years ago and after a year of searching for jobs we just started working in our respective careers this past year. With a year + of work under my belt and some savings for a ring, I was ready to propose to her sometime soon.That was until the other day when she told me she wanted to be "single right now" because she didn't know if she could be happy with me in the future. Her main grievance is that I was not very spontaneous or took the initiative to plan dates, etc. I told her I would change: go hiking with her, plan more dates, etc but she has been adamant in ending the relationship. I asked her if there was another guy and she said no. She just hasn't had the chance to be single, because she has been in two long term relationships the past 9 years, and didn't know if she could be happy with me in the future. She just wants time alone, to enjoy being "single and independent". I asked her if I should wait, if there's hope, and she told me, “It would be selfish of me to tell you to wait for me, but I can't tell you to move on. Just try your best to make yourself happy right now. I don't know what the future holds, but I know I just can't be with you right now.”It has been just killer as we live together. Seeing her everyday just makes me realize how great of a person I'm losing. Sure she's just destroying my life right now, but I don't feel any anger, just regret that I messed it up somehow. She's looking to move out ASAP and after that I know I HAVE TO STAY AWAY FROM HER (hopefully with the help of work, alcohol, joining a gym, and my friends I'll be able to do this). I've pretty much resigned that we'll be broken up and she'll be out of my life once she moves out, but maybe because I love her so much and usually in life have such a positive outlook I'm still holding onto some hope.So please FFA feel free to share your experience with me about your past relationships especially if you guys were reunited for better or worse. I'll appreciate both the doses of reality (she's gone forever) or the words of encouragement (maybe she'll be back). Thanks for reading. Just typing this out was helpful."If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it dosent, then it was never meant to be."
Do an honest assessment, as there is probably some truth in what she was saying. Maybe you got complacent, could have been more spontaneous, etc. Learn that and correct it in your NEXT serious relationship. I've never seen the "I'm going to change" approach work. Even if you do change, she knows when she says jump you say how high. Power of the relationship goes to the one who is willing to walk - and that's all her. It's a lose-lose situation if you would have stayed together. Move on. Focus on yourself, have fun, this is a blessing long term.When you mentioned needing to get back in shape again before you start getting back out there, it was kinda telling to me. Perhaps you were more lackadaisical than you realized. And please don't take this like you are to blame, but it's further evidence of why you should definitely, 100%, NOT do the last-ditch effort.She's going to see you making a dramatic move now that she's made a dramatic move, and that will only serve to cement her opinion that you aren't giving your best effort unless you ABSOLUTELY have to. If you did make a big move, she'd probably just assume that once you got her back things would go back to their current lazy level again.
Dunno if this will help, but reading this part which I pasted I'd say she's right. Y'all have been working from a script, without inspiration. That said, I'd go into your next stage with two things in mind...How many of you guys have had experience with a significant other who left you and then the two of you got back together? What was the relationship like after you reunited?
Right now I'm going through a break up that came out of left field for me. I honestly had no idea she was feeling this way. I am 26 and have been with my ex for the past 6 years. We met in college and I thought she was the one.
Why didn't I propose to her sooner? Well we both wanted to be financially stable. Both of us just graduated about 2 years ago and after a year of searching for jobs we just started working in our respective careers this past year. With a year + of work under my belt and some savings for a ring, I was ready to propose to her sometime soon.
That was until the other day when she told me she wanted to be "single right now" because she didn't know if she could be happy with me in the future. Her main grievance is that I was not very spontaneous or took the initiative to plan dates, etc.
Don't ever "change" for anyone. All of the excuses she gave you that you posted is just chick lingo for "I want to go out and bang a bunch of other dudes"20 is far too young to be in a serious, long-term relationship. With all due respect, you have absolutely no idea what you want.
