Yeah what happened? I was trying to like fantasy curse’s now, now I can’t even remember what it wassome pruning happening in here
As a kid. My parents didn’t tell me until I was in high school. But I always knew something was off.seriously. can't believe I almost had a chance to post this.
So when were you diagnosed?
Was never given a handbook. Not sure the company even has one. But no one ever told me about the cellphone policy.Shiek do you have an employee handbook or any other written support for that cellphone situation? I’d want that in my back pocket if that wasn’t policy prior to this meeting
I would just let it go. Sounds like they had no clue. What are the damages here? Are there any? Would it be easy to find another job?So if I were to get in touch with an employment lawyer, am I just looking for the first one to pop up in the search? The first one that says free consultation?
I don’t know. It’s been pretty crushing to me. Is that a lot? May not sound like a lot, but I’ve been in tears almost everyday since it’s happened.I would just let it go. Sounds like they had no clue. What are the damages here? Are there any? Would it be easy to find another job?
And you've had to start going to therapy to deal with it. And it's starting to affect your personal relationships, including with your wife.I don’t know. It’s been pretty crushing to me. Is that a lot? May not sound like a lot, but I’ve been in tears almost everyday since it’s happened.
My son was 13 when he was diagnosed high functioning asperger's in 2002.bostonfred said:My son is on the spectrum. He's a smart kid but there's days that it's really hard. I can't tell you how happy I'd be if he grew up anything like you. I know that wasn't your goal but your post gives me hope.
Just reread the entire thread. Do whatever you feel you need to do. My suggestion is to go to the HR lady you liked, and explain how this is still affecting you and ask her why the other HR person asked you such odd questions.I don’t know. It’s been pretty crushing to me. Is that a lot? May not sound like a lot, but I’ve been in tears almost everyday since it’s happened.
TheIronSheik said:I just hate carrying around two cell phones in my pocket everywhere I go.
If it were me, I'd be all "You want me to be more social? I'll be more social..." and then proceed to put everyone's stapler in jello and wrap their desks in wrapping paper.I’m mad the more I think about it.... she wants to try to hang you procedure with this phone deal, but no handbook, and I suppose no code of conduct on file? Any chance you can parlay this into working remotely? Outta site outta mind
I knew there was a reason we connected.I remember back in 1988 my boss called me in and asked me if I liked my job. I have Asperger's too, fwiw, and I just blurted out an honest answer.... "No, and I want to be somewhere else within a year." That was at the very start of the recession that hit (iirc) around the 1989 - 1990 timeframe. and so I was indeed somewhere else after that year had passed. I was unemployed and unemployment was high and I went quite a while before I got another job.
Anyhow, hang in there, and good luck, gb. Sounds like you should be looking for another gig, in any event.
Rather than a lawyer, you might want to go with some kind of employment consultant who can help you with the current fashion in resumes and job hunting.Again, if I could find a new job, I’d be gone. I’ve mentioned on this board for the last year that I’d been looking for a job. I can’t seem to find one. I apply to probably 2 or 3 jobs a week and I haven’t been called for even a phone interview in over 6 months.
This seems like a good idea.If this conversation with your boss and the HR lady was only verbal with no written documentation, I recommend you work with HR and maybe even the VP of HR to get it on record and part of your personnel file. I know a little bit about employment practices liability insurance (though I'm no lawyer), and documentation is key to building your case if it's ever needed (hostile work environment etc). Documentation also covers HR's butt if they ever need to justify terminating someone, but in general it's good thing for those in the right. If you get the sense that everyone in the company knows about your condition, maybe that makes you a protected class, which is even better for you.
Random thoughts for you Sheik:
First of all, how are you?
I appreciate the courage it took for you to start this thread. It shows your great character, and it really helps our FFA community to have these types of discussions. I noticed that the past few months that you have been more active in the FFA (maybe you have been active before, but I just recently noticed), and starting more threads. I looked at it as you nudging a slowing forum, and thought "cool, Sheik is trying to pump up the FFA. So from this FBG, your posts are really appreciated.
I can see and agree with all of the "find a new job" and "sue them" sentiments that are being thrown out there. Here are some thoughts that you may want to consider that can work for you. I understand your boss is not very good at his job--a given. Beyond that, it is possible that your boss did not like you personally due to a lack of connecting with you. Perhaps the two of you bump heads a lot, and it has caused friction. He made a move to remove you, or to scare you to fall in line. Now that he knows about your situation, and his "why" he doesn't get along with you, he may change his tune and become your biggest supporters. This does not excuse his poor management, but possibly he had an aha moment, instead of an oh-no moment. ---- Probably not, but just throwing that out there.
Finally, since there has been a lot of pats on the back for you, and you want some shtick:
Iron Sheik? More like Aluminum Foil Sheik, amirite?
It was pointed out she was most likely fat.You do realise that we are well into page 2, and no one has asked if the HR lady is hot.
I'm so disappointed.
Sorry you are going through this.Again, if I could find a new job, I’d be gone. I’ve mentioned on this board for the last year that I’d been looking for a job. I can’t seem to find one. I apply to probably 2 or 3 jobs a week and I haven’t been called for even a phone interview in over 6 months.
right. sorry, good luck with that. Keep positive, and keep at it!Again, if I could find a new job, I’d be gone. I’ve mentioned on this board for the last year that I’d been looking for a job. I can’t seem to find one. I apply to probably 2 or 3 jobs a week and I haven’t been called for even a phone interview in over 6 months.
In that context, it's nuts.Is it that crazy for HR to ask if you are unhappy at your job? What am I missing?
Not fishing. What did she do that was wrong?The worst part of this thread is thinking how that HR lady still has a job. Where I work, pretty sure she'd be gone before Sheik had finished his post.
It takes a lot of energy to wear a normal mask in and around social situations.I notice that nobody has acted surprised yet in this thread...
But seriously, I can’t say that I ever thought that you may be on the spectrum from anything you’ve posted. You’re a delight and it sucks that you were put in that position. Not that it really matters because you are who you are and being one thing or not is nobody else’s dang business, but I think it speaks to how well you’ve adapted that not being neuro-“typical” wasn’t something that was obvious to them.
I have to imagine a piece of the hurt does have to be though that as much as you’ve adapted and worked to “fit in”, they still saw pieces of who you are that are “different” and treated them as negatives. But screw that, because frankly I don’t think some of those things are negatives anyway. Not everyone has to go around pretending to be everyone’s friend Dolores. I have like 120 people in our office and I know like 10 of them. I’m there to work and do my job, not take part in a social club. I’m not on the spectrum and don’t think I’m particularly a jerk or anything, I just think work is work and will sometimes chat with the few people around me, but don’t see the point of socializing with everyone in the building. Do your job Janice and leave me alone.
Daywalker said:
Not fishing. What did she do that was wrong?
Possibly because your boss is badmouthing you to prospective employers?Again, if I could find a new job, I’d be gone. I’ve mentioned on this board for the last year that I’d been looking for a job. I can’t seem to find one. I apply to probably 2 or 3 jobs a week and I haven’t been called for even a phone interview in over 6 months.
Find a new job now that the tables have turned and he can do no wrong? I'd be positioning for my own bathroom if I were him.Ron Swanson said:But it is time for you to find a new job. Great the way you backed them off, but the fact that they acted that way in the first place tells me they are not a good employer.