Captain Cranks
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I just learned that my ex is letting my son stay home by himself all day while she's at work. Should I be upset?
12 is fine as long as he doesn't have easy access to alcohol or porn. Well, I guess porn is probably ubiquitous these days.I just learned that my ex is letting my son stay home by himself all day while she's at work. Should I be upset?
Yeah I’d say depends more on maturity than ageDepends on the kid.
Exactly. My son is 12 and he is by himself a lot during the summer.Depends on the kid.
My 12 year old is going into 7th grade. That’s around the same time we started letting our oldest (18 now) stay home and not have to go to his younger brother’s games. My 12 year old can make himself some foods like pizza bagels, so he’d even be good for lunch. That said we work from home so my boys aren’t usually home alone for more than a few hours during the week and maybe 5-6 hours on the weekend for something like a baseball tournament.Some kids baby sit at 12 years old. 12 is fine to be home alone.
She works MWF, so three days of the week.Do you mean she’s doing it today because something is going on or like that is the plan all day, every day during the summer?
I don’t think it’s weird if there are days like that. It’s a bit extreme as an every day plan A though.
totally this. some are plenty mature/responsible to handle it. some not. assuming he is reasonably intelligent and well-behaved, it shouldn't be a problem, especially if he has resources available if something should happen.Depends on the kid.
9 seems too young for a few hours but that's just my opinionMy daughter is 9, and while we wouldn't leave her home all day, occasionally we do for a couple hours or so if she doesn't want to tag along for grocery trips/errands. I imagine by the time she's 12 we won't have an issue with all day.
Like others said, though... depends on the kid. I'm a year and a half older than my sister but it seemed like my parents trusted her more than me to be in charge when they left us home.
Yeah I can understand that concern. I was a little apprehensive the first couple of times. She does have the ability to text us and it's usually 1-2 hours. She is pretty mature for her age and we feel like she handles it okay. This may be sexist but if she was a boy I'd probably not allow it. I know the trouble boys can get into.9 seems too young for a few hours but that's just my opinion
I'm literally within 5 minutes from her place and work from home, so he could be here instead. However, he doesn't like being here because of my wife and her son (who are perfectly nice to him, but they're not "his family"), so apparently he's better served to be by himself as far as my ex is concerned.to be a little blunt... if you have reason to think your kid can't handle it, have a talk about it privately with your ex. if this is just not ok because of some "ex conflict" type thing, then don't make a big deal out of it and stick your kid in the middle of the conflict, imo.
Right, the thing is kids are probably safer and more easily entertained then ever now but I am sure parents are more reluctant than ever to let theirs be unsupervised.12 is fine, even on the regular, especially if the kid has a cell phone.
The world is probably a safer place now with immediate contact through cell phones.Back in the 70's, my parents split up and I was home alone everyday after school starting at 9 years old (almost 10) until my mom got home from work at like 6:00 or 6:30. I went to day camp in the summers (or sleep away camp some when I got older). The world was a different place then, and I don't know all these years later what an appropriate age it is to leave a kid alone and for how long. I have a 17 year old now where I almost have to beg for him to go out of the house he is home so much.
totally valid concerns. knowing what's happening and being available if needed is likely sufficient but that's up to you guys. good luck!I'm literally within 5 minutes from her place and work from home, so he could be here instead. However, he doesn't like being here because of my wife and her son (who are perfectly nice to him, but they're not "his family"), so apparently he's better served to be by himself as far as my ex is concerned.
Also, he does have a chronic bleeding disorder that would require emergency medical attention if he were to accidentally hit his head or have a severe cut.
I know my daughter, and would have voted 25 if that was an option.Holy #### people voted 16!?!? Is that the same age they are weaned?
Ok yea that’s kinda lame, I’d want him at my place In That scenario. Or at least he would be biking over everyday for lunch.I'm literally within 5 minutes from her place and work from home, so he could be here instead. However, he doesn't like being here because of my wife and her son (who are perfectly nice to him, but they're not "his family"), so apparently he's better served to be by himself as far as my ex is concerned.
Also, he does have a chronic bleeding disorder that would require emergency medical attention if he were to accidentally hit his head or have a severe cut.
It’s not because your wife and her kid aren’t family. It’s because he wants to be alone at your ex’s house. People who want to be alone are doing things they don’t want others to see.I'm literally within 5 minutes from her place and work from home, so he could be here instead. However, he doesn't like being here because of my wife and her son (who are perfectly nice to him, but they're not "his family"), so apparently he's better served to be by himself as far as my ex is concerned.
Also, he does have a chronic bleeding disorder that would require emergency medical attention if he were to accidentally hit his head or have a severe cut.
No joke, every nook and cranny in the house will be searched. All I ever found was The Joy of Sex, filled with "x-rated" pencil illustrations. Terrible!I wrote a short story about the exploits of 12 year old me at home by myself. It was called "The Hunt For Playboys". (they were found)