This happens to most college girlfriend relationships after college. You'll be fine, go do stuff you like. I bought a house with college girlfriend after we lived together a few years after school. Yep that turned out great when she loaded her car up one day and drove to south Carolina with our dogs. Oh dont gets dogs, what a PITA. Painful yes. Glad it happened it all ways though. That was like right around when I was 26 too.How many of you guys have had experience with a significant other who left you and then the two of you got back together? What was the relationship like after you reunited?Right now I'm going through a break up that came out of left field for me. I honestly had no idea she was feeling this way. I am 26 and have been with my ex for the past 6 years. We met in college and I thought she was the one. Why didn't I propose to her sooner? Well we both wanted to be financially stable. Both of us just graduated about 2 years ago and after a year of searching for jobs we just started working in our respective careers this past year. With a year + of work under my belt and some savings for a ring, I was ready to propose to her sometime soon.That was until the other day when she told me she wanted to be "single right now" because she didn't know if she could be happy with me in the future. Her main grievance is that I was not very spontaneous or took the initiative to plan dates, etc. I told her I would change: go hiking with her, plan more dates, etc but she has been adamant in ending the relationship. I asked her if there was another guy and she said no. She just hasn't had the chance to be single, because she has been in two long term relationships the past 9 years, and didn't know if she could be happy with me in the future. She just wants time alone, to enjoy being "single and independent". I asked her if I should wait, if there's hope, and she told me, “It would be selfish of me to tell you to wait for me, but I can't tell you to move on. Just try your best to make yourself happy right now. I don't know what the future holds, but I know I just can't be with you right now.”It has been just killer as we live together. Seeing her everyday just makes me realize how great of a person I'm losing. Sure she's just destroying my life right now, but I don't feel any anger, just regret that I messed it up somehow. She's looking to move out ASAP and after that I know I HAVE TO STAY AWAY FROM HER (hopefully with the help of work, alcohol, joining a gym, and my friends I'll be able to do this). I've pretty much resigned that we'll be broken up and she'll be out of my life once she moves out, but maybe because I love her so much and usually in life have such a positive outlook I'm still holding onto some hope.So please FFA feel free to share your experience with me about your past relationships especially if you guys were reunited for better or worse. I'll appreciate both the doses of reality (she's gone forever) or the words of encouragement (maybe she'll be back). Thanks for reading. Just typing this out was helpful."If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it dosent, then it was never meant to be."
Did you recently have a post-it attached to your door; check for glue residue.It's ALWAYS another guy. ####... might even be Offdee. You two live in a swanky condo?
Yes but listen to what she said, it is probably a pretty good assessment of your shortcomings. Use this assessment to fix yourself for the next girl(s). If you were in a position of authority and somebody gave you a piece of their mind about you. or your company, you would be a fool not to listen.Don't ever "change" for anyone. All of the excuses she gave you that you posted is just chick lingo for "I want to go out and bang a bunch of other dudes"20 is far too young to be in a serious, long-term relationship. With all due respect, you have absolutely no idea what you want.
Did you recently have a post-it attached to your door; check for glue residue.It's ALWAYS another guy. ####... might even be Offdee. You two live in a swanky condo?
Dead-on balls accurate.She's lying. There's another guy. She wants the romance of early dating, of being wooed. She'll regret leaving you some day when she realizes that the early wooing stage never lasts forever. Who knows how long it will take for her to reach that conclusion. Years maybe. You need to move on.
Exactly right. I've been there too, #16. I was Mikey from "Swingers." Worst time of my life and didn't work for ####. After I "moved on" (physically, not emotionally) and banged 10 different girls in the span of about 2 months and stopped thinking about her all the time, that's when the phone calls from her started. Fight every instinct you have to try to win her back. Girls don't respond to that, they want a strong, confident guy who is in demand with others. It's the only chance you've got (and you'll probably find that even if you "win her back", it won't end well.)As Nipsey and others have said, any (extremely slim) chance you have at saving this relationship means you can't actually show you're trying to save it. Go be a rock star and stay really busy. She might see you moving on so quickly and having so much fun and reconsider. THAT is your hail mary. Pining over her and begging for one more chance feels like the right move but it really isn't. That road is a guaranteed dead end.Thanks guys.
So no one recommends one last ditch effort? Some type of Hail Mary play to save the relationship?
Will check in sporadically. Going to happy hour with some friends and catch the Dubs game at Hooters.
Absolutely spot on about the wooing stage and her at some point wanting to come back..Dead-on balls accurate.She's lying. There's another guy. She wants the romance of early dating, of being wooed. She'll regret leaving you some day when she realizes that the early wooing stage never lasts forever. Who knows how long it will take for her to reach that conclusion. Years maybe. You need to move on.
They always realize they made a mistake at some point. For me, it was only after she married and divorced the guy she left me for that I got the "it was all a terrible mistake" e-mail. I wonder if that dude knows I never stopped banging her either, up to a week before their wedding at her bachelorette party in Vegas. Sucker.Absolutely spot on about the wooing stage and her at some point wanting to come back..Dead-on balls accurate.She's lying. There's another guy. She wants the romance of early dating, of being wooed. She'll regret leaving you some day when she realizes that the early wooing stage never lasts forever. Who knows how long it will take for her to reach that conclusion. Years maybe. You need to move on.
Wait, you guys are still living together?Thanks a ton guys. The support had helped a lot to change my mindset.Funny actually came home later then her (she had work) and I could already tell she was a bit jealous when she found out who I was hanging out with.Still don't feel totally happy, but I was able to enjoy myself last night.
This poor kid... you can almost hear his desperate hope as you read the bolded.Wait, you guys are still living together?Thanks a ton guys. The support had helped a lot to change my mindset.
Funny actually came home later then her (she had work) and I could already tell she was a bit jealous when she found out who I was hanging out with.Still don't feel totally happy, but I was able to enjoy myself last night.
Lots of good advice in this thread. Same thing happened to me and I was crushed. Met my wife not long after and have been happily married for 18 years. best thing that ever happened to me. Go out, have fun. It won't be easy but it gets better, especially when you find someone else. Just don't get into anything too serious, too soon if you can.Thanks a ton guys. The support had helped a lot to change my mindset.Funny actually came home later then her (she had work) and I could already tell she was a bit jealous when she found out who I was hanging out with.Still don't feel totally happy, but I was able to enjoy myself last night.
It's FridayWait, you guys are still living together?Thanks a ton guys. The support had helped a lot to change my mindset.Funny actually came home later then her (she had work) and I could already tell she was a bit jealous when she found out who I was hanging out with.Still don't feel totally happy, but I was able to enjoy myself last night.
Yeah. That mindset needs to change ASAP. Don't try to make her jealous, don't CARE if she's jealous, don't KNOW if she's jealous. Sever ties. Kick her out if she doesn't move very soon.This poor kid... you can almost hear his desperate hope as you read the bolded.Wait, you guys are still living together?Thanks a ton guys. The support had helped a lot to change my mindset.
Funny actually came home later then her (she had work) and I could already tell she was a bit jealous when she found out who I was hanging out with.Still don't feel totally happy, but I was able to enjoy myself last night.
and post nudies over at :e:Yeah. That mindset needs to change ASAP. Don't try to make her jealous, don't CARE if she's jealous, don't KNOW if she's jealous. Sever ties. Kick her out if she doesn't move very soon.This poor kid... you can almost hear his desperate hope as you read the bolded.Wait, you guys are still living together?Thanks a ton guys. The support had helped a lot to change my mindset.
Funny actually came home later then her (she had work) and I could already tell she was a bit jealous when she found out who I was hanging out with.Still don't feel totally happy, but I was able to enjoy myself last night.
I missed that in the OP too. 16 - this arrangement has to end ASAP.Wait, you guys are still living together?Thanks a ton guys. The support had helped a lot to change my mindset.Funny actually came home later then her (she had work) and I could already tell she was a bit jealous when she found out who I was hanging out with.Still don't feel totally happy, but I was able to enjoy myself last night.
Wait. It's HIS place, she's living there with him, and she broke up with him? No.16, if this is the case, you need to throw her out now. I'm not kidding. Like, literally, don't even finish this sentence I'm writing, just throw her out NOW. Why are you still reading? I thought I told you to stop reading and thr- dude, I'm not kidding. THROW HER OUT NOW ! Stop reading this. STOP IT !! OK, if you're not going to stop reading, I'm going to stop writing.Yeah. That mindset needs to change ASAP. Don't try to make her jealous, don't CARE if she's jealous, don't KNOW if she's jealous. Sever ties. Kick her out if she doesn't move very soon.This poor kid... you can almost hear his desperate hope as you read the bolded.Wait, you guys are still living together?Thanks a ton guys. The support had helped a lot to change my mindset.
Funny actually came home later then her (she had work) and I could already tell she was a bit jealous when she found out who I was hanging out with.Still don't feel totally happy, but I was able to enjoy myself last night.
He won't do that. Do tell her she's got 2-3 weeks to find a place though.Wait. It's HIS place, she's living there with him, and she broke up with him? No.16, if this is the case, you need to throw her out now. I'm not kidding. Like, literally, don't even finish this sentence I'm writing, just throw her out NOW. Why are you still reading? I thought I told you to stop reading and thr- dude, I'm not kidding. THROW HER OUT NOW ! Stop reading this. STOP IT !! OK, if you're not going to stop reading, I'm going to stop writing.Yeah. That mindset needs to change ASAP. Don't try to make her jealous, don't CARE if she's jealous, don't KNOW if she's jealous. Sever ties. Kick her out if she doesn't move very soon.This poor kid... you can almost hear his desperate hope as you read the bolded.Wait, you guys are still living together?Thanks a ton guys. The support had helped a lot to change my mindset.
Funny actually came home later then her (she had work) and I could already tell she was a bit jealous when she found out who I was hanging out with.Still don't feel totally happy, but I was able to enjoy myself last night.